Phlegmatic/Melancholic without any shadow of doubt.

I must really Love my girl because i fit into all the criteria listed. Gosh!!! i am so crazy about her.

Its important that a guy gives money to his girlfriend if she is in need of financial support. Except you are married to her its better not to dole out cash as if you are her personal ATM machine, you end up spoiling her, she will not learn to be independent minded and to meet her own needs and the day you do not have it will be hard for her to understand.

The post brings to mind the book written by John Gray on "men are from mars and women and from venus", your friend sounds like he has retrogressed into his cave and is trying to deal with the problem in his own way, some men are like that, when confronted with issues we close ourselves to all around us and try to focus on dealing with the problem.

Give him time even though it takes a while but he will surely come out of his cave, pestering him will only shut him up the more and probably irritate him because you are crowding his space. And do not worry he will not do anything to harm himself.

@Shy-One, Make a list: 2 Columns

1) List What you Like About Him
2) List What you didn't Like About Him

Post that up for you to see - DAILY - do this for yourself because from the sound of it - the negatives will outweigh the positives

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My sister you deserve a peck for your advice. You just took the words out of my mouth.

Poster there is a big difference between love and obsession and from what i gather you seem to have graduated into obsession. I will add a third point to what shy-one adviced (3) List the way you want and expect to be treated. If the guy was your first love give it time to heal so many of us have being down this road, but you have to continually expel him from your mind to be able to move on.

We are all creatures of Love that is why we keep searching despite the many heartbreaks. But the problem is when you depend on someone else to meet your love needs, no man / woman can do that, this is the reason for the many disillusions about love. You must first learn to love and accept yourself before you can have enough to give to someone else.

She could flash, or send a call me back sms. There is no justifiable reason why she does not call back except the truth that she is not in love with you. If she claims its her nature then why can't she bend a little to satisfy the desire of the one who cares for her especially if you have sacrificed to make her happy. No need to beat about the bush the young lady does not care enough for you.

UjuJoan was right about your call me attitude. It is childish for you to be overly concerned about whether you are called back or not, if you feel you are not getting what you want in a relationship talk it out with the other person and if there is no compromise its best to go your seperate ways.

A woman hides her feelings because she needs to test the waters to be sure they are not shark infested.

@MrBrownJay i do appreciate your line of thought. Its disheartening to see people assume that right is wrong and wrong is right. Where is the lesson to learn from this post? That there is no harm in sleeping with my girlfriend's friend if she makes a pass at me? It is okay not to be burdened if i become dishonest in my relationships? We casually throw our sense of decency out the window because we lack the discipline to say no to our inclinations especially the destructive ones. Sometimes i wonder if our world revolves around what is in betweeen our legs.

Wait till the day is over and if you did not receive any text message, call or gifts calmly call her the next day and ask her how come she forgot your birthday. Her reply will guide you on what next to do. Happy Birthday though.

Whether a man earns a little lower than his wife the most important aspect that should concern him iss to be able to provide for the family, that is his first duty. There are no certainties in life, today you maybe earning a six figure salary as a man and your wife is earning a four figure salary, tomorrow the tables may turn. Do you throw away the baby with the bath water? Do you destroy your marriage because your wife now earns a six figure salary?

Do you hold a grudge against the man because he does not spend as often as he used to, or take you to those nice reataurants? Do you run your partner down because of the temporary status he or she finds themselves in? Money might meet needs but it does not make a happy home. Its individuals that build a home. Its always important for a man to work hard to provide for his family, but if fortune smiles on the wife then it smiles on the family as well. Behind every successful man or woman is their partner helping them acheive that success.

To answer the question, Its okay with me if my wife earns more than me because there are no certainties in life. My goal is to ensure that my hands is always working to provide for my family.

To propose to your girl in public means that you must have know that its something she would like, and she has being looking forward to you popping the question. Whether its romantic or show off its really not my business, the important thing is that the question was asked and the appropriate answer was received.

Not knowing what you want whether in females or males is dependant on your AGE. As we mature and experince life rubbing off us in so many ways, we begin to discover certain aspects and attributes of our personailty, our likes and dislikes, preferences, that which appalls and attracts us, that which inspires and humbles us, our strength and weaknesses, our frailities and capabilities. These discoveries assists us to sift through the the rumble of our lives so that we are able to finanlly discover what our hearts long for.

A man or woman knowing what they want is a continous process. We just have to bear with each other since we are still being moulded everyday of our lives.

Be Faithful not because of the other person but because of your own value and self esteem. You will build a strong character and personality that will be appreciated by others even though the other party does not value it. "TO THY OWN SELF BE TRUE"[b][/b]

Oga stop fooling yourself and the women in question, you can't have the same degree of love for both, one must supercede the other. Make up your mind on one and let the other be.

Leave the young man now before you are shattered completely. The fearful part of this issue is that he might be using the money you are giving him as support to organize his wedding to another lady that you are unaware of. One day you will wake up to see him walking down the aisle with another lady in tow and you will be cast aside. A lady i know committed sucide just after the slowpoke who promised marriage took off with all the funds she had given him (she even had to steal secretly from her office to meet the guys needs).

Even if he promised you undying love and fidelity he should still be able to take care of his needs, besides by demanding so much from you he has not shown himself to be able to provide for you and the children you might have with him. Such a man does not cut the picture of a responsibile partner. THE MAN IN QUESTION DOES NOT LOVE YOU AND THAT IS THE HARD TRUTH.

I would advise you to ignore posting your status on facebook you really do not need the unwarranted attention, its a private matter not for public cynosure. Changing it or not will not stop some individuals from making advances to either of you. You do not want people poke nosing into your affairs.

When he was busy going cap in hand to beg for the youth team to succeed in the Fifa youth Championships was it not enough sacrifice made for the country? The clowns in the FA have the needed funds to pay him well so why should he accept peanuts? There is no need to continue to make sacrifices for a country to one's detriment.

@ OYE 50 ;Some people replied this post as if dey they're not into sex with someone n some took it real personal, i've been unable to reply cos i was busy strategizing my way into her, anyway to cut d long story short n also to disappoint some guys here, i went all d way yester night, oh what an experience it was, today is another day, hope to get another shot, sorry to d angry ones, am sure u even do worse n stop pretence here. [/color][color=#990000]

Clap for yourself you have acheived an exceptional feat, the world is gathering as we speak to give you a NOBEL PRIZE in sex accomplishment. I guess the next chapter in this best seller is to hear how you have sex every day with her, how she does not perform excellently in bedmatics, how exciting it will be to do it with her friend without her knowledge, how she bores you with her endless demand for love and genuine affection not sex, and finanlly how you plan to dump her when you've had your fill.

You have mortgage your heart, mind and life to your ex-girlfriend and that is why long after she is past tense she still remains present tense to you. Heart breaks are a common occurence so you need to get over your depressing mood. Hang out with friends, meet single and interesting ladies not with the intent of starting a relationship but in enjoying their company, put yourself in one form of activity that takes your mind away, give your heart time to heal and do not allow undue pressure from family,friends and society to strain you. Above all reclaim your heart where you left it. No one has the power to hurt you unless you permit it.

Find out who the text messages where initially meant for if not for you. Her answer should assist you in coming to a decision.

@ Inked_Nerd - I like the way you reason. You have a sound mind.

@ Poster
Life is too short to ransom it to people who would only take you for a ride. Your leaving him was a better choice.

@ 2buff Because you are a nice person, would you always give your child what they want?
Continue doing so and you'll end up spoiling that child silly and the child will end up having no respect for you since it knows you're always going to do whatever it wants you to do. The case is not so different with women.

Control is neccessary, most importantly, control of yourself and your tendencies to be over-nice. You can be nice, but be nice with wisdom.


I agree with you completely. Control of self is where one's circle of influence resides aside that you cannot determine the way people will behave, you can play all the mind games, scheme and plot as much as you can and still people will do what is in their hearts to do. My point is if i am kind and considerate as a person, should i give up this character trait because A and B took it for granted? If i do so i will be giving up my control of this aspect of my life to the control of another persons actions or inactions. As you pointed out control of self is the key and not control of another.

We give people too much control over our lives. If a girl/guy breaks your heart because you were nice, continue being nice it is who you are, if people maltreat you because you are considerate, continue being considerate. The world is too big a place to break your head over an individual or individuals. If you want to establish control do so on who you want to be as an individual, one who can add value and make a difference in peoples lives. If because of the actions or inactions of others you change from being a decent person (which everyone should aspire to be) then you have lost control.

Leave them both. No need to cause enmity between two siblings.

You are obviously running with the wrong crowd, change the ladies you associate with. A few hungry Nigerian girls who like money do not constitute the vast majority of those who do not give a hoot about the depth of your pocket. Besides you also need to ensure you are not giving them a wrong impression that you are the answer to all their financial problems. A lady who sees you as their personal ATM Machine should be left alone.

Sometimes people have become so used to being treated unkindly in relationships that when they meet the decent ones who treat them in the manner they deserve to be treated they assume that this is not real, this is not how relationships should be. They try to stir up trouble so that the other party responds harshly in a way they have being accustomed to, but if they are loved even in their inadequacies they view the other party as being weak or not genuine.

You find women who claim that if their boyfriends do not beat them they can never last in such relationships, you hear guys say if their girlfriends are not vulgar or display one negative behaivour or the other they cannot be with such a girl. We have become so used to the wrong things in life and relationships we have forgotten how it feels to be treated and loved right.

Very proud of what the Falconets were able to accomplish. Jonathan should not make the mistake of giving them a presidential handshake or else Nigerians will cut off that hand of his. The next step is for the NFF to organise a friendly between the super chicken eagles and the ever determined super falconets. The victory is defintely going the way of the falconets.

A woman naturally craves attention. She wants to know that she is loved and she is considered special in the eyes of her man. A woman wants a man to be all over her, not possessive, not obsessive, not restrictive of her movement or who she hangs out with. Rather he wants to be with her whenever the opportuinity presents itself, he wants to call her every minute to tease her and hear her lovely voice. He wants to share her dreams and fears, he enjoys being with her. Better to be all over her than not give a hoot about her.

SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX,SEX ad infinitum. Is Sex food? Is it the bedrock of a relationship? Our values are fast fading because we have decied to sell our virtue. That your girlfriend is a virgin is a worthy compliment. Why are you wasting her time and yours by trying to soil any dignity she still has? If you do not like the fact that she is taking such a stand then take a hike but leave the young lady alone.