More opinions will be appreciated thanks so much everyone

Hello everyone

I have an issue and I want you guys to be as brutally honest with me. Problems cannot be solved alone and as much as I’ve discussed this with close family, I need to get unbiased opinions from strangers. Please feel free to pm me with advise as I’m just so down about this situation.

I’m 25 years old and I live in the USA. I’m Yoruba and he’s Igbo, was born here but have also lived in naija at one point. I’ve been in a relationship with this guys for 5 years but I’m at the point where I’m seriously unhappy. Unfortunately we have a daughter together and we got engaged when I was pregnant But things are just not Looking good.

I’m going to first start off by pointing out My flaws so things can be two sided. I will say my shortcomings are

I’m extremely introverted so I don’t like to go out at all, I don’t have friends so I can be very dependent on him emotionally, and I’m not extremely jovial with his family....(he comes from a very jovial background ) because it’s not my personality but I’m friendly and respectful as much as i can be. And none of his family or friends can say they dislike me, they probably just think I’m too quiet.

When I’m upset I can say some really hurtful things.

I also allow things to get to me, and I’m not very forgiving.

I will say I’m aware of these flaws that i have and I’m actively working on them and have tried to adjust over the years with these issues.

Now with my fiancé I’m trying to be as patient as I can but I’m becoming extremely miserable in the process. He’s been doing fraudulent things for over a decade,(which I thought I could initially change him when I first met him) but I’ve realised it may not be possible. He is in his mid 30s. He blamed it on not having his documents, which I understood. He got his documents through our daughter a few months ago so I’m hopeful things will change but with the company he keeps and the amount of years he’s been doing it, I’m a little bit worried that he’s stuck in his ways.

I’m concerned about his smoking and drinking habits.

Earlier this year I found that he was looking for women to sleep with as I saw the history on our computer. He later put all the blame on his cousin then slightly admitted it but denied that he actually slept with one that he was just looking.

I can’t talk to him without him flaring up. He has this huge pride and ego. He will never ever apologise even when he is wrong I’m always the one to surrender and apologise.

At this point I don’t trust this man at all. I find he is very sneaky and deceptive. In public you will think he is a God fearing man , but doing all these things behind behind closed doors without having any conviction to change I don’t know what exactly to do.

These are just the main things as I don’t want to type too much.

Please let me know what you think I should do in this situation or if you think I have no reason to try and leave I need pure honesty.
Also ask me am further question needed.

We are also not married right now as he’s still processing his divorce that he did strictly for document that didn’t work out in his favour

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