IF U ASK ME,SEXUAL FANTASIES ARE NORMAL.AND WAT U MITE CALL NORMAL MITE BE TOTALLY GROSS 2 D NEXT PERSON(ONE MAN'S MEAT AND ALL)OK? IN THE CASE OF D POSTER,I CANT ACTUALLY BEGIN 2 JUDGE D MAN AND WIFE COS I NO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ABOUT DEM.LIKE,WAT KIND OF FANTASIES HAVE THEY BEEN ENGAGED IN BEFORE NOW,WHAT KIND OF MARRIAGE DO THEY HAVE,HOW SUPERB IS THEIR SEX LIFE AND SO ON,
BUT NEVERTHELESS,I SUSPECT THE WIFE IS A VERY UNDERSTANDING WOMAN AND HUBBY IS AN OPEN MAN(OR MAYBE HE DECIDE 2 LET OUT DIS FANTASY COS IT INVOLVES WIFEY.)
U CULD TRY EXPLAINING 2 HUBBY DAT ITS ALRITE 2 HAVE HIS FANTASY BUT FULFILLING IT MAY BE DIFFICULT COS IT WILL HURT U A LOT AND IS NOT PROPER COS UR MARRIED AND THEREFORE UR BODIES ARE 4 BOTH OF U AND U ALONE.AND SUGGEST TO HIM DAT HE MITE LET OUT OTHER FANTASIES DAT INVOLVES JUST 2 PERSONS(U AND HIM OOOOO) AND SEE IF U WONT FULFILL WITH ALL UR HEART,

kpele o.i guess ur case is exactly one of d reasons why courtship before marriage is adviced.
from ur post i gather u and spouse did not effectively court and thus did not know much about each other.if not,how can u not know if she loves jokes or not.and also if she is secretive.i mean dis are stuff people tend 2 know b4 marriage or did u know and decide 2 accept it hoping she might change in future?
anyways,all dat is water under d bridge.as deed is already done.
does ur wife want 2 save ur marriage as much u or is she calling it quits?
if yes,then why not seek d help of marriage counsellors?also, u culd also spice ur relationship by being extremely romantic.(buy scented candles and lite ur bathroom,take romantic showers,surprise her with ur culinary skills 2 give her a treat once in a while.and even if ur bad at it,d effort will surprise and make her laff.
take her out 2 nice places.
buy her nice gifts.
tell her u love her like a million times a day.and u dont want 2 lose her.date she is d best thing dat has happened 2 u.
ask her 4 her fantasies.u know,like if u met a perfect man wat and how do u want him 2 be, look and act.
praise her in front of friends and family.make her feel like she is d number one person in ur life.
also,take an interest in her life.her academics(get familiar wit her work,research and make constructive inputs),housework,e.t.c.and offer 2 help her.it will greatly please her.spice up ur sex life.study her very well and know wat pleases her when u make love.she might not tell u cos i gather she is not d talking type.listen 2 her.find things dat interest her then joke in dat area.if she is against lewdness and u make lewd jokes,u jst mite be d only one laffing.
finally,wealth,possessions,achievements,while good,does not feel up a warm hug,kisses,appreciation,nice words and romance.
pray 4 ur marriage.take d bull by d horn and make it work.
good luck.