Pineapp:
No child is a curse.
Accept your fate

The idea that I might not be the father is overwhelming.

EfemenaXY:


When a guy wants to shirk responsibility for a pregnancy that might be his, he suddenly remembers the lady in question is a "whöre" who's had multiple partners in the past. Nothing new there.

It's also expected that you'll paint her character blacker than black in an attempt to exonerate yourself. Nothing new there either, but remember we've only got your side of the story, so we'll be inclined to take what you say here with a pinch of salt / at face value.

The reality is, you're in a tight spot and there isn't much else you can do but play along till the baby is born. Don't get roped into promising marriage. Neither of you are mature enough to handle that and the foundation can best be described as shaky.

Wait till the baby is born then get a DNA test performed to determine if you're the biological father or not, then take it from there. But remember, even if it turns out that you aren't the father, that doesn't absolve you of your misdeed - of sleeping with a minor. You still need to face the consequences of that action and hopefully, you'll learn from it.

Everyone makes mistakes but the important thing is learning from them. In the meantime do all you can to make mother and baby comfortable. Show her family (through your actions) that even though you are remorseful of your misdeeds, you aren't a bad person, but a man willing to take responsibility for his part in this. Start footing some of the bills, ensure she's registered for antenatal care, go with her and demonstrate not just financial but moral support.

Be good to her. So even if it turns out that the child isn't yours, her family will be less inclined to take legal action against you for bedding a minor.

Now is your chance to right your wrongs. It won't be easy but chin up and take heart.

All the best.

Thanks a lot for your contribution
I am not trying to paint her a LovePeddler. I would have never agreed to anything had I any prior knowledge to what happened with the other partners.

I had been in a sober mood for a couple weeks now. I would never deny my involvement but it's a very huge leap to take in faith.

I can't bear the tots of me fathering a child that may not be mine. That's y I'm hear to seek advice and opinions.

I can't inform my people because they may not consent to it and I don't want to become popular in the media for this.

x240:
Reach a compromise. You pay the bills But dont accept responsibility yet.

A minor involved with numerous sex partners? in just the space of a week? Wow! Get the exact age of the pregnancy and calculate back.

If you cant find facts, then bear the cross till she gives birth.God has his mysterious and genuine ways of showing who owns who.

But lastly...Serves you right. I cant help but laugh at your misery. Next time you would learn not to near a minor nor go digging your thing in everything that moves.


On a larger note another "problem" (i.e likely no parental care or responsibility) about to be born into the world to stretch the already scarce resources. Count out most thieves, agberos, and so on who are the terrors of our society and 98% came from unwanted pregancies. Maybe we start looking at blocking these holes to reduce crime. Sorry that i digressed.

Thanks a lot. I already took into consideration the conception date. It was within the period the stuff happened.
Don't u think me not taking responsibility will spark an outrage. They might misinterpret it as me denying.

ifyalways:
Bush meat don catch hunter.

At this point, just play along with the family, take care of the girl and pregnancy till baby is born then you secretly go for DNA. Stop snooping on her phone and asking her unnecessary questions,make up excuses to delay the marriage, stop sleeping with the girl if you still are.

Thanks alot

yomi007k:
And ye will pay for the sins of the world.



So sad

The advice is urgently needed

jemype:
the truth is that u had sex and she says its ur baby. U just have to take care of her till d baby comes out and be responsible. Plead with the parents to temper mercy and wait till she concieves the child so u can do the dna and find out the real father of the child.

Thanks

Please don't bash me or tag me a pedophile.

I'm a man in my mid 20's. To reduce the length of the story. Something led to something, I had sex with a minor last year. I felt sorry for my actions and moved on (note the girl was experienced).

Fast forward to this year, the last day in the month of January. The parents of the girl called my attention to the issue, I didn't deny my involvement, Because I was involved and secondly because of the fear of legal sanctions. So I had to plead with the family and agree to take full responsibility. (note abortion was not an option because of the gestation period of the fetus)

The family of the girl wants my family involved as a form of guarantee of which I agreed.

My family is about to meet with hers when I had some shocking discoveries.

The first is that the girl's family had met someone before me(this person was a minor too.) but he denied his involvement. (note when the mother narrated the issue about this person she said that she only went the to clearify because she suspected the person and swore to me that the boy never had sex with her).

Secondly, I went Tru her whatsapp chat and I discovered she had been meeting with another boy in an hotel. After I read the messages without her knowledge, she deleted them. When I asked her about the issue she denied it out rightly.

Still based on the whatsapp message, a third boy who was the bf to the girl had unprotected sex and broke up with her because he was worried she was pregnant. (please note she claimed this third boy is thesame as the first but I have my doubts).

Finally when I asked her who the father of the baby was, her countenance changed and admitted I was after about 20 mins (coupled with the fact that I encouraged her just to mention my name).

I have to be careful because her parents her kind of desperate and would resort to legal actions as all other potential father are minors and some unknown to her parents. (all messages read on her whatsapp sent and received referred to events which happened within the range of period of conception based on the scan result after considering the +/-2weeks stuff).

Please some urgent advice