I most certainly believe that 'true love' exits!

But what is 'true love'?

It may mean something different for each person.

To me it means totally loving a man for who he is and wanting for him what he wants for his self. Meaning that I care about his happiness. It also involves a relationship based on safety, trust and respect. It includes just enjoying each other's beingness. And the feelings of love are totally mutual.

This is not the crazy, madly in-love type love that is based on physical chemistry. Rather it is developed over time by knowing each other on a deep level. Whereas, in-love chemistry is usually based on a fantasy of who the other person is.

I have zero tolerance for physical or emotional abuse! Slapping is physical abuse and is violent behavior. If a man ever did this to me. That would be the end of the relationship. I would walk-away/ran away wihtout a moment of hestitation!

If he does it once you can bet he'll do it again and again no matter how much he may apoligize.

There is never/ever an excuse for physical violence.

"since then we don't relate well and she hardly comes to visit me".

Not relating well is more important than what happened with the abortion.

I feel that abortion is a personal choice and sometimes it is the best choice, never a happy choice but sometimes it is necessary. 

Please don't feel bad about the abortion. Your girlfriend has personal responsibility because she agreed and now it sounds like she is trying to blame you and punish you.

If she is willing to open up and share all of her feelings with you, you have a chance. But if she stays closed off from you then I would tell her I love her and will be there when she is ready to come back but don't wait forever!