When you see the amount of women that have committed abortions, killing innocent children for selfish reasons, you will have nothing but respect for single mothers. When they will eventually get married they will carry infertile/miscarrying womb to the husband and wondering where the problem stems from.

I would rather marry a single mum who took responsibility for her actions than these olosho women with destroyed wombs after multiple abortions and postinor 2. Spits

Let me tell you something, you women should stop competing with men. It can never happen, you are not designed to do the same things as men.

Unfortunately when a woman begins to have multiple sex partners it deteriorates every single part of her existence. It begins to show on every part of her body that’s why you will see ladies of 26 looking so worn out and old. Why do you think men are looking for younger and younger women to settle down with? Because by 28/29 the average Nigerian lady has slept with so many men and her body and face is already haggard from the multiple dicks and spirits that have entered her. Even after finding one maga to marry you, the marriage will never find peace because the experience you have is too much from the past.

As much as men should keep their bodies whole, women should especially learn to be virtuous. The boobs, the vagina, the skin, all become worn out after excessive use from various men. Go to a brothel house and you will see what I am saying. The girls that have been sleeping around for years age the quickest. Forget what science tells you, science will tell you that we evolved from apes. The truth is that your vagina will expand, the boobs will sag, the face will age, the skin will start looking saggy it will not be firm again and no man of value in his right sense will marry expired goods. Keep your body, and cherish it like gold. Value yourself, if you have slept with more than 2 or 3 men before 30, look at yourself in the mirror and question yourself.

Message for the wise.

Yes because of loose vagina. I married a prostitute in disguise. Even before child birth her thing was becoming huge due to her promiscuous ways. The thing you women don’t understand is that when you sleep around your vagina will expand from various dick intake, only few women are lucky to naturally have it in tact no matter what. You are not men, the effects of sleeping around show all over your body. Stay virtuous and your man will honour you.

LadySarah:


because of the loose vagina?

My wife has put me through hell in just such a short time. I understand what this man is going through, it takes the grace of God to leave these olosho women we call wives. My wife will get the shock of her life in December, I’ve already furnished my new apartment and I will be moving there leaving my wife to suffer on her own. I will sell that house that she’s living in, let her go and collect money from her customers to take care of her. Bros I will advise you to get your finances up and leave her ASAP. Got no time for these useless parasites that will come and ruin your life.

Countless of times, I have apologised. I have accepted my fate

Eketem:


People tried to give you good advice but you were only listening to those whose views was what you wanted to hear.

Apologize to her, you hurt her feelings

My wife and I barely talk in the same house. I don’t even know my wife again and I belive she is cheating. My marriage has truly failed.

Thank you to everyone

Have received great advice online and offline. Thanks once again!

Rizzoli:


I'm sorry for the situation but let me give me opinion...
1) If ur wife tells u that your dick is too small for her since after u got married and she has been looking for herbs and finally she brings one for you to drink.In all honesty,I know you will not take it lightly with her,you won't even see it as hwe trying to help,but a bruise to your ego... I just want u to imagine how she would have felt after u said these things to her,more so, it's your baby she had. I can confirm to you that there are many married women who have not birthed yet have wide vaginas.
2) Pls don't be deceived by all the posts u see on nairaland , vaginas are naturally elastic and would return to shape after childbirth. The sex workers and runs girls who claim to have tighter ones use an awful lot of things to tighten (alums,lemon,lime,native potions).The consequenxe is an increase in cervical cancer which is at an alarmingly high rate in the country now and these liquids also take a till on the men who patronize then,some end up with ED.

Unfortunately most men just have sex and not make love. Difference being that sex appeala to the physical act and body,but love making appeals to the emotion,feelings, and can only happen wen the partner truly love each other

Inconclusion, only you can save this marriage if you want to. U need to ask if u truly love this woman from your heart. Remember you are not perfect yourself with your own shortcomings. Buy true love covers all the flaws because the partners are not just sexmates they are friends,companions, share things,play with each other.

Imagine one good evening u both having a nice funny conversation with her and u both laugh so hard ,giggle and take a bath together then onto the bed,,,,size won't matter at that point,body shape won't matter ,you just want to bond with her soul ...that is love,and what marriage should be....Love the wife of your youth take care of your children ..

If u marry another, she born, it slacks wat will you do, chase her away again...

I'm not judging u for expressing yourself, I'm saying u should pay more attention to building a connection of love and everything will fall in place irrespective of both your shortcomings

Don't mind this generation that is sex crazed, sex is overrated . People make permanent decisions over a 3-10minute pleasure. at the expense of value of life ..
Pls fix your home

Sir this has nothing to do with sex. Although yes sex is important to me as it should be, but it’s deeper than that. It’s her attitude and reactions to things that is making small issues into bigger ones. I know my wife, she over reacts to everything hence me delaying ‘the talk’ with her in the first place. No matter how much I try to adjust my tone or words to her, she must always find a problem with it. Well I’ve received good advice today, and I believe there is still hope.

MetroBaba1:


Kindly Reply My PM.
This Is Something Sensitive.
Only For Matured Man.
I See Children Ranting Without Reasoning

I have sent you a Pm sir !

PatrickOkunima:


You should have discussed with her before buying the product. It's a big mistake on your part. Send me an email: patrickokunima@gmail.com I want to give you a piece of advice that may save your marriage. What I want to tell you is not for public consumption. There are a lot of single guys here, most of them under 20 who will come and give you advice on how to run your marital affairs. How can you advice someone on something you have not experienced? I'm expecting your mail.

hello sir, I’ve sent you an email !

Thank you to all the advice. I have read every contribution both negative and positive and will take something from everyone . I’m still open to hear more advice, thank you !!

greatgod2012:
I remember your previous thread quite well and how you kept emphasising how sensitive your wife is, hence, your fear of discussing the sensitive matter with her.

Alright, I think personally, I won't blame or judge any of you because I think what you did was right, at least, for a healthy marriage, but I'm afraid of the illness you adopted in addressing the matter which might made her behave the way she did.


Let's start from here, do you want your wife back? If yes, believe me, it's possible. But. let's start from here first.

All I want is peace. I’ve not had peace of mind for a very long time. If my wife can come back to me and give me peace I’ll be a happy man as I still love her very much despite everything.

Evacroft:


So a woman should suffer because of the way God made her,the stuff a Nairalander sold for u, did you bother researching it or u just went ahead and ask her to insert so u can satisfy urself.u said u have done alot for her,u painted her as ungrateful just cos she now has a loose punana which wasn't there when u met her.
Bros at the stage you are now, i guess u should be adding value to ur marriage not looking for ways to disrupt it and let people rub it in the mud for you cos we will.

Madam in what way am I making my wife suffer? I have never cheated on my wife ever, I’ve provided everything for her money wise been there for her emotionally and been a great husband and dad to our child. Trying to find a solution for the loosening of her vagina is making my wife suffer? That is not the way God made her, it’s just a temporary condition caused by childbirth. Sometimes I don’t understand you women, the way you process things are not normal. Always using your emotional state to rationalise situations.

keepingmum:


Oga welldone, u have successfully broken ur home nd deprived ur daughter the experience of been raised by both biological parents in a loving home.
Now the next step to take as per your question is this dt 18yr old fargin with a tight ponyor that ur blokos will enter and be snug like the body hug all those makos dancers used to wear, ehen, go and bring her to ur house and gbensh her to ur satisfaction......infact marry her and gv her belle then discard her once she gives birth bco her ponyor will also become slack- if not after 1, definitely after 2 children - then repeat thr cycle again till u marry a woman who cant gv birth naturally you hear??

And as for ur first wife, if she stumbles on this thread, i will advise she gets herself REAL man!!! Someone with huge, meaty blokos, full of veins so dt irrespective of the number of children she has there would be no complaints

Finally, single ladies, learn from this op, if you are dating a man with a small blokos, runnnnnnnnnnn. Forget all that size doesnt matter talk, size MATTERS!! Its only men with small blokos dt cosign to that phrase. When you start having children you ll understand that size matters

Madam this talk is getting old. But even if this is the case, a man should suffer because of the way God made him? Never will I leave my wife because of a situation that I know can be fixed hence me trying to find a solution. I finally addressed it to her and what did I get in return? Attitude and disrespect. I have helped my wife in so many ways, that I do not want to go into detail because I did this out of the love I have for her. I’m not innocent and I’m a human being and have been as transparent as possible, but please respect the fact that I’m asking for genuine advice and your insults are very unnecessary. Thanks.

LuciferCristi:



This is where it ended.

Who is this mystery lady?
Expose her now!

You have nothing to lose, your marriage is almost dead (according to you).

Reveal her moniker!
Is it pocohantas or safiaa or shugavee?

We want to know!

Oga I don’t want controversy I just want a solution.
Thanks

Hello nlanders

This is an update to my old thread from last month https://www.nairaland.com/4647838/wifes-vagina-loose-please

I experienced some negative feedback but was able to receive help from a generous lady who sent me a pm and advised me on what to do. I ended up buying what this said lady suggested for my wife and I thought at this point maybe this issue would be solved. Despite me avoiding this situation for years, I finally decided to address it after frustration.

After purchasing this item, I sat down with my wife in the calmest way possible to explain how I’ve not been satisfied sexually due to her giving birth. I explained to her that I felt her vagina had loosened after the birth of our child and I handed over the product that I had bought for her. My wife stayed silent all throughout the time I spoke to her. When I finished talking she gave me a very nasty look and left the room without saying a word and also eased as she left. Since that day I have been living in pure misery.

My wife has refused to sleep in the same bed with me, she has deprived me of sex. She barely cooks. Every time I try to talk to her, she shuts me or up or she doesn’t respond. She’s constantly on her phone talking to one friend or the other. Completely disrespecting me in my own house. Yesterday night was the last straw and we got into a heated fight. She compared me to one of her ex’s and claimed that it was a mistake that she married me. I ended up calling her all sorts of names and told her to leave my house. I called her mother, and she was begging on her behalf but I’m no longer tolerating her nasty behaviour. It was God that stopped me from slapping her yesterday, because I’ve never been insulted like that all my life. This morning she’s packed her stuff and she has left with our daughter.
At this point I’m falling out of love with this ungrateful woman. Since the birth of our child it’s been hell and I’ve tried my best. At this point I don’t know if I should just leave my wife or try to reconcile. I have tried to my best ability but she’s very ungrateful and miserable. I believe our marriage is dead at this point and I don’t think there’s any way to revive it. She has completely let herself go emotionally and physically. She doesn’t care about herself nor myself.

I just want to know the next wise step to take

Thanks.

cococandy:
who’s the girl disturbing you? How did she get close enough to you ask you for sex?

Your wife may be the one who now has a wide vagina for giving birth to your child ( I guess that’s her sin) but you will be the one to ruin your own marriage for inviting people who do not belong in it into it.

You haven’t even talked to her but you’re here telling us she is sensitive bla bla bla

So do you not want to talk to her about it? Or you’re just looking for people to tell you to go ahead and cheat? she must have done something wrong to you for having your child the way you’re going about it. Your tone sounds like you’re not really interested in or believe in a solution that doesn’t involve another woman’s vaginà

The woman in question is a friend. I have no interest in her but due to frustration my mind is wondering.

I know my wife very well. We’ve had quarrels in the past for months due to some comments I’ve made about her. When she gets in her mode, the house will be become haunted almost like I’m living with a stranger. After our child she has been behaving very conscious about herself. I constantly try to praise her, but it goes through one ear and out the other. That’s why I’ve been hesitant to tell her about this, as I know it’s a sensitive topic and I will not have peace. All I want is peace and if I can find a way to resolve this along with maintaining my peace I will be a happy man.

yvelchstores:
don't worry sir. I don't know how pm works so I don't use. I am a business woman. On to the next. I sincerely wish u D best.

I have emailed you..

frostylook:


You informed two men about your bedroom frustration, yet you can't relate the same issue with the very person whom it directly concerns? Someone you are supposedly one with?
Well done o.

As I said, my wife is very very sensitive. I’ve said some truthful things to her in the past, till now she brings it up. I know if I tell her directly I will not get peace for the next month, that’s why I’m trying to find my way around it.

bukatyne:


Oga,

While I might not have advice for you, it is very wrong to discuss such with your friends especially if they are not sex therapists.

They might have same problem and claim otherwise.

Guard your home.

I have informed two of my closest friends who are like brothers to me. This was purely out of frustration. I don’t discuss my marital concerns with just anyone as you are insinuating. I’m just trying to find a solution ma.

yvelchstores:
I weep for D ignorance in my country. I waited for a message on ig from u op, u never sent. It's either u don't really want solution, just an excuse to cheat or you are not serious.
I really don't know how human beings think. Anyway, I will explain a bit further, just because I am kind.

Listen up, what she needs is kegel. Not going to the gym. It does not help that area at all. It worsens it as weight lifting and weight loss can affect the pelvic Wall negatively.

Within 2 weeks of using the product for kegel, the both of u will notice changes. Now u said u are not feeling anything, that means she is also not feeling anything. It's not about your size. It's the pelvic walls that needs to be tightened.
When she starts it, not only will it start to firm up, blood flow will increase there and she will be experiencing climax like she never has before.

The act is this way- the product is shaped like an egg, made of natural stone so it's small but weighty. Comes in different sizes so she can start with the biggest size which of course is still small for a big vagina.

It is drilled at the tip so she can insert a long rope or dental floss so she can just drag it out at will. With or without rope, it can't get stuck in there anyways.

Now she will lie down, insert it in there, 70% all the way, stand up, move around like she did nothing. It will start descending. Her body will start a reflex action down there, tightening itself around this stone, so it doesn't fall off, that sir, is kegel exercise.... She will soon master this and the muscles will start getting stronger and stronger till she can literally strangle u inside her. I am not joking.

I will delete this post soon, will just give u time to read up. If u are really interested, 15k is the cost but I will make an exception for u. If u don't want, no problem at all. I blv I have just helped another human being. Ciao

As I would like to remain anonymous with my wife I cannot message you on IG. Send me a pm and will get back to you.

light101:
I think you should tell your wife the whole situation and encourage her to go through those suggestions you mentioned.

For the cheating part, bros forget it ohhh. Once u start you will just keep going from one hotel to another, guest house to guest spending a little cash u have on you on paying hotel bills and servicing your side chick. At the end of the day, you will still not be satisfied.

Bros I hear you. I’ll try my best.

JoannaSedley:
No. There is nothing wrong with your wife but you. You do not have the same size of pen.is as your friends neither their wives has the same vagi.na type as your wife. You are looking for an excuse to cheat so go ahead and cheat and get it out of your system.
The facts still remains that a good rod won't even notice the difference between an unused VJ and a used VJ. A good rod is happy to delve inside a VJ of after one, two and even three because it offers less stress and no penile pain or bruises. But here, we have you with your kindergarten rod hoping to keep on fuc.king a virginlike VJ because thats the only type of VJ you can feel. Divorce her or enlarge your coast.

Women just don’t get it. You can never put emotions or rage aside when dealing with issues. God bless you Ma.

JoannaSedley:
You should enlarge your penis. Seem you have a small sized pen.is which was manageable before the popping out of a single 3.5 kg human, now your pen.is is wriggling and you are blaming your wife.
Enlarge your coast and set sail sir.

Madam even if my penis is small ( which it is not) I should still be able to feel some kind of sensation as we only have one child. My friends do not have this kind of problem only me. I do not feel anything at all, which means there’s something wrong somewhere with my wife. Thank you for your advice anyway.

Laird:
Google search keigel exercises

Bro I’ve hinted this to her but she has refused to get the message. If I tell her directly now, her mind will start going elsewhere. I’m tempted to cheat, as one girl keeps on disturbing but I’m keep my cool. I don’t know how long though, my wife is also the stubborn type that doesn’t like corrections.

vizkiz:




She should sign up for a gym class. It helps.

Can gym really help tighten the vagina? If so I might suggest it to her.

Hello NLander

I created this account because I choose to remain anonymous, as this is a touchy subject.

My wife and I have been married for a few years. When I first met my wife she was absolutely perfect. I had no complaints and everything was intact. I’m a very understanding man and i know the changes that a woman’s body goes through. After giving birth to our baby girl two years ago, my wife’s vagina has not been the same. I do not feel any kind of sensation when we are intimate and I have been suffering for the past two years. Her vagina walls are not intact at all, and I didn’t expect this especially as we only have one child. I do not feel anything at all, and I’ve just been managing. I don’t want to indulge in masturbation to please myself. My wife is a young woman of 29 and I don’t know what to do.

I have tried to google the remedies and possibly give her hints but nothing has worked. I cannot come to tell her directly as my wife is a very sensitive woman, and she will probably begin to feel insecure which I do not want. I just do not enjoy sex with her any longer and by Gods Grace I have not cheated. But the thoughts have been coming into my mind as I’m beginning to feel frustrated, please do not judge. I still want to have more children with my wife, but considering the effects that one child has had on her vagina, I do not want to even think about that. I love my wife, but this issue is killing me. It’s making me resentful towards her. Please any solutions?

Thanks.
Cc. Lalasticlala