Wow, I hope that this is a warning to every self respecting woman not to marry a NIGERIAN man!! WTF! Can someone write a psych paper about this already. Same shit, different woman. The problem is Nigerian culture doesn't respect women, and treats married women like property.

I would have gone ballistic on the MIL, but that's just me (I actually did, but that's a whole 'nother post). I'm surprised more people didn't give you the standard response like Richvkunt did. This is the way many Nigerians are programmed to think, hence we don't question our leaders (I use the term leaders loosely), they can get away with bloody murder, we idolize greed and corruption and can't stand up for our rights.

My dear, you're going through psychological and emotional abuse. At the rate your MIL and husband are going, I won't be surprised if it turns physical. You're an equal contributor to the household and the mother of his kids. Why should a grown man be living with his mother? Am I the only one to see something pathological in this? Anyway, I won't preach; I will tell you that you need to put yourself first (cos they sure ain't), think about your wellbeing and your children's wellbeing. Don't let anyone threaten you (what the heck does Richvkunt mean by things could get unpleasant for you? Empty threats like the typical 'do you know who I am' demo that Nigerians do). Stand up for yourself, the longer you wait to do this the harder it will become.

You say your husband is spending more and more time with his mom, but I'm assuming that he still sleeps with you. How is he working up to that? Does he still romance you or just expect the ATM to be open 24/7. I'm asking, because part of what leads up to the big event is usually spending time together and being thoughtful, kind, etc,

Anyway, put on you big girl panties and deal with it, you'll be fine.