na2day?:

as short as u are u get mouth dey yan opata!

lol, that's average not short. but u see that's why i have to aim higher, i've got to plan for my kids.

na2day?:

how short are u?

just under 5'7"

sofa-dj:

5 yrs?To me, age is a big deal, me cant marry a lady unless she's 12 yrs younger.i know what i want , u know urs?

12 years?!?! please tell me you don't have a gf yet, that'd be serious child abuse!

it's compulsory for me. i find it quite embarrassing when a guy who's much shorter than me is hitting on me in public.

Chi_Chi77:

No, don't ask them out, when u have a friendly conversation with them,  gear it towards food, tell them u can make this dish or that dish and before u know it they want to eat what you can cook, then tell them "I will make it next on so so time and  on so so day, stop by".

They can be predictable 

lol, yes. they can be so predictable  nice idea, btw.

talk to myself, dance, sing,,,,, talk to myself

compunction

s.hag

Bikini

Water

greenday

slam

how responsible a person turns out to be isn't about which parent is present or absent. like VPersie said, it's what is done in the presence or absence. some people think that single parents wouldn't have time to make and enforce rules, but that's not true. besides, there are kids from 2-parent families who are experts in getting around their parents' rules. and there are kids from single-parent homes who are very disciplined.

Abekeade08:

Well farouk muttalab just knocked this argument out of the park. We saw the result of absentee parents in his life, which has affected not only himself but Nigeria as a nation.

The reason why Nigerians are usually well rounded people is because of the strong foundation of family/home in our culture.

i don't know how you know muttalab's parents were absent during his childhood. if you say that because of the nature of his father's job, think of all the workers (especially bankers) in lagos who are never really at home on weekdays. many of them have raised successful children. muttalab was an adult when he chose to go into terrorism, he did it because of strong religious conviction and not his father's absence during his childhood. there are really successful people who grew up without any paternal influence e.g. Dr. Ben Carson.

Spanishfly:

I've met a lot of guys, the good, bad and ugly. There are about 3 of them that happen to be good, behavior and all but it happens I'm not interested in their deep commitment. I sometimes wonder, by me not being ready or interested in them, how do I know that one of them is who God sent to me or is it a crime I don't want any of them or interested?

P.S. I'm still a very young lady.

you're not alone, many girls find themselves truly uninterested when good guys come around. i guess that's just how life works. sometimes you just know that you're not ready or interested in something that looks good and everyone around thinks you're being silly. don't worry if God sent one he can send more, or better still make you feel interested in the guy. besides there's no one Mr. Right.

Ujujoan:


I always believe that when meeting the 'right person' comes with a certainty that only the PERFECT guy for you can bring. Do not force yourself to like anybody. If it's not working, don't regeret it. When the right man comes along, trust me, you'll be ready to ANYTHING to keep him!

i agree!

whitelexi:

I've already chased too many potentially "right ones" away cos of the sins of the few potentially "wrong ones", or so i think. . .  but now i wonder if i'm the "wrong one" or whether they just came along at the "wrong times", only time will tell if i'm right or if i'm wrong but i dont make excuses for my actions and i know there's nothing i would do differently if given another chance, fate works in ways too complicated for us to understand all of the time, but fate can be manipulated with faith and thats the key!

i also wonder about the potentially right guys i've chased away. while there's a possibility that i was the wrong one, i'd rather think that they came along at the wrong time. sometimes one just isn't ready for a relationship and i can't help it if a good guy comes along at that time.

na2day?:

u are in luck, i have some from last year sale still in my shop, what size do u want?

Bheey:

The truth is that the 2nd guy really loves the lady and very caring too.
The most amazing thing here that I discovered is that if u don't really love some1 , its hard 2 force yourself loving dt same person.


No1 is painted black here , dts just how it is. The 1st guy has his behaviour too , dts just it. Infact, when d 1st guy came back, d lady was d one telling the 2nd guy about it dt she can never go back 2 him etc. Its just dt d response of d 2nd guy 2 d issue really scared her that she had 2 withdraw. To d extent that he lied and came 2 collect the spare of his house key from her sayg he misplaced his. Meanwhile, b4 then, if there is any little disagreement between them, he changes d house key so d lady is not allowed 2 come in, this he will revert if d issue dies down.

Yet, d lady still sticked 2 him , thinkg maybe with time, he can change and mayb she will love him 2 ,

But, wat I just noticed is dt d 2nd guy is an excessively jealous guy , cannot just stand 2 c any guy near d lady , 2 d extent dt he asked her 2 remove all male pictures on her phone , and wen she did not, all hell broke loose (dt was b4 now) , and she had 2 do dt , I don't just know , its a complicated issue ,

in other words, you want to go back to the first guy; you don't love (and have never loved) the second one but feel bound to him because of his generosity. doesn't sound so complicated to me, because you know what you want. just do it. you'll feel guilty at first but the love you'll be enjoying with the first guy would overshadow the guilt over ditching the second one eventually.

an important lesson to avoid this 'dilemna' in the future is to be honest with guys about what you feel for them, and to stop accepting favours from guys you don't love.

iice:

Some of the ones present have no impact so it's not that relevant.
People just like to believe that 'presence' and only that counts for something major

iice:

What use is the presence if nothing really comes out of it? Or worse, only the worse comes out of it?
On the contrary. . .the effect of absence is not 'best' imagined.  There are those with absent fathers and it's not so minuscule a number. There are too many absent even when present

iice:

I know quite a few people, both male and females who would rather have not had their dads or even moms at home.

i couldn't have said it better.

congratulations to anita and her husband.

i don't know why people are full of negative comments on a thread announcing the birth of a baby. jealousy, maybe. what's the big deal about a nigerian woman getting married to a white man and giving birth to a 'white-looking' kid?

Sunny_bobo:

It's unbecoming of a Southern Nigerian to marry a man with kids as old as herself.

All for money

it is? what about all the university students dating and, marrying, sugar daddies? the guy doesn't even look as old/ugly as majority of the ugly-looking sugar daddies nigerian girls date. besides, going by many posts on nairaland it would seem nigerian girls marry for money anyway.

platinumnk:


So Im confused, did he do wrong because he didnt pay his tithe , or does it really matter that you are giving to a church?

no, he didn't do wrong. in fact, he was right for obeying the Holy Spirit's leading. as long as he gave it to God in his heart it is a tithe, doesn't have to be given to a pastor or to the church to be classified as a tithe.

platinumnk:

So what about the verse where it says "Give to Ceasor what belongs to Ceasor" ?

christians should pay their bills and taxes.

@ poster,

you can watch church services online while you are at home on sunday mornings. you can join christian forums, or discussion groups or even fellowships. if you can't find any you can start one, and maybe maintain a casual dress code,

Knight1:

Though I'm not a member, a church i can be 80% sure is living that may be around you ( since u ddnt state your location) is Deeper Life.
Watching movies while u supposed to be in church is VERY dangerous. 

Be Blessed

why?

Wrex:

Don't generalise ooo.Which kain spiritual parents.You might have spiritual parents but in ma own case,i don't, Say me well to your spiritual parents,okay

i don't have either


@ topic,
i think it's great to give but i'd rather give to the needy than to a pastor, because i won't want my money going towards equipments and buildings when people are suffering. but i guess everyone has to do 'as the spirit leads'.

it's also good to honour God with your first salary but i don't think one has to give the entire salary.

sexxxxy:

The lady ,the lady,the lady, hmmmmm,

U know the answer to that question,U ve painted your ex in a good light n the one u dont like in a bad one,so it's obvious what U r goin to do.

follow your heart ,do what makes U happy, ,even if U decide to stick with the money miss road guy, U r still goin to cheat on him with your ex, go wit the one U love and bear the consequences ,

EXACTLY!

anyone can be romantic and trustworthy, regardless of their profession. your friend knew the guy was a doctor before she started seeing him so what's she unhappy about. doctors live very busy lives and spend more time at their jobs than elsewhere. if she loves him she should love his profession also.


btw, isn't it unethical for a doctor to date a patient?

Ebonyeyes:

Are you sure you dont want her for some sick "get rich quick" scheme? Thats what the thread title sounds like . While you are thinking of sleeping-with anything that breathes, your fiance is probably doing the same

that's what i thought when i saw the topic

i LOVE spongebob squarepants too! spongebob is my favourite cartoon character

angel tee:

hmmm, the first question to you is this, did u break up with your ex before u left? if yes u don't hv to go back. and ask urself dis question why did she break up with her boyfriend? well i'll just advice u to be carefull.

that's very important too.

there's a case to be made for/against each of them. you have to decide who you love the most, i guess. try to decide soon, but don't choose based just on who's around you. if you're choosing the one in nigeria, you should let the one in london know on time so she can modify her plans. when she comes you'll feel responsible for her return and you might find yourself in a more difficult situation.

0hsisi:

Your wife to be is probably in SS2 right now

martinosi:

A Big Elephant is in the room releasing mess in der room and we act like its not there!
thats some nigerian girls and  a greater reflection of nigerian society for you!!!
Poverty and destituteness cannot be hidden only denied!!!!

what about the ones that are neither poor nor destitute?


it seems you think any girl born & raised in nigeria has a self-esteem problem. that's so untrue! some girls with low self esteem would have the same problem even if they had been born & raised elsewhere.

i would say, if you plan to go back to your fiance confess. if you plan to stick to the new guy don't. no need keeping lies and secrets in the relationship. it would probably come out someday and then you won't be prepared for the consequences.

Sisi_Kill:

That or he's from Niger Republic

Niger?!?!