There are too many disturbing signs to ignore. How someone acts when angry tells you a lot about them. If u marry him, you'll have to take care of him, yourself and kids. He might also prefer spending time with his friends than u. Dont let d years u have spent in d relationship influence ur decision. For your future sanity, you might have to choose u. No marriage is perfect doesn't mean yours should be terrible.

I feel you should give it some more time. The first few years of marriage could be bumpy sometimes. You'll need time to adjust into each other you know. Then, leave kids for now. I'm sure you both have really beautiful qualities. Most beautiful marriages started on rough paths. Just be the best man you can be for now, even if you have to go against your will. Don't look back too soon pls. I wish you all the best.

So I remember when i was quite young. Mum asked me to go make my hair with her friend because we had an occasion the next day. When I came back, she noticed my forehead was illuminating. I was obviously in pain. She asked me to sit and slowly loosened everything. The next morning, she used gel to style it her way and off we went. If I'm too busy to make my daughters hair, I give the hairdresser specific instructions. I don't want it to hurt her, even if it gets rough sooner than later, I actually wouldn't mind. Don't just hurt the little girl.!

When a person makes a decision finally, I'm sure he/she has tried several options. I'm not here to judge you because I can only imagine what you have been through over the years and the sacrifices you have made to let the union work. At this point, I'm happy you are financially independent. Don't blame yourself at all. Just aim for your personal happiness for now. Remember that things will fall in place with time,with or without him.

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