Well my dear friend it is really unfortunate that you have found out what will eventually cause your death. When it will happen depends so much on how you handle the situation. But I can assure you that 90% of married women/men are suspects in this case . It is absolutely not new if not cousin it could be some man or woman out there. as per my advice to you if; ofcourse you cannot tell me that you still love your wife after all these betrayal but may beyou are still ready to continue with her in this marriage then you have to tell her cousin that you know what he has done by inviting him out to a lonely place and really scare him with the truth. but first forward that mail to your own mail box such that even if they are denying the link will implicate them.
  Then tell your wife your findings and really frighten her to a point that she will confess and promise never in her life time will such a thing happen again. But I must warn that you must be calculative and brave to survive this otherwise it is RIP for you ooo

Well my dear friend it is really unfortunate that you have found out what will eventually cause your death. When it will happen depends so much on how you handle the situation. But I can assure you that 90% of married women/men are suspects in this case . It is absolutely not new if not cousin it could be some man or woman out there. as per my advice to you if; ofcourse you cannot tell me that you still love your wife after all these betrayal but may beyou are still ready to continue with her in this marriage then you have to tell her cousin that you know what he has done by inviting him out to a lonely place and really scare him with the truth. but first forward that mail to your own mail box such that even if they are denying the link will implicate them.
Then tell your wife your findings and really frighten her to a point that she will confess and promise never in her life time will such a thing happen again. But I must warn that you must be calculative and brave to survive this otherwise it is RIP for you ooo

A human heart is too precious to toil with. Tomorrow you will start complaining of infidelity but right now you are laying the foundation wt your ur bare hands. you can't give what you dont have nor receive you dont give.

In my opinion, cheating is an individual thing regardless of where you find yourself or your sex as in male/female. Just as every human have the tendency to sin or fall into temptation. sometimes it is out of curiousity, some other times adventure and yet some other times to ward off stress. there is absolutely no good reason to commit sin and my dear SIN is SIN regardless of what is involved.
WHAT we all should actually be concerned with is to emphasize the value of fidelity, Faithfullness and love; always strive to stay clear from doing things you cannot accept from others. There is always a temptation to step up the groove but the question should be does it worth it?. What of if the table is turned against you would you still feel thesame way. As far as I am concern a pious man that short pays his ignorant servant is as guilty as an adultrer. A fornicator ofcourse shares thesame fate sin is sin period there is no excuse for it.

Hi . I think and feel that the First guy your main guy may be feeling obligated to you having received some assistance from you in the past as such he is trying hard not to fail you. While the second guy is showing concern and efforts to win your love. Who knows tomorrow? but if I may ask do you have or have you had any covenant with any of them? Why the question Girls or rather Boys and Girls seems to take for granted the act of first sex. the guy that first had sex with you in life established the first covenant with you because if you don't know let me remind you that blood was involved in that act an most often that not 90 % of Men and women after marriage wish to get back with there first love if possible and with that hunger unsatisfied there always something missing. So now is your chance to reconcile with the covenant you made right or wrong. use your head.

Sorry my dear. Although self pity is not what you need right now.
I will advice that you reconsider the foundamentals ie why did you get into marriage in the first place? Is it for companionship, love or support. what? with this new development is the foundamental reason threatened if yes then perhaps you may call off the union if you can get satisfaction else where.
However, let me advice that in line with Williams Shakespare, "we all in life are on a stage playing out a script that was not written by us and we have little or know control over what is written rather we can decide to play out the scipt well with pleasure or badly with pains". In the midst of this maximum betrayal you can still play out your script with love and I assure you, that is the only sure way to win with pleasure.
Like they say throw away the dirty water and take back your cloth.
Come to look at it some married women regardless of colours do cheat on their hubby to the extent of getting pregnant and planting the Child on the hubby it is only when one goes for DNA that you get to know who is who. I am not saying that this is good moral. No way. all I am saying is that there is moral decay and high level recklessness in marriage institution today but what you dont know and what you chosse to ignore will not kill you. Take heart and move on with your script playing,