Wow, never thought Naija peeps would reply sarcastic and nasty to a posting that simply stated a relationship that is struggling mightily against all odds. It's not a wonder that West Africa isnt a place the rest of the world associates with goodness and grace.

Shame will haunt you and your religious hypocrisy.

Oh, and thanks again for your support, hmmmm.

Hmmm,  probably gonna get my butt in a rut with this and would appreciate NOT being placed on Troll Watch: I'm an American White Woman in a 5 yr. long distance relationship with a Yoruba man that is 20 yrs. my junior. We've met face to face twice: my 1st visit was 2 weeks in Ibadan 2007, then the 2nNDvisit was a month in 2008.  During these visits, I determined he was not married, nor did he have any children, and displayed deep devotion to his family of origin. 

Our attempt with a fiance visa was denied June 3rd of this year, and even that has not stopped how I feel.  I have given this sweet man my heart, and he remains loyal to me, in spite of every challenge we continue to face! We communicate almost every day, using my computer, our cell phones, and a decent international calling plan, of course. 

The biggest reason I remain committed to him is this: He has fewer options available to him in Nigeria. I want him to have as many opportunities as I have seen, being born & raised here in the States. (If it's wrong to want someone like him to have a better shot at life than the one he's living now, then I was born on the wrong planet!) Big plus: he's a really great guy!

The strange thing is I'm fully aware of the repercussions of what might happen later, once we actually marry and he's living here with me. I'm a grown woman, with plenty of experience being on my own, but the hope remains that I won't be so alone when I'm old and grey!

That said, it's a 2-way exchange. Guessing I don't need to mention, but i'm gonna: Mutual attraction and high sex drive! 

[color=#000099][/color]I'm always gonna be asking for God's Graces when mentioning marriage to my Sweet Hero in Ibadan   Thnx so much for including us in your prayers!