Kingpin87: Well yes, the dream is kind of self explanatory, i also read smwhere, tht it means there will be a major change im life Anyhow, actual.problem is tht i have a frnd, she loves me, and askd me to be with her for around 3-4 years, wn she first askd i refused, and she cried, bt thn ske kept asking, and i cdnt refuse her, i just used to say ok we'l see, or tht i ve exam, dnt wnt to think abt it, nt settled etc, i hoped her parents will marry her off or she wont have those feelings wn i keep delaying. This went on. Thn finally, i got tired of this, my family also strtd forcing me tht i shd get married, i askd couple frnds they ddnt gv any gud advice, i did istikhara tht either i have feelings like she does or she loses her feelings, or tht smhw we just seperate. I care fr her alot since she z my frnd, bt nevr loved her, few mnths aftr istikhara, nthng changed, she sd tht feelings will cm aftr we r in a relation, this made me think tht mayb she z right, i ws settled, so gave mum her numbr Parents met n at once decided fr engagmnt, but fr 1 year nw, i still.feel nthng fr her excpt frndshp I see others in a relationshp feeling so happy while I ws depressed, bcz she z great at work, we made a great team at work bt outside tht, we r very different, and i tried my best to enjoy wd her, go out. Keep in touch always bt she became distant aftr engagmnt, always sd she loves me bt nevr gave me much time, and i guess evn if she did we dnt really enjoy the same things, she always made me do wt she wnts, nevr took interest in my hobbies etc Thm few mnths back, I met a girl, we workd together few days, thn kept in touch, thn slowly we both startd liking eachothr. And now we'r at a point tht we feel we love eachothr, she is very similar to me and evrythng n nw im wishing i hadnt gotten engagd, i wdve happily been wd her Nw im cnfused totally! Shd i cont tht cmpromised relation whch is just based on her feelings or shd i end it n tell her i nevr cd love her n she shdnt have askd me fr so long I again did istikhara and am praying cz i dnt want to hurt anyone, i wnt things fixed thmselves, bt mayb i shdve hurt my hurt once and ended it instead of step by stel going this far, still we r nt married yet, her life wont be over if i end it bt breaking an engagmnt fr a girl is nt a small thing either wht shd i do Thanks everyone fr da replies I saw this page just now and Im all the way in 2019, so I´m dying to know what happened. If I were here a few years earlier I could have given advice. Inshallah, things will have worked out for you. 1 Like |