tpiah:

if she's been in england for close to 40 years then it might be a bit of a stretch sending her back home.

i think her best bet is to have a carer, even though she's refusing to have one.


sending her back to nigeria actually isnt a bad idea, if she's somewhere safe, and if she hadnt stayed so long overseas.


also, i dont think you can sell her property without her consent.

Yes she came to England in the 60s and stayed here till the early 80s. Then she had already given birth to a load of us and the family went back to Nigeria but then she came back in 1989, went on holiday in 1997 and was attacked and nearly beaten to death by armed robbers. She has resided in England ever since

Thanks, I also think a Carer is the best option.


Me and my sisters are in charge of her financial affairs, we coordinate her Doctor's and Hospital appointments between us and pay bills etc essential to the running of the house.

I am totally against the idea but they seem to have a really romantic view of Nigeria

I have a question, mother is currently on a lot of medication for various ailments including diabetes,high blood pressure ect. She doesn't seem to understand her illness and often indulges in her favourite foods, eba, yam rice with loads of meat and she has large portions. She will eat that and then lie down without any exertion all day. We advise her and she never listens.

I have suggested a carer come in and take care of her but she is a stubborn woman and doesn't like the idea of a stranger being in her house. We, her children all work full time and have our own lives and so it is impossible to for us to stay home and do these things for her. We live in Britain and as anyone knows here we have to work in order to maintain our lives. Staying at home 24 hours with my mother is just not on.

My mum is 67 and has lived in England since she was in her early 20s. The last time she went back to Nigeria in 1997 she was attacked by armed robbers. My other siblings are now devsiing a plan to send her back to Nigeria. The plan is to sell her house which will bring in around £350k and buy a property in Nigeria where she can stay with my older sister, who also has her own life in Nigeria. Bring in housegirls ect but I am worried because if ever my mum has an emergency i.e her blood sugars are too high or low then we won't have the NHS to turn too, then there is the security , as I said before, armed robbers broke into the house she was staying in and nearly beat her to death, to date no one has been prosecuted for the crime.

Then there is the finances after paying for a house, getting the best Doctors in Nigeria to be on call which won't be cheap, then house help and the general costs of running the house, how much will £350k actually last?

So nothing worthy to see in Lagos?

Shoprite? lol

And why would the poster want to fly all over the country i.e Obudu ranch. Oluomo rock when he specifically asked about Lagos?

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Macs, Ipod, Iphone and Ipads were designed by British designer John Ives who was poached by Apple from Britain in the 1990s.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/2009/nov/29/ipod-jonathan-ive-designer

I feel their pain. I hope the North Koreans are ok when they get back home.