Quite frankly, this is crazy... I tot don't essence of education is to enlighten us on our basic human rights amongst others. #glorified secondary school indeed

bamidelee:

if dem call you hoe nau, your feminist gang wud start crying like atiku. Is he your husband to be having sex with you? Now he don chop and clean mouth, he wants to taste another one you don become tinz of the past in his life. Sex is food for most of you hoes that's why boiz chop you like say tomorrow no dey.
next patient pls

I wonder when gals go get sense say boiz can say anything to get down on them? And most boiz will do anything to keep their sub active? And when them get free browsing right, they begin to ask for more! All with no guarantee of taking u to the alter.

wetdick:
all these advisers, continuing advising someone that will still go and give the boyfriend anal

my only advise is use vaseline as lubricant

Lol

One more thing, get educated about it in every way. The more educated you are about the effects, long and short, spiritual and physical and psychological, the better chances you have of overcoming. And try not to be too religious about it. Make it harder to find a way out for the sake of the kind of guilt religion impress on u. Making it more difficult. Yeah.

Brox... I don't doubt the power if prayer... But ur mind have been conditioned to love sex. It's not a bad thing to love sex. It natural. God made us sexual beings. U have to get real. Get a gal friend. Truth is it's safe not to have sex. But smoochy smooching alone will quell ur urges over time. If it's a gal u really like, u will value her presence more than that poo act of cowardice. Even kissing her alone sends equal satisfaction to ur hungry mind. You feel rewarded for being loved. Same reward hormone that gets secreted after orgasm is released (dopamine). And u feel better, having a sense of self worth and not self sabotage this time. Believe me, getting a gal friend is a good way out.

But sex before marriage is quite bad. However, how bad can it get? Get to the end of it. Sex is made to be enjoyed by two, not one. If ur mind craves it, do it right at least, and give ur self a good sense of worth first. I don't count masturbation a lesser act of fornication than sex with an opposite sex.

If u can discipline yourself, and not get really intimate (wc I think is difficult but not impossible, judging from the fact that u have an already stimulated mind) better.

Point is, get involved in the real world, it is the only way out I see. It was my way out.

I broke up afterwards for personal differences, I however made sure I didn't allow my relapse linger. Yeah I had a relapse into the act again after break up. But I toughen it out. Kept myself from those pun and all. It's a function of discipline in the end bro. The day u learn to say no to urself, that day u overcome.

Quite frankly, u can learn to say no to self even without involving a gal. It's up to you; how determined you are.

I should say here and now that God has little role to play in this matter. That is y prayer and fasting has done very little. And if u like go to the mountain and fast for forty days and night like Jesus and Moses, u will come back to the very same act of perversion if you cannot learn the simple act of SAYING NO TO SELF. That so because God doesn't fvck around with your free will; ur choice. And every time ur gaddem hands get down, it was ur decision, not God's, and he has very little he can do about ur choice. Sometimes self, you get that initial inner warning... "don't do this!" but demn! Adrenalin is already in the blood. So in the end, you CHOOSE. So leave God out of it. He has done his part already by offering u forgiveness, wc is only available to the repentant, wc still boils down to ur CHOICE. U need do ur part too. And that's simply learning the simple act of SAYING NO TO SELF. But to be practical, you may need to learn that by replacing the stimulant of regular release of dopamine with sth else... Real sex it was for me. You may find sth else... A real hard work, pursuit of a difficult goal and see to it it is archived, a regular rewarding activity, anything that makes u feel happy and rewarded after completing it. Find them out; find out the things that makes u happy and pursue them with all ur life and see the grip and hold of the act (spirit, to be religious )of masturbation fade away.

All the best mehn. It's a hard fight. I can relate, 100%. But I did it. And so can u.

sunbilor:
So your opinion is that everyone should keep quiet and watch while the problem persists? Do you someone could read this and make an instant decision to settle down instead of jumping from man to man?

I kinda love to agree with this. The truth cannot be overstated. This may be what may get to some of those likely to be affected, while the several other posts made already on same matter lies in the belly of archives, ineffective. I for one am just reading of the matter from this perspective for the first time. Besides, one truth said over and over by different persons always strike a new perspective even on the same receiver.

Though they say a word is enough for the wise, truth is foolishness is I the heart of a child, the rod of correction (truth in this case) drives it away.

Raalsalghul:
I thought we were talking about late marriage, how did sex get into the matter.

Most of them wanted to explore. That's what brought sex in naw... And they wanted to explore because parents aren't forthcoming with meaningful advice, Making them feel like they are too small to talk about sex. Thus they deny any marriage proposal. Most, because they feel their parent would consider them too young. But body nah be fire wood, them begin gbagan in secret to satisfy their curiosity on sex.

Point is, if parents where more open and encouraged them to bring home a serious man, we would have less of this.

Get my point?

Raalsalghul:
For bleeps sake we are tired of hearing this.

The truth cannot be over stated. Many gals are ignorant of this truth. Parents sef don't help matters. They make it a taboo to talk about sex like they never had sex while young, leaving this youngsters to explore sex on heir own thereby getting good burnt by the unfortunate. I blame ignorant naija parents too, especially the overly religious.

Thanks to you all who were generous in your knowledge, I really appreciated. I have learnt a great deal. At least I know where to start from now. I feared there might not be remedy. Googled about it and found quite some generic information on treating periodic vagina odour but not this type of chronic one. So I felt it's no remedy. At least now am sure it has with some good recommendations. I will definitely tell her there is a remedy and have her go see doctor, while I make research on the suggested here.

Once again thanks to you all who made meaningful contributions. @NaBanga @bethyz @lebinconnu @NwanyiAkwaetit @ALLNIGERIANSMAD and to the rest on previous pages with wonderful and helpful comments. And to those hilarious Nairalanders that gives us funny things to read too. Thanks to you all and God bless y'all. #appreciated.

Deicide:
WARNING!! WARNING!! small Boy alert!

Hmm... So I sound like one
Well, am not bro

tellwisdom:
Take her to a river and soak her there for 2 days

Lol. Bross u funny ooo... Be serious jhorr..

Hi guys, I really need help on this. I'd there a remedy for this situation? Or some ladies are just by nature victim of this unfortunate condition. Even if it's natural, should there not be a way to make it go away?

This gal friend of mine is the best lady I've ever seen in the world. Caring, submissive, matured in reasoning, but for this her blemish! I tried telling her to look for remedy, but she felt too embarrassed to even talk about it which I understood. I gave her time to go see a doctor, she wouldn't.

Because of my love for her, I bleeped her like that to let her know that I still cared, but I needed her to do sth. She wasn't forth coming with a remedy, neither was she keen to look for one. She was more like nothing can be done, don't disturb me. If u can't go with it, then let me go. So please guys, educate me on this matter.

I here there are ppl with naturally smelly VJ. Are there remedy? I still love her and wish I could work things out. But I can't keep up with the VJ thing.

Wyrax:
it's almost 6 years since I have gotten addicted to watching porn and 2 years and 3months that I have been addicted to watching porn and masturbating. It's a combo that's like bread and butter for me.

I and this kind of gentle melancholic guy that loves his privacy.

During my school days( 2013 100 level) I started watching porn eversince then I find it difficult to halt this addiction. Then I will leave my room to go in search of free WiFi around the school and I will spend a lot of time(with the slow network) downloading porn movies. I could stay within a WiFi station around physics, Arts, or accounting dept.in my university downloading porn movies expending close to 12 hours. I am not kidding here. I was out of control undisciplined. Once I leave my room as early as 5 in the morning it always till evening I return. I would tell my roommates I went to read.

I am a Christian and people know I am. but I am addicted to porn. till now. Sometimes I cease watching after about two days i return to the porn.

This porn addiction really affected my academic performance. Thank God I didn't graduate with the worse result. But my result was bad.


This porn addiction as led to me wasting money. I will buy data and consume within days. and then delete the porn I downloaded because of regrets and repurchase another data to download the porn... that's how this cycle as been.

I know virtually all indecent stars names ( black most especially)...

This addiction as led me to have low self esteem, low communication skills, lack of confidence shyness,lack of self discipline lack of financial intelligence etc.

I need to be delivered from this addiction before it ruin my life.


please help

Unfortunately, guys like u find it hard to get a gal friend. You loose ur self esteem for feel of lack of self worth and many other psychological palaver. Just summon courage, get a gal friend, replace the porn with real sex. Make sure when she wants her space for a while, as all women sometimes do, u keep ur head focused. Its better real than bleep. Over time, the urge to view will be replaced with the real thing. But u must make sure to be faithful to urself. U got a gal friend to replace the the pun.

Only that you should make sure you try and find a gal u can marry before starting a sexual relationship. Trust me, a lot of emotional attachment builds after frequent sex whether u love the gal or not, good habit or bad habits and u don't want to be caught up in that mess.

technicallyrich:
Your own is even better.
Mine is how do i stick to one girl.
Sometimes i feel like banging a slim girl,sometimes fat,old,young etc.
And because of these habit i keep changing women and whenever i bang a girl straight one wk i hate her with passion and can even chase her out.
I dont know how i will even get married.people around my neigbourhood now call me mr dog because of how i change women.
My second bad habit is that when i romance a girl and she get wet,the minute to leave her and go wear a condom seems like eternity so some times i bang them without condom and i regret it so much.the last girl i bng these afternoon my body has been scratching me seriously.although i enjoyed it as she was only sixteen tight and still young and naive.
The summary of the story is that we all have issues.my best friend is a drunk.that one na him own issue.

Hmm.... Brox... U get mind oooo... Just stop getting close for the sex. Look out for behaviors u like. Find one and enjoy her personality without sex for a start first. U will not hate her after u start having sex with her.

Gimmeballs:
Even though he's overly nice to me I don't see my self indulging in Anal sex with him sooner or later. He said we go Anal or we are done. How could he shove a huge instrument inside my butt hole. Perhaps he wants to hurt me. Perhaps he doesn't love me anymore. advice please is anal sex worth trying? Enlighten me


Thanks for ur contributions.

Hate to burst ur bobble, ur boo-boo doesn't love u. When he's had enough of u, he'll dump u for a decent gal. He is just using u to experiment his sexual prowess like many of us guys do. When time to marry comes, na story u go here. Trust me, we can be very nice to the later just to get what we want. If u never know that by now, na u Sabi.