Sooooo sorry dear @ OP,u have heard all the advice,just follow ur heart. anyone u think is better and will bring you solution,go ahead. God's grace that's all I can say

semmykiki:
First I must say you made a terrible mistake by paying into wrong account. But first I have a few question for you. Is the account name the same with the one you intend to pay into if No why where you not told by the bank teller that the name of account does not correspond? Secondly when you notice the mistake why didn't you go straight to the bank where the money was paid in and complain rather that waiting endlessly for customer service?
My point now is this, we are in the era of BVN where their is no place to hide for criminals for those who truly know their right. Go back to the bank where you made the payment and ask them politely to help you trace the said guy if he refuse to okay back your money. I bet you if you are polite enough they will. You can also go the his own bank and an alert will be pull through to other banks in case he intend to abandon that account to open another one. Try this and let see how far that help

I concur with u because this days is even hard for such mistakes to occur because before any money is been sent,the name must correspond with the No.....it happened to me last week at the cash point and the guy gave me both the money and teller to confirm first,,so,i wonder who to blame now,,,all the same,he should sort it out in anyway he knows he can get his money back

hahhahaha hahhahaha....e mi ke,caculation ni...noway

thankGod u didn't even try to take the phone from her ni,,,,lol....thankGod for safety anyway

hmmmmm,,, I don't even keep ur contact,nor have u on my social network, or even pray we cross part..yea,thats me,i hate too much explanation and excuses in my present state. they're millions of new friends to make,if I need one not you,my ex. Me,myself and I way of life......

Diplomaticbeing:
@OP

Before you crucify a possible faithful girl, kindly take note that something like the kind of primary and secondary education she had could have been the major reason she graduated with a 3rd class. Besides, to graduate from FUTO is not easy, especially for someone that attended a community primary and secondary schools in the hinterland. Most of the people that came through the aforementioned backgrounds normally passed their SSCE and JAMB through runs (sometimes not because they wish to, but because of the poor standards of the schools/teachers, coupled with poverty and misconceptions about corruption being the means to attain greatness in life). Therefore, they always finds it hard to assimilate quickly when they finds themselves at the higher institutions.

As a lawyer you said you're, I'd expects you to use your analytical and sensitive attributes/attitudes to know her level of IQ and personality traits. . . . Believe you me, I only need less than a day of physical contact with someone to know the person's attributes and level of IQ.

Don't judge her by her past or formal academic grade, rather make your decision based on whom she presented herself to be at present. Good luck.

I think you guys should even ask him his own level of degree,i mean,for coming up with this question,is a slap on the face....Barrister....well,is cool

that she has third class is not a determinate of her life then in school dear. some persons pay to upgrade there GP.while some are well enough for there Gp. I have a similar case like hers, what is the cause of my client own,she lost her dad and her mum in her first year and because of it,she couldn't concentrate in her studies and she had parallel 'F'in her first year,,,,according to her,she became so frustrated that she went for change of course but she was told is too late,either she quit or work hard to make up those 'F' and at the end of the day,she came out with third class. will u say she has been too busy with some guy somewhere? apart from that even, some persons are third class holders and belt me,is not because of some guy somewhere ,the course they were offered after staying how many years at home,also contributed to there third class. (if u don't beat them,u join the)so,if you have checked you lady and she's what u want,why allow her grade be of a distraction to you? Why do we have this ideal of going behind who we claim to love,to inquire about some things? if I can't believe the word of my so called love,truth him even when I know he lied, what then am I doing with him? let's have this in mind,u can never get 80% of what we are looking for in any human. grade in education,is not grade in sense, is not grade in making money,is not grade in our everyday life,is not grade in our dealing with people and our environment nor its a grade in whatever that has to do with us. my dear,whatever the case maybe,the question is,can u live with her? can u be able to condole her shortcomings? can u finish from work and be happy u are going home to met your wife? do u think she will be able to bring up your kids in the way they should go even when u are not around? do u think at the hearing of her voice, u would want to hear it again and again? do u think u say to God, thank u for giving this woman by my side with all sincwrity and not this camouflage people do this days? if u can be proud of her,then don't let degree degrade tou...my opinion anyway ...goodday.....

that she has third class is not a determinate of her life then in school dear. some persons pay to upgrade there GP.while some are well enough for there Gp. I have a similar case like hers, what is the cause of my client own,she lost her dad and her mum in her first year and because of it,she couldn't concentrate in her studies and she had parallel 'F'in her first year,,,,according to her,she became so frustrated that she went for change of course but she was told is too late,either she quit or work hard to make up those 'F' and at the end of the day,she came out with third class. will u say she has been too busy with some guy somewhere? apart from that even, some persons are third class holders and belt me,is not because of some guy somewhere ,the course they were offered after staying how many years at home,also contributed to there third class. (if u don't beat them,u join the)so,if you have checked you lady and she's what u want,why allow her grade be of a distraction to you? Why do we have this ideal of going behind who we claim to love,to inquire about some things? if I can't believe the word of my so called love,truth him even when I know he lied, what then am I doing with him? let's have this in mind,u can never get 80% of what we are looking for in any human. grade in education,is not grade in sense, is not grade in making money,is not grade in our everyday life,is not grade in our dealing with people and our environment nor its a grade in whatever that has to do with us. my dear,whatever the case maybe,the question is,can u live with her? can u be able to condole her shortcomings? can u finish from work and be happy u are going home to met your wife? do u think she will be able to bring up your kids in the way they should go even when u are not around? do u think at the hearing of her voice, u would want to hear it again and again? do u think u say to God, thank u for giving this woman by my side with all sincwrity and not this camouflage people do this days? if u can be proud of her,then don't let degree degrade tou...my opinion anyway ...goodday

mkpatagiaka:
I think tall guys like me don't lay much emphasis on a girl's height.

Between Two girls that dat hv same criteria, I would prefer to the short one... It js works dat way for me,
Even though short girls can b stubborn

I agree with you on the stubborn part,u know why they're, ,,? so that no one will intimidate them because of height. yea

is only cow I know they beat..maybe,u are one in human form.....congrats Anty

Someone who prefer a married man's happiness to yours, Someone who run to her ex because you guys had issue, from your post,i can understand you can't free talk to her without thinking of her flaming up? well,my dear, happiness is a choice and I pray you,choice right ok.....if she's ready to change,fine but if she's not,biko,leave her before we will here she has finally call it a quit ,leaving you heart broken.

hope u wouldn't mind if I repost it on instagram?

waoh!!!!!?! that's nice,u are good make over artist? keep it up...ur contouring,highlighting and lip colour is cute,even your brows..kudos. I guess u are marketing your job

misreal:
thanks.

welcome

Talk2Bella:


what is the bad thing that god is forbidding?

I don't know oo my dear

like seriously,,,why some persons are not even allowing they're friends come close to there man,some are sending the friends to go test? God of mercy,,,why on earth will u send your friend to go try ur man u claim u love and will want to have as the father of your children? is not a matter of trust, is stupidity on my side to do such a thing,gosh!!!!awwww,when will some learn?,. what we ladies can over come,i belt you,guys will have to speak in tongues before they can,,,,,,,,,please,i want to believe this is a cook up story,is not real but if is real,sister,sorry. in the next word, don't even think or imagine to plant such temptation, do you best and leave the rest for God,we are just caretakers,home makers not breakers and he/she who breaks his/her home shall the serpent bite. my opinion though

misreal:
my dear I wish I really offended her oh.I actually thought it was a joke when she left oh.it dawned on me the day she simply asked me to move,that she was done with me.

you have to do same too,let her go..it's simple but if u can accept her back,fine,don't delay but if u cant,cut off from her entirely..grace

ashewoboy:





what was she coming to do before, to watch movie? You don't want to give him pu.na.ni buh you know how to eat delicacies.



Have you had any experience before? Where the guy invited you and you went to visit him and he requested for puna, did you let him in or you declined? Be sincere.

don't think u have been following this topic from where is started, maybe,u go back and read from the beginning, and please pay good attention so that u don't misunderstand anyone,,,,cheers

just a day call that u didn't pick,sha called it a quit? how sure is this or something has being going on and coupled with you nothing and she got choked? anyway,maybe the other bros has been showing Yeye care and concern and she felt, she has got it all.... well,she should enjoy herself where ever she's and let you be..
.this why I ask,what's the essence of keep our ex close? imagine if u are in a good relationship with some good hearted lady and this comes up,how will she swallow it? just asking shaaa...free her now and faces your lane,so that u don't do what u will regret,,cheers....it hurt me at times, I don't have a brother,somethings I read here,are just easy to handle....that I imagine if my kid or senior brother come to me with such complaints, well,gentlemen and ladies, the Lord is our strength

Miztadynamix:
This is definitely not a strange question because I know alot of us here already know that's a fact. Most young Nigerian ladies hardly want to give a chance to some young men who have big dreams and goals in life just because maybe as at the time he meets her, things haven't started working so good for him. They tend to just believe that comfort is found more in a guy that is already made and established.

Yes I know there are quite a number of decent guys who are established and still focused on keeping decent relationships, what I don't understand is why ladies don't see it as appropriate to make or establish a guy if she has the capability.

I somehow believe this is one of the major things that have brought about the ever increasing cases of divorce we tend to see these days.

Please I will love to here your own opinion about this topic.

my dear,ur opinion is well understood by me but have u heard of a lady struggled with a guy and at the end,he gets the one he think is not too expose? Have u heard where a family vowed that they don't care how much she has spent on you,you cannot settle with her? You've been dating this guy who has no job,whos squatting with his friend,who can't even eat twice in a day and u decided to swallow it and help him out,God so kind,he status changes and his family now remember,hes there son and they can die if he ends up with you and he willing obey and ask u how much do u want,lets him settle you or establish you in any country of your choice....thunder fire devil,..... let me not bore you with my own experience shaaa but the thing is,many have been heartbroken that they vowed never to have such relationship.

why on earth will I raise my hand on him? jisos,,,,,who dash me strength kwanu.... Like seriously!!!!! we are in a wrestling ring or what? hmmmmm,,,,i pray ooo!!!! my dearest,there thousand and million ways to pay back though forgiveness is good but I wi make him pay,ask me how? have u watch her cry uncontrollably? have u been in same house where she do everything even in bed but never put up that friendly attitude or communication channel? She wakes up in the morning, greets you but she can never smile or laugh with you? She makes your food,eat with your even say thank you politely but u watch those innocent tears of hers roll down her cheek, she didn't report to anyone oooo but you by yourself will go and report yourself...lol.....well,thats my opinion.......

ashewoboy:





let's assume she didn't go to visit the guy. The guy came to visit her, they had fun in the nearest restaurant buh she refused to follow him to the hotel after eating all the consumables. Is dat not magarism? She has magarised the guy, what would the guy do? If that's the case, i'm sure you would justify her action.

well,that u paid your way down to where ever u felt u have found love,,,be ready to take what u see,,,negative/ positive,either a lady or guy,,but not same with a lady who flew from Enugu to abj,on the guys account,feeding and lodging and even planed for you TP back and if he make advance on you,u want to decline,,well,i don't know how possible it will be for the guy to happily accept it though some guys can do it but is one in a million,,my opinion anyway.

some men have made even the once that will want to give in a helping hand, change there mind because I have seen where a lady sacrifices all that but still,the guy didn't end up with her. is not just all about washing your cloth,cooking for you and all that. What you want in a lady is far different from what someone else want. so,the better u start doing your thing,the better for you and your woman. receive grace

ashewoboy:





a lady that is supporting rape? They are coming for you.



Lalasticlala, do something.

let's call a a spade a spade,when u give yourself to a hurt,u get it in full return. am not supporting rape but truth be told,let no one not start what he/she can not finish

Tonyosas101:

Thanks again...I spoke with her today and its went smooth, hoping to see her tomorrow

..that's a good testimony,thankGod and I pray it goes well,,,,,God bless you guys,,,

well sir, I believe in God and I also believe he's a prayer answering God and not a prayer storing God...pray and be committed to kingdom, that love u will want to show a lady now,show it to God and u will see how He (God) will make all things beautiful for...don't forget the later rain shall be greater than the formal. loving God is the master key to the world of exploit,,,cheers

TrapQueen77:





Eeehheeemm... Werris ur lovely wife? After u got 2 kids with her, still u wanna tell us u wanna find love?

don't u think is possible? people live for yrs,have kids but still no love,dont u believe that?

Tonyosas101:
that's astonishing, I think I know where its all "went wrong"....ï didn't want to react while she was complaining for the fear of overreacting....thanks Bro,

Hope I don't need to answer your question again

ohhh,,thankGod u know where it all went wrong and I pray u fix it. when we talk of someone overreacting, we should not put outside we push them and because of some people's nature,when they've hearted you,give u much of attention,they need same in return and when they don't get it,they over react and is left for us to calm the down,make them see reasons. example,i do over react to issue because i take things to heart a lot but I have a friend who knows how to handle me,when I start,he always have a way to calm me down and I will end up saying sorry. So,be patient with her and trying to understand her more if u truly want to date her.... my opinion though,,,cheers

a chance missed,can it be regained? u were next to withdraw coupled with traffic and the stressful day, u never thought it wise to excuse yourself from a guy who complimented you even in your stressful look? well,henry,please on her behalf,sorry, even if not for anything,just accept her apologies ok...thanks and God bless

hmmmmmm,,,,though am not a guy but believe me,i will rape her....what's that? like who does that?.....ladies let's take it or leave,if you are on the transit to see him who u have not seen before,he paid ur to TP and all that,never u make the mistake of talking bulshit.......u can only do that when u lodged yourself by yourself,meaning,u have ur cash and u can easily walk him out of ur room.....yes,that's the simple truth. u can't rob Peter to pay paul!!!!!! and by the way,why will u even travel as far as that to see a guy? my opinion shaaaa.

actually,she doesn't need to be as tall as the guy...wow,loving this

is so heartbreaking when a woman who is a home maker turns to be a home breaker.....well brother,my candid advice is,pray there's nothing God can't do but remember the bible says " a living dog is better than a dead lion" if is about they children and property that she and her mum will want to waste your life or render u useless,let them be in the custody of the kids since u will still be going to pay them visit and all that. some day,your children will definitely come back to you. all u own them is your prayers but all the same,God can still turn a stoney heart around if you are patience