dolphinife: I have known him for two years. He's one of those distant neighbours who had tru casual interactions become a friend. In the months that we lived together in d same area and when we ocassionally ran into one another, our conversation never went beyond the usual inquiry about the weather or the offhand question: how is ur family? He was introverted, easy-going and almost self-effacing. I knw him as someone who minded his biz. That was as far as our friendship went until a year ago when I began to see him with a lady.

Once, he timidly introduced her to me as his fiancee. He re-appeared in d neighbourhood again after a month to apologise for not inviting me to his wedding. He had at d time informed me dat he would quit his self-contained apartment to a more comfortable one due to his change of status and dis was more than a year ago. Last weekend, when I again ran into my old friend at a barber's shop where I went for a haircut, he had changed a great deal

He was withdrawn and traumatised. He couldn't recognise me at first when I wave to draw his attention. He didn't radiate d freshness and robust look dat is common with newly weds. We exchanged pleasantries ind midst of the loud music frm d blarring speakers in d salon. Grabbing me by d arm like a long lost friend, he half-dragged me to a distance where he was sure that no one could eavesdrop on us. Then, in what seemed like torrents of pent-up emotions, he began:

Bros where have u been? I've been on d look out for u. You see, I hardly make friend. But I see u as someone I can confide in. My marriage has been hell and my wife is trouble personified. She has been violent since the first day we were pronounced as couples. We didn't court for a long time. But even in those few months of our courtship, I noticed she was aggressive. She once slapped a cashier over a small matter. She also slapped me once and I once narrowly escaped being bathed with hot water but I never took it seriously then. Each time she goes into a rage, I quickly forgive her. Ind last one year, she has fought me over flimpsy excuses. D last time, she slapped me ind presence of our friends at a party. The other day,out of annoyance, she sliced my arm with a razor.

He unfolded his shirt to reveal a deep but a stitched scar that ran tru his shoulder to his wrist. Almost sobbing, he went on,' I really do not knw wat to do as am very scared of her violent mood swings. Her weapons include hot water, boiling soup and kitchen knife which she throws at me like missiles. She has destroyed every gadget in d house.when she's calm, she would break down in my arms and cry profusely. What should I do now? Things have become even more complicated now that she's pregnant with our first baby.

He proceeded to show me deep scars of teeth bites, nail scratches and injury marks. It was unbelievable. Now he has taken to drinking. What advice can we give to this gentle young man in the midst of his ferocious and outrageous wife?

@ OP,dolphinife, It would have been nice to add that this post is a fictional story that appeared in Punch by Bayo Olupohunda http://www.punchng.com/opinion/lamentations-of-a-battered-husband/

Damian obi: [color=#000099][/color]I woke up in a new bugatti. Jst passin by. I woke up in a new bugatti. Jst passin by.

You woke up in a Bugatti? You don't have a bed ni?

These sort of senseless killings will continue as long as the politicians keep arming,financing,and using cultists to settle scores with their perceived opponents.Some people have no business having or raising children. Parenting is more than the ability to father or mother a child... oh well,what do i know!

@ OP,please the word is 'allowee' a corruption of the word allowance not alawe. You are welcome! :-)

Echidime:

Thats why i address any girl with the pet name: hello blood sucker or hi lover of money

Any girl If all the girls you meet are blood suckers or after your 2 kobo.Does that not tell you something about yourself and taste in women? Wake up and smell  the coffee Echidime!
Some persons just speak thoughtlessly forgetting they have mothers and sisters.To all of you posters wondering what women want as per pet names and phrases,get this 'If you barely know me or any other woman ,YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO CALL HER A PET NAME'!!!!!!!!! Pet names or special endearment phrases are for those you have some relationship with. I mean its not really my business if  you decide to  call your wife or fiancee 'Ekaette' or baby at least there is mutual agreement but if you decide to be presumptious and assume that a woman you are not in any relationship with likes being called 'baby' or some other equally lame word then you are ill-mannered.

Nobody should loose sleep over his return. Let him return first then we start from there. If Jonathan had not sacked the FEC, Yaradua wouldnt be ''resuming to work by next week''. I believe this is just to throw a spanner in the wheel of progress this will make Jonathan scared I presume. Let him resume now. He failed to resume for up to 3 weeks since 'returning' to Nigeria and suddenly when his loyalist were thrown out, he suddenly wants to 'resume'. Nonsense 

@ Totalabi,(post 31) Thank you o jare my brother.

Hello Ponnusma,
If all your child was doing was baby talk and sleeping.Ha! That is quite normal for children.Maybe the doctor over-reacted or maybe she was having a bad day or maybe she was dealing with personal issues and just lashed at you. Pele! She is not perfect even though she is a Pediatrician. No parent is born with a  manual on how to raise children perfectly. Sometimes it is trial and error,(if you are a christian though,base your child's training on the bible) and for new parents a firstborn child may be their learning curve.
However,as to your question' Do you feel I should start to discipline  my one and only child or should I wait for an year or two, when he is old enough to understand right from wrong? I say NO,do not wait till he is older. Discipline him as appropriate for his age. If he is old enough to recognise you and calls you 'mummy'. Then he is old enough to understand certain rights and wrongs appropriate for his age. Discipline at that age may not necessarily involve caning or frog jumps,etc,etc it MAY take the form of spanking,Scolding in stern tones( do not shout),taking away his favourite toy or toys and rewarding good behaviour.  Your child is not too young to understand that actions have consequences. Your stating that he  is your one and  only sounds as if that should excuse naughty behaviour. Please do not let sentiments cloud your judgement. As a mother,am sure you want what is best for him. The bible says 'Train a child  from infancy' and at Prov 23:13 it says discipline him even if he is  a mere boy as he will not die.
All  the  Best.

I think its because the colour (especially light pink) is cool and feminine in a very subtle way. Though my favourite colour is sky blue.
@ Ayettymams (I love ya name so nor mind the abbrevation) please read the OP again. He never said all women like pink,I believe his words were 'most women'. BTW,Which' Jungle woman' likes pink?

Hello Jean2002
Can your present employer give you a study leave while you are studying for your masters/getting more qualifications? If so,then you will not need to resign from your present employer if you are proceeding for advanced studies.This will also ensure that you have a job ready at hand(and not start looking for another) if you do decide to come back home.
As for the marriage aspect,Was marriage part of your plan at this point in your life masters or no Masters? Or is the urge to get married solely spurred by a zeal to 'commit' to your fiancee so that you or she wont marry someone else why you are away? If you do want to get married,would your fiancee be willing to accompany you as you travel for your studies? what does she do? Marriage is an institution founded by God and its not to be treated lightly. I personally won't encourage a newly wed couple to live apart FOR ANY REASON. Your life together as a couple is more important than any degrees or qualification you might get. Most importantly,the 2 of you (You and your fiancee) should rely completely on God in prayer so you can make the best decision(s).
All the best bro

No marital Infidelity is not genetic. However,upbringing and family values are often shaped by our immediate family. Is Divorce genetic considering that most children from broken homes end up with broken marriages themselves? It is not nature,its mostly nurture.
Does the lady in question realise the odds against her and is she willing to be different.what are her own values like? Food for thought,
All the best to your friend.

No. It is never too late to learn your Mother Tongue or any other language for that matter.
To achieve this,you may need to invest in tapes or audio material in the target language,books and if possible increase your contact with people who speak the language. An adult learning learning a new language is like a toddler taking his first steps,definitely going to make mistakes and people will probably mock your haltering attempt,but dont let that deter you.Use the language as often as you can.
You will be fluent soon.

@ All,
It  doesnt take much to realise that this osamaobama is either ;a, A disgruntled staff, b),an employee of a rival bank or c) a Rabble rouser.
In 2006 or 2007,there were rumours that Oceanic bank was going under.Well,it never did and even that same year,the bank was voted 'Bank of the year' by Financial Times of London. .My question is what evidence does this osama fellow have to buttress the allegations above?
If you can provide evidence,i will join you in shouting from the rooftops that this bank is about to collapse.
One of the glaring lies in the initial post is that 'Oceanic bank is highest paying bank' .That is a popular falsehood in the banking Industry. I work for an auditing firm and i have access to 'Peer Review in the banking Industry'. This Osama fellow is quite a confusionist really,how many staff does Oceanic bank have in the first place,if we go by his claims that means the 1500 sacked are about one fifth of the total workforce or 1 in every 5 employee. Fellow Nairalanders,please how many Oceanic bank staff do you know and how many have been laid off so far?
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