2buffagain:
Ignore what all these kids are saying.
Any relationship that requires a change in lifestyle from you that YOU DON'T WANT is not a relationship you should be in, no matter "how lucky you should feel to be in it".

People CAN change in a relationship, but it has to be a change that is in alignment with where you want to be. E.g you are not fit but dating a person into fitness, you probably have an interest in being healthy so would easily follow them to change your lifestyle. But in this case, you have no interest in slaying.
Maybe you should be with a more simple guy?


Since "body arts" isn't your thing, you might find it too hard and not worth it trying to compete with all the slay queens who all these things come easy to and who are no doubt eyeing your rich extroverted boyfriend right now. If he likes to go to parties a lot, all it takes after a few drinks is for that girl who meets his visual spec to be giving him dutty wine and he will last like a couple of weeks. Prepare to be cheated on to stupor if you already "don't know if you can cope" and yet choose to continue.

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If it was any other thing, I would talk about compromise and yada yada, but when it comes to a man's visual taste, that is something we can't even play with EVEN IF WE TRIED. I'm sure you've heard it said several times that men are visual.

Sure He sees something in you that he isn't seeing in these physical girls (loyalty, homeliness, etc), but the fact he is always trying to change your look shows that he too is making a mistake. Sooner or later, one person will have to grow up.

You have said it all

Explorer and williamdeluxe.........n my self ofcourse

“Cheating is not only sex.”

“The real thing that upsets the apple cart is betrayal and
unfaithfulness. You can easily do that without touching
anyone.”

So how do you know you are cheating on your spouse without
having any physical contact with someone else?

1. You’re attracted to someone else and compare your
partner to him, in a bad way: Look, attraction to other
people happens when you’re in a committed
relationship. That part’s totally fine and good and
normal. It’s what you do with it that matters. If you
think another guy is hot and you keep comparing your
significant other unfavorably to him, you’re not being
true to your man.


2. You lie about the important stuff: Whether it’s about a
friendship you’ve struck up but choose not to share
details of with your sig-o, classes or coaching you’re
doing for self-improvement purposes, money, work
milestones or any other significant occurrences, lying is
a form of betrayal to the one you love. Period. So why
do it?


3. You spend money you two haven’t agreed on: While this
might not seem remotely like cheating, if you’re
spending money behind your partner’s back on
something he or she doesn’t feel comfortable with or
doesn’t know about, you’re not being true. “Anything
that undermines your mutual love and connection is
actually betrayal of the faith in your relationship, and
therefore, unfaithful,”


4. You cant stop thinking about someone else during
sex: Fantasizing about someone else during sex with your sig-
o is no big deal, once in a while. But it can rise to the level of
cheating if you’re “imagining sex with another person — the
same one — consistently while having sex with your partner,



5. You avoid solving problems together: Whenever you do
something to tamper with, weaken or break your connection
with your partner — like giving up on solving problems
together, as a team — you’re not being faithful and you’re in
essence cheating on him.

6. You are very close to another person who isn’t in your immediate
group of friends: If you’re “enjoying emotional closeness —
total emotional unclothedness — with another person who isn’t a
friend in your social circle,” that’s a form of infidelity.
This other person is the first person you think
of talking to because it’s more fulfilling than telling your
partner.” It’s so common and so widely considered cheating
that it’s got a name: an emotional affair. Stop it before it
starts if you want to keep your primary relationship healthy
and intact.

Can guys and girls be best friends without romantic feelings cropping up and heart ties forming? What’s been your experience?
Can people of the opposite sex become best buddies without something complicated coming in between them in the end?

Doesn’t matter how long you have been married but it’s a known fact that even the hottest of marriages can grow stale with time.

Which mean you have to keep re-energizing your marriage to make it better than ever. Bring sexy back into your relationship by trying new things, get wilder and more daring as you proceed.

Don’t get all stressed out about how you’re going to do this. Focus on having fun, instead of meeting a goal, says YourTango Expert Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage.

Some sex encounters will go well, some won’t, so have a sense of humor. Spend more time laughing, talking and being silly and less time feeling pressured. A lighter attitude will make sex sex more fun.
1. Up The Kinky: Upping the kink factor in your relationship can actually be a great way for those of us who are more vanilla to break out of shells and experiment with something new. It can also be a way of feeling closer to our partner. “This being said, there may be behaviors that you are just not open to doing and that is OK too,” says Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a clinical sexologist, marriage and family therapist, author and host. Partners should have enough sensitivity to work you into these behaviors as well as be ok with some hard and fast boundaries. Many people into kink have learned to be very good negotiators sexually as very few people have exactly the same proclivities.

2. Relax: Relaxing allows you to be more aware of your sexual energy, enhances sexual feelings, and frees you up to respond sexually, says Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage. For example, allow time for morning sex when you are still relaxed from sleep, or after a nap. Save some water by showering together sometimes and let nature take its course. Maybe summon up your teenage hormones and try some naughty petting in the backseat of your care after date night. Whatever you do, just go with what feels natural, and make sure to have fun. That’s what great sex is all about.

3. Write A Dirty Story: Many men get off on porn, ladies on erotica—but we all love a bit of scintillation. Make it more personal with a service like Hoochy Mail Service, suggests Denise Beauregard, owner of Urban Intima Inc., an online intimate apparel retailer. Hoochy mail is a free online erotic mail service that allows users to customize erotic stories written by the sender to the recipient. They can be romantic, sexy, or off the wall. If you were to send this to your significant other (his personal email only please, no need to peak an employer’s’ curiosity) well, let’s just say this move can make a man come straight the hell home.

4. Sexy Surprises: Most occasions, we send flowers, candy, maybe a teddy bear. Kick things up a notch with a delivery like Spicy Subscriptions, which discreetly delivers fun and flirty romantic surprises to your door. Every month you’ll be treated to romantic gifts, fun toys, massage oils, lingerie and more, which you can then “try out” together!

5. Communicate: The best beginning for a lovely sexual encounter is a good, honest and open conversation, says Tessina. When you were new lovers, you talked and sex was easy. Frequently make time to “catch up” with each other over an unhurried dinner or breakfast. Express your hopes and dreams, clear the air, and you can both relax. From there, it’s not such a long distance into the bedroom.

6. Sexy Scavenger Hunt: Select 12 items to hide around the house unbeknownst to one another and write out your clues. As each one of you find a clue you take a roll of the dice and do the roll, says Beauregard. The possibility of 24 acts of love and lust minimum, what thrill and this does not take into account any of the main events.

7. Be Flexible: Physical agility can be helpful, but emotional flexibility will really improve your sex life, says Tessina. The longer you and your partner are together, the more you need options. Quickies are great fun when you’re pressed for time, and morning hanky panky can make the whole day more exciting. Take things up a notch with a touch of role-play, says Tessina. Act out all the silly, forbidden or exciting fantasies like nurse and patient (or doctor), children “playing house”, famous movie star and adoring fan, or your two favorite characters from a soap opera, novel or movie. If you feel a little silly, laughter will only make it more fun.

8. The Key Is Give & Take: Open a dialogue about what really turns the both of you on and don’t do it while you are in the middle of having sex. Be honest about what scares you and why. Lots of people who think of BDSM assume that it’s all whips and chains but in actuality there are a whole spectrum of behaviors from mild spanking to light bondage with silk ties. “It is both partners’ responsibility to be gentle and really know what they are doing; while remain opening and communicating their needs. For instance, most people in the kink community know that it is the “bottom” or the person having things done to them that is actually in control of the play,” says Dr. Kat.

9. Evaluate The Situation: If you removed all of the negative self-talk from your head, are there situations that titillate you, even a little? Some guys feel the need to get over the idea of feeling threatened by a woman who is kinkier than he is. Some are afraid of being judged by others if they ever found out and some, well they are just not wired that way. “Once you’ve looked at your fears, I always suggest trying something new. If you don’t like it, you can always communicate that. I find that most people don’t know what they are missing though. Once you can learn to open up sexually, often times you feel emotionally more connected as well just by sharing the experience,” says Dr. Kat.

10. Touch Me: If you’re thinking “the idea of sex is nice but I’m way too stressed to get there,” get your partner an aromatherapy massage candle to slow things down and heat things up, suggests sexologist Emily Morse, host of the podcast Sex with Emily. Just light the candle and let it make a nice pool of warm luxurious massage oil (it’s not waxy or hot), then drip it from a foot above those body parts (yours or your partner’s) that need special attention. Start massaging the oil into the skin and go from there. You can even use them on myself as a body moisturizer every day.

11. Play: The couples that play together, stay together. Once you put away the Monopoly set, pull out a sexy board game to get you going and get you in the mood, says Dr. Morse. Try the Love or Lust board game, if you want some flirty fun or the Bondage Seductions Game if you’ve been wanted to kink things up.

12. Get Buzzed: A vibrator will enhance your sex life with or without a partner. You can get one to enhance your solo time and find those other pleasure spots, like the Fifi for extra center of gravity stimulation or try Lifestyles’ His and Her pleasure massagers, which provide wonderful vibrating stimulation for men and women, says Dr. Morse. Ring in the New Year with a buzz, not a hangover.

Sometimes you seat and wonder why your relationships never work out, maybe you seem to attract the same type of guys – the bad ones who aren’t ready to settle down and your past relationships follow a particular trend.


1. You Ignore the Silent Guys: Bad boys are louder and always want to be the center of attention. While this might be attractive at the beginning, it’s also a sign that you’re dealing with an immature guy. So next time you go out, look around for the silent guys. You might get surprised!

2. You Reward His Bad Behavior: He sometimes insults you or makes fun of you but you keep laughing and flirting with him. Not saying something about it, means that you’re OK with how he treats you.

3. You Always Choose the Same Type of Guys: You have the same pattern when it comes to choosing guys. If you want a different outcome, top dating the same types of guys, take some risks and you might find a keeper!

4. You Think that Good Guys are Boring: Many women think that kind and nice men are boring. Women always say that they’re looking for someone that will treat them good but they always fall for the bad guys.
You’re Too Hard on Yourself: If you’re always being sarcastic, you might be scaring off emotionally mature men. Smart guys want a woman that can let her guard down and relax. Your sarcasm might be scaring off the good guys and attracting only the bad guys.

You Don’t Think Before Getting Into a Relationship: This might be your biggest mistake. Take some time and consider things before rushing into a relationship.

You’re Lazy: Sometimes it’s hard finding the right guy and in one moment, you’ll get tired of searching. It’s easier to go with the flow rather than making the first move. Maybe that’s the reason why you always end up with a bad boy.

Who is a F*ckboy? : A FB is any guy who comes into a ladys life with the sole purpose of taking & taking & taking from her without giving her anything meaningful or noble in return. He takes her time, years of her life, he uses her body as a playground & tool, he stands in the way of real men while prophesying fake love and selling ladies false dreams and hope.

A F*ckboy is the older brother to Yoruba Demons. Characteristics of a F*ckboy:

1)A FB uses the promise of marriage as a tool to bait ladies into sleeping with him

2)A FB has 1 or 2 engagements rings ? in the picture Gallery or possession to deceive 100’s of ladies the ring is for them

3)Any guy who talks about something special but not defined is a FB

4) Any guy who is over 35, single, sharing an apartment, always at sip & quilox

5) A FB will trap you with babies ( baby mama) or tattoos on your body

6) A FB only remembers you when he wants to have sex or sees a fine picture of you on IG or bbm

7)A FB is very prayerful and uses the Bible and midweek service to deceive ladies

Any guy who his parents, family and friends call you ” our iyawo” and you’ve been dating him for 2 years is a fuckboy

9)Any guy who has eaten your food for more than a year and hasn’t proposed is a FB

10) A FB is always asking for nudes. He keeps a gallery of your nudes and threatens to release them if you dare to leave him 11) A Fuckboy is handsome, tall, rich, he spends all his money on himself but not on assets, his body and his looks are his assets

12) Any guy who cries for no reason to get your attention and make you stay with him is a FB

13) Any guy who asks more than one pastor , Alfa, Imam to call you every time is a FB

14) Any guy who wants you to depend on him financially without you having yours is a FB

15) Any guy who is always liking pictures on IG morning to night and posting ” cute, pepper ? them, slay ” on every girls page is a FB

15) Any guy who is always liking pictures on IG morning to night and posting ” cute, pepper ? them, slay ” on every girls page is a FB

16) Any guy whose phone is always on silent, no vibrate, his whatsapp messages don’t turn blue is a FB

17) FB see sex and the amount of girls they sleep with as an achievement or bank alert. The more they sleep with the more their ego is gratified

18) Any guy who displays eggplants and nudes all over social media is a potential F*ckboy