Pretty much,

Unfortunately, the points you brought up are all serious ones: His birth, His resurrection?? Oh boy! Nah-That is what Christianity is based on "FAITH" Faith is basically believing in something that you have not even seen. Remember what He told Thomas who did not believe?

I'm sure you have heard of the phrase "seeing is believing." Well my dear, For us Christians, the phrase is "Believing is seeing" We believe in what we cannot see. Because we believe His word is true. Besides, One cannot be Christian to start off with if they do not believe He rose from the dead. It is totally impossible-It is how you become a believer in the first place. You cannot pick and choose the gospel you like.

I suggest that you seek the Lord about these doubts because no matter what I tell you, you may not understand unless you had discernment. This discernment is something you cannot get without the Holy Spirit, The Holy Spirit is something you cannot get without Jesus Christ, Jesus Christ is something you cannot get if you cannot believe. Belief is something you cannot do if you have no faith. Without faith, you cannot please God. See, it's all connected. Jesus is however available to all that just "believe"

Now first things first, Rather than pose a matter as delicate and serious as this on a thread, seek God and let Him minister to you the only way He knows how. If you seek Him, I can promise you this: "You will find Him". He did it for me, I am no different from you. You are in my prayers and I wish you the best and cannot wait to welcome you to the family God.   
Agape!

Girls, We are too precious. Men are precious too. But I know that if any one of the sexes had the capacity to wait, it is the woman. But realise that alot of good men I know will wait for the girl.

Women (regardless of your race, spiritual belief, or age). Please close your legs. If you are no longer a virgin, it is not too late (as some other guy said) the sooner the better. Infact, I respect those of you who fit into this category because, it means that you have tasted what it is like and are willing to hold off now. I am sure this is a hard thing to do, that is why I commend you for your efforts. Afterall, it might be easier for the virgin (who does not know what she is missing, anyway) to continue to abstain.  I know some of you think I am harsh and unrealistic but I speak to majority of you women when I say that one day, you will desire to be married and even if it is not for the "virgin" experience, would you want to start blurting out names of other men in bed with your husband or even dare compare him to those men? I do not think so. Our men deserve respect also. Not "all" are dogs.

Do not let the "If you love me, you'll give it to me" excuse fool ya. He will not- I repeat, HE WILL NOT want you anymore very soon. There's always something new and more challenging. It is human nature for a man to hunt and expect challenge in life. It is not their fault-they were created that way by default. If you are easy, you are only good enough for "instant gratification." Surprisingly, I would respect a girl who had the guts to say she sleeps around for "her own" satisfaction, rather than "I thought he loved me" or "I did it to keep him." Sex before marriage is a way you (yourself) signs the end of your relationship. If you do not care or prefer not to marry in this lifetime, then please disregard all this. However, if you do, Know this: Love waits, It is patient.

Whenever someone rushes you to do something--that is a red flag, stop and reevaluate the situation. When I was about to buy my very first new car some years ago, the salesman was so much in a hurry for me to sign the contract. He actually got upset to see that I wanted to take the time to read the contract first. What do you think I did? Girls, if he does not have sex with you, he will not die. We love our men, but girls, they gotta wait.

Agape!

@ Iyawo-I hear you girl-I got that same response (regarding the ring) a few times-Until I was smart enough to come up with this one- ("according to my culture, rings are unacceptable")-I actually have a friend that can't wear a wedding ring due to religious reasons.

My # 1 choice response to: "You are fine" is: "Aww, thank you very much"
      and when he asks: " Can I call you some time?" I say: "No, I am sorry, I am married"
to which he says: "I just want to call you as a friend" and I respond, "Well, in that case, you will also need to meet my husband, bc we knew each other's friends and I would hate to keep you from him."

The whole time, I have a pretty smile--eventually, he gives up!

I used to say "I am engaged" until some men stopped respecting that, Hey, some even still persist when I say "I am married" (God, help some of our men)

Mind you: I am not married, Yet!  Until I am, I still and always belong to God,

The Unusual thing I have done for love is "To Love". Supposedly, the act of "loving someone" is not recognized, appreciated or even understood nowadays. Rather the loving person is viewed as having an ulterior motive. How sad. Thus, the answer to your question. This act is very unusual for several people who just do not know how to accept love, let alone give it back. You may ponder on that!

Agape!

Assumptions, Assumptions, Assumptions people!!! Enough with the assumptions.
I am a woman-I do not fit into your bracket--The word "some" could be useful in this case, would'nt it?
I agree with whoever said the truth is bitter. It does hurt but the pain is never long lasting. In the long run, the woman will appreciate it.

I personally can take the truth-I dish it out on the regular so I am woman enough to take it. I do not like to be deceived or led on by anyone. I have deep respect for a man who can tell me the truth, no matter the hurt it may cause me. The sting from a Vaccine shot stings the kid for the moment but in the long run, some of those shots save the kid's life.

Apape!

I agree with Keltin! Some others have made several good points as well. 

Now, I would hate to assume that everyone here is Christian ("believer" so I have a response for everyone-men and women alike (no bias) Choose where you fit in.

I counsel young women on the regular on this issue so I believe I have some expertise here. Hopefully, some of my girls as well as "your" little sisters can read all your replies to this thread since it is along the lines of my work with them.

Christian man (true converts-not fake) If you are a virgin, there is absolutely nothing wrong in having a preference for one. However, you must remember that you have died to yourself and gotta place your "wants" on the altar. God knows your heart's desire concerning marriage better than you do. Getting a virgin does not insure you the perfect family. Trust God, He has got you covered. Is it His will for you to be unequally yoked? No! (read the word). But it is just possible that the woman you get to marry is reformed. Some men cannot accept that this is good enough but in the eyes of God, it is. Afterall, when you gave you life over to Christ, He wiped all your sins away and you were made new. Well, so has the reformed woman in Christ. You must not pick and choose which part of scripture you want to obey. God cannot be mocked.

Non Christian Virgin man: If you want a virgin, my brother, go for it. I do not blame you. Everything I said above, really does not apply to you. We Christians are held to a higher and tougher standard. You deserve it brother,you stood the test of time, took all those insults from your so called "buddies" and not you have something special they cannot have again. Why buy the merchandise when you have been allowed full time use of it?

Non Christian-Non Virgin man: What gives you the right to mess with someone's daughter or sister for as long as you want only to discredit her for marriage? Do you realise that what goes around does come around? If you do not have a sister, daughter, cousin or niece of whom you care about, you still are not  free honey, Go ahead and marry your virgin (hopefully, she has sense enough to run all the necc medical tests before she marries you). You lay there on your wedding night-Feel good huh? Your trophy wife by your side-She actually thinks you are her hero for that night, maybe the next , or maybe a month. fast forward a month-you lay there, still feeling like "the man"- Her thoughts are not "your" thoughts bro. Rather, she is starting to wonder if this is "all" she waited for. "Just a thought;" but then again, that is how sin usually starts right? My brother, I am almost certain that such thoughts would not cross your mind ever again, afterall you have been there and done that right?

WOMEN (Christian): From one lady to another-KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED- I DO NOT BLAME THE MEN, I BLAME YOU! RESPECT YOURSELVES. YOU ARE NOT SAVING YOURSELF FOR SOME MAN. YOU ARE SAVING YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU BELONG TO CHRIST. YOU ARE HIS TEMPLE AND IN CASE YOU DO NOT KNOW, GOD IS NOT PRESENT IN THE ACT OF SEX INVOLVING 2 PEOPLE W/O COVENANT. THE ONLY PERSONS PRESENT IN THAT ROOM IS: YOU, YOUR BOBO, THE SPIRIT OF ALL THOSE (DEAD AND ALIVE) BOTH OF YOU HAVE EVER SLEPT WITH, AS WELL AS THE DEMONS-CHEERING YOU ON.
 
Non Christian women: like I told the Christian women, please Close your legs. Do not let the "If you love me, you'll give it to me" excuse fool ya. He will not- I repeat, HE WILL NOT want you anymore very soon. There's always something new and more challenging. It is human nature for a man to hunt and expect challenge. It is not their fault-they were created that way by default. If you are easy, you are only good enough for instant gratification. Surprisingly, I would respect a girl who had the gutts to say she sleeps around for "her own" satisfaction, rather than one who said, "I thought he loved me" or "I did it to keep him." Sex before marriage is a way you (yourself) signs the end of your relationship. Love waits, "Love is patient" Whenever someone rushes you to do something--that is a red flag, stop and reevaluate the situation. When I was about to buy my very first new car some years ago, the salesman was so much in a hurry for me to sign the contract. He actually got upset to see that I wanted to take the time to read the contract first. What do you think I did? If he does not have sex with you, he will not die. We love our men, but girls, they gotta wait.

Yes, I usually speak this way on this matter. I do not play! I have succeeded in getting several young women to say "no" to premarital sex. I usually get opposition from boys who think I am messing with their game. On the other hand, I am appreciated by the men who are ready to marry, Isn't that something?

This is just my view-Feel free to disagree!

Agape!

I agree with someone who said "choice"

There are just some people you wouldn't want to marry even if a gun was held to your head or if you were offered mega millions. Any one who would disagree with the latter is not ready for marriage. This is the kind that the clock begins to tick for the minute the vows are read.

One has just got to "know that they know that they know" before taking that step. Marriage is forever-You, your spouse and hopefully, God. Discernment, wisdom, obedience and ooooohh alot of patience (all from God) is key. So my brothers and sisters, these are good things to pray for now that you are single, also keep busy by improving yourself, education is always good, eating right and getting in shape is also very necessary-and ladies---one of these days, your mate will find his missing rib, "you"

Beware of men and women who attend church just to pick up a good girl/man. Know that the devil also attends church (regularly). If I had dollar each man that wanted to get with me in church, I would be ridiculousy rich. Is it that I am picky-noooo! discernment has thought me to pick out the sheep from the wolves, If you have not had a relationship with God prior to looking for a mate, get it right with Him first. The church is not a LovePeddler-house or a bar--Tell the Lord what you want and He will order your steps to the right girl/guy. And ladies and gentlemen, learn to discern who is in church just for fun. Avoid being unequally yoked-It may feel good from the start but you will reap a whole lot of mess in the future. (Save yourself the headache).

I cannot promise you that marriage is easy, (even with christians it is not) but at least, you have the upper hand with God by your side.

I do not recall you saying anything about the core functioning of the computer it self. I did recall you said "speakers." I do not believe you need this function to study for your exams (unless of course the study info reqd speakers). Case in point: The speakers of the lap top I am replying you from is defective, however, you are obviously able to read this reply. So my dear, I pray you can forgive your sis and move on. Maybe one of these days, the speaker will just start working-you never know with technology these days.

I Wish you God's favor on your exams 

It is sad. I happen to be a good looking girl. However, this has instantly disqualified my ability to cook in the eyes of many nigerian men (and women). They are surprised that not only can I cook, but I do it very very well (native as well as other dishes)

For me, I would say it is a gift because some women I speak to, look at me as if I am crazy when I say "every woman should know how to cook" or when I tell my American friends "cooking is easy", They think I have 2 heads.

I happen to be one of those kids (mommy and daddy's girl) who was kept out of the kitchen. I would actually be punished if I was found there. Therefore, whenever the househelp or a big sister allowed me, I would sneak in to watch. In my spare time, when other girls played with dolls or sand castles, or the game- "oga" I practiced cooking with tiny sticks and tin tomato cans, left over foods, etc in the backyard. I must say, at the age of nine, My food was Banging!!

Here I am--Still cooking my life away (because i hate junk food.) And my co workers cannot believe it.

Guys you know the sad part? Some girls come to me to get the food (i cooked) and present it to their male friends (shhh-a secret)-They get the praise for great cooking. Meanwhile the same male friends can never believe I can cook when I am introduced to them.

What do you think about that? Crazy huh?- I stopped caring though. God knows I can do all things and He is keeping that special man for me.

I want to make it clear as to exactly who my audience is before I proceed. This is for "born again" aka "saved" and "new creations in Christ" lest I offend anyone else outside this bracket! thank you for your attention:

I am an ibo girl and I am quite aware that the caste system exists in several other nations. I regularly pray for all this nonsense to come to an end. I came across a scripture last year. My Spirit was quickened by the Holy Ghost that this scripture can apply to this situation. Acts 10:15. This is a groundbreaking scripture for me concerning "osus". I suggest you read the entire chapter 10 to understand better. You may even personalize it as I have. "Cornelius is the born again "osu"man who has so pleased God by his ways and Peter, the disciple is sent by God to Cornelius' house as a result of a vision. Wow!! You may read it in your spare time. God basically tells Peter not to dare call anything unclean-that He (God) has already declared "clean".

This subject is very dear to me because a friend of the family is considered this. I use the word "considered" and not "is (in fact)" because as a Christian, I have no right to cast anyone out-so help me God. Is it not bad enough that "we" Christians are already viewed as such by others that are not in Christ? You all need to see the looks I get from some who can sense I am a believer. Do you think I care? Why then are we inflicting this same treatment on ourselves? In Christ, there is neither Jew nor Greek-He sees us all the same.

Now, there is a protection that is assured to the believer which can never apply to the unbeliever, so one may refer to other replies if you do not consider yourself a believer in Christ.

I have no problem with SOME "unsaved" people who have such views (against "osus" because they are still in the dark, but when a born again Christian has this view, it simply disgusts me. 

Now to those of you "Born again-Christ loving men and women, who for your entire life have been "considered" as osu and want to marry someone that is not "considered" this, this is for  following section is for you: "I am extremely disgusted by SOME of you (YOU KNOW YOURSELVES). I say this because:

1. How dare you even repeat what others call you? Is that what you are? people can call me a fool from morning to night but the minute "I" believe that I am a fool-I am finished. 2. How dare you question the word of God by seeking acceptance from ignorant people who should know better? 3. How dare you leave the man/woman the Lord has told you to marry because you are "afraid" it will not work due to your "so called" status? If God said it, it will work! PERIOD!! 4. How dare you anticipate your children will suffer in the long run? Is that what you want? Speak LIFE!!

My advice to you SO CALLED "OSU" Christians about to marry is this:

LEARN TO SPEAK LIFE OVER YOU, YOUR FUTURE SPOUSE AND YOUR FUTURE CHILDREN. LET GOD BE TRUE AND EVERY MAN, A LIAR. If your spouse's family choose to cut you off-Bless God! He knows what is best-After all Abraham and Joseph's success did not start at home. Keep trusting God and your Family will one day ask for forgiveness from you. Keep your hands clean, keep your mouth shut and guard your heart through the entire process. The power of the human mind is strong, that is where the devil plays, but when you dare let him into your heart-you are finished. Because when you start to believe the lies, fear will overtake you, then you will eventually speak damnation with your mouth-Then i can promise you this: "you are finished at this point."

Anger towards the accusers will do me no good. Rather in love, I speak to the victims of such hate with severity in my tone. I am not mad at you personally (I do love you) but I am mad at your response to this issue when the time comes for you to marry. Where is your confidence in Christ, huh?

Thank God for forums such as this-at least people can be informed. In the end, God will prevail. He always does!

In conclusion, I am sure most of you have heard of the scripture that assures us that we will know each person by their fruit. Someone may call themself a born again Christian all they want to and go to church "religiously" every sunday-but when it comes to 2 issues for me (sex before marriage and "osu" I want to know whose report you believe. COME ON PEOPLE! IT IS TIME TO STOP PICKING AND CHOOSING PARTS OF THE BIBLE WE WOULD LIKE TO OBEY. JUST DO WHAT GOD SAYS. FOR CRYING OUT LOUD LET US ALL STOP BEING PEOPLE PLEASERS AND START BEING GOD PLEASERS!!

AGAPE!