It's not about children because we're done with that. No longer producing.

Hello guys,
This is a very complicated issue, and I don't really know how to attack it but I'll just put it up straight...my husband says we need a timetable to make love after about 4 children..I'm emotionally demoralized, I feel him but I can't have him, though close, yet so far away! Yes I agree that in the baby making times, I had said no a few times, now he still refers back to them with emphasis. This intimate denial has killed my feelings for him, I no longer feel attracted to him.
I've got no form of deformity, beautiful both internal and external.
Please talk to me....

mesoade:
If i don't pamper my girl,who will?

correct guy! all you guys saying no pampering...i bet you, for your own very eyes ur woman will slip away. if you as her man cannot do it then let real men help you do the job.
To pamper is a sign of love and datz what the Holy book enjoins the man to do. period!

I've always entered this forum as a guest to but today, my spirit has been vexed through this topic to join nairaland.
Firstly at Op, do you think we woman do not bear all the abuses you take us through in marriage? For the sake of your post I'll narrate my predicament of an over 6 years marriage with 3 children. My hubby is over ten yrs older than me. I've gone thru and still going thru one of the worst relationship a woman can have with a man. He never says sorry for errors on his part, never says thank you for efforts I put in the marriage be it financially or physically, has never bought me a birthday , anniversary or even one cloth, I buy all by myself. Not that I'm bothered with material things but just a show of care will do as I know he's not so rich but just struggling.
now the big issue is that I'm going thru emotional abuse. I love sex like crazy but he's decided to pocket his "machine" . I always like him to clean up every night before bedtime but he's the type that hardly showers 2wice or even more. Sometimes I do endure the sweaty body scent during the act just for the sake of peace if not, na war. I try to turn my nose away though...what does a woman do when her man thinks he doesnt needb to be appealing towards her? .....that has resulted in great act of masturbation for me in fact, I'm considering a sweeter option... intimacy gadgets! And oh yes, I'd really still very attractive and still get advances from both single and ready men but I made a vow and do wanna keep it.
This is a man that I've spoken to several times, tried to make happy, told what pleases me but yet remains adamant to my cries....
If not because of this post, I'll never have voiced out so, you men should be careful how you behave in marriage. Simply because a woman cherishes her children and desires a happy role model of a home does not mean we cannot do the unimaginable.
@op, pls go back to your wife, thank her for her patience thus far, re strategies new methods for a happy her. Begin to do the little things she likes which you never did, do some TLC, listen to Luther Vandrose's."Buy me a rose". Most of all, be a man and not a weakling cos every woman is only attracted to a man who can at least partially fulfill her fantasy.
good luck!