teblu:

Yeah, it's a good question. Why did she leave the house for a year...ask yourself again.

efewizey:
Marriage no favor us men. Na women jare. Make we no they deceive ourselves. Why are there many divorce cases in the world. Men eyes don open to see the truth. Some women are in that marriage for the benefits. Once that is no longer as they projected they will nag and make your life a living hell. 90% of nigerian women believe a man should carry all their responsibility. Even your father won't do that. Las Las make everybody just do the one them fit do. Life no get manual.

Awesome01:


Eyaaaah, @OP Sorry o. You don't need to transfer the aggression to me o. But, but, Maybe you should check the last paragraph of your write-up.



Anyway, @Enacto. Follow the advices you've been given on the thread. Try and make peace with your Dad, even if your Mum had to plead with him on your behalf. Do this because of your piece of mind and not really his.

Moreover, pray for God's help and hustle. My parents abandoned me to fend for myself at 11. I trained myself up to where I am now (Not easy at all). But I'm contributing over 60% to their upkeep now.

Life is neither easy nor fair. Wish you the best of luck

Techm8:
You are lucky to still have a dad. Life is short. Time flies by fast and before you know it your dad will be no more. Go make amends. Home is where love is.

kunle75:



Forgive him and move on with your life.

I salute your bravery too,some girls would have gone otherwise to get the same money but stay focused and see what God will do.

As for your tuition I do hope its sorted and if not you can dm me and let's see how that can be sorted.

Shalom

balarabe01:
Apologise to your father and make peace, hussle and fend for yourself in addition to any support home gives,so that you can help yourself and support home your mother and father later, Your mother is the cause of your woes and your father could not forgive her.ask your mother.
Karma is real.

Ayomivic:


She talked about what her father was doing that she did not like but she did not boder to know what herself and her mom were doing that the father doesn't like.

You must submitt yourself to the control of your father. No man would want to bow to the command of his wife or his daughter or son. He is the head of the family. The king of the family. Yo enjoy him , you must accept him as that.

Are you into wook up what do you people called it. O don't know how to take survive in school when your parents did not send money to you.

Ephemmm:


Your son will punch you when you grow up and you will learn in hard way. So, are you telling me that a father who has been responsible so far will just stop overnight without a cause?

She feels comfortable beating a three year old kid, but has the gut to raise her hand against her father when corrected. Yet, you are here spewing rubbish.

Her relationship with her father got severed due to the hatred and complaints handed over to her by her mother. Imagine, she even have a right to reject 50,000, but she is finding it difficult to realize 1,000 per day as a grown up adult.

Ephemmm:


She is seeing her father in the way he was painted by her mother, and this has lead to unconscious disposition of hatred towards her father. A father who has been responsible so far can't just stop to doing so overnight; something might have caused it.

You can also see that her entitlement mentality is second to none and she need to work on this.

penocrat1:
Psychology 101
Has your father always been like this?
Have you sat your father to discuss this issues with him and how things can get getter?
Is there something you are doing that your father does not like?
Is there something that your mother is doing that your father does not like?
Have you called your mother aside and asked her what she thinks is the course of this recent development?
You are 24 years old, If home is not conducive, leave home but maintain constant communication.
You rejected your father's 50k, how do you want him to feel low key. Be grateful for every little gesture. What if he was testing you?
You should have collected the money and gifted you mother or use it to restock the house.
Is your father looking happy? What do you think changed?
Is he in debt?
If he is a business man. How is his business fairing?
If he is a retiree, has he been happy since retirement?
Who does your father respect,fear or listen to his words be it religious leader, relative or friend. Talk to the person to talk to your father and when you are narrating the ordeal do not make your father look bad in their sight. Just tell the person that there is a recent development that you want the person to talk to your father for positive change.
Don't take sides all the time with your parents especially when you don't really know the root of the problem.
Finally forgive your parents.there is no law that said you should love them. The law only said you should respect and honour them.

Sleyanya1:


My dear, not everyone will understand your story or frustrations. We are mostly quick to judge. The truth is you don't need everyone's opinion.

Facts: Your dad cares less about you. May not be because he hates you but because of his mentality and past experiences (psychology).

The only escape here is for you to find a way to spend less time at home (good you're working) to dodge the space and interferences.

Desire to have money, but much more desire wisdom. Renew your respect for him and tender a genuine apology from your heart. After that, focus more on yourself and peace.

So many things to say, but I believe these would help.

Originalsly:
It all started with a little fight about drinking water out of the fridge.

Are we to believe you drank water from the fridge and your father decided to lock the parlor? ... just like that? ...he said nothing about It before?... no warning ... no instructions ... nothing? We would like to know ... since this is the root of the problem ... according to you.
Why would you even fight your father over anything? ... is it because your no nonsense brother disrespects him you feel you are also entitled to do same? ... to the extent you can fight him? Do you realize your brother is independent? ... and is a man... like your father? Since you want to behave like a man .... at the age when you should be in courtship ... which man would want to be with a woman with a no nonsense man attitude? .... and a woman who fights her father?
Your father gave you N50K .... you refuse it because it is not enough.... you are entitled to N150K .... you will accept no less. In fact that N50K was like an insult. In the end ... you're asking if you should forgive your father. Really? I don't blame you... I blame your parents for allowing you to grow and mature in your entitlement mentality. The last opportunity your father had to reset you was with the fight over water.... he should've really rolled up his sleeves and beaten the shit out of you ... instead here you are ... still full of it and be up in here in NL dropping it in our face.
You are 24 years old ... go look at yourself in the mirror and you will see a whole lot is wrong with you. It is never too late to start working on yourself ... unless you believe you are flawless.

Anonymoususher:


Irrespective why did she leave the house for one year?

She came back to demand for money, they gave her part and she rejected it.

What other clue do you need to accept that the babe is a spoilt and rude brat

Anonymoususher:



From what I read your dad may be hot tempered but cares about his kids. Maybe he has fallen out of love with your mom but not with his kids.

You sound like a spoilt and disrespectful girl. You ran out of the house and for one year you didn't comeback but expected your father to call and beg you.

He even tried to have given you 50k after what you did yet you still disrespected him


Girl you are a brat

Bussydaniel:
You didn't tell us what happened between your dad and your mom before you decide to take side, try and make peace with him ask for forgiveness and then settle your parent, they have issue to settle you are in good position to do that

Camberlo:
Sincerely speaking, you can't make a good wife And it's clear that you are interfere in a dispute between your dad and mum.

Go and apologize to your dad and let your mum know you don't have to pick side.

To the men in the house, Hussle well and plan for your old age.

Most mother make life miserable for their old husband during old age.

Amumaigwe:


You obviously teamed up with your jobless mum to attempt to frustrate your father and he fought back and rightfully so. The locking of the fridge is only a symptom.of a bigger problem which you did not mention. He has seen that any investments on you is a wasted one and has faced his front enjoying his sweat alone. He owes you nothing not with your disrespectful attitude towards him. Go meet your feminist mum for succour. Men with unappreciative wife that are using her children against their father have so much to learn from your dad.

manmade:
any are you then disturbing the old man instead of talking to your brother to help you pay for the school fees and other expenses?

Awesome01:
Instead of you to appreciate all the good things your father has done for you for like 24years while depriving himself and your Mum a lot of things. You are here to paint him as a devil.

You claimed that your dad doesn't spend money on your Mum, so you didn't see that he is prioritising you kids education and future over his and your Mum's comfort at home?

If its so easy to make money and carry all the family burden alone, you are an adult now. You will soon see how easy it is. Just thank God you are a female , you will soon drop all your burden on the head of a man. If you are a male, you go hear am.

If you believe in Karma, then know that whatever you do to your parents will come back to you through your children. So to me, it is you that needs to beg your father for forgiveness. Because all your former apologies are just because you needed his money.

tarantino1:
Fake account created for traffic.

In your previous post, you stated that you were in 400lvl last year and graduated in December 2021. Where did you meet an old course mate from 8 years ago? Were you in the University for 10 years?

I've been here long enough to know that a new account with two super stories is a fake one.

2Radii:
Oohh

Sorry

But u didn't say u spanked her, u said u beat her and the word "beat" is relative

tunize:
If only you knew what your father also passed through to feed, cloth, shelter and pay your from day one, then you will know that life is not easy at least he has tried at 24 you suppose don dey make ur own small small money and not having some entitlement mentality you are a grown up man or woman. Now you are getting paid 1000 box and you are feeling sad,with this you are suppose to applaud your father.

The issue of your mom is so simple nothing bad in you conducting a meeting between ur both parent you are already an adult. Talk to your father he might have this eagle believe me when he is alone, baba go think waitn you tell am but first go apologise

Psoul:



My dear, I don't want to go deep into this your story.
I will give you one advise. Take it for your good or leave it to ur detriment.
You will see many pieces of advice that will run contrary to mine, but I will advise you to be wise.

Dear, go back to your father and sincerely apologize to him. Don't make any excuse for yourself.
Sincerely and wholeheartedly ask for his forgiveness and ask him to bless you.
I am telling you this out of experience.
What narrated may be somehow painful to you, but it's not enough to become enemy to ur father.
If u continue like this, you may regret it in future and may be by then, your father may not be there.
Go make peace with him, it is not that difficult.

You said that he is spending his money on other women. This may be the story you mom mad u to believe.
You dad loves you and has been training you in school.
He gave you part of your school fees and u rejected it cos you believe he has the money.
Just wait till you start getting your own children and you will understand why your father couldn't give you all the money you requested for.

Do you know that most parents borrow money to give to their children and the child will still be frowning face instead of thanking the parents and encourage them in their efforts.
Wait till that responsibility falls on your shoulder. Then your eyes go clear.

JealousCobra:




My little advise to you is to be obedient to your father, after God, he is next.. so that your days will be long and peaceful on earth.

Men have subtle hearts, talk to him politely you will see him changing his furious attitudes towards you.

Lay down your stubbornness and be more respectful, everything we begin to fall in place to you again.

Your choice, your life.

Tukor1759:
first,go and ask your dad for forgiveness, do it in a way of family meeting, invite a person that your dad so much respect if possible.secondly,stop doing what others does,be your self, cause am seeing that you are looking at what he your father is doing for your brother,be unique.third, you suppose to be your dad favorite,he loves you but you are seeing it the other way,any child that was over pampered 87% always goes astray,last last find a mentor, you own done too much

Kazim88:
You are just placing curse on yourself by fighting your dad (or any of your parent).

It's not entirely your fault tho, You have been brainwashed by your mum to hate your dad.

Most women unintentionally poison their children mind against their dad or dad's relatives but at the end it is their children that still suffers it.

In summary, you already have so much biased against your dad, the only reason you want to stay connected to him is because you think he has money you are entitled to but soon you would realise the hard truth.... That you have a social disorder.

2Radii:
Hmmm

That is Ur side of the story tho,

If only we can hear his side of the story.



U that can beat Ur 3yr old niece abi na sibling, hmmmm

Techm8:
You are lucky to still have a dad. Life is short. Time flies by fast and before you know it your dad will be no more. Go make amends. Home is where love is.

Skyview01:


What is painful in having to work 7-9 hours to pay for your school.
Its no big deal and life is not promised to be a bed of roses.

Stop complaining and man up.

oliverwrites:
If your dad is not paying your fee why is your mom not paying it?

Women are often quick to take accolades but many atimes the man does all the fending for the family. An example is here.

I do not support your dad, I hate dead beat fathers but marriage has thought me to balance everything.

Once again why is your mom not fending for you if your dad is not?