lorretta u: Happy married life

Maybe she said that to you to avoid any sexual relationship with you during courtship. There's something called secondary virginity you know. Like you have sex before and then realize your sin repent and decide to zip up until you're married. Maybe that's what she did.

Well honestly she no try. She woulda told u the honest truth. That she wanted to wait until marriage before sex. But I guess she thought u wouldn't have wanted to wait.
And I'm sorry if u married her for virginity. Too bad for you. For better or worse.

Or if the virginity is so important to you. Divorce is an option. Let's say the marriage is null and void because the conditions under which you contracted the marriage are non-existent.


Virgin hunting things for you all over again. Accept my sympathy.

Popowaa: I dont see virginity as crucial when love is involve(although it has it's advantages)i see it as trivial,so if she can lie abt such a thing is she to be trusted?When she gets pregnant and she tells him does she expect him to believe he is the father without any doubt?
Somethings we hide from our partners when we start a relationship with the fear of loosing the person goes a long way to affect us.Open up and if he thinks it's too much and he cannt handle it let him walk away.Trust is very essential in every relationship and once you do something to destroy it,just walk away.

dasparrow:

She was wrong to have lied to you because a marital foundation built on lies cannot last. That said, are you a virgin? If you are not, then find it in your heart to forgive her no matter how difficult that may be. Secondly, if she had not told you she is a virgin, would you have gone ahead and fornicated with her for 3 years? I hope you know that God created sex for married folks only and not for people who are courting/dating? This is why so many people have lost interest in relationships because they have become so ungodly. People are hardly willing to date the Godly way nowadays without defiling their bodies. No one owes you any sex if you are not their legal spouse be the person a virgin or not.

dBard:

There is NO EXCUSE for her being a lying, unremorseful, manipulative bitch.
Whether or not d o.p was virgin hunting is immaterial
to d fact.
SHE LIED F 3 YEARS, n he had to find out on d marraige bed
Can u try to imagine wat that'll be like ?
Wouldnt d wisest tin 've bin t tell him n see if he truly loves her?
U do understand she, like d Biblical foolish woman, has just destroyed her marraige by her own hands.
Hope she remembers that wen she's doing d rounds @d prayer houses
Bullshit stinks

martha: Damnnn!!! That is messed up... Kill Her!

Ema prince: Haba loretta!...calling it celibacy is wiser than the secondary virginity thing which makes it seem as if you're trying hard to justify her condemnable act.

lrguru:


Ladies should learn from this. Never lie about ur virginity, u have sinned, and wht u need do is ask for GOD'S forgiveness, and do not hide it from ur future spouse, else u'll be damned (u are only fairly used and should go for half ur original price).

Ema prince:
The thruth is always bitter but like it or not..such woman can kill the man as well as getting pregnant for another man
Imagine she's been lieing to OP for 3yrs while some other dudes are banging her..what more can she not do
Don't be surprised that she may have sex with one of her boyfriends the day before the wedding

lorretta u: you sound like a mumu

What happened to the men who have slept with 50 girls before marriage? That means they are as useless as dirty rags. With no value at all Right?

Or you belong to the warped school of thought that a girl who sleeps with 3 guys is a hoe while the guy who sleeps with 10girls is da bomb.

IMO thay are the same
If being a non virgin makes the girl second hand,it makes the man second hand too

lrguru: OP, if u guys are lookin for child after some yrs (GOD forbid) and she eventually gets pregnant mysteriously, simply cos u or ur family members are of the opinion that she cant give u a child, i beg u to do a DNA to ascertain the paternity of the child, since the child could prolly be comin from another man, of if u cant do that, watch the child closely when its born, and i bet u will be so shocked.


OP, just tell her to confess every other thing she has not told u or has lied to u about, and she should promise that henceforth, no more lies. DO NOT DIVORCE HER. Its against GOD'S word


Ladies should learn from this. Never lie about ur virginity, u have sinned, and wht u need do is ask for GOD'S forgiveness, and do not hide it from ur future spouse, else u'll be damned (u are only fairly used and should go for half ur original price).

watered: Remember ur marital vows before the Almighty "For better for worst..." She erred but just f[color=#990000][/color]orgive. I wish u a happy home with God's unending blessings.

lorretta u: you sound like a mumu

What happened to the men who have slept with 50 girls before marriage? That means they are as useless as dirty rags. With no value at all Right?

Or you belong to the warped school of thought that a girl who sleeps with 3 guys is a hoe while the guy who sleeps with 10girls is da bomb.

IMO thay are the same
If being a non virgin makes the girl second hand,it makes the man second hand too

kundi90:

One thing you fail to understand is that, a man and a woman are two different beings. The thing is, when a woman chooses to useless herself as a man did, she tends to be more on the receiving end. Have you for one asked yourself why the woman carry more reponsibility than man? A promiscuous woman gets a loose vagi.na (even vagi.na tightener has its' limitations), while the man initial gets a fairly bigger dic.k, and later he suffers from erectile dysfunction. The woman is more prone to stds than the man, and she carries the burden of unwanted pregnancy. And do not forget the spiritual consequencies. Yes, I agree that both of them are both 'ashewos' and none should be celebrated, but don't compare or equate them.

Let me commend you for the initial posts you made.

lrguru:


chick, i never insulted u, and u dont have to quote me. I said been a non virgin only makes u fairly used, did i say for female only?

When next u want to use ur brain, use it wisely and dont asume its ur a.nus u use to drop off ur shittt

Lordmayorz: My long time girl friend and i eventually got married on the 21st of this month. To be candid,that day was d happiest day of my life. But the happiness was converted to a state of acrimony and topsy-turvy when we balanced the equation that night and i discovered she was not a virgin. I courted her for almost 3 years and i did not have any form of sexual activity with her because she told me dat she was a virgin. I believed her because i thought she was telling me the truth. What infuriated me the most was the simple sorry she said to me after i discovered her real state. Pls i need u guys advise cos i'm confused....thanks in anticipation

lorretta u: Happy new year to you tho

dasphinx1:



My question is what if she was fornicating with other guys durin the 3year courtship? The virginity thing gan sef has been overated joor.....not all virgins are angels and not all angels are virgins....

lorretta u: You mean you're a Second hand/fairly used dude
Lol.
You don't know how redundant you sound.
And yes you were refering to the ladies. Hence my attack on you. Deal with it

Cold faya: Y lie over such a small ish (to me) in d 1st place? I doubt if I can ever trust such psn again. Most guys just ask that virginity question when d girl insists on no sex. If u tell d truth and he doesn't want u cos of ur disvirgined status, den fine.

Remember; if u tell d truth, u don't fear and don't hv to remember what u said. But if u tell a lie inorder not to hurt someone, u end up hurting dem wen dey find out d truth; which in most cases is innevitable.

Chubhie: You got played Bro! Reminds me of a babe that was always sermonizing my friend with her virginity. The day it happened, the babe couldn't believe how she yielded. She was like how come I didn't feel any pains and no blood? How did you do it? The guy answered and said“Na God o” classic.

martha: Damnnn!!! That is messed up... Kill Her!