Thank God for mother and child.

If u so gud en special as u say u don't need to come announced for nairaland say u dey find wife u would have been keeper long ago. anyway me from akwaibom state but I no wan marry u.

Hi, I'm hiv + too but I'm not on ARV drug but I can assure u its not a problem travelling with them. All u need to do is put them in ur hand bag where it can easily be seen. When asked what it is for u can tell them quietly.

Hi doc,lAtely I ve been having pain under my lower abdomen and went to d hospital had a test done was told I has some bacterial infection. I was place on injection en antibiotic for seven day yet I still feel d pain? I went back to d hospital again dis time I was ask to go for scan en d result shows I have multiple fibriods but is very tender. I want to knw if dat could be d cause of d pain I have? Plus I can't seems to hold urine? I feel urinating like every five mins if I'm not exaggerating. Pls help.

Its not about trust here btwn spouse? I'm more concern about d children? I have a four yrs old daughter I can't imagine leaving her wit a male house help? Even d female as parents we oath to be very careful. I knw I have a fantastic relationship wit my daughter whereby God forbid if anything like an abuse of any sort she will tell me. I'd rather it doesn't happen.

Solo makinde,what business of yours is it how someone else runs his or her home? Abi another thing dey inside? Have for once come to complain to u in anyway? abeg ye to jo bo le.

is it by force?

i dont know what to say this is an eye saw,am puting myself in her shoes
how can some people say she wasn't stripeed naked?
so what was that? those bastards should be tried and jail
and the navy should compensate her.

this evening im lighting candles for my friends,family and love one

im lighting 3 candles for my friends Babajide osho, Babajide Ogunbiyi and Femi adelowo
who died in 1999 in a car crash on the same day.you guys where the best.

im also lighting a candle my my cousin my Aniekan who died of AIDS
and for my friend Gloria who also died of AIDS.may your soul rest in peace.

im also lighting a candle for Yemi Adeshino who died in 1990 and was only 19
i have never stop thinking of you and will always love u.
may your soul rest in peace.

i dont have a choice i have to CS cos im HIV plus and secondly i will not want to go through
long hours of labour.

i think the woman should have the say on how she wonts her wedding to be,it is suppose to be once in a life time and a memorable one too.i wanted a quiet wedding my husband wanted to the whole world present and i made him understand why i dint want a loud wedding,for me it it a ceremony where close friends and relative should witness you taking your vows and that is most important. i dont want to go through pictures asking who is that?i dont think it is wise to have a wedding not know who half of your guest are?, im glad i had the wedding i wanted not more than 40 people from both sides and i knew everyone present,food and drinks where more than enough and everyone was happy.

there's a drug rehab center in yaba is near nigeria institute of medical research.
they are very good my friend went there when he had cocaine addiction problem and he came out
clean till date.

never fall in love,walk in love,live in love
and say in love.

i came home with my HIV result reading positive and i told my husband
he was weeping uncontrollably and was telling me to please forgive him
was wondering for what? he then told me he's been having an affair with
a girl i know to be his cousin's friend for a year and was sleeping with her unprotected.
thinking he was the one that infected me.you can imagine what i was going through
just been told i was HIV+ and my husband confessing to adultery. i beat him blue and black
and i was considering divorce.i slept on the same bed with him for 3month could not stand him touching me.
i wasn't thinking of the virus in my blood, i was think my husband i love and trusted has betrayed me.
our marriage was 2 year and he was already cheating i asked him what time and how he was able to have a relationship without me knowing because he doesn't sleep out.he said he dint want to go into details because he doesn't want to hurt me.i kept wondering if i wasn't diagnose with HIV virus i would never had know my husband was cheating.i have since forgiven him because i love him. he took his test and was negative and i make sure he takes it every 6 months.

@D-D
i am not here to defend my post i just want to set the record straight
i said have done things im not proud of as a married woman
doesn't mean i have been unfaithful so don't quote me out of context.
and if i have been unfaithful who are u to judge me? are you with no sin?
i posted this because we are suppose to talk about our marriages and be as sincerer as
possible,i dint know mine will be on trial. i am no hypocrite calling black blue i say it as it is.
i am glad i shard my experience with others and i also learn from theirs.

@ d-reloaded

nothing to be confused about if he had HIV i would have said so. he is very negative .

@ almondjoy

thanks for your prayers i wish you the same.

i met my husband 1990 through his cousin yemi who was my boyfriend.i was 16 my husband was 18 we have just finish secondary school. yemi always told me my husband likes me and wanted him to leave me for him
and we'll laugh about it. after yemi died i and my husband became great friends, best of friends but hardly saw each other cos we went to different graduate school but we kept in touch. he knew all the boys i dated but i never met any of his girl friends he only told me about one.

one day i was at bus stop waiting for a cab and i saw him again i asked him where he was going and we happened
to be going towards the same direction and i gave him a ride and that night i slept over at his place. we got talking and he asked me if i was in any relationship i told him no, that i just broke up with someone 2 months ago but i dint
bother to ask about his cos i wasn't interested in a relationship and i certainly dint want anyone lying to me. we made love that night but i thought that will be the end.

when i woke up in the morning and was getting ready to go home he said you free to stay for as long as you want.everyday after work he come to my house and we went back his place together and before long we inseparable and started living together.i met his mum and he met my family.

two months in to our relationship he asked me if i could marry a man like him? i didn't answer him, i said to myself it was too early talk marriage and if he was serious he will ask me again.he did ask me again and i thought if this guy is serious let him ask me with a ring. we when to visit a friend who just had a baby and they said hope we have a wedding date for us, my husband said he no but he has something close to it. i had no idea of what he was talking about than he said everyone know i love u, he mentioned my name since you came in to my life things has turned round for the better and he want to pls ask me to marry him and i said yes yes yes.

the wedding was may 26 2005 .i am glad i married my husband. i couldn't have made a better choice of all the men i dated, with him i am myself ,i dint have to impress him or whatever.i just felt right at home. i dint have to pretend to be who i am not and these where the signs that he was the one. i saw a gentle man,i saw a man with a heart of gold,i saw a man i will grow old with, when most woman saw a man who had no money,i saw a man with prospect cos right know they'll give their right eye to have to him.too late his taken. i am glad i married him. i married my soul mate and best friend.

i have done things im not proud of as a married woman and could not bear it.i opened up and told him the truth how it start and i want it to end. he was able to forgive me knowing i am only human. when i was diagnose with HIV a year after we got married my husband is still here.he never stop telling me how much he love me and will grow old together. i couldn't ask for a better partner and friend.

im sure your mother, sister or sisters will be in a better
position to answer this question.u need not to have come to this
forum.

what kind of a silly joke was that? why would you tell a man
you are HIV + if you are negative,are you trying to test him?
i am HIV + and i know is no joking matter. toying with a
man's emotions by telling him you are HIV+ if you are not is no yard stick to measure how much
a man love you. i hope he leave you and find someone else who will not
toy with his emotions.

i am HIV + and to tell u there's no need
to commit suicide or what have u.all u have to do
is get committed to taking your drugs religiously ,eat well and stay healthy.

im not a christian nor a muslim but lately i don't know what is happening to me,after i read someone post encounter with Jesus changed my life. i was touched and i was wondering if it is real? i kept thinking about it for days. i am curios and want to know more of him. can all these hurt, abuse and pain i feel go away just like that? can he truly help me forgive those who hurt me and give me a new beginning? can he truly heal me of my blood disease? can he take away the feeling of anger,bitterness and revenge away?and give me a purpose and a focus? i mean i sense of direction? can he be trusted? because the once i trusted the most are the once that hurt me.

the other side of the grass might be greener,you never know until you get there.

@Dmajesty
Are you HIV+?

@Nihil-ce-M

you need not to apologies,that is why this forum is a place where we can give our opinion on issues be it good or bad.
i hold nothing against u,u were just expressing yourself and i respect that.

@Nihil-ce-M

i am not claiming to be strong and healthy.i am strong and healthy. i meet people who are HIV+ and when they see me they say i give them hope, from the way i look they know HIV is not a death sentence like most people think. i didn't want my mum to know for her own good and not mine because, a lot of people are not well informed about HIV,AIDS and certainly do not know the difference. the issue of pity or self pity should not even arise,there are 10001 people out there who need pity not me. W.H.O make free drugs available for people with HIV,AIDS and we are many but i have never benefited from it why? because there are lots of people who are HIV+ who can not afford 3 meal a day how much more buy drugs, if the one given can not go round so, i chose to buy mine.these are the people who need your pity.

@wendymanda sincerely? i don't know,and it dosen't matter anymore.i took the test every 6 months with my husband after i found out my cousin infected his wife and throw her out, i did it because i want him to know im aware of the games men play, so that he'll be careful, and i was always negative but january this year i was positive.he is still as loving and supportive as ever.

@blueband thanks a million for you concern and to everyone who's given me good advice. i have started my treatment and
i haven't taken any of the ART drugs yet and i don't think i will. my CD4 count is 840 and my viral load is undetectable and i intend to stay that way so i don't want anyone putting me under pressure like what my sister did. it can affect one psychologically and it might affect one and once CD4 may drops.my doctor is a wonderful guy his name is Frances. i met him at HIV center in Lagos and ever since his been family and best friend. doctor,patient relationship is very important and i feel blessed to have him. my email is posted here i will like to read from u.thank u once again.

@Nihil-ce-M for your information i did not post this thread to get your sympathy or any at that .this forum is a place where people can truly bear their heart and will get meaningful advice and obviously not from people like u.as for my English ,if u think it's not good enough for u,u can go eat some worm for all i care.

na wa o! wonders shall never cease.

not like i im in support of divorce but why stay in a marriage and suffer
when both parties are no longer happy.

thank u olanajim for your love and concern i just hope u understand how i feel,and what
she did is completely unacceptable, to think she is an evangelist makes it worse.

i and my sisters call him my dear cos we grow up hearing our mum call him so.