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afdman: @op, you said 6months, please find out the current state of that boy, I must commend you, that you have started something trying to educate your mum on her bad behaviour, but am sorry to say you have not done anything substancial for that boy, your mother has broken his spirit, and God forbid you get a call one day saying your mother is dead and was stabbed to death by that boy. Do something now, make a bolder move and get that boy out of that house, its obvious that boy hates your mum and hate is a dangerous tool in the hands of the devil. Am sure you have not thot about it from this angle, well now think about it. God bless you and God help rescue that poor boy from the evil doings of your mum. Thanks for the advice. I really will keep trying. I need God to give me wisdom. It's not easy at all. |
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andromida: Thanks. |
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davidylan: She goes to church religiously, prays all the time, quotes Bible passages off the top of her head and has written a Christian book. She doesn't believe there's a better Christian than herself. I don't go to church so often etc so she really believes she's in the right. |
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2mch: If all you are saying is true. Then am sorry, but your mum has mental, anger, emotional and psychological problems. The fact that she cannot see what evil she is doing shows this. She is even potentially damaging a generation. She has psychologically damaged that boy for life. The question you should be asking here is how to get her help at Aro, and also the boy help at counselling, to rehabilitate him. Trust me, the curse she is placing on you and your generation unborn,is immense. To cleanse yourself and family of this wickedness and karma, its best you take the boy out of the situation and help him. Should he die one day in her care, your whole family will be thoroughly shamed. It only takes him being hit in the wrong place, or just his spirit giving up on life. Wow, what a very sadistic bi*tch. Try and find a mature woman for this your mum that can punch her eyes out. Try not to take your kids or anyone's kids near such a person. Did your father run away? And are you all girl kids? Am saying this because she may be taking out her anger against men on this boy. I know I can never suffer for her actions towards him cos I don't condone it. Also my dad commends me for speaking up but he cant do much as he has been emasculated. He tells me that God will keep blessing me. The life I live now years ago I could only dream of. I just always like to have a clear conscience hence my concern about the way I spoke to her (By the way I shouted at her that she is a wicked person as she is fond of calling people who she can't have her way with "wicked" so I told her the definition of wicked is man's inhumanity to man and she is actually the wicked one). I am pleasantly surprised at the responses I'm getting. I thought people would be more focussed on Mum being sacred etc but the responses have made me a little more confident. Also she usually is the kind of person who if wronged would tell everyone she can so they can all bombard you with guilt trips and make you come to her to apologise. So far its been 6 months and she has said absolutely nothing to anyone about me annoying her and her wanting an apology. I guess she knows she's wrong so I think I'm just going to stand my ground until whenever she raises the topic then I'll rehash the matter and find a permanent solution which will suit this boy then apologise to her. Thank you all...I really appreciate every single comment. |
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toyemz: @poster Thanks for your post. It really touched me. I feel the only way I can really help is when I relocate which could be in 2 - 3 years time! I have discussed him leaving to his parent's and finding a trade etc but the father keeps asking him to stay and even threatens to kill him if he comes back (I think this is an empty threat though..I think the real reason is cos my mum sends him money from time to time). My husband will support anything I do but says I should just ignore her for now and see how it goes. |
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jennykadry: Trust me, if my mum did half of what your mum did, I would have dismothered her You are very lucky to have such a mum. I wish I had that. |
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ifyalways: This is very depressing,i cant even concentrate on the amu m ji n'aka before. The problem with him running is he has no where to run to. He has asked me several times if I will ever relocate and has said he would like me to take him. My bestfriend can accommodate him if he runs to her and I can always send her money for his needs. That's the best I can do. I really don't know what else. His dad tells him to endure and try to be sharper so she won't need to beat him so much but I have seen her get angry with him and I can say there is nothing he does that will stop her. She'll send him on 2 errands at a time and get angry that he ignored one. It doesn't make sense at all. |
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jennykadry: I like your post cos that sounds like me and my mum. Everyone else just agrees with her but I stand my ground. She found a man for my elder sister and advised her to marry him. My sister regrets this now after having kids cos they are so different. We all went to the best of schools home and abroad and the man's educational background is still uncertain to me. She tried it with me..asking me to get married to someone that didn't even attend university and is a trader...I didn't even answer her. Honestly sometimes I feel like I should ignore however as a mum to a little girl myself I don't want to have the same experience with my daughter. That really is my main fear. I just want to do the right thing cos we are supposed to honour our parents right? I would really like to hear from you cos it seems like our personalities are alike! |
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ifyalways: How old is the boy?Does he have a phone or is there a way you can speak to him directly wihout ur mom or siblings knowledge?What of his parents? He started living with her when he was about 18yrs old so should be around 23 or 24...though he is very short and looks younger. He used to have a phone and that's how I found out about all this. He called me internationally and told me and I could tell he was really scared. He asked me not to call him back etc. I have given him money in the past for emergencies but she saw it with him and accused him of being a thief. I have had to ask my best friend who lives closeby to please take him in if he ever runs to her and have asked him to run to her house if he ever feels like his life is at stake. I feel he will never leave except she releases him. She accuses him of making me and her quarrel...telling him that she can tell that he likes it. His father tells him to endure as he is very poor and can't send him to school or feed him. In the past she has refused buying his school uniform even as she knew he was being beaten in school for not coming in the appropriate uniform. I had to send my brother money to get him the uniform. I have tried! I am close to tears as I type. It's just so sad. |
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ifyalways: Na wao.OP while i commend your trying to help the boy but i gotta point this out ; asking the boy to leave and promising him biz wont help,the boy has heard such lines before(probably from your mother) and see where it landed him.And that notion that your mom would seek him out is FALSE.You,just like your siblings are just scared but the question is "if it were your own child with your mom doing same things,won't you find a way to take your child to safety?" I have thought about this before but I'm scared of what the impact would be. Unfortunately I live abroad...ideally I would have liked to take him from her but that requires visa etc. |
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Smilenw: OP, Looks like your mom is a sadist, an evil one at that. How can you say a fellow being "belongs" to you and feels its ok to behave any which way you desire just coz you provide him food and shelter ?!What shocked me was the 'jumping on top of his head' part My dad is around but that is another story altogether. He can talk but that only leads to a big fight. This situation actually brought my dad and I closer. As a kid he was hardly around due to work and other distractions that come with being a wealthy, stylish and goodlooking man. My mum always has nasty things to say about him (a lot of which I have come to discover are not true or just exaggerated) and up till fairly recently I really disliked him. Money-wise things for him are now the exact opposite so he doesn't really have a say in anything she does these days cos she now feeds him and she never misses an opportunity to put him in his place. I have manage to build a relationship with him and though he has his flaws he's the wisest person in my life and gives very good advice. He is the only one I can talk to about how I feel cos he gets it. He tells me not to worry but to keep trying to talk to her even if she ignores me. I'm really happy to be getting responses from here cos around me only my dad and my husband seem to understand my pain. |
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Hello all. Thanks for all the responses they have really been helpful. Like I said I intend to write her a letter because for one she won't talk to me and secondly I fear talking to her about the matter might only escalate it. Generally she never believes anything she does is wrong and will stand her ground and argue that she is right even at the most obvious wrong-doing. This attitude has made her loose the closest of her brothers and sisters (they haven't spoken for years) so I can see things going that way that's why I think the letter will be the best option and then I can hope for a reply. Believe me I am really sad that things had to degenerate to the level of me talking to her that way but I have seen her act towards vulnerable people in ways which I don't think is right before God and man but at the time I was really young and vulnerable myself however I spoke out or tried to help these people. It was more or less the same treatment she gave me and I always ended up begging her. I have asked this houseboy to return to his parents in the village and have promised to send him money for a business but he's too scared he cannot escape for too long (my mum and his dad are 2nd cousins) so the only option now is for her to stop or send her back himself...when I asked her to send him back her reply was that he belongs to her and she will decide when he goes back. I really don't want to have to report her to anyone except she reports me and then make me respond to the person as she's popular in the area I live and she works for the government. I don't want to be the cause of whatever may happen if people outside hear about this. I believe in Karma, things happening for a reason etc. I am Christian but I won't say my faith is as strong as a lot of people. I don't believe that just going to church every sunday makes you a good Christian. Both my sisters have not been very fortunate in marriage and it breaks my heart to think that this could be Karma. I am very happily married and couldn't be with a better husband. I love my life and this issue is the only thing that I think about and become sad. I don't ever want to accept wickedness and begin to receive God's punishment. Thanks for all the replies; I really appreciate them...please keep them coming. |
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Hello. I am hoping to get some advice on a problem that has been on my mind for a while. For years my mother who is a legal practitioner has been maltreating her houseboy. I know how she usually is with her house helps but when I learnt the extent of this I felt I had to speak out especially as she is takes her Christian faith seriously; I felt something was wrong. She would strip him and rub pepper on his naked body and force him to sleep with the pepper on his body without the fan on in what is more or less a mosquito infested storage room; force salt down his throat; give him spoilt food to eat; ask him to lie down on the floor facing the ground and jump up and land on his head/kick him around etc. This is besides the fact that on a daily basis she slaps him, knocks his head etc. When I first learnt about this I cried to her and begged her to stop. He is very hard-working and does every single household chore. Wakes up at 5am and goes to bed 11pm on a good day. He can be very forgetful and dull atimes although I believe a lot of his actions are because he's scared of an angry reaction. I returned home for xmas last year only to find out the same treatment was still going on and this got me really upset and I quarrelled with my mum and told her her actions towards him are one of wickedness. I have a daughter myself and would not like her to speak to me the way I did to my mum, I admit. However I am so disappointed in her and felt pushed to tell her what her actions really are. She obviously wasn't happy with me and has cut me and my family off. I sense that she doesn't want much to do with me anymore. My siblings however see what she does (she actually does a lot of it in their presence but never in front of me); They don't intervene and so in good terms with her. They know what she does is wrong but somehow they can ignore. I on the other hand can't seem to ignore. Since she has decided to not pick my calls anymore I have decided to write her a letter to apologise for the way I spoke to her cos I really do feel bad about that...however does that mean I like my siblings will turn a blind eye to all these just to get along with her? I still feel it's wrong to treat any human being or even animal that way. I know our relationship can never go back to the way it used to. Advice please. |
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