Guys!!!! "this is a created distraction for Nigerians". Let's use our brain.

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Everybody knows how to love but very few people know how to stick to one person. Don't feel bad when you are cheated on. Not everyone is real as you.

If you check over the internet, I believe there are millions of articles pointing to this topic "How to successfully get over any relationship" but I want to be frank with you that very few of those posts or articles really helped those who fell into such pit (sorry to say). Most of them end up making you feel worse with their bulky procedures (articles written to be on the front page of Google and not to be in the heart of the people) and even making it look impossible to achieve, you now end up making suicide an option to escape from this temporary normal pain after a break up. Relationship Minds usually call "break up" a nice experience for anyone to become vigilant, smarter, wiser and even a time to concentrate on one's life. But I must say "Heart breaks" are very deadly friendly. Don't mind my terms, I don't want to make a fun of you, but I'm happy for you because God has saved you from someone who is going to hurt you eventually. Someone who is going to treat you like a Douche bag. I am also happy because you are opened up to new opportunities that you would never consider if you are with that ex. Also, I know that you are trying everything to get over your ex and it's not pretty easy on you. Those thoughts and memories keep on haunting you down.
Anyway, this article has been designed to help you get over any relationship.
Warnings: strictly adhere to every instructions as they are tested and trusted by our experts "Relationship Minds".
Another thing is for you to read this article, another thing is for you to believe in yourself. But as for me "Relationship Minds" I so much believe that you can do it, but my belief in you alone is not enough without yours to complement it. So, here are some step-by-step procedures to get over any relationship.

1. Avoid any other "break up healing" articles.
The first thing I will want you to do is to stop navigating for more articles on break up recovery. The more things you get into your head, the more confuse you become. You need to focus on yourself. Many articles won't tell you that taking care of yourself is now your only priority on the task board. Break up itself is a confusion state of the emotion, so don't bombard your head because you want to quickly recover in 2 or 3 days time. Only magic will be able to brainwash you that you can recover in 2 or 3 days time. It doesn't work that way, break up requires a steady like form of recovery. You don't jump into recovering from someone you've been dating for the past months or years in 2 or 3 days time. Any website or book telling you that it is possible is only driving your attention into reading their articles and posts.
Believe me, I won't tell you a lie to making you read articles here. I am only contributing my part to humanity.

2. Overcoming depression
Depression is one of the deadly state of mental mind. It doesn't offer anything good to the our body than destruction. But I'm not here to tell you all the bookish or literary definitions. Depression will surface after a break up, it's almost impossible to avoid if you are truly in love with your ex. But don't be afraid, overcoming depression is not that difficult. The only best way to overcome depression is talking to someone, it can be anybody very close to you, your dad or mum or a friend that you can confide in. Overcoming depression might be difficult if you are keeping everything to yourself.
Walk up to any confidant that you have, someone who you tell virtually everything about yourself. Talk to him/her, cry on their shoulder and move on. I don't know how strong your mental power is and that's why I'm recommending that you talk to someone. It's very healthy and good for you after a break up. If you are talking to one of your parents, then I recommend you to follow strictly their advices and instructions.

3. Burn it
Whenever you don't need something again, you burn it or give it out. Waste products are always disposed into the waste bag to avoid rubbish hanging around and they can inconvenient us. This is also applied to any relationship we no longer need. I recommend that you throw away whatever that is belong to your ex into the waste bag or burn them, because you won't be needing them anymore. Don't hold onto memories that will keep making you cry. Gather all their hard copy pictures and burn them, delete the soft copy ones and once. Any material related to your ex is now allergic to you. Because the more you hold onto those moments and memories, the harder it becomes to forget and heal up. This step is mandatory, do not omit this step.

4. Avoid Being Alone
You need to avoid isolation. Hangout more with family and friends during this trial period. Your mind will naturally think of your ex when you are all alone because they were once an important or integral part of your life. It can be very difficult to avoid these memories when you were so addicted to your ex but it is doable. Don't let the past hold you down. I will recommend that you learn something during these periods of trials, something that will keep you busy just to avoid being alone or idle.

5. Don't Rush Yourself Or The Process
Everything under the universe obeys the law of process and harvest. You cannot plant orange today and harvest it tomorrow or next. Don't rush the process, you will definitely heal up but it requires time and patience. Believe in yourself, see yourself like a god that is like an immovable rock. Concentrate more on yourself; things you want to impact in people, things you want to learn instead of wailing over the past that wasn't good for you in the first place.

6. Open Up
Don't just close up every opportunities to making new friends because of your past. Remember! Everyone is not the same, that someone deserted you doesn't paint everyone a deserter. There are always billions of good people out there that won't hurt you. You can't pin yourself down because of someone that is meant to be lesson to you. Learn to see life beyond your mere emotions. I believe in you, there's nothing you cannot do. Be well, Hale and Hearty.

Source: https://www.relationshipminds.com.ng

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In the beginning, serpent asked out Eve and she fell in love. Read Genesis in the Bible you will get to understand more. Serpent started toasting (Wooing).
Eve cheated on Adam by collecting something from a stranger, she accepted the advice of a stranger which brought the family into condemnation by God. So, ladies if you collect something from a stranger, you are CHEATING on your partner!

In some point in time you have met with some couples who claimed they've never argued. They tell you that they understood each other to the peak, they even told you that they are always in a perfect sync and they don't disagree that much in their relationships. And they made you to understand that they are also proud of that fact as well. However, there is another kind of couples who engage in an occasional arguments in their respective relationships which is the best and the healthiest kind of all, you can quote "Relationship minds" anywhere. I will want you to do something for me next time you come across any couples that claim that they are the best, because they don't argue at all, I want you to always remember this article. Many people practically do no want to get into any form of argument with their partners. All because they assume that argument is always negative, they've never for once see the positive side of it. Being afraid of argument or conflict in any relationship can be a sign of weakened love; love that is not strong enough to withstand trials.
Human beings are all born with their own personalities and we have our different views about everything. But the truth is that there's nothing like "perfect couple". Every couples are going to have their own ups and downs irrespective of the love they share, it can be inevitable. But it's not a bad thing to argue, many relationship experts have affirmed it that the strongest, most successful relationship and happiest couples are those that argue often. In opposition to what most people believe generally, it's actually okay for partner to get into an argument with each other especially when they are doing fine in the relationship together. On this ground, you might think that the relationship is a mess and that they are not compatible if they tend to argue often. However, it's having negative feelings about the relationship and leaving water under the rug that could be so deadly for the relationship in the long run. Another thing that can cause a waterloo for a relationship is covering up unsolved issues and keeping away sensitive matters from your partner, can destroy any relationship successfully. I guess that's why you both are in an intimate relationship in the first place.
If you don't still find any sense in what I've been saying since, then you should read the points below:
1. It helps you to navigate and displace unwanted problems.
The fact that you don't want to talk about some pressing issues in a relationship will leave them unsolved. You might never have it in plan to say those issues bothering you till an argument sparkles up and there you are saying everything. Which eventually got it solved by the both of you.
2. Argument helps to sweep off stress and tension in a relationship.
Negative feelings is definitely deadly poisonous for any relationship. And all those negative feelings can input stress in the relationship. But when arguments come up, you both get a kind of relief after solving the problem. And your relationship becomes stress free.
3. It improves the sense of confidence.
If the both of you get into a conflict and still manage to get back together afterwards, you become more confident in the relationship. Because you know that there's no problem that can shake you both of the track. In the end, you earn more trust as well from your partner.
4. It's a sign of commitment and love.
The fact that they conflict and still manage to stay back together is a sign of love and total commitment. In the end, your partner gets to respect and love you more than before.
5. It empowers the relationship.
It strengthens the relationship in the end. The fact that you know the proper words to use with your partner during an argument alone is enough to show your partner that you are capable of not letting them go. You are on your point and still won't let them go. In the end of the argument your partner won't want to leave you because you know how to treat them in all conditions.
6. It increases the level of intimacy
Argument is a form of communication in a relationship; you are just trying to transmit an information to your partner in an unfriendly way. And when there's communication in a relationship, it becomes more intimate and stronger. Your partner can freely use words with you, he or she is not afraid of saying their hearts. In the end, you both become more intimate, best of friends and there won't be secrets in the relationship. You also learn everything about each other.

Source: https://www.mindmingers.com/2019/04/6-reasons-why-arguments-can-be-healthy.html

That's stealing and not legit and somehow unreasonable.

No one will want to pay for that....

I've been working on this quite a while now and I'm not turning back. I want to go to the extreme of getting 1$ from everyone on earth. I want to throw the same question at you; What can you do to get 1$ from everyone on earth?

Darevofpeace:
Let me give you some bad boy instinct thou,naija relationship seems overrated because of the hustle in naija is too hard.
I had done about two lovey dovey relationship which my emotions were fully involved,I don't know when I do cross the boundary of 'common sense' but after some emotional damage.I did forced my sense to act.
You must have a task,work or activities taking up your mind and energy outside the relationship.
You must also not ever get to a point whereby your babe can predict you per secs.She would soon get bored of you and might walk out of the relationship.
Keep working daily on your laid down personal ambition and do not forget to make your self happy.
Someone said "Girls date the guy whom they love and later marry the guy who is ready,therefore men should forget about love and just be ready"
Girls look around for the man who got the financial capacity,cars and ephemeral things.
Learn to put your emotions and mind in check when you start to cross the 'common sense' boundary in the relationship.
Too much communication can also choke up her space.Let her miss you sometimes. Do not stark her online always saying Hi when she is online.
Learn to study her mood swing,sometimes she just want to be around you and be silent,just hold her close and maintain her privacy to be silent.She has her own future ambitions too.Don't keep asking her what is the problem?
Watch the way she treats an elderly men and women and little kid's. You might be surprised not all girls can afford kids swarming around them.
Good and great sex could help too,an average lady fantasize about sex at least 3times in a day says Google.

I think this is okay a bit.

wow... You are really good. I like the way you explained things.

Aieboocaar:


Obsessed?? .... OP is just digging for gold because her papa na otedola

O.P why you no go crush on teni instead

I was actually expecting someone to say this. What is the essence of money you have after getting married? I'm blankly not the type that covet money. God sees my heart, I just heart her. I have lots of her pictures on my archive.

At times, I let it go but it comes back hitting on my heart like some butterflies fluttering in my stomach. I just want to take care of her, I'm not obsessed...

Foodforthought:
You're an obsessed fan. Obsessed fans are dangerous to celebrities.

trust me I'm not obsessed. It's not that hard, I just want her to be fine.

Which of the celebrities do you see as your partner? Be sincere please... Tell us his or her name and if there's none, say it.

Mine is IFEOLUWA OTEDOLA (DJ CUPPY)
I see her virtually in all my dreams, I even fantasize about her carrying our kids. I've never felt like this before in my entire life and it feels like "unexplainable-ish". The crazy thing is that I've not met her before and I'm head over heel, she even gives me inspiration to write more contents for my blog....and I want to take care of her. I'm just helpless, I don't know where to find her.

Generally people think that the best way to end up a relationship is to just bluntly walk away or quit. But that will only leave him or her in pieces and that can be a worst experience. You won't want someone to attempt suicide because they once dated you. The reason why I'm writing this article is to enlighten you of the best way to end up a relationship solemnly.

Things you are going to need:
1. Enough Airtime
2. Your phone (it doesn't matter what type of phone it is as far as it can send messages and receive calls)

Are you ready?
Start calling him or her everyday none stop. If you are not chanced to call him or her, send a text message. Always get in touch everyday. This approach is called the Tired - Technique (named by me). Before you know it, he or she will get tired of you and call it a QUIT that you want to hear so badly.

DISCLAIMER: Be Careful

Biglittlelois:



@bolded gave you away as an immature boytoy and fvckboy, more like a kid actually.

it was intentional, sorry about that if it hurts!!!

New doors will be opened to you if you stop "masturbation"...... YES! You can.

MrBrownJay1:
Bro don't forget FAKE foundation, FAKE qbouncy Tittays in push up bras, FAKE height wearing high heels, FAKE big bootay wearing padded panties etc

imagine!!!

With fake hairs, fake eye lashes, fake eyebrows, fake nails women want a real man.... Not possible! fake will go with fake.....

Dudeweedlmao:


Last time I beat my meat was 2015, I have felt no change since I stopped. Of course I didn't stop fvcking so maybe that's why, idk. But you can't condemn one sin without condemning all of them. The church definately isn't sending their best. Go back for more training.

You know your problem and that a good thing but the unfortunate part is that you are not ready to change.... I pity you.

Dudeweedlmao:


Eat fvcking healthy food. Its the same with sex. After you cum, your body collects nutrients from all parts to form sperm. So you need to not only eat, but eat plenty and healthy. Your argument sucks.

continue to doing it...... A word is enough!!!

Dudeweedlmao:


Eat healthy dummy.

smiles... I've been fasting since birth.

kafulka:
No one should take the Op serius. None of his topics are reasonable

All of his threads are just figment of his imagination
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Mehn! Who tampered with this running pipe?

FortuneDeGreat:
You're making sense serious, but please can you expatiate, at least make us understand in clear and concise terms. Thanks

The problem that is majorly faced with this modern world is knowledge. The more you know about it the more problem you are likely to be faced on it. Just go with this: "if I do it, I'm trading my fortune with some seconds enjoyment..." trust me, you will be fine and come back here to drop testimonies on how your life turned around. You can read more on relationship related articles on www.mindmingers.com

Bluezy13:
With maturity comes the answer.






Just be patient for a few more years you'll be mature.

An answer coming out from a matured man!!! I see. Your opinion is kiddish

At times you just want to walk away. You end up getting tired and it all suck. No man can boast that there has never been a time he was tired of his partner. We all get tired of them - those things called females. Please how do you deal with this strange feelings of wanting to QUIT DESPERATELY

A word is enough for the wise... For crying out loud there's no gain. You lose your wit, becomes more stupid, forget things easily, your health deteriorates and lastly you lose your fortune..... What left? Empty vessel!!!!!!

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It is so dramatic and devastating whenever you get cheated on.
Being betrayed or reneged on its own is very hurtful. Especially when the person you trust so much is on the picture of the betrayal, it's more painful.
Dating someone means that you are giving out your heart to someone. You believe that nothing can do you both apart... But then unfaithfulness comes in.
Some even end their life all because their partner cheated on them which I must say is so uncalled for, there are billions of people on the earth better than the person you killed yourself for... But the heart doesn't understand when it's in love. It can be so pressing and overwhelming when someone cheat on us. You are just alone facing the consequences of trusting someone so easily. You were forced to think about where things went wrong and how on earth you couldn't avoid it. You were forced to brood over everything that had happened but you couldn't figure it out.
How can you possibly trick yourself not to get overwhelmed by your emotions? It's not that easy. But this article is going to help you to understand everything that happened in the relationship.
The easiest way to heal up after a break up is understanding the truth behind the sudden black out. You need to come in alignment with the present situation; understand that this is actually happening to you. Braise up yourself to be stronger. You just want to know why she suddenly decided to hurt you in such a manner.
You might have seen someone being hurt or abandoned all because of infidelity before or in a movie, but you will never really get to think of it until it happens to you. Maybe your assumption is that everything is fine in a relationship. But when the girl you love cheats on you, everything is blown into the air. It is an indication that something is actually wrong with the relationship.
But wouldn't it be better for her to just break up with you? Instead of going ahead to cheat on you if she wasn't happy in the relationship. She would at least be so free to do whatever she wants. Infidelity hurts so much and she's aware of it, why going ahead to make me go through the pains that come with it? Anyway, here are some questions that will help you understand more:

1. She wants to be sure of her decision

She is probably thinking of ending the relationship but it might be weird of her to leave a 10 years old relationship for a guy she met 2 months ago. She just want to be sure that there is a man who is going to receive her when she finally breaks up. She's trying to prepare a man to receive her when she becomes available.

2. She feels pity and guilty
She actually doesn't want to end the relationship because she's pitying the guy in the picture. Or she is guilty of some promises she has made to him. Most times, ladies won't come up with the idea of break up with words which require confrontation that they might be scared off, then they decide to trigger an action that would eventually lead to their desired result.

3. She's scared of commitment.
She might just be scared of being committed. She might have started actively well in the relationship. Like, she was so caring and nice. But when it all gets serious, she gets tired and wants to freak out. And then, she decides to cheat by indulging in a self-destruction.

4. She takes revenge.
There might be a time when a man would do something in a relationship and the woman will not know what to do that will equal the equation but left with an option to cheat as a form of revenge. She knows that it's so difficult like 1% out of 100% for a man to accept being cheated on. The only way she could be at rest is to hurt him so badly.

5. She doesn't really love him
To stay loyal in a relationship, love is inevitable. You both need to be so much in love. If a woman is not really in love with a man can lead to infidelity. It's so easy to cheat when you don't really feel the love that you want. When you finally meet the person-ish type that you want, buff! You ended up cheating. It might be that she's with this man because she was emotional needy; she was just too desperate to wait for the right man. But when the right man comes, she chests and ends it all.

Source: https://www.mindmingers.com/2019/04/5-not-so-good-reasons-women-prefer-to.html?m=1

Herdsmen:
Op how do you mean...

You just said something without evidence..or proof and you want people to just believe you..

Alot of successful people masturbate...and still doing that...

Even becoming more successful..

If you lay a claim..state the basis of your claim and don't just spew rubbish..

Are you god of Fortune?

Be more reasonable..

If you want to be successful in a legitimate way stop it... Otherwise continue and you should have it in mind that you will have to go diabolical or get your hands dirty.

Dudeweedlmao:
Estringx, why are you avoiding this question?

I'm not... I didn't start the topic to go against fornication and adultery, I wanted a focus and it's masturbation. Buff!

You just need to stop because what I'm saying is more than real!!! Keep doing it and your future will be watered down.

babyfaceafrica:
OP lacks sense..

I am going to wait for you to buy any latest Benz because it's impossible. Whenever you masturbation, you are trading you fortune in the spiritual realm...