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Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 2:41pm On Jan 13, 2022 |
He ended the relationship few weeks after i created this thread. |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 1:55pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
pocohantas:Pocohantas he told me during the conversation that for some months now my mum is the one who calls and chat him up on WhatsApp, he said she has not noticed he is a bit withrawn. |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 1:43pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
WHITELIGHTER:It was easy for him because that's his own kind of person, when we started he wanted to start communicating with my family immediately. I told him we needed time to know ourselves first before involving our families. |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 12:25pm On Nov 16, 2021 |
emmanuelbrown26:Well done oga Emmanuel, so because i choose not to have multiple guys at the same time makes me old abi. Mind you I'm not even close to what you mentioned 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 10:13pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Missmossy:Thanks sis |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 10:10pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
tchidi066:Thanks sist, i told him he knows I'm very introverted and shouldn't expect me to act the way other's do. He said I'm an introvert fine but i have few friends, i have people i call and chat with on a daily basis. One thing i certainly didn't do was apologizing, cos I'm not doing anything wrong. I only told him i will try. 3 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 10:04pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
drnoel:Really wish he can see this. They're making it look like all brides to be are usually close to their in laws before marriage. When one saw me during the wedding, she jokingly said see our wife that we'll soon sack. Didn't know they've been saying this. 12 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 9:59pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
akinade28:Pretending is the last thing I'll resort to. I don't know how to fake anything. 2 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 9:57pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
Missmossy:At some point i wanted to believe he defended me but then again i thought if he really did he could have told me he tried explaining my personality to them but i should try reaching out to them. I'm not considering ending things because he ticks most of my boxes but if he decides to end a beautiful relationship cos of this, i won't sweat it. 8 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 9:52pm On Nov 15, 2021 |
zed7:That's reason i asked him what his response was. I'm really surprised they're bringing up something like this, it's not as if I'm already part of the family and i refused to be close to any of them. I will try not to get worked up over it anymore. |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:47am On Nov 15, 2021 |
bigpicture001:He's really not seeing anyone else and we both know we can't cheat on each other. He knows so many guys are coming around cos I'm good looking but i don't give them face. If someone is getting close i talk to him about it and if he's not comfortable with the person he tells me to be careful. |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:40am On Nov 15, 2021 |
Godada:Thanks, I'll keep trying Now that i know they already said something like this, me making serious move to flow with them will look like I'm pretending because they said it. 10 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:36am On Nov 15, 2021 |
WickedPisa: Starting all over again will not be an easy task, we'll both be losing friendship and relationship at the same time. I'm so weak right now. 6 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:33am On Nov 15, 2021 |
bigpicture001:It wasn't convenient but i had, i thought about sending money (my 8k tp and round it up to like 20k instead of going) but i felt it will make them happy. Few days to the event i told my fiancee he shouldn't angry that i can't attend and said he understands i have work to attend to but i still wasn't convinced he was really okay with me not attending. I attended and he's still saying this, imagine if i didn't come at all. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:25am On Nov 15, 2021 |
revived:Seriously it baffles me how he's forgetting other good qualities i have cos of this issue. This same people I'm not yet closed I've sent gifts and cash on birthdays. I don't know how to pretend, i know some girls will pretend in situations like this and go back to their old ways once married. 38 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:19am On Nov 15, 2021 |
Favfables1:Yes he has a very close relationship with them, I'm not saying my relationship with them will remain like this. We'll get to talk better when we become close but he wants the closeness before marriage. How to keep close tab with people I'm not yet used to is what is bothering me plus the communication will strictly be on calls and chat as I'm in a different state. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:14am On Nov 15, 2021 |
Chrisx1x:I've told him severally that i will try talking with them. I asked him what his response was when they asked the question, he said so that's what matters to me now abi. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 11:11am On Nov 15, 2021 |
Sonnobax15:I guess he's pained because he's already like a son to my mum plus what his siblings are saying. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / My Fiancé Wants To Call It A Quit Because I Don't Relate With His Siblings by Havilaah1: 9:51am On Nov 15, 2021 |
Good day all, i want to pour my heart on what's bothering me and get people's view and possible solutions to the issue. I've been in a relationship with my boo for a couple of years now and it's a serious relationship, we're are very close.. infact we're practically besties aside relationship. For some months now i noticed he no longer gives me attention like he used to, the vibe between us dropped and it was getting me angry. He stopped doing the things he knows i like, he knows my love language is attention/care as well as complement but he stopped doing all these. I'd send him a photo where i look so beautiful and he'd only say you look good, at a point i started preparing my mind for the worse. Just yesterday he told me there's something he wants us to talk to me about and it's been bothering him and i asked him what it was, he said it's about us. He said 2 of his siblings asked him same question on different occasions but, he didn't see it as a big deal the first time but when it was asked the second time he got angry and that's the reason he hasn't been flowing well with me. The question was how can you get married to someone who is not close to your siblings, when he said this i was weak. I know when we started the relationship he told me his siblings are free people i can relate with, i told him i will try. I was in contact with 2 of his sisters before this year( i sometimes chat, text or call during birthdays, new month and festivities). This year i started chatting with the 3rd sister, her wedding was coming up and she sent me IV. I congratulated her and she asked if i will be around, i told her i will try and create time so i can travel down to attend. I really did travel down to attend the wedding, she was surprised when she saw me but i noticed my boo wasn't happy with me all through the event. Now he's saying he's in close communication with my mum and siblings, they talk all the time but same can not be said about me. He was thinking how can he get married and his siblings will refuse coming to his house because there's no relationship between us. I'm a very introverted person while himself and his siblings on the other hand are extroverts and ambiverts, i don't find it easy building up ties with people from a distance. I have very few friends, i can be in a place and i won't talk if I'm not used to the people or there's no serious thing to talk about (that's the reason i talk to his siblings during birthdays, new month or festivities). I don't know how to build up a strong relationship with them before marriage, it's even worse because we don't get to see often cos they're in a different state but I've visited them on a few occasions. How do i handle this issue. I was in deep thought all through the night, i couldn't get up to 4 hours sleep. God knows i love his family as much as i do mine, he himself said he knows i care about them 100% but his family cannot read my mind to see that i have them in mind. After our discussion last night i couldn't sleep, I've been feeling bad about the whole thing. Introversion is making me look like I'm not a good person. I really don't know how to go about this, please i need advice from people who have been in similar situation. Moderator please help move to front page to get a wider view. Roctation farano Please help move to front page for wider view. 105 Likes 6 Shares |
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