uchennay:


You'd better start calling for funds and not even think about getting a job in that part of Canada to pay your school fees or rent. My friend's wife is in college in London and has been unable to find a job for over 10 months now. The husband has been selling properties in Nigeria to support her, and she complains that many students are in a similar situation!

Your reply and the quoted post are the reasons I emphasise that not everyone should/ought to leave Nigeria. One, moving to a foreign land only to be stranded because he does not have money for housing within a week! A man selling his hard-earned properties to support a struggling student, his wife, who has not found a student job in almost a year.

At these points, is it not better to shine teeth with Tinubu and have peace of mind? If I talk, dem go say I dey abroad. Yes, but my situation is different: I had money to offset hostel fees for six months. In fact, the school requested I with-hold payment for two months as that is the standard for international students. So technically, I stayed in the hostel for free in two months. Also, I was well prepared financially regarding tuition fees and all. Leaving your country to a foreign land (not a state in a different geopolitical region) only to be stranded makes no sense to me. Selling your hard-earned properties to support one who has not found a job in almost a year has no economic bearing.

Slug it out with Tinubu.

NaijaVietnamese:
Talking about foreigners liking Black men, still depends on how successful you are. Foreigners don’t like broke ass men, including blacks. It’s even worse for blacks. I have seen Asians liking Nigerian men but it’s definitely those that are comfortable. They don’t mind spending on you if you’re okay already but they won’t near you if you’re broke.

Blacks, especially black Africans, are the poorest of all races. Now, imagine a black African outside of Africa who is a broke ass? That'd a terrible combination.

But then, women are hypergamous everywhere and even for their native men. In some countries, they impose higher requirements for foreign men especially black men. So, it's normal. The life of a man is very hard as he must show evidence. There is a huge difference between being on a student visa vs a work visa as a black man in the abroad.

thesicilian:


You're comparing a good girlfriend with hookers in general. That's not a fair comparison. To make it a level playing field, compair a good girlfriend with a good hooker. Is there anything your girlfriend can do that you can't pay someone else to do for you? How many girlfriends will stay when your money finishes? Not that I am pro-hookers in itself, but the fact remains that patronising hookers in general is less expensive, less stressful, with less chance of infections and unwanted pregnancy than the average Nigerian girlfriend.

Very few. We had a man kill himself because his wife had sex with his friends due to his lack of livelihood. Women are hypergamous. Once the money ain't forthcoming, expect change in character. Hookers are at least honest upfront.

Solseal007:


There's an extent and degree to what people can and should tolerate in any partnerships!

You don't just advise ppl generally to flee marriage just because u av a little misunderstanding, do u know the bigger menace broken home children poses to the society? Same you that advise can be mugged and slaughter by a single parented kid. So careful how u throw advise here and there.

This case is a pure mental disorder and has nothing to do with marriage, he could do this to a neighbor

I refuse to believe this is as a result of a mental disorder. It's pure demonic murder. For the sake of preserving one's life, divorce should be encouraged or temporary separation. Life no get part two.

Yes, rampant divorces affect children's development, but what do we've here? E no worse pass divorce?

pocohantas:


I bet him and his kind littering NL with nauseating comments are the good guys we should go for. Same good guys they call simps.

The thing con dey sound like cognitive dissonance to me.

ogbonti:

exactly… Femi Gbaja became a felon for stealing just $25,000 and fled Georgia, USA abandoning his law practice, US citizenship privileges and ran back to Nigeria and these ones are still thinking twice ? hmmmm

You live in the US. Why haven't you done it? Don't you wish to become the next Femi Gbaja?

MEEVEET:

South Sudan is peaceful they made peace and are slowly progressing
Eritrea is doing ok, they are a homogenous country, they are growing at their own pace

U need to research more

Eritrea is Africa's North Korea. How does that translate to doing well? There's almost no Internet access in Eritrea. Does that sound like doing well to you?

Kobicove:
But I don't understand how a guy would be comfortable asking his friend's wife for sex before rendering financial assistance.

If you do not have any money to spare it's better to just deny her request for money

That's where the problem comes from. If it were a random woman, it's perfectly appropriate. But for their friend's wife? Deplorable. But it's not surprising as some men lack the concept of boundaries in friendship.

Magicalsineros:
How many women can you help without demanding for their body in return? Just answer this question in your heart

Women should work for their money. We're in the era of gender equality. Work your money. I have given my female friends money without asking for anything in return. I have been asked for a loan, but I dashed it out to ex-female classmates. However, I will not give money to a random lady without she providing evidence of work whether academic or otherwise. There's a reason scholarship awarding organisations have minimum requirements for applicants.

Nothing like free money. Work for it. Aren't you equal to a man?

Fahvvy:
The question we have to ask ourselves here is, why is it that when a woman is in trouble, rather than persevere in a legit hustle to scale through, she opens her legs to different men? ...

This is actually very logical as women in poorer countries resort to selling sex to survive. Humans resort to the barest minimum when it comes to survival. For most men, this means doing odd and highly laborious jobs or other cases stealing.

So, it's not out of place.

Secondly...
Why do women expect that it is a man's responsibility to help them out when they are in trouble? Why do they feel entitled to it? :-Can't we see that there's something that's fundamentally flawed in how most women reason?

I agree with this one. In an era of gender equality, women should learn to work for their money. No free money simply because you be woman. Work for it. However, in the original post, as a married man, it's the man's responsibility to provide. The Bible stated something about inability to provide and being an infidel.

Lemme also state this categorically here that, asking for something in return before you help anyone doesn't make you a bad person, nahhhh ...

For a random stranger? Yes, it is appropriate. For a friend? No. It's disheartening and somewhat insensitive except in cases where the sums are huge.

Women should stop acting like it's a man's responsibility to be at your beck and call, simply because they have a hole under their legs - it's super disgusting abeg

Again, agreed. But in a situation where she's your wife and mother of your children, it becomes your responsibility.

JaskanFactor:


its good to speak against evil , even if its not the subject matter. Like people do fire prevention drills .
Its a good idea to scream against evil from the rooftops at the top of your voice.

The oyinbo people who legalise homosexuality so that you are now brave enough to speak in defence of evil are not European, they are the ancient Barbarian Goths from Libya , they were that long befor they became European, cause godess Europa is black godess. Europe by black people whilst those there now were called Goths.

And if you know anything at all about the ancient history of the Goths , you will know that you must not copy any evil you see them doing , dont assume what they do is what normal people do.

As occult historian put it, the Goths whom you see promoting all evils on earth, jumping out of moving planes and climbing mountains to die will be judged more leniently by the creator than you the black man, cause your nation is an old nation while they are young. Meaning you know what they dont know.

That is why they had to kick all the Europeans out to africa and west indies and assume the European identity whilst hiding thier gothic roots.

If you know what thier gothic roots mean, you wont come hear silly talking that its ok to do what they do.
That is why they wear tshirts and tatoo with human skull and cant see anything diabolically wrong with it.

For all you know they are so mad as to be blameless before the creator, but not you, so dont set your cosmic watch by what oyinbo is doing.

Make sure to do your research on the Gothic history, the people who invented horror movie as a form of entertainment , befor coming hear to promote the diabolic to the most ancient nation on earth.

When they were north africans befor invading rome and the rest of europe, the names of thier north african tribes were, Vizigoth , Suebi, and Vandal from there they turn themselves to European.

Dont copy what they do, they have a different after life from you, cause they are young and you are old very old.

That person wey you quote na homosexual o. That aside, I'm curious in this Goth history. Please what books do you recommend as starters and later as advanced? A Google search confirms the bold. However, I will like to know more so as to validate the other details of your post.

Thanks.

cococandy:


Okay this is where the lies and propaganda have taken root and fueled a narrative that is so blatantly untrue it hurts to even try to debunk it. Pardon the long post.

The average child support per month in America is around $400/child. Obviously some people pay more and others pay less. I’ve seen people pay around $100 a month because they’re so low income & that’s what the judge decided they can afford. The upper end is around $700. There’s nowhere in America where this money is going to fund a champagne lifestyle. You ask why is it even paid. The reason why it’s paid out is to help support the custodial parent’s expenses on the kid. Should they get nothing at all? What men need to do is to stop complaining about it as if they’re being oppressed for taking care of their children. Or as if the moms are getting rich from it.

The custodial parent still ends up paying more than the one paying child support. So what are these dads complaining about? They are getting these measly amounts per month in addition to being the parent who’s responsible for everything else not financial. Depending on the age of the kid, you get to be the parent doing late nights, sick nights, game days, pick up and drop off, extra curricular activities, doctors and dentist appointments, laundry grocery planning, cleaning, cooking and of course everything else they need at home.

God forbid the kid needs braces, or likes to do basketball, ballet or piano lessons etc. you the custodial parent has to decide if giving your kid a well rounded childhood is something you can do outside of the basics like food and shelter. Most times these divorced dads don’t even want to hear about anything like that. There’s no way the parents who are paying between $400-$700 per child aren’t the ones getting off easy. What these men really want to is get divorced and walk away with zero responsibility.

Child care alone cost me $24,000 last year. Just daycare for my little one and afterschool program for my older one. This is normal. It’s not an exaggerated amount to pay in child care fees. If I were a single mom who obviously has to keep a job in order to live, would $700/month child support cut that? Do the math.

And before someone asks “why put the kids in daycare if you want custody?” Well because if I don’t, then I’ll need to be a stay home mom and the man would have to pay me alimony. The horror right? Such a gold digger that can’t go get a job. Why expect a man you’re not married to to still fund your life?. Women are getting the short end of this deal no matter how it’s twisted. We only hear about the rich dudes paying what seems to be ostentatious and just imagine that’s what all single moms are getting. That’s why I encourage more moms to leave the kids with the dads and pay them child support since they think it’s such a great deal.

If I were to get divorced tomorrow, I would gladly pay $3,000 a month. I have two kids. That’s $1,500 per kid. I’d gladly pay that if someone else would be made to supplement the rest of it. Heck I’d gladly pay $4,000 knowing very well that it costs more than that to raise a child in America per month. Their dad would have to cough up roughly the same amount of money to balance it out in addition to doing all the work involved in physically raising them while I get to be the cool parent who breezes in on weekends and holidays and gripe about how much I’m paying.

I had to quote the entire post. I knew raising a child is very expensive in the developed world and more so in the US. Thanks for the expose. Well, na part of the reasons I support randy men and men in general to have fewer children and in the long run undergo vasectomy.

And I agree with the bold, it's of no gain if such costs are incurred coupled with the non-monetary costs. I think because women are the bearers of children, they become emotionally attached. Well, again, fewer children is the answer.

Ah! Demons everywhere!

I was shocked to the bones seeing the headline and mystified reading the article.

cococandy:


They’re not negligible. I personally know at least 3 women (in person) paying child support to their spouse. I don’t even know 3 men doing that. I’m not claiming women pay more. But the ones who pay may be minority they’re not a negligible percentage . Also bear in mind that these huge amounts y’all are hearing only happen with rich and famous people.

Agreed. At the bold, it could also mean that the unpublicised ones are critically affected according to their income classes. Big man, big wahala; small man, small wahala. The wahala is proportionate to the size of the pocket.

Most child support payments do not even cover a quarter of the needs of the child. The custodial parent still pays out of pocket to raise the kid with only a tiny bit of help from the payments the other spouse makes. Sometimes not even enough for food. NL is a spreader of lies. If anyone didn’t know they’d think custodial parents are getting rich off of child support payments.

Isn't that a failure on the part of the custodial parent? I just wonder why child support is paid out even when it does not cover a substantial part of the sum involved in raising a child. Or is the custodial parent expecting a higher standard of living above the divorced parent's income status? That is, attempting to raise a child with a champagne lifestyle but powered by a beer income of the dad.

And also not anecdotal but whenever men seek custody, they get it more than women. I admire how they’ve managed to creat the narrative that they’re being victimized by the court system

Interesting if true. Kudos to the men and their legal teams.

By and large, most women who gave up their careers to raise babies always end up with the short end of the stick. They’re the majority. The few who got what could be seen as a somewhat fair compensation for giving up their lives to help achieve his goals are often so loudly demonized it seems as if they’re the majority.

The part which got the most of my interest. Are women these days interested in motherhood or a career? Why is the intense focus on "I stayed back to raise the children" when the work involved in raising children differs from pursuing a career/business enterprise?

cococandy:
That’s the narrative you sha want to hold onto

If we tell you now that their wives are cheating too and two can play that game in their world, you’ll find a way to try to dispute it. 😑

I am not a believer in that theory. I believe married women cheat as well. Just that many young Nigerian men tend to be so naive about the antics of married women and the power of married men in arresting the issue.

Waffarianman:

I dey tell you. Africa sweet dye if this black cali dudes go gree come here cum stay all these no go happen to them. Just look at Akon enjoying life here in Africa 🌍

AKON spent some years bred in Senegal and can trace his ancestral roots more easily than almost all African Americans. The cases are different. A

cococandy:
Rice don done for nairaland men

As if only western men pay child support. Women pay child support too when the man is the primary parent.

Those cases are very few and absolutely negligible. The world will always have more men as primary parents due to evolutionary behaviours and female hypergamy. Men out-earn women in most fields of human endeavour. So, men will always be the victims in cases such as these.

Zonefree:

You've not been following the case.

After divorce, the demon took him to court to demand for 70% of his wealth which sent him to bankruptcy. Vin Diesel and 50 cents helped him to get back to his feet just for this woman to send him to court again claiming that his new movie has earned him more money, so they should triple his child support fee and the court gladly do that without regarding his own feelings.
Again, women are dangerous!

That is witchcraft!

Some of these African American men should head to Africa. I don't know why they are fascinated with Asia or as I read some wanting to head to Italy. Ultimately, vasectomy after having max two children solves most of these problems.

SmartPolician:
This is why Black guys have stopped getting married. They prefer to have baby mamas and their women are wailing because the white folks hardly marry them too.

To be fair though, marriage rates have plunged across races in the US. Blacks still marry themselves nevertheless. And yes, the bold is true because humans are tribal. Funny enough, some of these black women lament that their men are becoming bisexuals or homo meanwhile the biggest supporters of bisexual and gay men are heterosexual women. Talk about cognitive dissonance!

Tightpussy2024:

News of his ex requesting more is legit but the crying scene is false.

You earn more, you pay more. Oga skipped paying child support twice last year.the money was 10k dollars. Inflation and everything comes in place. If you earn 500k as a man,and you are sending your son 50k for pocket money, when it increases wouldn't you increase it?

Who will take care of the kids and her? Y'all hate single moms and will not marry them,so how will she survive?you can't take care of another man seed so why not pressure men to take care of their seeds so another man don't have to inherit it?

The screenshots are frightening.
Some men, just as they are humans, wicked to that level. So, I am not surprised. My wickedness no reach that level as I would lock up with childbearing. Good a thing she fled because he would repeat it with her.

American tourists, while seemingly friendly, tend to be very loud. The worst are Mainland Chinese - the language when spoken seems as if the speakers are fighting. I don't hear that "noisy/loud" tone from Taiwanese and Chinese Singaporeans.

viyon02:
Traveling is part of education, Japan and China have excellent formal and informal education system and culture. I pray I culture my children in any of these country.

Sorry, but your child will never fit in. Biracials haven't fit in, na fully black pikin? Nah. Obviously, there is a lot to be learnt from them just as they learnt from white people. But you don't have to erase every aspect of your culture. Trash out the bad aspect and keep the good ones while ensuring your ethnic group is wealthy - that is the koko. Humans admire wealthy groups' cultural practices even if those practices are harmful or terrible.

MrBrownJay1:


dont judge Chinese because of the few that are living abroad... YES, Chinese women love black men, but in China, most would rather not be seen out with us because their local men hate to see Chinese women with foreigners (especially blacks). many do get married to blacks but the majority rather come to you at the dead of night than be seen with you.

I would probably believe they love black men for the preek, not for marriage. The only place where many Chinese women marry black men is in China, which is logical as that is the home of Chinese women. However, outside China, many Chinese women don't marry black men, including the US. And to be honest, we as black men don't get the elite Chinese ladies, white men do. East Asian women LOVE white men!

anybody in China with browner skin is seen as poor/uneducated etc. Chinese people themselves look down on darkskin Chinese (let alone foreigners) because it is a sign of low class citizen, aka people who work in the fields/farms. standard of beauty in China is "the whiter you are, the more beautiful you are"...thus why most Chinese will use an umbrella when it is sunny or will go to the beach covering their whole body (especially their faces) like the below:

I will say it is an East Asian cultural act because I see many Japanese women wearing long black clothing to cover their arms while walking, running or riding a bicycle.

Blazebond:
Japan is a very weird place and don't be fooled by their pretentious mannerisms,those weirdos are some of the worst racists on earth.

You have more chances - education, career and I dare say business as well - as a black person in Japan than anywhere else in Asia. There are MANY black people in corporate Japan, way more than anywhere else in Asia. China should come second in that category, especially in the aspect of business due to its size of the economy. But for getting good jobs as a black African specifically? Japan is the answer. South Korea is the worst. Outside East Asia (excluding Singapore and maybe Malaysia), one is better off engaging in lawful business rather than looking for a corporate job.

MrBrownJay1:
as i once said about Japan:

EVERYTHING IS TRUE!

Man, I have learnt a lot.

bukatyne:


I believe there are a lot of men who are financially comfortable and do not cheat.. A lot of men (doesn't mean much more aren't cheating sha). 30% of financially comfortable men are still a lot

The very religious, extra disciplined and those wey dey one cult or the other where the agreement stipulates such. But I used to think that very religious men don't cheat as I worked with one who took his religion very seriously until recent events. I know pastors, knights and deacons who had/have mistresses.

papyjaypaul:


This is deep. I think porn has really damaged our lives today as it made make believe people's belief Do men really like lapping up like dogs Men are not even patient normally and just want to jerk off while women need more time to get in the mood. It's physiological for men and psychological for women. I'm afraid the gadgets are also destroying women's make-up. If the man is taking too long or not doing pre-intimacy well, she just takes the machine that can do the work. I think people are not going to be satisfied amd content, they will want more than the human body can naturally give. Dopamine effect

The bold has made humans more impatient and selfish. So, make everybody hustle their orgasm.

imustsaymymindo:
I hope you have converted your money to dollars already.

If it's not a permanent resident or citizenship or a pathway that leads to it in a year/two max, I see no reason for you to go.

1. Nigeria is not that bad anyway. I see someone asking for the source of your wealth. Nigeria is probably the only country where you can afford the kind of money you have as cash-at-hand minus properties, without doing any real-impact business, even as a salary earner. Those are some of the perks of the unstructure in Naija. If you are earning in dollars at the moment with a dollar at 1,600 naira and almost no tax, you would save 5x of what an average abrodian would save. Just the instability of our currency alone, people make a lot of money from it. Even with all this fuel scarcity and refinery BS happening, people are making money from it. Some Nigerians with no meaningful business in Nigeria, can even buy a house at once even abroad just due to the unstructure in Naija. How many people abroad can do that?

Nothing beats earning in dollars while residing in Nigeria.

2. If your money can get you citizenship by investment in a good country with a strong passport, look into that route too. At the end of the day, the major reason to japa is to have a stronger passport that can allow you to play in a global space when an opportunity comes knocking for you, your family, or your children.

The best option and OP should look into the Grendanian option. Offers a path to permanent residency in the US. See here: https://www.henleyglobal.com/citizenship-investment/grenada This is a much better option than starting all over again in the abroad as a well-to-do married man. It is not like you are moving to a culturally/racially similar place as wealthy Chinese from Mainland China do when they move to Singapore and Japan. You are relocating to a different system entirely.

3. Your wife being aggressive shows that you guys have a long way to go in conflict resolution. And there would be more conflict when you japa because you'd be poorer, you'd be doing your chores yourself, and you can no longer afford the luxury Naija offers that might have been helping you manage your marriage.

The chores aspect is true as well. Certainly, his wife has domestic servants in Nigeria, which is difficult to replicate in the abroad. Many C-suite employees in the abroad cannot even afford a live-in domestic servant except the uber rich (not in naira o). The woman not accustomed to doing daily chores will now have to embark on them. She will get angrier—normal human feelings. One reason why highly skilled Indians move back home from the West, especially the US, is the availability of domestic servants. Most have stated their wives had to stay at home to cater for the children as they did not fancy childcare services.

Thinktank02:
Now, if the concern is mainly that your kids get a good form of education, consider staying for a while in Nigeria while you monitor their progress. @OP, Abroad is wild, many parents do actually regret it if proper monitoring isn't available to guide and regulate the emotions of those kids especially during teen age when the hormones rage and peer influence is high.

Even parents who live with their wards sometimes lose control over them, as I know someone who can't even correct or talk to the child anymore. The ideology of the west encourages that the child should be allowed to form their own opinion and the fact that you can't actually discipline in a way that instil fear and respect in the child's mentality has made many of the children lose control and do as they please.

Good post you have there. Just to add, I don't understand this narrative that all of a sudden children who relocated abroad will obtain a quality education higher than while they were in Nigeria. Seeing OP's worth, maybe he could afford the top schools in the abroad, other than those schools, the children are better off in Nigeria. See here: https://www.nairaland.com/8184851/top-waec-scorers-2009-where#131568154
And yes, both parents need to be together in their children's formative years. It is extremely important.

OP mentioned amenities and opportunities. Amenities, I can understand. Opportunities, especially for someone who is well-to-do? I strongly doubt except it is the United States. Anywhere else and in particular the UK, I doubt the quality of economic opportunities they get there will surpass the ones they would obtain in Nigeria judging from his networth.

Onegai:
Truth is, Nigeria is a poor country and you can't expect Poverty-Capital of the world to produce m

Stop fighting yourselves. You're now equals. Start thinking less like Lord-And-Servant and more like CEO-And-CFO. Both of you integral to each other's success.

I am curious, does this CEO-And-CFO arrangement work seamlessly in middle and upper-middle class homes in Nigeria? That is, they don't intend to relocate at any point, but they have such an arrangement.

And for those thinking marrying from another race is the solution, hoooo boyyyy! Listen, Oyinbo people think they're God's gift to humanity. They read the Bible and believe that the chosen Israelites are Caucasian (hey, they're at the top of food chain racially). Which means, no matter how much they love you, they will always look down on you. And the day you forget yourself and presume to think you're on the same level as Tiffany, your pretty oyinbo wife, is the day she will remind you that you're a black monkey in her subconscious. She will love your little biracial babies yet remove them from you, lest they be tainted by your negritude. Just go and ask your brothers married to them why they're they submissive spouse and are shooting videos all over TikTok, "My oyinbo wife tries Egusi soup for the first time!"

Praise God! I have been preaching this ever since.

Think I'm lying? Go ask on Twitter what happened between Paul Graham and Nigerians. Man complained about using verbose language that sounds like AI, we challenged him and the superiority that flowed out of him, mehnnnn.

He would have done worse if not for the perceived backlash he would have gotten from African Americans as Nigerians are black people. I think that is why he did not go too far, but strictly from a country perspective.

Every race has their wahala. But you're Black, which means that nobody respects you in the general scheme of things, save for another Black person. And then you now add in country and Ethnicity and you then see how disdainful other African countries are of you (they're only marrying you in the US/UK because Finance, Finance, Finance. Nigerians are usually the richest Africans subgroup in the diaspora).

Another hit record! I don preach this thing tire.

Onegai:


Rich men cheating is really about buying a product. The poorer the society, the less morals its people can afford. Which is what infidelity is in Nigeria: poverty-alleviation program. It's only daft immature guys who believe their Affair Partner loves them seriously.

Agreed.

Which is why I'm always irritated when I see Yul Edochie and Rude Boy (P-Square). I've spoken to my male relatives their age and older and they're all in unison:

"God forbid I impregnate any girl or start raising any baby at age 40+, when I should be getting ready to finally enjoy my money".

Especially that Yul Edochie. Man is going to one corner of his neighbourhood to weep silently.

This means I was right when I thought about a scenario where well-to-do men undergo vasectomy so they get the full benefits of having extramarital affairs. These new women will want to have their babies so they have a say in the family. A vasectomy prevents that from the man's side.

You always know when they're full of regret but their ego won't let them go back (so that they don't become laughing-stock): that's when the public show of love with the new babe will be plenty. Serious flaunting. just know the tears cried into their pillows are hot. The babe herself will be doing extra to cover up the growing feeling that she messed up but is now stuck with an older man and if the ex-wife doesn't give a shi.t anymore, then she has nothing to motivate her and feed her own ego.

You think I'm lying? Look at Bianca Ojukwu or any other woman in that setting. They know that not only are they wasting their prime with an older man, but the minute he croaks, his older kids are coming for even her pots and cutlery that he bought her. Wounded cubs turn into vicious adult lions. Go to countries like Russia and Eastern European countries, those babes are not marrying for love, they're hardened. Same with Asians. Iceland and Greenland have the lowest infidelity rates, because they're countries where opportunities for men and women are somewhat equal. So as your man dey step out, you too are following suit.

Interesting stuff. You know this too well.

drimzsmoke:


intimacy gadget is not a disadvantage, men should even learn how to optimise its use in their relationships and marriages.
Man was never design to satisfy a woman sexually. The 1st time it happened between a man and a woman, it must have been by mistake
If not for intimacy gadgets, some people's relationship would have ended. Imagine a man of 45 (married to a 30 year old woman and) has BPH(benign prostatic hypertrophy/hyperplasia) that affected his erection, tell me how the young wife will survive if not for masturbation with intimacy gadgets. intimacy gadgets has done more harm than good

I agree that men could use it to aid the stimulation of a woman during sex. But it has been abused and going forward, many women especially the age range of women NwaAmaikp.e mentioned will only use men for attention and extra money purposes. Most women c.um as a result of extended pre-intimacy. The problem is many men forbid engaging in this act, especially the oral aspect. So, sex t.oy is a massive advantage to women sexually. But because it is a machine, to compete with it as a man, especially in the drilling and stimulation of the vagina is not easy. No man can outdo a machine. So to better satisfy their women, men have to engage in more extended pre-intimacy (advanced MouthAction and smooching) or use sex to.ys. Hopefully, no man complains how it affects his subconscious state.