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Family / Re: My Son Is Getting Married Without My Approval. by defendedvictim(m): 4:52pm On Oct 05, 2023
Why do you want to teach him a lesson?

And why did he get married without your permission?

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Romance / Re: Marriage Or Business by defendedvictim(m): 11:01am On Oct 05, 2023
BRATISLAVA:

It is slavery, wherever you like it or not.

The reasons behind why you want it in his name indicates you aren't ready to be sincere about trust, rather you want him to position himself to be the "winner" and she will work towards it for him, but the day she doesn't meet up he will take away all she worked for. That is not trust. That, to any being, is a red flag. Especially a being you are married to. If it is agreeable, would he have liked to be in the position you believe she should have been in with your interpretation of "trust"? Would you? Certainly not.

What you are proposing is the genesis of marital problems engineered by men who don't trust their wives: power play.

If men and women have their "roles", why was he making her do business and not be a house wife? Are you forgetting it is his "role" to provide everything financial in his home, and her role is to birth and clean? A lot of you love talking about red flags when it appeals to your sentiment.

I get the point in your second paragraph. Apparently, she asked to start a business. It was not imposed on her by the man.

Every gender have their own red flags which should be looked out for. Looking through too, op mentioned that they always had quarrels which is another fundamental problem. We don't know what the quarrels were about...

The man's fault in all these is being beclouded by his emotions, and not being proactive to avoid this situation.

The woman's fault, among others is prioritizing the business over her spouse/family.
Romance / Re: Marriage Or Business by defendedvictim(m): 8:39pm On Oct 04, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


It's built on trust, but you wanted him to open the business in his name, while she would slave away at him for him?

Some of you love talking about red flags in women without really seeing what you feel is a red flag for what it is: another unrealistic expectation.
I think we use the word 'slavery' in marriage a little too frequently and it's disturbing. Running a business and earning money for your use is not a slavery.
Using your capital(money) to start up a business in your name is never a crime. Deciding to put your wife to be in charge of the business is a trust. Every responsible man would will his fortunes and estates to his wife and children as a priority.
A man should learn to lead his family and take charge of things. This does not relegate a woman's role. Both men and women have their roles and where we have a lot of conflict is when one or both parties fail in their role.

In this case, the woman failed in her role as a wife..due to the business. If the business is in her name, she can do whatever she wants. If it is in his name, he can call her to order.
Romance / Re: Marriage Or Business by defendedvictim(m): 7:42pm On Oct 04, 2023
BRATISLAVA:


It's built on trust, but you wanted him to open the business in his name, while she would slave away at him for him?

Some of you love talking about red flags in women without really seeing what you feel is a red flag for what it is: another unrealistic expectation.
What's the problem if he opens the business in his name? If the profits are going to her?
Romance / Re: Marriage Or Business by defendedvictim(m): 7:23pm On Oct 04, 2023
First, it is not right to accept a woman who has left you for another man, back into your life. She is certainly not the same person anymore.

Secondly, you should have opened the business in your own name.
Marriage is built on trust, but wisdom is profitable to direct. If she has issues with you opening a business with your own name, then it's a flag you should look into closely.

You loved, albeit foolishly and got punished for it. Learn your lesson and do better next time.
Sorry about that bro

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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Monthly Net Salary Of Federal Government Ministries,departaments, Agencies And P by defendedvictim(m): 9:08am On Oct 02, 2023
palmshots:
Have you guys received September Salary? Abi na just me

You are not alone. We are plenty on this table
Career / Re: Has Any Federal Civil Servant Received The New Minimum Wage? by defendedvictim(m): 10:28pm On Oct 01, 2023
Let them pay the September salary first..

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Education / Re: UNN Student Offers Lecturer Weed In Class (Video) by defendedvictim(m): 8:00pm On Sep 15, 2021
Why are they having lectures in a stadium?
Politics / Re: Twitter Escalated Boko Haram Insurgency - APC Reps Member, Yunusa Ahmad by defendedvictim(m): 5:02pm On Jun 09, 2021
Apparently, the insurgents make calls too.. And they talk, possibly drive around. Let's ban everything the insurgents use.

We don tire
Religion / Re: Prophet Odumeje Mocks Pastors Who Preach Like 'Homosexuals’ (Video) by defendedvictim(m): 4:56pm On Jun 09, 2021
I didn't even watch the video... But damn, I miss twitter

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Sports / Re: Super Falcons Qualify For The Second Round In The Women’s World Cup by defendedvictim(m): 10:18pm On Jun 20, 2019
sammugbes:
time sir
Male -6pm Female -4.30pm

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Sports / Re: Super Falcons Qualify For The Second Round In The Women’s World Cup by defendedvictim(m): 10:18pm On Jun 20, 2019
daveseun15:

Male na 6pm Female na 4.30pm
ohkay..thanks
Sports / Re: Super Falcons Qualify For The Second Round In The Women’s World Cup by defendedvictim(m): 10:04pm On Jun 20, 2019
So, both our male and female senior teams will be playing same day..

Germany vs Nigeria
Nigeria vs Burundi.

If it's the same time, which one person go watch sef

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Sports / Re: FIFA Women’s World Cup: Chile Vs Thailand (2-0) Full Time. by defendedvictim(m): 9:58pm On Jun 20, 2019
wheeeewww..finally. Now the business part of the world cup, no more Thailand.
Family / Re: What Fond Memory Do You Have Of Your Dad? by defendedvictim(m): 11:17am On Jun 17, 2019
He took me to write my post-ume..basically, he had to drive through 3states and brought me back. His reason was so I don't get stranded. Glad I gained the admission; it would have been unfair to him.

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Celebrities / Re: Bisi Alimi 10 Years Challenge Photos Have Got People Talking by defendedvictim(m): 5:27pm On Jan 15, 2019
this one is just a low budget bobrisky
Romance / Re: Lovely Photos Of A Bride Who Has No Female Friend & Her Bridesmen by defendedvictim(m): 7:17pm On Aug 29, 2018
they look gay... see their gown sef. Anyway, all man to himself
Music/Radio / Re: Top Nigerian Gospel Praise And Worship Songs Released In July 2018 by defendedvictim(m): 8:08pm On Jul 29, 2018
someone should download these songs and tell me which one to download...

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Sports / Re: Germany Vs Sweden: World Cup (2 - 1) - Final by defendedvictim(m): 8:49pm On Jun 23, 2018
[quote author=banqalee post=68759308][/quote]less than 2 goals abi
Celebrities / Re: Lolu Reunites With Dodo, The Lady He 'dumped' In Bbnaija House For Anto (photos) by defendedvictim(m): 8:01am On Jun 14, 2018
who else read the title as 'anto dumps dodo for plantain'


abi I am just being hungry.

In other news, World Cup starts today. Good luck to the African teams

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Food / Re: Man Says He Found Black Spots On Pure Bliss Wafer Biscuits, Raises Alarm (Video) by defendedvictim(m): 6:44am On Jun 14, 2018
pure bliss... this biscuit can make you lose home training sha.


maybe there is a problem with that batch...however, I'm still eating my pure bliss today

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Family / Re: Is This The Right Time To Call The Inlaws? by defendedvictim(m): 10:47pm On Mar 29, 2018
Just communicate and be open with her. You know her better than we do.

Above all, be wise

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Health / Re: Should Abortion Be Legalized In Nigeria? by defendedvictim(m): 10:42pm On Mar 29, 2018
Legalizing it will cause more problems sef

At least, we still have an outlook of a morally sane society.




finally sha, who morality epp sef
Religion / Re: Photo Of Apostle Johnson Suleman And His Daughters by defendedvictim(m): 2:37pm On Mar 06, 2017
anytime i see this man, all i remember is 'This nonsense must stop'...

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Romance / Re: I Gave Her Head Now My Throat Is Scratching Me Please What Should I Do?? by defendedvictim(m): 2:20pm On Mar 06, 2017
a random girl insisted that you should lick her plate and you did...shey you know you don't have sense

...at least, you didnt have sense on saturday night.


Kindly run a sputum test, or jejely visit a hospital. It might be an infection...emphasis on 'might'

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NYSC / Re: NYSC 2016 Batch A Corp Members House by defendedvictim(m): 1:17pm On Mar 04, 2017
amodu:


April 7th is a Friday while 6th is Thursday
yea. batch b, stream 2 passed out on a friday. i doubt if its an impediment, however, april 7th was d date d LI mentioned
NYSC / Re: NYSC 2016 Batch A Corp Members House by defendedvictim(m): 6:37am On Mar 04, 2017
LogoDWhiz:



Bro, I've seen it too. But what I want you to know is that, anything can change.. That timetable was done early January.. So many things have happened since...
our LI mentioned that we are leavin on the 7th of April, on thurs.
Our ID cards hv expired already sef...dis peopl sha
NYSC / Re: Female Corper Serving In Abia Dies In Fatal Accident (Photo) by defendedvictim(m): 3:49pm On Dec 22, 2016
may her soul rest in peace
Romance / Re: How To Know That He Is The Right Man by defendedvictim(m): 11:16am On Dec 15, 2016
na lie
Politics / Re: Governor Udom Escapes Death As Church Building Collapses In Akwa Ibom by defendedvictim(m): 7:56pm On Dec 10, 2016
nwakaibeya1:
Prayer is key# Pray and tell the mantle of GOD to move with the cutlass of heaven and all the weapons of heaven and invade every evil church that you must have entered knowingly or unknowingly that the kingdom of heaven should slaughter to death every evil church members and put them on chain from heaven Pray and tell the Mantle of GOD to slaughter to death any evil man of God that has hands in your prosperity and decieving you and prophesying evil that appear real, that the mantle should expose and disgrace them and put them on chain from heaven for you to be set free, for example evil prophets ,evil pastors,evil evangelist,evil elders ,evil apostles,evil bishops,evil deacons,evil deaconesses,evil reverend fathers that God should turn their honours to disgrace for you to see them with your two naked eyes in Jesuschrist mighty name we pray AMEN&AMEN

pray and tell the mantle of GOD concerning every hidden ,evil world upon your life,such as evil marine world,spiritual husband,spiritual wife,tell the mantle to strike them to death and put them on chain
na wa o, wat kinda spiritual jungle justice be dis na?
NYSC / Re: 2016 Batch B Akwa Ibom Pcms.. by defendedvictim(m): 6:29am On Nov 21, 2016
geolan:
reporting

cc
Taofeekdboy

modified

@op are you a pcm too?

No. Currently serving

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