The easiest time to prevent a divorce or an unhappy marriage is before marriage, not after. There is no gainsaying that love can have such a drunken effect on the about-to-wed that clear danger signals become unimportant to them, while hope becomes their only commodity. After all, is it not said that love conquers all? Great! But what type of love conquers all? Agape or Eros? Why compare God-love, which is unconditional, with sexual love, which can be waver?

There are traits that some people cannot drop. It is like hoping that a right-handed spouse will one day become left-handed: a classical case of waiting for Godot!

If you are looking for a wife or a husband, please be wary of these 12 groups of people.

1) Those who can never apologise

They would hurt you, annoy you, disappoint you, but would never apologise, because they believe that it would belittle and demean them. When you are wrong, you apologise to them, and when you are right, you still apologise to them, hoping that that they would change. But they never do. Soon you start to feel irritated and agitated. The love and respect you felt for them start to wear out.

2) Those who can never say thank you

Whatever you do for them, they are never grateful. They make statements like: “Why should I say thank you when you are just doing your duty?” Some would say that their gratitude is in their heart. So, do I have to open your heart to see the gratitude inside and get it? Ingratitude is an attitude that causes irritation, frustration and unhappiness.

Such people also believe the world owes them a lot. They go around their activities with an entitlement mentality. They are difficult to please.

3) Those who have excessive libido or inadequate libido

Sexual intercourse is a very important factor in marriage, but when you have a spouse that needs it for breakfast, lunch and supper, it becomes difficult to have any peace in the family. Infidelity also knocks on the door. On the other hand, when you have a spouse that hates sex or thinks that sex should be an annual event undertaken during the wedding anniversary or birthday celebration, then you know that you have some real trouble in the house. Infidelity is also usually a challenge. Sexual problem is worsened by the fact that it is one topic that couples find difficult to discuss with even those who genuinely want to help resolve the marital rift.

4) Men who think women are to be seen but not heard

Some men still live in the 18th century, in spite of the depth of education they profess. It is true that marriage is not a zone for feminist crusade, but if a man has archaic views about women, then please avoid him like an Ebola patient. Watch out for statements like: “How can an ordinary woman want to be the CEO?” “How can a woman debate with men?”

5) Women who believe they don’t need a man in their life

Such women believe that they are self-sufficient in all things. They have the I-don’t-give-a-damn attitude. Men feel ill at ease when they are with women who don’t allow a room in their lives for a man to fill. Such women find it difficult to express love. They always believe a man wants to dominate them. They are usually too defensive, too competitive, and too contentious. Men who relate with them usually feel frustrated. Such men always choose their words and actions carefully to avoid quarrels. That smothers affection and joy.

6) Men who are looking for housemaids, not wives

These are men who still live in the 15th century in this modern age. They have an archaic idea of what the role of wives is. They believe that women are only meant to cook, clean the house, bear children, and serve the men.

They believe that when men talk, women just have to obey; when men talk, women must keep quiet. The man can keep mistresses, but the woman should keep quiet and not even be seen greeting a man. A woman should not work, should not step out of the house, and should not complain, whatever the man doles out to her.

7) Those who can never trust anybody

These are those who believe that everybody is an enemy. Everybody is filled with evil designs against them. They have an obsession with fear of people, including their spouse, that it is irritating. Once a spouse cannot be trusted, there can never be joy in the family. They see through every action. They believe that everybody has evil intentions.

Those who have no respect for others

People can mouth love, but without respect, a marriage can never be happy. Women who love to prove a point by insulting their husbands, or men who believe in treating their wives without dignity in the name of cutting their wives to size: such people make terrible marriage partners. Nothing kills marriages like disrespect.

9) Women who see all men as competition that must not be given an inch

Marriage is not a place for activism. A woman who sees a man as a competitor rather than a complement is a dangerous person to marry. When a man has to contend with a woman every minute, when a man is always too conscious of what to say or do to his wife, then there is a problem at home.

10) Those who can’t control their temper

Hot-tempered people are dangerous. They can utter anything in anger. They can do things that they will regret for life. They can be violent. Their words can be venomous. They can put you in trouble. They are unpredictable.

11) Those who cannot forgive

Forgiveness makes us look superhuman. But there are those who cannot forgive, no matter the circumstances. Not only can they not forgive, they can also not forget. Because they can’t forgive, they usually think of how to get revenge.

12) Those who have not been weaned by their parents

Age has little to do with maturity in marriage. Those who have not been “weaned” by their parents make poor marriage partners. They are full of “Mummy said”, “Daddy said”. They take every family discussion to their parents. They cannot do anything unless their parents approve. They allow their parents to run their homes in the name of showing respect.

Those who are tied to the apron strings of their parents make marriage tasteless. Such spouses are a constant source of frustration and sadness. You will always be wrong in their sight. You will always be vilified.

In summary, marriage is not a bed of roses. There is nobody without some faults or idiosyncrasies. But it is foolhardy to walk into a landmine with one’s eyes open, praying and hoping that the explosive would not go off.

To avoid heartaches, neither blind love nor desperation to get married should push a bachelor or spinster to jump into a marriage with someone who will cause nothing but pain, sadness, and sorrow. Marriage should not be treated as a game of Russian roulette.

http://www.punchng.com/opinion/12-dangerous-people-to-marry/

stonecoldcafe:


How do you know it was a one time thing? Were you there? The way you date girls and feel its your God given right (what do I gain if I date without sex crew) to test is probably how she got there.

Almost all dey do but na who carry belle dem dey curse.

You mean you don't know how they met.

Eureka123:


And wizkid is marriage material for being part of an action [/b]undertaken by two parties? [b]Your sense of judgement is silly, I'm sorry to say. Learn not to judge without knowing the facts. What you consider poison for yourself might be another man's meat. Having a baby outside wedlock is bad I agree, but that's not enough to condemn her.

And who claim wizkid is marriage material? Smh for your assumption.

I will not be abusive like you, but their is no need for me to lecture you on how they met in Bowen when wizkid came for a show in her school and their unreasonable acts by sleeping carelessly with each other without protection. For me that is the height of irresponsibility anyone can exhibit in today's world of deadly sexually transmitted diseases which so many stars has been victim.

Well I don't blame you sha, now adays youth take pride in recklessness and defend it because most lack self control.

showbobo:
Is it just me or this girl truly seem a wife material

Marriage material ko, raw material ni. No marriage material lady will just open her laps for a guy for just one night like she did for wizkid, if not for the one time that turned to a beautiful baby boy, u know how many guy she don open am for all this while.
Abeg don't let instagram message decieve you oooo.

May be the baby has changed her sha.

Ok

IGBOSON2:
The capitals of Jigawa and Gombe impress me the most!

If things were as they should be, the north could have made a killing from tourism! Especially states like Taraba and Adamawa; they (and Obudu) have the best looking and most picturesque countryside in the Nigeria!

The first time I will agree with you, Gombe town is very beautiful, infact I mistook it for Maitama district that is why I always blame our leaders down south. Honest northern leaders are far better than their southern counterpart in terms of performance if you consider Gombe, Ekiti, osun and eboyin were created at the same time, earn almost same allocation and one is ahead of others then you will understand what I mean.

We in the south has failed to hold our leaders accountable while we blame the northerners for our problems.

Ok

tpiadotcom:


only if a spiritual husband practiced unsafe sex, or else if the child was procured from a baby farm.


In addition, there's a blood type called AC which also passes on sickle cell (SC).


http://sicklecellna.org/faq.html

That is actually what I want to suggest to the guy, AC is between AA and AS and this can produce As/ss

agarawu23:
but I think ladies don't need it at all

You are right, I don't like guys who drinks too much let alone the ladies that drink at all. To me it does not make sense at all, if woman drinks how will she control her husband from taking and what will their children do.

This remind me of my friend, he does not drink but his wife does. If they go out, she will force her husband to drink because she normally feel ashamed that she drink beer and her husband drinks farus now her husband has started taking Origin.

Ok, good for him.

ozoigbondu:
Whenever their is a diplomatic breach somebody has to pay and this time danjuma is the sheep.


GEJ just dey sack anyhow

If he had taken his job seriously like this in the first instance, he would have kept his job.

Sweetguy25:
The PwC report has already proved that he lied. What else do you want?

Which report, is it the one produced by selected independent auditors in conjunction with auditor general. My friend if it was a lie, they would have provided it last ng ago and disgrace Sanusi.
What did they do? The sacked the man, delayed the audit until people shouted and they released watered down report of $1.5billion.

Any reasonable fellow will know that for NNPC to have admitted that $1.5 billion is missing when ngozi herself claimed it was $10 billion is a soft landing

I pray it comes to frutation, Ogun state government signed one about 3years ago, they are signing another one.

omoelu1:
how much is it?

Yes, waiting be the price?

bimbor:
No phone will last 24hrs on constant uninterrupted usage. But of all the BB10 devices I think Q5 has the best battery.

Bros my gionee m2 dey last that long on constant touching.

Ok

buygala:
At your age and with your machete tie, you can't ask a girl out


No offence...



CAN YOU EVEN FUCCK?

Guy u wicked ooo, after all the guy no collect your babe.

We are all the tired of that, I don't even mind former governor like Akpabio, Akume and Kwakwaso they deserve it because they seems to have have interest of people at hand but Orji, suswam, jang and co should be discouraged.

Ok

AAinEqGuinea:
A hypothetical of someone's dream guy being broke is like considering Hitler was Mother Teresa

You ve answered the question. It is simply impossible that a broke guy will be a dream man/ Mr right in Nigeria. Infact it is opposite.

That is good.

Deyou:


what have I said that warrants you to start being abusive?

Did I abuse you in my post?

Can you please be matured and civilized?

I thought you started a thread for people to contribute.....I am so sorry I partook in it.

So you don't know he is from whining tribe who normally complain about others, please ignore him because he is not Yoruba man and his thread is not for educational purpose but for hatred and disharmony.

poiu77:
You are sick in your brain. Saka is a northern name. not a bible name.

magaji is not a yoruba title or yoruba name. It is a hausa northern title.


tinubu is not a yoruba man. How man time have told you. There are igbos in lagos who speak yoruba.

take for example saraki. Saraki is not a yorubaman from kwara. Saraki is an immigrate from the north to kwara state
this is why saraki or tinubu dont know our history..

and they think we are part of their country

Saraki is not from the north, Saraki migrated from Isheyin in in Oyo state. The Father Dr Olushola Saraki was an Isheyin man, he came to kwara for business and soon settled in kwara.

Although I'm not supposed to answer you because I know the tribe that normally whine about other tribe and creates hatred among others tribbes and within themselves, I just answered so that you will not mislead others.

winzy:


By the state govt

I'm talking about FG not state.

Ok

I hope they work for people.

ferhyntorlah:
Are you for real? He actually said that? Choi! Phahahahahhahahhahahahahahahahaha.

May be u should google the man for better info.

mojeed4:


I wander who will buy Tecno N3 at this age

Make the guy find one small boy on his street to dash the phone, the boy go appreciate him.

What are they waiting for? They should go ahead and do the needful before the house collapses and kill innocent occupants.

Oga oooo, oppositions are taking cue on how to run a small political party that unseat the so called largest party in African.