Good morning,

I have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 3 years. I do the little I can to support her every now and then but the issue has in most instances always been the Physical aspect of the relationship.

Having sex is a far cry from the present situation. Sometimes after making out, she would tell me she feels guilty. If we making out, she'd tell me don't touch this, don't touch that. Sometimes during the making out sessions, when we are close to having sex she'd just turn her back to me, I'd ask if there's a problem, she would tell me there isn't. Many times she would tell me we have to stop the making out thing and all. In most instances, I suck it up.

You see the whole thing is pathetic. Pathetic in the sense that I have a girlfriend and still jack off. Although having a GF and jacking off are two mutually exclusive things, the former ought to reduce or even stop the latter.

Some weeks ago we had a misunderstanding and she sent me a text message containing several things, but the most striking was "... can't you do something without always expecting something in return".

I was bewildered. To begin with it was her pouring salt on the already festering injury. Secondly, I can't particularly say we have done anything sexual per say. It was really humiliating for me.

These days, I don't even think about her in a sexual manner, in short I don't even get an erection because of her. And I told her this morning I want us to stop the making out and all.

I am not cheating on her or intending to, I jack off, it suffices. All in a bid to maintain sanity. I don't just want to get humiliated or insulted over such pettiness or her thinking she's doing me some sort of favour by making out with me. She's been giving me attitude because of that.

Was I wrong?

Cc Harddon, Ubunja