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Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 2:42am On Mar 16, 2011 |
Nairaland, All of you that said it was infatuation are right. lol. I'm over it now. A better one has come. Thanks a lot to everyone!!! ciao. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 5:57pm On Mar 05, 2011 |
Zahnda: Zahnda, I will do just that because I am tired of suffering so much in silence. I don't know how I ended up in this situation in the first place, and I don't even see the end of this tunnel. God has blessed me with beauty (inward-outward) and intelligence. Now, I have everything, but still no happiness. I pity myself sometimes! However, if he doesn't have feelings for me, I will accept it and move on for sure. He just has to tell me. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 12:22pm On Feb 25, 2011 |
@TheCongo Je vais t'avouer que sincèrement moi-même des fois je m'y perds. Je ne me savais pas capable de tomber aussi bas dans un tel cycle. Par contre, j'y suis et je cherche à comprendre pour m'en sortir. Autant que je hais vivre ce que je raconte, mais je préfère le partager avec d'autres en espérant toujours triompher un jour. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 1:47am On Feb 25, 2011 |
@Orikinla Why did you insult me for? Yes, I am a young professional. I did not choose to make a fool of myself. Trust me my friend! @ big nero Thanks! At least you brought a smile to my face with little hope. However, I played my last card 3 months ago. Hence, I just can wait and see!!! Concerning the superiority complex although others call it arrogance and even find it sexy lol I am working on it to knock it off for sure. @ ujujoan Hmmm, it's not easy to forget. I really care about him to the extent that anything Nigerian gets my attention. @wi5dom and uchechinek Thanks! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 1:54am On Feb 23, 2011 |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 9:36am On Nov 29, 2010 |
Why would a man who have not been treated a lady properly refused to leave her alone when she decides to move on with her life? Why? |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 12:16pm On Nov 20, 2010 |
[center]Somebody Almost Walked Off Wid Alla My Stuff [/center] somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff not my poems or a dance i gave up in the street but somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff like a kleptomaniac workin hard & forgettin while stealin this is mine/this aint yr stuff/ now why don’t you put me back & let me hang out in my own self somebody almost walked off wit alla my stuff & didn’t care enuf to send a note home sayin i was late for my solo conversation or two sizes to small for my own tacky skirts what can anybody do wit somethin of no value on a open market/ did you getta dime for my things/ hey man/ where are you goin wid alla my stuff/ to ohh & ahh abt/ daddy/ i gotta mainline number from my own poo/ now wontcha put me back/ & let me play this duet/ wit silver ring in my nose/ honest to god/ somebody almost run off wit alla my stuff/ & i didnt bring anythin but the kick & sway of it the perfect backside for my man & none of it is theirs this is mine/ ntozake ‘her own things’/ that’s my name now give me my stuff/ i see ya hidin my laugh/ & how i s it wif my legs open sometimes/ to give me some sunlight/ & there goes my love my toes my chewed up finger nails/ niggah/ wif the curls in yr hair/ mr. louisiana hot link/ i want my stuff back/ my rhytums & my voice/ open my mouth/ & let me talk ya outta/ throwin my poo in the sewar/ this is some delicate leg & whimsical kiss/ i gotta have to give to my choice/ without you runnin off wit alla my poo/ now you cant have me less i give me away/ & i waz doin all that/ til ya run off on a good thing/ who is this you left me wit/ some simple naughty woman widda bad attitude/ i wants my things/ i want my arm wit the hot iron scar/ & my leg wit the flea bite/ i want my calloused feet & quik language back in my mouth/ fried plantains/ pineapple pear juice/ sun-ra & joseph & jules/ i want my own things/ how i lived them/ & give me my memories/ how i waz when i waz there/ you cant have them or do nothin wit them/ stealin my poo from me/ dont make it yrs/ makes it stolen/ somebody almost run off wit alla my stuff/ & i waz standin there/ lookin at myself/ the whole time & it waznt a spirit took my stuff/ waz a man whose ego walked round like Rodan’s shadow/ waz a man faster n my innocence/ waz a lover/ i made too much room for/ almost run off wit alla my stuff/ & i didnt know i’d give it up so quik/ & the one runnin wit it/ don’t know he got it/ & i’m shoutin this is mine/ & he dont know he got it/ my stuff is the anonymous ripped off treasure of the year/ did you know somebody almost got away wit me/ me in a plastic bag under their arm/ me danglin on a string of personal carelessness/ i’m spattered wit mud & city rain/ & no i didnt get a chance to take a douche/ hey man/ this is not your perogative/ i gotta have me in my pocket/ to get round like a good woman shd/ & make the poem in the pot or the chicken in the dance/ what i got to do/ i gotta get my stuff to do it to/ why dont ya find yr own things/ & leave this package of me for my destiny/ what ya got to get from me/ i’ll give it to ya/ yeh/ i’ll give it to ya/ round 5:00 in the winter/ when the sky is blue-red/ & Dew City is gettin pressed/ if it’s really my stuff/ ya gotta give it to me/ if ya really want it/ i’m the only one/ can handle it Ntozake Shange. “For coloured girls who have considered suicide when the rainbow is enuf” |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:06am On Nov 15, 2010 |
borie4u: 6 months ago, I could have said that it was almost impossible for me to stop communicating with him, but now I'm ready for this. I probably love him. However, I'm determined to forgive, forget and move on with my life. I have too many plans, ambitions , talents, dreams and opportunities with a bright future ahead to be wasting my time on a man. The world is waiting for me lol. That's enough! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:42pm On Nov 12, 2010 |
beeman80: I'm not interested anymore being submitted to David Deangelo's theories on beautiful women. He was so good at keeping me strongly attracted to him, but I finally understood why he was such a challenge to me. Now, I have no fears, and this experience drew me closer to my God too. Thanks a lot my friend! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 8:54am On Nov 12, 2010 |
I enjoy coming on Nairaland to read all your comments all over again. Some of them literally gave me the wake-up call. Wow! my people, you are awesome! The way each of you had contributed to help me see through this situation left me overwhelmed. I can only use these few words to express my gratitude to you: Thank you so much and may God bless you!!! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 4:45am On Nov 11, 2010 |
mito: I will. Thanks! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 9:50am On Nov 10, 2010 |
mafolayomi: I would love to dump him, but he doesn't seem to agree though. In fact, when I informed him to stop contacting me he replied with a laugh, and told me I say this all the time. He even dared to ask what does that mean. I realized that he really takes me for granted. SMH! Phew, I think I'm ready to give a chance to someone else. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 6:01am On Nov 09, 2010 |
i_am_model: hmmm! Now that I have lost interest in him, he started contacting me. I think that I will never understand him. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 5:28pm On Nov 03, 2010 |
chines4: Thank you! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 7:04am On Oct 23, 2010 |
@chines4 and St. Richy: I appreciate your comments, but, as far as I'm concerned, it's over. I'm very slow to decide sometimes especially when my level of interest is high. However, I finally made up my mind. It was a good experience; It opens my eyes on the many things I took for granted, and I discovered another side of me. Anyway, his behavior towards me is the deal breaker. The real me is not tolerant on issues regarding respect. I took some time off to think about myself and I realized that I deserve more because, as "a total 10" with great culinary skills, I have what most men are looking for everywhere (a Nigerian woman would have said I'm too much lol). Moreover, I love, respect myself and my family. Thus, I only deal with the best in all aspects, but sometimes I do make mistakes too; he is one of them. For some reason, I had forgotten how special, precious and beautiful (inward-outward) I'm. This is not for me. I wish him luck and happiness. Thanks for your time! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 7:59pm On Oct 05, 2010 |
oniema: I'm moving on, but I was expected at least an apology or an explanation for his behavior. He just does not want to talk about anything. Your comment is very mature. I appreciate it! Ifedisky: I thought about it, and have tried everything possible to make sure he understood that I was sorry. I found strange that he never skips a Christmas, easter, valentine day etc without sending me wishes or even on his birthday he called me very early in the morning just to let me know/remind me, so I could wish him an happy birthday. There's many other things that he used to do which are just not coherent like getting nervous if he hear a male voice around me etc. All this got me confused, and you are right I was outplayed. It's time for me to move on though. Please, what did you mean by:"It's like chess hun, vary your moves"? |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 3:45am On Oct 05, 2010 |
I stumbled and I became fearless. I got hurt to discover my strength. If you had have the same kind of experience, here is the explanation: This guy is a skillful player. He applied on me one of the psychanalyst phenomena explained by Freud. In our communication, he was the master and I was the slave. He looks so innocent, thus I trusted him. Because, I'm a proud person who discriminated him from the get to go, he enslaved me mentally via communication and increased challenge and attraction for it was the only way to make me surrender. Human's brain is what it is, so my reaction was unevitable. I should have run instead of trying to take control, but he knew what he was doing very well. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 5:07am On Sep 27, 2010 |
MrLoverMAn: It's ok! Finally, I hope this thread will be useful to other young women in search of answers. Learn what you can from it, but still we should all remember that life is a wonderful journey. A big thanks to all of you!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfJ1X7THwFw |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 4:02am On Sep 27, 2010 |
Lekoile: Thanks! I started going out more. However, there are people who have always made themselves available for me at anytime, but I don't feel this kind of strong attraction for them. Sometimes, I even have to push them away to have my space to think about this stubborn young man lol. I have tried to reason myself, but because he never tells his mind on any issue, unless he really wants to talk about it, I'm totally confused. As an example, I still don't understand why a man would kiss a woman secretly while he thought she was asleep though when he didn't care about her; why he got so nervous around me; why when I finally contacted him after 3 months he couldn't hide his joy, but instead of admitting it, he told me he was just being positive etc; why the little voice inside of me is misleading me? At this point, I'm tired of looking for answers, and will leave this matter in God's hands. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 7:31pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
@Lekoile Are you the only child of your parent? : NO, but I was a spoiled child with too much attention. Do you have brothers?: NO How often do you get along with your brothers or any member of your family?: I was living with them until recently. Now, I'm living alone. Do you have any childwood friend ( Guy): NO How many girl friend do you have? :Let say for here 3 girl friends. I have 3 other good friends (they were my schoolmates in Haiti), but we are not living in the same country. While growing up my mother didn't let us get along with other children. She even raised us with 2 cousins (girls) to make sure that we won't be lonely not talking of 3 house-girls which the single task was to look after us. They bought all kind of games for us which they put in our backyard. So, I'm not comfortable among group of friends, and I'm very selective when I'm choosing my them. However, many people approach me, but I always keep my distance. In this country, the only very good friend I have is the guy that I mentioned in my first post who wants to marry me. How often do you go out with your friends?: from time to time, I don't like going out a lot, and we were all very busy with our studies. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 3:07pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
Rocktation: My brother, I believe that each us holds a part of the Truth because we all have had different experiences and possess different Knowledges. Thus, you can say whatever you judge proper in this situation. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 2:59pm On Sep 25, 2010 |
Tosinville: I have some friends who came from west african countries like Cameroon and Senegal. They told me in the North part of their countries there's fulani people. I think it's the same in Nigeria also. St Christina: I really would appreciate that if at least a Nairalander can give an honest answer to this question. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 7:26am On Sep 25, 2010 |
eridah2007: Thanks, and I will not look back! |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 7:18am On Sep 25, 2010 |
isijango: hmmm, ok! I used to practice English with him a lot. I probably learned it in the Nigerian way. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 7:00am On Sep 25, 2010 |
isijango: lol I can't be more precise because of privacy. I gave too much information about me already. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 6:45am On Sep 25, 2010 |
isijango: May I know why you are shocked? |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 6:33am On Sep 25, 2010 |
isijango: We are in North America. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 6:23am On Sep 25, 2010 |
isijango: No, he was raised in Nigeria, and traveled aboard to attend university. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 6:20am On Sep 25, 2010 |
Tosinville: I'm thinking of doing it, but most African people I have met, associated me with Fulani people. I admit that I look like them. |
Romance / Re: This Igbo guy ohhh! by fiswu: 5:14pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
Tosinville: I'm Haitian, and in my country there's no tribes. We are one nation coming from many African tribes. |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 5:07pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
tosyne007: I plan to do it gradually because the last time I tried to cut him off completely I got hurt even more in the process. Yes, I'm attached to him because we have been friends for more than 2 years, and we used to communicate a lot. However, I decided not to see him anymore. By the way, I asked him to set his own limits, but he refused to do so. Deep Soul: I thought I was the only one living with this pain, and that something was wrong with me. However, I would not wish that to happen to even my worst enemy if I ever have one; it hurts like hell. Thanks for sharing! |
Romance / Re: Infatuation, Lies, Distress And The Truth: My Story For 2 years and a half! by fiswu: 3:27pm On Sep 24, 2010 |
lazy1: Thanks a lot for your time! |
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