My long time girl friend and i eventually got married on the 21st of this month. To be candid,that day was d happiest day of my life. But the happiness was converted to a state of acrimony and topsy-turvy when we balanced the equation that night and i discovered she was not a virgin. I courted her for almost 3 years and i did not have any form of sexual activity with her because she told me dat she was a virgin. I believed her because i thought she was telling me the truth. What infuriated me the most was the simple sorry she said to me after i discovered her real state. Pls i need u guys advise cos i'm confused....thanks in anticipation

Another nollywood movie??

Lordmayorz: My long time girl friend and i eventually got married on the 21st of this month. To be candid,that day was d happiest day of my life. But the happiness was converted to a state of acrimony and topsy-turvy when we balanced the equation that night and i discovered she was not a virgin. I courted her for almost 3 years and i did not have any form of sexual activity with her because she told me dat she was a virgin. I believed her because i thought she was telling me the truth. What infuriated me the most was the simple sorry she said to me after i discovered her real state. Pls i need u guys advise cos i'm confused....thanks in anticipation

the devil is the father of lies and the op is the devils son...so integrate this equation and apply to this story between the limits of lies and impossible.......fuckng liar

Remember ur marital vows before the Almighty "For better for worst..." She erred but just forgive. I wish u a happy home with God's unending blessings.

I can never trust her again!

Happy married life

Maybe she said that to you to avoid any sexual relationship with you during courtship. There's something called secondary virginity you know. Like you have sex before and then realize your sin repent and decide to zip up until you're married. Maybe that's what she did.

Well honestly she no try. She woulda told u the honest truth. That she wanted to wait until marriage before sex. But I guess she thought u wouldn't have wanted to wait.
And I'm sorry if u married her for virginity. Too bad for you. For better or worse.

Or if the virginity is so important to you. Divorce is an option. Let's say the marriage is null and void because the conditions under which you contracted the marriage are non-existent.


Virgin hunting things for you all over again. Accept my sympathy.

**clear throat** abeg, brb

Are you a virgin? I can never & would never marry a virgin. . . . She lied accepted, but in a good way thereby keeping off pre marital sex

Lordmayorz: My long time girl friend and i eventually got married on the 21st of this month. To be candid,that day was d happiest day of my life. But the happiness was converted to a state of acrimony and topsy-turvy when we balanced the equation that night and i discovered she was not a virgin. I courted her for almost 3 years and i did not have any form of sexual activity with her because she told me dat she was a virgin. I believed her because i thought she was telling me the truth. What infuriated me the most was the simple sorry she said to me after i discovered her real state. Pls i need u guys advise cos i'm confused....thanks in anticipation

You got played Bro! Reminds me of a babe that was always sermonizing my friend with her virginity. The day it happened, the babe couldn't believe how she yielded. She was like how come I didn't feel any pains and no blood? How did you do it? The guy answered and said“Na God o” classic.

Tnks bro

That is ladies for you oo....remember your wows but take extreme caution when it comes to trusting her with anything like money etc but above all forgive her and get on...remeber the lord's prayer: FOrGIVE US AS WE FORGIVE THOSE WHO TRESSPAS AGAINST US

Cheers bro

lorretta u: Happy married life

Maybe she said that to you to avoid any sexual relationship with you during courtship. There's something called secondary virginity you know. Like you have sex before and then realize your sin repent and decide to zip up until you're married. Maybe that's what she did.

Well honestly she no try. She woulda told u the honest truth. That she wanted to wait until marriage before sex. But I guess she thought u wouldn't have wanted to wait.
And I'm sorry if u married her for virginity. Too bad for you. For better or worse.

Or if the virginity is so important to you. Divorce is an option. Let's say the marriage is null and void because the conditions under which you contracted the marriage are non-existent.


Virgin hunting things for you all over again. Accept my sympathy.

But she should hav told me d truth in d first place

brb

Lordmayorz: But she should hav told me d truth in d first place

How did you find out?

How can u believ a lady that told u she is a virgin for 3yrs without confirming it...

"SEEING IS BELIEVING"

Smh...some guys sef ehh...!!

Which one be secondary virginity again bikonu Lorretta. There is no justification for what she did, absolutely none.

Op, I suggest you still carry on cos now you know, she owes you and will do anything to prove her loyalty to you.

You have a great weapon for a lasting loyalty, you just have to use it well; don't abuse it.

take heart bros

How did u knw she is not a Virgin?? Sometimes blood doesn't come out

Eyaaaaa

You shoulda known that most Naija girls are not to be trusted about this virginity thing.

Guys, u better learn from this...dont believe that shitty chorus them ladies sing "i'm a virgin".

@OP, i know how it feels like when a lady plays with ya intelligence...Juss learn to trust her even though it gon be tough. Brace ya self, bro.

I dont why some1 shd lie abt smthing like this.If a man walks away becos i'm not a virgin let him go after not all men love virgins and being a virgin doesnt make one a wife material.It's better for me to tell the truth and let him walk away than lie and get married and be resented for life.

DankemzI: Are you a virgin? I can never & would never marry a virgin. . . . She lied accepted, but in a good way thereby keeping off pre marital sex

There's no wrong way to do a good thing

Neither is there a good way to do something bad.

another good advantage of pre-marital sex... guys shine ya eyes and notin stop u from checkin it out befo marriage if u dont want to do pre marital nyanshing

OP, u are really a first class Okpetu....(sorry). U just got played

I am very sure there are still alot of things u do not know about her, like the kinda lifestyle she was livin even while with u (she could have a guy nackin her, why claimin u are 'for keeps' a.k.a the husband material),

And hope she didn't come into ur house with another man's child (as in few weeks old pregnancy)?

That kinda lady can keep secrets forever, u just gat to be careful.

I am against divorce, but bro she messedd up big time, but u just have to forgive her and live with it bro.

Damnnn!!! That is messed up... Kill Her!

Popowaa: I dont why some1 shd lie abt smthing like this.If a man walks away becos i'm not a virgin let him go after not all men love virgins and being a virgin doesnt make one a wife material.It's better for me to tell the truth and let him walk away than lie and get married and be resented for life.

exactly. Why people place so much premium on virginity is beyond me.

Lordmayorz: But she should hav told me d truth in d first place

yes of course she should have.

Tyche: Which one be secondary virginity again bikonu Lorretta. There is no justification for what she did, absolutely none.

you've not heard of secondary virginity? Welcome to the world
Anyway I am not justifying what she did at all. That's a huge lie to tell someone u wanna marry. Like I said if he can't live with it, divorce isn't so horrible. To me it's better than living in resentment and loathing for the rest of their lives. If he still loves her,FINE
If he doesn't? Why go on into a marriage that he'll probably have to blackmail and humiliate her into obedience/submission/subservience with that constant reminder?
Or a marriage that he'll feel cheated as long as it lasts?

Divorce her or kill her, then look for a real virgin!

if na me, she's leaving d next day. I can't take that. Played me for 3 good years. Pack ur load, waka.

broda u na virgin? she said dat cos she doesnt want 2 loose u,na virgin b lyf,jst dey do ur tyn smal smal.