swiftycool:

Poster my advice is to deceiving yourself, you dont have  a boyfriend, you have a pen pal, same goes for your Mr B. I mean what are you guys? 12 year olds

By the way you were right, the post IS sensless

Its not every post u see on forums you can respond to, ur reply is stupid and baseless. Do u have to reply when u've got notin to say? Or u're probably better than those that gave their sensible advice?  Go back to bed man. A poor little baby knows ur reply is tasteless and pointless. grow up

kay-money:

@ OP I can see you as someone shying away from the truth the poster you talking to is he online** you need to Wake up to some realities of life and stop telling third party about your affairs~ that behaviour would destroy your relationship and you will lick the wound alone *

am really not shying away from the truth, thats why am here, just woke up so there is no way I can know the poster i replied isnt online. But my question, Do I still have to tell B thats am going out and if i dont what do u think my BF will do. I can just tell him sorry. Just help plx

ZIM DRILL:

how would you feel if he tells you thats what he suggesting to you was told him by his female friend

am really not shying away from the truth, thats why am here, just woke up so there is no way I can know the poster i replied isnt online. But my question, Do I still have to tell B thats am going out and if i dont what do u think my BF will do. I can just tell him sorry. Just help plx

adaphik:

If u were confiding in B, for a fellow male point of view over a situation, that may just be understandable. But telling B that u n your boyfrnd 'no longer talk to each other' is highly unwarranted. Maybe I should ask, was that also for his own opinion? A long distance r/ship, is a fragile affair, so handle it as such.

He actually didn't tell me to tell B we stopped talking, he only said i shld stop talking to himm about our arguments and stuff, and i think this is because i bring B advice up when we argue and tell him B said it. But I didnt mean anything bad, just thught thats the best way of handling the issue is telling B we didn't talk. He's still insisting I shld tell B we are still talking and fine. do i have to do that again though

This happened between me and my boyfriend and another male friend (I'll call the male friend B). I've been with my BF for more than 6 yrs now, He resides in US while i'm in UK. we see eacother at least 3 to 4 times a year. Distance is not an issue though.

I recently got involved in series of arguements with my boyfriend like never before and i turned to the other male friend of mine here in Uk for advice because he too is in a commited relationship and a long distance relationship like mine, we met last year. Sometimes his advice will go against him and sometimes it favours my boyfriend, it may work sometimes and it may not atimes. So most times i'll tell my BF that i asked another guy about the issue and he adviced me on it. my BF is older than B like 3 years. Just because i talk alot about the B's advice whenever we argue, my Bf told me to stop talking to him about our arguments/differences or even any other third party and we can work things out ourselves, third party involvement/advice is bad blah bla blah.

I didnt argue with him and the following day I talk to B, he asked after my boyfriend (they bear thesame name), I told him we don't talk anymore (cos i believe thats the best way to handle it , so I can stop discussing our issue with B or any other person that know about us), so he believe I broke up with my BF and we dont talk anymore.

Meanwhile yesterday, I was talking to my BF on Skype when B called my cell phone, i told my BF to hold on for me while I talk to B.(I did this to let himm know i dont talk about him to B or 3rd party anymore) He heard our conversation and, dont want him to feel we were talking about him and i told him "you can see we don't talk about u and I told B you and I dont talk anymore". He was so upset that i actually told B we don't talk anymore and that i shld have handled it better and just dont talk about our argument/difference with him rather than saying that.

My question is this, did i handled it wrongly by telling him we don't talk, cos now he's upset (mainly disappointment at the way i handled the matter, saying that is imature of me. his point is that Not talking to 3rd party about us doesnt mean i shld tell the person we broke up) he said I need to tell the guy the truth that we still talk and for me I dont see any sense in telling him i still talk to my BF. The did has been done. Tell me if am actually wrong about this.

(This post might be a bit confusing/senseless, i wrote it in haste/sleepy trying to go to bed)