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Romance / Re: Should I Break Up Or Make Up With My Boyfriend? by hbs85: 6:37am On May 22, 2020 |
You have told us what he does for a living and what his parents do for a living. What do you currently do for a living and also what are your parents doing for a living? Do you have an Msc. Certificate? Can't your parents support him to achieve his dreams if they are bouyant enough, must he be made before he marries you? (quote author=Acmepreneur post=89791962]This my guy is not serious at all. I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people. When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all. My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot. I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams. My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all. I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc Our fight now Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc. Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless. Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it. My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university. So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born. Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass. He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla He will not apply for better jobs as well He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools. So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it. He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs. The problem 1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest 2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky. His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate. 3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends 4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care 5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car, 6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship 7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect [/quote] |
Travel / Re: Pictures From Owerri Bicycle Street Ride (photo) by hbs85: 12:31am On May 18, 2020 |
dokiOloye:Indeed, very beautiful 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Politics / Re: Ihedioha Meets Buhari, Seeks Presidential Intervention On Infrastructure Devt by hbs85: 4:17pm On Jul 23, 2019 |
Its too early for this, too lousy for a start. |
Celebrities / Re: Kate Henshaw Celebrates Her 48th Birthday Today (photos) by hbs85: 8:19am On Jul 19, 2019 |
Happy birthday, may you continue to age gracefully. Pretty woman. 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: Is Senator Ishaku Elisha Abbo HIV/AIDS Positive? by hbs85: 4:34am On Jul 03, 2019 |
He just bargained for what he got. Found in a intimacy gadget shop, then laying his filthy hands on a lady. He acted so irresponsible. |
Politics / Re: Ibikunle Amosun Surrenders 1000 AK47 Rifles, 4000 Bullets by hbs85: 9:52pm On Jun 24, 2019 |
His immediate arrest is Paramount, that is an act of terrorism |
Politics / Re: Gov. Tambuwal receives body of Ex-president Shehu Shagari at the Sokoto Airport by hbs85: 1:58pm On Dec 29, 2018 |
May aljannat firdaus be his final abode. Rest in peace 5 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Jim Iyke Slams Non-Fan Who Said 'Old Age Don Dey Come Close' by hbs85: 9:12pm On Nov 29, 2018 |
Jim Iyke is pained. I know how it feels like when you are told such truth . Only smile in response. |
Politics / Re: 157 Soldiers Massacred Same Day Service Chiefs Were At APC Rally - Reno by hbs85: 3:33pm On Nov 24, 2018 |
May the soul of the departed hero's rest in peace. |
Politics / Re: Dino Malaye Show Off His Customized Campaign Buses And Cars by hbs85: 7:54am On Nov 24, 2018 |
Kogi people are doomed. |
Sports / Re: Super Eagles Sing & Celebrate As They Qualify For #2019AFCON by hbs85: 7:47pm On Nov 17, 2018 |
Kingtim:Not true. |
Sports / Re: Super Eagles Sing & Celebrate As They Qualify For #2019AFCON by hbs85: 7:45pm On Nov 17, 2018 |
Congratulations great country Nigeria. |
Politics / Re: We Paid NASS 17B Naira To Have 2015 Budget Passed.- Okonjo Iweala by hbs85: 1:32pm On May 25, 2018 |
17 bill, price tag to pay for what rightly belong to the masses. And some miscreant will be there discrediting this govt. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
Politics / Re: Shehu Sani Reacts To Mubi Adamawa Bomb Blast by hbs85: 9:51am On May 02, 2018 |
It's disheartening such barbaric act is still going on in this country, yet we don't deem it fit to be condemned outrightly but rather politicise because of religious or ethnic dichotomy. We are Nigerians and we have to stand by each other not divided. We have to foster love and care among us. May God almighty continue to strengthen us and may He also grant the victims eternal rest. Amen! 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Davido Buys Chioma A N45M Porsche: Nigerians Reaction To Her Birthday Gift by hbs85: 12:19pm On May 01, 2018 |
Who doesn't like good thing? Olalan: |
Politics / Re: National Protest: Organizers Release Timetable For February 5th Protest by hbs85: 8:27pm On Jan 31, 2017 |
2 Face should have started with Benue state where he come from. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Ize-iyamu Tells Tribunal To Declare Him Winner Of Edo Governorship Election by hbs85: 7:47am On Jan 31, 2017 |
it's so unfortunate, PDP are now powerless and no more god fatherism in Edo. Ize iyamu should go and answer his calling. 1 Like |
TV/Movies / Re: Actors Holding Artificial Heads Of Segun Arinze & Moses Armstrong On Set by hbs85: 4:45am On Dec 25, 2016 |
Hold the head, i de with the body. Segun my man!
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Celebrities / Re: Segun Arinze Poses With Artificial Human Head On Movie Set (photo) by hbs85: 4:39pm On Dec 19, 2016 |
Segun my correct guy!
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Celebrities / Re: Segun Arinze Poses With Artificial Human Head On Movie Set (photo) by hbs85: 9:08pm On Dec 18, 2016 |
Segun my man! |
Politics / Re: Sokoto Police Commissioner At The Home Of Shiite Leader. PICS by hbs85: 5:13pm On Nov 29, 2016 |
Intelligent moves |
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