Which is the best place to live between Ikorodu (Lagos) and Ibadan (Oyo)?
Also considering proximity to malls, cinemas, local markets; and standard of living in general.

Which is the best place to live between Ikorodu (Lagos) and Ibadan (Oyo)?
Also considering proximity to malls, cinemas, local markets; and standard of living in general.

Quote me if you can transfer USD to a domiciliary account.

Aquariann:


Hello bro.. Has she left?

Yes, she has. Left around 4 this evening.
Thank you, bro.

Prognose:

Easy bro.

Girls are strange creatures. You're just about beginning the journey into their realm with their whims and caprices.

. The fact that she actually had sex with someone within the same period and tried to pin it on you is just wrong. You have every right to be angry but like you said reacting badly won't change anything.

Her sister is coming to pick her you say? Good. Hand her over in good health and bid her adieu. Grow wiser. Take it as a lesson but don't let it change the goodness in you.
All the best.

Thank you so much.

Aquariann:


How soon is soon? My man stop reasoning with your manhood and send this lady back to her parents immediately. You're obviously still pvssy whipped and haven't learnt any lesson at all after all. Do you really think she loves you or appreciates the kindness being shown to her?

Get this message, no matter what you do for her, now and even when the baby is born, you'll never be loved like the man whose baby she's carrying.

And if you think the guy isn't in the know about her giving you his child (pending when he is able to face you and shock you with the truth in future) your joking. He's still a student after all and can't even look after himself but depends on your money from her.

What kinda cuckold are you? Taking care of another man's woman, his unborn child and the man himself (by proxy) just because the lady still gives you pvssy and you want to appear like a nice man?

Please do not endanger your wellbeing/life by still keeping this lady nearby. She can go diabolical on your case sef.

It’s not what you think. Sex has been out of the picture for some time.
Her base is roughly seven hours away, and her sister is coming to get her today. Besides, I have a 6am-6pm job, and it’s a 3-bedroom apartment, there is enough space. I locked my bedroom door when I went to sleep last night. I don’t want to let my emotions get in the way of my decisions. I could kill someone if I let it.
I have invested my finances and emotions already. Reacting badly, by throwing her out in a strange land, wouldn’t change anything. I am just going to walk away from this with a lesson learned.

zed7:


And you wanted to wife a hò. When will we men learn? Never let the p get the better of you ever!!!

It will never happen again. It is my first time, and I have learned a valuable lesson. My next would never be like this.

Prognose:


Wait, what?

She leaves today.

Dyt:


In your head I am biased
Not like I care

Shrugs

It's obvious you do not care. If I were your younger or elder brother or your relative, I am certain your earlier advice/opinion will differ.

Dyt:


Why didn't you question her on seeing the messages?
You had to bring it to where no one really cares if you both end up good or worse?
What happened to communication?

You couldn't entail your fears to your partner but could give out every info to those that don't give a hoot about any of you

Good luck with your mind getting twisted oo

Thanks for your input. Nonetheless, I know why I bothered to bring it here (and I am now glad I did) for experienced, unbiased, second opinions. If anything, it afforded me with informed opinions on how to proceed.

zed7:


And you wanted to wife a hò. When will we men learn? Never let the p get the better of you ever!!!

Thanks! I have learned my lesson.

Holocene:
Trust the women to defend one of their own. The things women of these days do and try to hook it up to a dude really scares the poo outta me. What sane woman will discuss period and ovulation with another man who ain't hitting that asss. Bruv, don't be misled and intimidated into getting married like say na one big trophy.

Marriage is not a one day thing, it a a lifetime and if you make the mistake initially, it's a lifetime of regrets. NEVER MARRY OUTTA PITY.

Thank you!

Aquariann:


It was never your baby in the first place. Just a case of Alpha fvcks, Beta Bucks. She was looking for a comfortable life for herself and her child and you were the perfect "provider" candidate. Every female moniker that commented on this thread prior knew this fact.

Also, because she took your virginity you were in a haste to marry her?

There were too many red flags to ignore. First of which you guys live in different cities. Secondly she was rushing you to the registry.

As a side note my man, never get married in the registry. You have a whole lot to lose.

And for crying out loud, Can you just stop having unprotected sex? What is wrong with you guys? Fathering someone else's child is the least you should worry about. I've seen the look of regret on the faces of several young and comfortable guys like you when a positive HIV result was handed to them.

Mr. lover man, I hope she's now an ex? The fact that she's cheating on you, lied about ending things, gave your money to her true love (father of the child) is unforgivable. Not to mention attempting to pass another man's child to you and force you to marry her.

Thank you, Aquariann. Yes, she is now an ex. But I won't be throwing her out immediately as she is heavy. After she got pregnant, we started living together so that I could take care of her, but that will change soon.

becca2011:


Calm down and don't conclude yet. My 2 pregnancies, hubby didn't release inside me, we practiced withdrawal method and I still got pregnant. So don't conclude you ain't the father yet. How did you even come to the conclusion sef, best bet is to undergo DNA when d child comes, even though they say DNA ain't cheap

Yeah. Even if I am sure (or she changes tune, claiming it’s no longer mine), I would conduct a DNA test once the child is born, especially when there is a chance it could be mine. Because if it turns out to be mine, it’s my blood, and I need to raise her right.
The only thing that would not be going on now is the marriage. I can’t marry her.

I just dodged a fast one.
I have approached her with the facts you guys provided me with. And as it turns out, she saw her “ex,” so to say, who is an undergraduate (she even sent him money recently, my money), in January too, before and after she visited me. Right now, she claims she is unsure about who the father of the unborn child is, but I am confident I am not the father. I have canceled the marriage and would inform my family.
I guess it’s all just a lesson.
Thank you all so much — Cc: Mindfulness, prognose, zed7, sisisioge, Katier00, becca2011, appsdope, kimbraa, eyinjuege, Holocene.

@dyt
You are obviously biased.
So, according to you, a woman discussing her menses (whether it flowed or not) with another man, especially when their message’s history clearly depicted that there had been an affair between them, shouldn’t justify their partner’s suspicions? Or you missed the part where I said the messages were “questionable”? You never bothered to ask what “questionable” really meant. Also, you needn’t generalize, could have waited (or asked) for specifics or draw conclusions based solely on the information at your disposal.
I stated earlier that it was rationalized. The woman’s basis was that the affair with the man had ended prior to meeting me, which is now false.

Loisemm:
Hmm. Tough one.
For me, it depends on the kind of woman you are dating. Is she loose. Is she a faithful kind of woman.
Your answers should help you decide whether to marry now or wait and see.

Well, what prompted me into asking questions after this long while, having considered her faithful and accepted the pregnancy without ever questioning if it was mine, is because, I borrowed her phone recently and stumbled upon some questionable messages, dated early February. My suspicion was more aroused by one message in which she was discussing her period with another man. She has somehow rationalized them. Still, I have doubts, and she doesn’t know I do.

Cc: prognose, zed7, sisisioge, Katier00, becca2011, appsdope, kimbraa, eyinjuege.

Thanks for your inputs -- eyinjuege, Mindfulness, kimbraa, appsdope.

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I have another question, posed to everyone: Upon conception, how soon does a woman display pregnancy signs, such as sensitive nipples, enlarging breast mass, and possibly changes in appetite?
Cc: becca2011, chii8, Prognose.

kimbraa:
Op should take responsibility for his action and quit making up excuses. The best way to clear his doubt is to wait and get a DNA as we cannot tell if it's his child or not based on when or when not they had sex.

Thanks for your input, Kimbraa. And just for the records, I never shied away from responsibilities or rejected the pregnancy. Nor did I “make up excuses” up there.
If you comprehended my post, you should appreciate that I have been supportive. I mean, having been “supportive” for over twenty weeks, it’s discernible that I might have had some revelations recently that instigated my doubts about the paternity.

becca2011:
Am a mother. Once you have sex immediately after menses u can conceive. My last baby was conceived like that. Finished my period on Thursday, had sex on Friday and conceived. Btw one can even get pregnant when seeing her menses. What am trying to say is if u have sex with a woman when she's seeing blood and u release inside, she can become pregnant.

All right. Thanks, Becca.

chii8:
Don't know for others ooo but for me when I got pregnant for my first child, I finished menses on a particular day,met Oga that same day...viola, belle enter.

Hmmm. Thanks.

Prognose:


Chances are that you're not the dad.

Her period ended on 14th. Usually females have a 3-5 day cycle. Let's say 5 days since it is more common. Means she started menses on 9th. Fertile 21-25th. U didn't see her on 20th to 26th.

Ain't your baby bro.

You are right: we live in different cities and didn’t see from 16-27th January (precisely).
Thanks, Prognose.

ifyalways:
You havent heard of prenatal dna test @ OP :

I have. I do not want to arouse suspicions yet. This is a delicate time for her, so requesting such without basis could break her. Just need to know if there is a chance beforehand, and I want deductions based on the statistics in my initial post.
Besides, postnatal DNA testing can be conducted without both parents’ consent as opposed to prenatal, which needs samples from the mother.

thorpido:
Chances are that you could be the father.

From the figures you quoted,the chances that you could be the father is slim.However,having unprotected sex with a lady makes you the potential father of her unborn child.
Nevertheless in medicine,some things are not set in stone because you could actually have things happening outside 'normal values'.

The only way to confirm if the child is yours is by a DNA test or if you got strong genes like me,a look.n.a.

I wouldn't say you should marry her just because of the pregnancy if your heart isn't right with it.You could wait till after the child is born.

Thanks, Thorpido.

Acidosis:

Let her have the baby before you tie the knot. A child shouldn't be the main reason for desiring marriage. Marriage is between two people - you & your spouse. You need to see that reason in your spouse, not the unborn baby.

Thanks for your input, Acidosis. I get your drift. Besides getting married, I want to know the chances of me fathering the unborn child. I’d love to settle down with her sometime, albeit not just right now. And if I am not the father, that puts a spin on things.

On a scale of one to ten (ten being most likely), what are the chances of me being the father?

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To start with, I am unfamiliar with the female biology.

She has a 28-day cycle. Her last period ended on 14th January — to the best of my knowledge.
We had sex on the 15th January (my first time, but the umpteenth time for her — not complaining). Then, we had intercourse again on the 28th and 29th of January.

From the 5-9th February, she continuously hinted that she might be pregnant having noticed changes in her body. Afterward, she confirmed she is pregnant on 11th February.

Today, according to scans, she is roughly 23 weeks pregnant, and I have been supporting her. However, she doesn’t want to give birth outside of wedlock, so we intend to go to a marriage registry soon.

Now, the only reason I’d walk her down the aisle is the baby (not that I don't want to marry her or that I do not love her, not just ready for marriage yet). I want her (the unborn child) to be born in a functioning family, not a baby-mama context. Nonetheless, I am worried the baby might not be mine. Obviously, we can conduct a DNA test once the child is born, but it would be too late if the child turned out to be someone else’s. Worst, I’d be a divorcé at a tender age. I am not up to 30, but I am very comfortable.


I need fertility experts, women, doctors to please tell me what they think.

Based on the timeline of her cycle, period, pregnancy signs, our sexual relations and such, what are the chances that I am the father?


MODIFIED:
Don't get me wrong, I am not looking for irrefutably decisive conclusions, just prospects, likelihood.

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Thanks to everyone who contributed. The matter has now been resolved.

But you guys dissing Ibadan seriously need to pay a visit to the historical city.
My first time in Ibadn was 2011, and normally I expected to be greeted by an outstretch of brown roofs and underdeveloped suburbs but I was stunned, Ibadan is a beautiful city, although it has it bad sides, but it also have its developed places, Ibadan is developing at at fast pace.
And you guys really need to acknowledge the fact that Ibadan is really a large city, so there are two sides to this unique city, depends on where you wanna base your conclusions from, but for me, it's perfect.
Just stop judging the city by having just the ugly sides under scrutiny, even NY, JB, SD has its own slums

Oga Alabi, are you saying the 1k I got must be used at once? I can't usee 500 per slip in two places?
Also if I have money in my account before and placed a bet, would it be deducted from the bonus or main balance.

Julius2214:

You don't have to start again. Just check for your mistake and correct it

I would have to start from the beginning of your guide to correct my mistake, but I can't since the domain name has been registered with the blog.

Julius2214:

I don't know where u missed it. Let me just summarize the settings.

1. Create a sub-domain. The sub-domain would be "www" without the quote of course.

2. On the sub-domain overview, edit the DNS settings, choose c-name and enter "www.gistboxblog.com.ghs.googlehosted.com" in the textbox labeled "alias" and click save

3. Create another sub-domain with the token you from your blogger dashboard as seen in the screenshot below. Use the short one.


4. On the sub-domain overview, edit the DNS settings, choose c-name and enter the other long token in the textbox labeled "alias" and click save.

It should start working now if you followed it correctly.

Retrace your steps to see where you missed it.

Thanks a lot, but here is the problem, how do I get another token when the domain has already been registered with the blog?, if I try starting over, it won't give me a new alias since it has bn registered with the blog before.
And also I never created a new sub domain, I just registered from inside blogger and it directed me to 1and1.com to register with the domain

Julius2214:

That means there's something you missed when setting it up on 1and1.com dashboard

Could u point me in the right direction?

Julius2214:

All you just have to do is redirect it from your blogger dashboard.
On the domain setting page, click to edit the domain and tick the check box that says 'redirect to www'.
Then save it.
Check the screenshot below

Thanks for the response but I have done that, but still nothing changed

Good evening guys, i have a blog with blogger.com, and i later bought a custom domain name from 1and1.com, but i have since hit quite a brick wall, i successfully mapped my blog with the custom domain name, but here is the problem, people cant access my blog without the www.
For example if you gotto www.gistboxblog.com , you would be directed to the blog, but if you use gistboxblog.com , you would be redirected somewhere else, you can see for yourself by checking those links..
Please i need help correcting this, help