robosky02:

for me I think there are three option to choose from
1. Dialogue - invite your wife to seat down and discuss your feeling with her. on how to reduce the excesses
2. "Waiter-logue" - wait to see any positive change that will happen after discussing with your wife
3. three -logue - get another person your wife respects so much to seat down as a third party to listen to each others point. why her mothers frequent visit should be curtailed. if there is no change
4. relocate very far from where the mother in-law cant be coming too frequently

I have discussed with my wife, I have told her I'm not comfortable with her mom been around and to burst your bubble she is the one person my wife respects the most and anything she says is final, I have been having this problem for months I rented out my former place on the mainland and bought a house in Lekki it's pretty far from where she stays because she have to drive for about 3 hours before getting here, I have relocated twice this year. I can't buy anymore house this year I have to invest the little I have left

eyinjuege:
Tell your wife you'd rather not have visitors in your home.
If she wants to see her mother, she can always go visit her parents.

She will still visit telling you she has some things to discuss and they can't be discussed over the phone, we will all end up spending the weekend together, I can't even go to a beach with my wife alone, I have to go with the batalion God gave me( my MIL and maybe a guest she came with)

thorpido:
I want to believe you knew the bolded before saying I do and should have known the implications especially if she raised your wife all by herself.Does she have other children who are married?
You're going to have a bit of a challenge handling this especially since your wife is a mummy's girl.
Try to have a talk with your wife about your position and the need to have your own space.Subtly start to make your MIL aware too that you need that space too.Sometimes stay away from your house(if possible for a day or two) whenever she is expected to come.
Most of all,learn to accommodate it because it's not something that will go away soon.Anytime you need your privacy,just go into your bedroom.

I knew she was a single mother before marrying her daughter and she didn't raise her daughter all by herself, I dated her daughter for 7 years before marrying her and I know she was raised by both parent, you are right my wife is a mummy's girl and there is nothing like having our own space with my MIL coz according to her the house is big enough, I can't even watch matches on weekend when I'm supposed to be resting and talking to my wife and son, I'm always in the room watching movies on YouTube because she always have the remote and it has to be on African magic while she discussed other family issues with my wife, I'm fed up

Twaci:
That's just sad.
Well guess u will have to man up and talk to her.
Asides your wife, doesn't she have any other child?

She is her mothers only child

soberdrunk:
My brother you have three options::::::
1) You can man up and tell your wife and her mother that you are not comfortable with the way things are and that you need your privacy.(this option is not easy because you will have to face the 'wrath' of your wife or her mother or 'both')
2) You can get a male elder in your wife's family that is 'understanding' to talk to your mother-in-law to respect you and your wife's privacy(this too is risky because it can backfire if ypur mother-in-law takes it the wrong way)
3) 'OPERATION FLUSH HER OUT"--- make your home very 'uncomfortable' for her! Old women are superstitious so you can take advantage of that, you can start by dropping strange objects in the room she sleeps whenever she visits, you can arrange for strange noises to be made close to her window in the middle of the night, if your wife travels you can even go hardcore Nollywood on her, like pretend you are carrying out strange rituals in the middle of the night or just wear all white and be dancing azonto at odd hours and make sure she sees you
GOODLUCK MAN! DONT FORGET TO COME BACK AND THANK ME WITH COLD BOTTLES OF GULDER

I have talked to my wife over and over about not been comfortable with her mom showing up every time and she will always tell me the words I WILL TALK TO HER. I have talked to my father inlaw and he feels bad for me, he told me there is nothing he can do because hey are divorced and he has talked to his daughter so many times but I think this woman knows how to play her cards when it comes to her daughters heart and sense.

Yieldings:
You're the man of the house/your house and have every right to your privacy. That includes who comes visiting, when and how often. It's time to speak up. Your MIL shouldn't be in your home, controlling you either, that's ridiculous. If this problem started shortly after you got married this year, then you and your wife have not had the chance to enjoy yourselves nor your home as newlyweds, which is especially not fair to you (since your wife isn't bothered). She stays for a week or two then returns the following weekend, smh. Since your wife is siding with her mom, give her an ultimatum: either her mother stops visiting {so often} or you send her back home to her. If she misses her daughter so much, then her daughter will be coming home where she can be seeing her everyday.

According to my mother inlaw it's no longer my house it belongs to us both and she needs to see her daughter from time to time, I have told my wife over and over again during the week that I don't want to see her mother in my house this weekend only to see the gateman opening the gate for her mother, she calls that a surprise visit because my wife told her already that I don't want to see her, I'm becoming an evil husband to her already

locosis007:
Swallow your introversion and speak your mind.But gently
Sulking won't help issues.
Your Mother in law is definitely at something. Not just only on regular but something fishy.
Your father in law won't just allow her come visit everytime.

I can't say my mind because I'm frustrated I will end up saying things I will regret to my wife and mother inlaw

She is a single mother and she lives in her own house while my father inlaw warned me not too get too close to her after I complained to him about her involvement in my home, he told me to go on a vacation with my wife and son but when my wife told her we are planning going on a vacation to Dubai, she called me to tell me how she has always wanted to visit Dubai and she must be included in the trip, I loved the suggestion of Twaci but I can't tell my mom what I'm going through, she is married and lives with her own husband she can't just leave her home, my dad will never support that.

My problem started shortly after our wedding this year, and ever since its like I'm in a versus kind of relationship( I versus my wife and her family). She is so controlling, she knows all of our business my wife makes sure she keeps her up to date on every little details that goes on in our lives and she is never out of our lives not even for a week and I think my wife is ok with it because her mother can never be wrong.

She worships her either she is right or wrong, she is always visiting every weekend and sometimes stays with us for a week or two only to come back the following weekend saying she misses us, when I got married to my wife I didn't ask for a bonus, I don't know why we can't be left alone, and the worse part of it is that she comes with other family members and we always have a full house, I'm an introvert and I love my privacy but with my mother in-law I will never have that. I have become sad over the past few months and it's affecting my home because I can't even talk to my wife anymore because she is her mother's ear piece, I'm losing my sanity, she is coming over this weekend and I think I just need to go on a vacation alone this summer to clear my head. Have you ever had this kind of problem before? I need help please.

I feel bad for him though it's worse alresdy for him and his family to have a countdown for his last breath, I think there should be a review of this Indonesian law it's similar to jungle justice

It breaks my heart whenever I remember we still have 3 more years with this government, the past 1 year have been so bad it's like 1 million years in the eyes of the masses

another facial water color seller, I remember the days of Mon Ami in my secondary school fine art

Run for your life GNLD format Lol

I hope police won't release him after he pays them a penny

John Anike Chinedu I won't say anything

Yes this silly Linus wanted to borrow 13 million naira from the broke country

The change is here, negative change

In a sane and well organized country, this man will be eating beans in kirikiri, after all the embezzlements this is what you come up with? This country self

The truth is always bitter

I JUST CAME TO CHECK THE NAMES, THEY DIDN'T DISAPPOINT THOUGH

Amaka is coming

It's an event filled with politicians, a potential place to showcase her gifts as customer plenty! hope she got what she was looking for

Guess she didn't want the whole world to know she got a dress of 4000. Lol

December is around the corner! RIP man, God grant the fortitude to bear the loss, people should be careful ritualist need festive money

December is around the corner! RIP man, God grant your family the fortitude to bear the loss, people should be careful ritualist need festive money