Hiya everyone,

My name is danny and I have just returned from the UK after 5 years.
I have a girlfriend over there but my ex is wanting to come back.
The truth is that she is now hotter and more matured than she was
when I left 5 years ago and am kinda begining to fall for her again,

If it were u wat wud u do?

Have you come to stay permanently in Nigeria and how old are you?
I'll give my advice after you answer

^^^

gbam

Hiya,
I have come to stay parmanently though I would always go on holidays,
I am turning 26 in feb,

nixyno:

Hiya,
I have come to stay parmanently though I would always go on holidays,
I am turning 26 in feb,

Long distance relationships hardly ever work out anyway so before long your "british" chic go find somebody else to replace you
That is just the way it goes and you'll move on to other relationships too.
By Nigerian standards,I don't think you'll be getting married anytime soon (Most Nigerian men get marriage at an average age of 34) so the chances of anything permanent with both girls are very slim anyway.
This ex of yours will most likely marry before you,I'm assuming she's about your age.
She's probably ready to settle now while you're not.

In reality you have not much chance of anything permanent with both ladies
Your wife to be is probably in SS2 right now

Having said all that, forget the London chic.

Lol,
what you have said is actually right,
I actually do intend to get married and settle b4 my 30s though.
I have a good business going on and think I need a lady around.
My chic in London is Nigerian and she is rounding up her studies
by june. She intends to move back to Nigeria as well cus of me. She
doesnt seem like one of those girls that finds anoda when one is away.
She is pretty down to earth, but my ex, we dated for seven years b4
I left. Like you said about the marriage thing, we have been chattin abt
it and we both know our family background so well. Her parents know me
so much and have already accepted me as a part of the family,

Its confusing but like u said, the right one could actually be in ss2, lol

nixyno:

Lol,
what you have said is actually right,
I actually do intend to get married and settle b4 my 30s though.
I have a good business going on and think I need a lady around.
My chic in London is Nigerian and she is rounding up her studies
by june. She intends to move back to Nigeria as well cus of me. She
doesnt seem like one of those girls that finds anoda when one is away.
She is pretty down to earth, but my ex, we dated for seven years b4
I left. Like you said about the marriage thing, we have been chattin abt
it and we both know our family background so well. Her parents know me
so much and have already accepted me as a part of the family,

Its confusing but like u said, the right one could actually be in ss2, lol

The parents of the ex or the parents of the one in London

The parents of my ex,

Nna men this your case dey complicated o
marry both women now
you get moni abi ?

_kidding

lol,
I wish i could sha, i just cant
its really complicated dats y i came on here to at least
see peoples different opinions.

there's a case to be made for/against each of them. you have to decide who you love the most, i guess. try to decide soon, but don't choose based just on who's around you. if you're choosing the one in nigeria, you should let the one in london know on time so she can modify her plans. when she comes you'll feel responsible for her return and you might find yourself in a more difficult situation.

0hsisi:

Your wife to be is probably in SS2 right now

yeah, true say
I really love the one in London though, its just so confusing
The problem is that they are both wify materials and r down to earth.
If one was maybe faulty in terms of personality, it wud have been really
easy, but trust me its harder for me to decide than u can imagin,

Maybe some very nuetral lady wud cum my way and just change everything,
its really a hard one cus i dont double date and i dont wana break any heart

0hsisi:

Your wife to be is probably in SS2 right now

Death

in that case, don't get overly familiar with ur ex just yet, figure out your situation, end things with the london one of that's what u end up deciding to do b4 u get serious with ur ex.
u might think you're just talking but ex has a whole diff plan

TOPE2000!:

Death

It's true na
she hasn't even taken WAEC

nixyno:

yeah, true say
I really love the one in London though, its just so confusing
The problem is that they are both wify materials and r down to earth.
If one was maybe faulty in terms of personality, it wud have been really
easy, but trust me its harder for me to decide than u can imagin,

Maybe some very nuetral lady wud come my way and just change everything,
its really a hard one cus i dont double date and i dont wana break any heart

Maybe you will have to ask your gf for time out (she may be very cross) .

Sometimes we look back and say what if, so if you are on a break you can see your ex with a clear conscience.

nixyno:

lol,
I wish i could sha, i just cant
its really complicated dats y i came on here to at least
see peoples different opinions.

You said the one in London will finish her studies in June?
O gbono feli feli!
My brother June is just around the corner,you need to make up your mind before you end up with 2 women at your doorstep

wow,

I guess i have to really make up my mind on this one,
the presence of my ex around me is irresistable and its
a hard one.
But tell me, when i left naija, i didnt communicate with
her for the five years and now she claims to have left the
guy she is dating cus of me, does dat sound reasonable?

Stranger things have happend.

nixyno:

wow,

I guess i have to really make up my mind on this one,
the presence of my ex around me is irresistable and its
a hard one.
But tell me, when i left naija, i didnt communicate with
her for the five years and now she claims to have left the
guy she is dating cus of me, does dat sound reasonable?

With the more details I now know I would say that you need to be very careful about that ex
Some girls can be opportunists
You broke up with her in Nigeria before you travelled
suddenly you return,apparently doing well and she's suddenly all over you
Hmm!
You should be very careful
she may still be seeing her boyfriend
Either you or the boyfriend may be a back up
women do that  and yes I'm a woman
some women like to keep someone in the background/down low in case one doesn't materialize so we don't end up empty handed like Aaron
From what I know now, the London chic seems to be a keeper

yeah, nice one
i felt so as well, but i didnt breakup with her b4 going dats the problem.
I just decided to keep away from her cus of the distance and i think it was
cus i was younger then,
She tries to make me understand that its all my fault i didnt communicate
and dat she knew i was gona cum back some day. She said the only thing
dat wud have totally seperated us was if i came back with a wife and child

It's obvious you have deep sincere feelings for both women.
Tough situation
Speak to your dad  (or any older male figure you respect),man to man
He may help
You just can't string 2 women along both of thinking they are the one

The biggest mistake you made was not telling this ex when you met her that you had a relationship that you were serious with and that you were unavailable.
That was unfair to the girlfriend and that is the root of your predicament
You gave the ex the impression that you were back and available
I am assuming that you folks have taken things further than just talking,perhaps the relationship has become intimate (You know what I mean)
You need to be sincere to yourself and let one of these ladies go

i think you should stick with the one in London, because she is not looking to leave naija for another country, and the fact that you came back from the UK is appealing to the naija one cuz she believes one day you would take her back to the UK, where she would shine her eyes after she gets her papers, dump you and make ur life a living hell. trust me naija parents would want their daughters attached to a man who has access to another country.

I think what you feel for ur ex in naija is just attraction/lust men feel and end up cheating on their partner.
but hey its ur life do wat you want.

hmmm, the first question to you is this, did u break up with ur ex before u left? if yes u don't hv to go back. and ask urself dis question why did she break up with her boyfriend? well i'll just advice u to be carefull.

nixyno:

The truth is that she is now hotter and more matured than she was
when I left 5 years ago and am kinda begining to fall for her again,

nixyno:

I am turning 26 in feb,

nixyno:

Lol,
what you have said is actually right,
I actually do intend to get married and settle b4 my 30s though.
I have a good business going on and think I need a lady around.
My chic in London is Nigerian and she is rounding up her studies
by june. She intends to move back to Nigeria as well cus of me. She
doesnt seem like one of those girls that finds anoda when one is away.
She is pretty down to earth, but my ex, [size=15pt]we dated for seven years b4
I left.[/size] Like you said about the marriage thing, we have been chattin abt
it and we both know our family background so well. Her parents know me
so much and have already accepted me as a part of the family,

Its confusing but like u said, the right one could actually be in ss2, lol

The problem you have is that you started going out with your ex when u don't know the right from the left. @ 14, she probabily your first love. sometimes is difficult to part with the first love, but remember, so many waters has passed under the bridge in the last five years. all you just need to do is forget about ur ex (she has probably move from where you left her) and face the one that will round up in June.

angel tee:

hmmm, the first question to you is this, did u break up with your ex before u left? if yes u don't hv to go back. and ask urself dis question why did she break up with her boyfriend? well i'll just advice u to be carefull.

that's very important too.

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Hiya all of ya,
Thank u so much for your comments, I havent been chanced to come online since
dats y i havent responed to ur messages.
I do understand how important it is to be careful on this one so I have decided to
actually stay with my GF in london,
Well i appreciate all ur assistance,
Thank u,
My number is 07052217942, u guys can still keep in touch with me on phone ok,
Thk u

@poster

r u looking for GF number 3?

we dont nd ur number okay

some people harsh

Am not looking for GF numba 3 ok,
sometimes pple get to meet pple and communicate with pple and
I dont see any big deal with dat,
Friends is all i need not any other GF,
I dont have much friends around in naija anymore so i felt i cud make
some here as well,
Am sorry if i did dat wrongly,

Am not looking for GF numba 3 ok,
sometimes pple get to meet pple and communicate with pple and
I dont see any big deal with dat,
Friends is all i need not any other GF,
I dont have much friends around in naija anymore so i felt i cud make
some here as well,
Am sorry if i did dat wrongly,