Guys should shave it all! Girls should shave most of it, but leave little so that they won't look like little girls.

It was just a rhetorical question.

Ok, only because the marriage did not work out, do you think woman should stay alone for the rest of her life, without man?

I did not mention she needs financial support, did not mention she would leave her children at home and go to have fun.

Who said she is busy making babies? Sometimes you marry, have children, and for reason or another things just not work out.

Ok?

Why did you have to reveal Christina's name? Why did you have to discrace that poor woman? Somebody here might regognise her. You could have write anonymously.

I think you should really beg Christina to forgive you, if you don't want things get ugly. Do it for the sake of your daughter. She does not want you back, believe me. She will never take you back, even if you wanted to. She just wants to revenge. So try your best so that she would forgive you, this is the only way out.

I think you got what you asked for, and I do not feel sympathy for you, using people is just UGLY!

No I won't. I can only tell my friends if the sex was good or bad. But I won't go into details. But usually I don't like to share my sex life with my frieds.

But I also know some girls want to share every single detail, specially those who are not serious. I just don't like that.

chychy:

@ fredrika
please i hope u aint lookin @ datin already, u aint ready yet.

in good time, it will all fall into place.

I knew you will tell me this

Don't worry, I am not looking for anybody. At least not from here. If I meet somebody, that will be in IRL. I am just entertaining myself, and kind of curious to know what guys will think about woman like me. Just want to find out if there would be chance for me to find somebody, when I am ready.

Would you think of dating a young, recently separated woman who has children?

D-reloaded:

Nigerian men just dey disgrace us around the globe sha

No, he disgraced only himself.

chychy:

sad really.
i do agree with reloaded but that mistake has been made.

Maybe I made mistake by trusting him, but everything ended up quite well. I have two really beautiful children and I am still studying, without his help and support.

@almondjoy

thank you for your supportive words, I really appreciate it!

@d-reloaded

We have 2 children, husband is nigerian, i am european.

@d-reloaded

I wish my mom would have taught me something like that, about men and life. But she did not, so did not my father. I really did not have anybody to look after me and to advice me. That is why I ended up like this, I guess. But believe me, I will be there when my children need me.

Yes, 6 freaking years. I have insisted to see her, I really have. And she wanted to see me too. I worked very hard to save money so that we could have made journey to see her. But he said the money was never enough. All these years he has been promising to take me to her soon, but he always delayed. And travelled alone instead, many, many times.

He has betrayed me, and did not feel sorry. I did love him very much, but I can’t live my life without being loved back. He was my biggest love ever, and I loved him so much, it just feels like waste to give up. But now, I have changed my attitude towards him, and decided not to love him anymore. I wish one day he will realize what he did and regret. I really hope so.

Just updating the situation… I have decided to move on with my life. I told him that I can’t be waiting for his decision forever. I can’t give him more time, because I have given him enough. He is doing the kind of business that takes him out of the country most of the time. Let’s say like 6 months in a year. And when he is at home, he works like from 8am to 10pm. So he has had lot of time without me. He is working a lot, but he does not give me money. That’s why I stopped asking him. If I tell him I need to buy food or something for the children, he will tell me to beg my mom to give me money. And I will never do that. We have not spent much time together for a long time. He also visits his mom very often, but he never takes me or the kids with him. We have been together for 6 years and I have never even met his mom.

In my opinion, we are like a strangers now, we have nothing to talk to each other. This marriage could have been saved, if he just showed me, that he wants to spend time with me. But he just kept on avoiding me for a long time. So I think now is the time to believe his words that he does not love me anymore. Still, he is wondering why our marriage couldn’t work. And he feels bad about it too. I tried to explain him that wife needs attention and caring, but he did not understand. I wanted us to be a team, I wanted him to support me and appreciate me, but he didn’t understand.

But eventually I am feeling better. I told myself to stop loving him and it is actually helping. I am concentrating on me and children. I have realized that I can’t change him to be a family-man. But I feel betrayed tough. When we got married and had children, I told him that I am worried because I don’t have education yet. He said it doesn’t matter, because I could still study after the marriage and babies and he will give me all his support. But when I started studying he did not support me at all. He just warned me, that it is going to be difficult to take care of the children and study at the same time, because he is not going to help me.

But right now, I am ok. I feel strong, as I see how well I am doing without him, both financially and mentally. I am happy to see my children happy and healthy, and I want to work hard to provide them good life. And he does not even appreciate it. I am not seeing him anymore, I am not calling him, I am not asking his help. I just want to forget him and move on. I did not talk to his family about the situation, let them blame me, let them think I am a bad wife. Let them think their son is a good man. I do not care anymore. I think I was never a serious wife to him.

Thanks you all of your support and advice. I really appreciate the effort you have made trying to help a stranger. God bless you!

@poster

You sound like an wonderful person. I'm sure you'll find a woman. Good luck!

@Aisha2, as many people have said, you seem to be very intelligent person!

@Almondjoy, about our situation, I'm studying full time in the university. (I marry and had children when I was young so I really didn't have time to do it earlier. Now my youngest one is above 1 year, so I feel more comfortable to leave them to a child minder and go to school.) I’m very ambitious, never thought of spending my life as a housewife. That just doesn’t suit for me.

I told my husband that I would like to work part-time maybe on weekends, but he has to support me and stay with the children when I'm out at work. (We live far from our families and friends, so there isn't any other person to do that). He could still be doing his business on week-days, to see if he can make it profitable. But he said no, he does not want to me to work, because he wants to spend all his time for his business and he does not want to compromise.

Anyway, I’m able to provide necessary maintenance for myself and our children. I have never asked him money before. He just has to take care of himself and provide for his parents who are old now. But he feels he is not earning enough. His family back home keeps pressuring him to send them money. He also feels bad because he has not gained anything “big” in his life (That’s how he feels, didn’t say is true).

Every time he is in good mood, he says he loves me. But if he gets angry of a little thing, he will say he hates me. That confuses me and makes it difficult for me to believe it.

ooh, that is so sweet!

What if you write her a love letter?

Hi!

My husband left me and my heart is broken. He said he does not love me, but I just can’t believe it. He left about month ago, and I’m trying to accept what happened and get over but it is just not helping. We are still seeing each other often because we have children, and that is making the whole case more difficult. His mother and siblings were very angry with him in the first place, but then he told them lies, that everything is my fault, and that he is still going to go back to us. But he told me he does not love me anymore. Now I don’t know what to believe.

He has been having depression for a long time, because of financial problems. He is trying to start up a business but is not working out and that’s why we have been struggling with money for a long time. But I just don’t care about staff like that. I’m not greedy. Now he has lost all his happiness. He is very sad man and says he can’t offer me a relationship. He asks me to move on and find another man who would love me properly.

At the time we were living together we were mostly arguing. Arguing because money seems to be the most important thing for him, more important than his family or health. Now he is about to loose both of them. And we were arguing because he is so stressed that everything makes him angry and to shout at me.

I have been trying to take care of him, because I’m the only one he has (He lives very far from his family). And I love him, and I don’t want another man. But he tries his best to hurt me. He tries to push me away as much as he can. I still keep on calling him every day, asking him how he’s doing and etc.

What would you do in my position? Would you forget him and move on? Or would you try to take care of him while he doesn’t want it, but obviously needs it, hoping that one day he will be happy again and you could try to get back together?

And what can I do to make him think good about me? At the moment he seems to hate me, but I think he has no reason. He thinks I hate him too and is not true, but what can I do to make him realize that?

I'm sorry, I know it's hard. I'm losing somebody at the moment too.