this thread is for christians; could you tell us the year u gave ur life to Christ and what prompted you. Mine was 1989. just moved on my own to take d decision(though av heard the word many times). i was too young then to account for too many sins. how about you

This is my opinion on the thread: it is very proper to start aving sex with ur wife after the court and the traditional wedding, this is recognised by many instances of marriage that took place in the scriptures, nonetheless; if you still intend to go for church wedding what you do is called MARRIAGE BLESSING, because it will be deceptive to wear white garment signifying that you have not been defiled whereas you two have been sleeping together. in marriage bleesing you can where anything or even dress traditionally. My advice is this: if you wish to go for the real white wedding, it is wise to honour God with the bed undefiled(heb13:2-3), you could do the three all within 1 week to minimise the temptation, (thats what most sincere christians do). When doing the right thing lets do it the right way

Since u said u were once close to God, i suggest u first go to him in true repentance, then learn to discipline urself and to study your bible and also fellowship with other christians: change ur friends and finally prayerfully look for someone to marry

June 30th, are u there

Ekiti State? I'm from there, proud to be from there. Ekiti kete's merry xmas in advance- no discriminations

Male virgin? not very common but they still exist, cos am one. and i'm proud to say that. that wont reduce the fun in marriage infact it will be fun learning together with one who truly loves u.

and sometimes act as if he is possessive of u(but not gud to overdo it

For the benefit of the ladies guess it's ok to find out how to know if a guy likes u since we av been contributing to the thread: " how do you tell if a girl likes you".

Yes! She smiles anytime you are around and she cries when you scold her.
Ummm, and she always tries to please you.

Kind of agree with u

an educated lady.caring,trustworthy,honest and a very loving lady like me 

it's nice u are confident about urslf

Re: Is It Good To Be A Jealous Lover?
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Not too bad if the party involve can draw their boundaries.But it sucks when possesiveness comes in


I kind of agree with u

A true lover will actually be jealous. God being a lover too said He is a jealous God

cgift,
thanks, alot av been said i guess they are just hardened.

@ poster; Your findings about the 101 contradictions about the bible is commedable though the motives were wrong and unacceptable; nevertheless i av decided to make contributions after a thorough study of the piece:
1. I quite agree with some of the contradictions, most especially ones that have to do with figures like nos 2-22. But you have to understand that God inspired holy men to write the scriptures(2 Tim 3:16-17,2Peter 1:20-21); this men are not in themselves perfect as God is, so we are bound to av human errors.
2. The ones that av errors in Names: Just like today a family might av 2or 3 family names recognised by different people, some people are calld by their mother's name while others use their father's name in some instances and yet others use their own names at other times, therefore, before you could call those ones contradictions you may need to do a little more investigation!
3. There ones that showed contrast in periods and times when events took place: May be u need to know that unlike Quoran, the Bible was written by several Authors over a period of several hundreds of years, many of this authors never saw each other physically-for their stories to correlate at all, with only slight differences must be a miracle of God in itself! Some of this Authors had to ask quetions and investigate issues as led by God. Its only too wonderful that the compilation of a book spanning over thousands of years should av only 101 contradictions. Afterall, contradictions are not thesame as cancellations. At least no author has come to deny as untrue what the former author has said rather they complemented each other in their messages! That also shows that God must be involved.
4. Other ones you call contradictions like nos:1,25,34,37,51,93,94,95,96,97100,101 e.t.c Could be cotradictions to somebody lacks the understanding of the mistery book called Bible. You can not interprete the Bible like a literature book it takes the Spirit of God and as a muslim you dont av that Spirit so u are bound to be heretic

Finally:
If you send 10 reporters to a scene where an event has just taken place; you can be sure that their reports will never be thesame because:1. they arrive the scene at different times; 2. They are watching from different angles; 3. They are seeing from different perspectives. And these are the things that make the reports unique and detailed. Such exactly is what happened in the compilation of the Bible(the things you call contradictions). Also, the fact that they reported uniquely but differently did not change the validity of the event i.e The event actually took place but was reported differently.

My advice:
The contradictions you pointed out about the Bible does not make the Bible less potent in any way(millions are bearing witness to its power daily). also whether you believe it or not one day you will stand to be judged on the basis of the truth contained in the Bible. At that moment nobody will want to listen to ur little theory about contradictions. Ask your fellow muslim brothers who have been converted they will tell you there is no Book like the Bible.
I can understand how you feel,the struggles going on within you, the battle to sustain ur belief in Islam even when you av your own doubts just like Prophet Muhammed had, and rightly stated it(He wasnt sure where he was going when about to die). But Jesus was confident enough to always use the words: Verily, verily or most assuredly.-He Knew the truth or better put He is the truth. I encourage you to reconsider your stand. The end of all things is no longer far,

Had one in pry.5; another in jss.3. They never really got to know. i perceived they admired me too. Met the later 5yrs.after- still pretty and looking wonderful, but i was then in my part two in the uni. somehow i was still undecided Now, there may be no need relieving the moment; though, it gave pleasant feelings then

This type of advert will be good in front of a brothel or prostitute's shopping mall. Not trying to be harsh-just giving an advice

What a free world! I dont care if u criticise what am about to say: I see it as been morrally wrong cohabiting before marriage; many atimes such relationship does not even lead to marriage- you live with the guy or sleep over often;have sex often; you commit abortion for him after a while; act as his mistress for as long as the shit lasts and more often than not get dumped-when you are dry and he is tired. You call it getting to know him but he calls it fun. Well, every fun has a boring side to it; and when its over, the females bite their fingers in regret and go out searching for another guy-the circle continues, And when their youthful beauty begins to fade(having being overused in sexual abuse and fornication) they wonder why its so difficult to get a husband or why they couldn't give birth when he (husband) finally comes.
Ladies why wont u learn that a guy respects you most when you are chaste and decent and if u want the best of men to marry you have to keep your legs tight,

Dear, What would your friend do in a relationship that would make you say goodbye without looking back: No more engagement; no more marriage.

Dear, did u say u r a Christian or u mean u do attend church services(Religious);because if u are truly a xtian you should know that on religious grounds u r incompatible. i guess u looking for fun not marriage

Moderation;Sensitivity to personal dealings by God are necessary,

Why don't u find out more about the lady, maybe she is engaged to someone else Or it could be she doesn't see u as her kind of person, whatever the case it pays when you love and it is appreciated, There is always someone out there who will appreciate u for loving her,keep trying and don't forget to also pray,

myomy, I feel very deeply for u, though it's my guess that u must have noticed this trend in this guy before u married him; i mean bad manners don't develop overnight but i will still tell u that with God all things are possible; really u don't need any male friend in that sense, it will soon become a full blown affair with time. You need God. i will include u in my prayer list. It is well.

from Carlosein: cases like this are so rampant that you can hardly find a customised answer to how they should be handled.

a solution in one case may not apply in another.

what i advise is for your friend to pray for his parents. pray to God for his father's change and also in

thanksgiving for a mother like his who knows (yes she does) yet keeps calm.

as for other actions, there is hardly much he can do, but i challenge him to be good himself and watch lest he

be carried away and begin to act like his father (lots of men are promiscuos because they saw one or other of

the parents so). he should be a good example in charity to his parents and more in understanding.

these usually pay off in the long run.

God bless your friend and his family.



I agree with u. There is nothing prayer cannot do.[quote][/quote]

" i do i do, i will always do, " you can practice that song; it's always good on a wedding day u may or may not invite your friend(do as u please) carry go , u cannt be more honest,

what's exactly your definition of someone who is rich: if it means " lacking nothing" then Jesus was very rich. it doesn't matter whether He got them thru supports or by favour, When you lack nothing u are definitely rich

what's exactly your definition of someone who is rich: if it means " lacking nothing" then Jesus was very rich. it doesn't matter whether He got them thru supports or by favour, When you lack nothing u are definitely rich