Hmm

Ineedtoheal:

I never misplaced them in the first place ok. Anyways enough of the mention. I won't reply your mention again. I don't think you are any different from the lover of mine.

lol.I'm a " god " however moderate and hunble I'll like to present it. Ladies queing up and being discarded are beyond..not just quantity. The quality. So you can imagine if qualitt wome in quantity are after a guy, wgat would he be like.. that's me.. anyways.i wish you well. I'm busy. Cya

XhosaNostra:


Nothing much.

What it do, dawg?

Ineedtoheal:

Don't cry... you don't need to cry.

Na your matter. My tears would at best be hypocritical. I'm not the one to form strong for. Get your priorities right . Leave with whatever remaining sharpnels left that you and cutnyour loses short perhaps you cna trade those pieces for a little better

Ineedtoheal:

I created a thread and you decided to show the whole world your true colours. Can't you be civilized? You can make a point while being civil too you know.

I'm sorry i apply an unorthodox therapeutic strategy. I use force. Cause you've thrown away the love of yourself just to remain in a fantasy. I've seen atleast ten women die in marriages. So I've learnt not to act and speka out of pity. But to beat, curse and force so brains can be restored fron where theywere stolen to

Eyah

What's your budget?

Ineedtoheal:

Audio fantastic lol. next time drink plenty water it helps a lot. Gracias!

Syas the one living less than a dog in a loveless pitiful existence. You don't even love yourself to take good counsel. What's the purpose of this fight.. tell me. I don't even treat the househelps like your lover's treating you. Not my househelps, no workers. I feel sorry for you

XhosaNostra:
Lol, serves you right for taking her back after she cheated & for continuing to have unprotected sex with her, knowing her skanky ways. Now you're going to have to raise a child of thousand fathers
I hope the old man shoots you in the nutsack!

Hey Shawty. What's up

Not another one.

Ineedtoheal:

And you think this made sense? Common sense indeed is not common.

Lol. Who's in it, Who created a thread.. Me?.. LMAO. If you wanna prove to ke you're strong, you've failed. It's to that dude you should be doing it to, not me.

Ineedtoheal:

I don't talk to people with anger issues. You that threatened to beat me. In the midst of all these, I am still calm yet you are boiling like hot water.

Yes. Cause it's like you dont like your life. Anyways. Your issues. My life's pretty much too fantastic to care about your issues. Just take care.

Ineedtoheal:

Everyone has a weakness, some even have more than one. including you that claims to be smart. The fact that I am weak in one area doesn't make me dumb. I know I will break free from it so the fact I tried to fight for love doesn't make me foolish.

My dear. I'm bsure You've talked to yourself thru out the whole dilemma for is it seven years .. wheb we humnas stop talking we start getting better perspectives which goes on to bless our decisions. Its time to be still, silent and listen


At the moment you don't love yourself and have given up your right to life for sueprficial reasons disguised as love. The both of you are just a lust addiction


It won't end well. Run now while you still have functioning legs

Ineedtoheal:

Ina akogheli nno

You need solution. My anger has subsuided. Can you call me up for like ten minutes. I just want to share a broef which i know, and I'm sure 100% will remove you from where you are and chnage things completely.. in your relationship dept..

Mugu. This kinds won't make good husbands even after marriage. If they treat you like thrash during courtship, what makes you believe you'll be treated any better in maarriage



You should be celebrating not getting married to the guy you described above. My counsel to you is to remain single even if you don't get another suitor propose to you than to marry this one. Flee


Smh vigorously. How i wish i can see you small let me beat you seriously. Smh vigorously. I was too soft with you with my comments above.

You're a big full. An unrepentant shameless human being. I spit on your shamelessness. You're so shameless that your shamelessness is making me angry. How i wish you fit make mistake see me in person. I'll flog you with canes till your senses returned


When you excessively and emotionally invest in a toxic relationship, it's hard to detach. Asides your sexcapades with the muron you're entangles with , there's nothing of good worrh here. Nothing.



He has seen you finished to the extent even in your presence, he says you don't exist. And you're still there. Smh Vigorously. How i wosh you and I cna meet in person make i beat you small. Dont you have brothers to talk senses into you? You're still thinking thru your vagina or his deek game is so wonderful, it has stolen your senses.


You are a big full. You're a terrible eediot for making your parents labor to end in the hands of such a fool. I spit on your stvpidity. Have some shame, dignity, and self respect and break this nonsense.


What's worse. He is making you depend on him so you don't have the power to live your life. Emasculating you from the possibility of choices and you're pushing away people who love you because you're in love with someone who doesn't.

Continue with your stvpid adultery. Olodo

You're an eediot. I give up on you. Full

sassysure:


Bride pride is the cheapest actually.
Most men will love to stick with bride price only.

In Nigeria, once u do the customary stuffs, u are married.

The question now is will an average naija babe agree to that?
Wedding and traditional marriage costs arms and legs.

Babes like to show the world the caught big fish so the best way to show that is through traditional marriage and wedding.

Why do u do traditional marriage and wedding?
Do u actually need it?

How did we end with them?

So why won't men see you as commodity after milking them.

Dowry and traditional marriage rite in my place is with few thousands. Believe u me, its that cheap.

All men are ok with that. But are the ladies ok with just that?

We eat our cake and expect to have it.
Cut these people some slacks please.

Let us try and tell.ourselves the truth.

These days, some of us end up in Dubai for wedding.
Tomorrow, divorce and they will be forming victims.
U lost most of the respect a man will have for you by milking him just to organise wedding after traditionally getting married.

So without knowing it, u are treated as possession.

Priests and pastors won't tell us this.

The day we will start thinking about a man's pocket when organising trivialities is the day the respect we seek from men will happen.

NOTE:
It took me long to come to this conclusion and analysis.

The underlying tone/motive behind this comment is disturbing

yeyeosoronga:
Acidosis, it would do you a world of good if you actually listen to what people say about themselves, and not just project what you think they should want/feel.
Perhaps if some men listened more, they would understand women better.
I told you earlier what I don't like, but you dismissed it and labelled it as hormonal 'sturvs', and even told me it must be a recent development as I couldn't have felt that way in my 20s .
Very presumptuous of you, if I must say. That actually is telling of your kind of person.
This is really just a friendly advice, and would help you outside Nigeria.

Bless you for this comment

orbitalgis:
Marriage is quite simple but we.complicate things with unrealistic expectations.Husbands not wanting to submit to their wives and wives using emotional blackmail based on their husbands financial strength.I went into marriage with no expectations in 2010 and I met my wife in 1998 at the University.I wasn't looking for a slay queen but substance.She was the best in my ass and wasn't a slay queen.I saw a bright future and someone we can both grow together so I jumped on the ship.We fight and always make up.without inviting third party.We do not carry any spiritual or.emotional baggage and we don't even go to church but my wife is one of the nicest human beings I have met.We support each other families heavily and my mom adores her.Every naira I earn goes to her and she uses it for whatever she wants,I never asked her how before and never will.I accept whatever she gives.me to hold and use.When I'm broke she sends me.money and when we are both broke we stand by each other.No blames nothing.We have a beautiful home and she is in charge so I have peace of mind always and our son is always happy.So to be honest,I do not know how you guys see marriage as negative.It builds you.A.man that strives to assert his influence as the man of the house is a child.We complement each other and we are good.

Blessings. Na like this e suppose dey be

sweetmelanin:



Quite a pathetic attempt at shaming me. Lol! Listen boy, my situation is mine and I own it. Ok! No ones life is perfect and I refuse to allow a nobody shame me on information I voluntarily put out there myself.

How do I know you're not living in abject poverty, an abusive marriage or severe depression and dysfunction in your home? Hehe.. I'm not surprised though.. this is nairaland where the biggest losers have the loudest voices to insult others. Grow up!

Kikiki. You're wicked

MissJoy29

When a mna is broke, even a whisky is expensive

Little wonder, many women are the engine blocks in many relationships thesedays. With the quality of men that plour spcoety produces, nothing but glomminess and mediocrity is .. make i no talk

I rather be challenges to become optimal than endure the companionship of one that wabts to have me restrained. God forbid. Better a woman that "motivates", not control than a friend or family that wants me to make mediocrity a companion. Tufiakwa.



Man created culture, norms and tradition nad it was made to be subject to man and not the reverse. I refuse a realitt I won't create myself and refuse an existence without liberty and the will to exercise personal freedom

ericsmith:




By "humanism" what exactly are you even talking about ... did you see our grandmothers married to our forefathers with chains around there neck or you saw stripes of whips on there bare back or what exactly is the fuss all about.
You undermine your argue or shuld i say view the moment you typed "slavery" we can't discuss slavery without talking of equality & fairness ... we can't talk fairness without analysing gender role. hope you understand now.
lol !! i knew you will misquote me, d only form of knowledge you know is education, am not talking about that so don't feel insulted, i actual meant seek knowledge that will make you understand life from creation point of view and not the educational of view you're showcasing.
Even if i want to argue my data is not cheap i use glo God wil answer my prayer soon.

Dude. You're excused. I won't bother reading.

Mizwisdom:


Big bruh thanks, I like your stance on this issue it shows your knowledge and maturity, keep it up

All the males around me know say i nor dey take this kind matter play. Even when dem drink ogogoro, if dem wan misbehave, wheb dem see me, their eyes dey clear. I have atleast five girls in my hands and I can't let them flql into the hands of sons some type of men here produce. I've seen bad women, yes we all have, but to form it into a song to deride the female is not what I'll subscribe to. I believe in authority and submission even like you quoted womeb woth resources can marry men without resources and they both build up, its because there's love. Not all the antics of poor men who would use the slightest of chances to deride the womenfolk like thier lives depend on it.

Yes it goes both ways, I've come across really nasty lqdies too, but we musnt yse our experiences to defines issues never. The last i dated was, make we no go there. The summary is if we learb to love and cleave as the Bible demands of the instituition, all these things would not be necessary


I've seen too many glorious ladies had their greatness truncated by falling into the hands of wrong partners. Too many, i mewn Docotorate level ladies turn to ordinary street, ordinary office girls. One of my aim is to push some type of meb off the path of women so they can fall into the hands of high value partners


Marriage has become a graveyard because of ego and self interests and we can't afford to be silent in the face of these proclivities. While i have much to say, my spirirt is vexed jare


I'll end on this note, marriage as i always say is for mentally balanced people, two mentlaly balanced people that can afford to be vulnerable(spiritual unclothedness, being the direct opposite of physical unclothedness), the enemy isn't man or woman. The enemy is ego, selfishness, self preservance, selfish ambition, selfish interests. Self wages war against the right order which is what is expected, both aprties treta one another with mutual respect, love and one-mind. Many men want to get closs to their graves before they begin to drop down their sturdy positions to embrace the truth.

Mizwisdom:



Let me remind you that in many tribes and traditional settings , women were productive. The concept of house wife is an adopted foreign because you had to work even as a woman. Man made laws is the reason for male privilege not necessarily financial status. Afterall some Fathers have been known to give out their daughters to impoverished men and women are still required to submit to his authority.

You have oil on your head. Abeg. Preach. You're preaching

crackkhaus:

Oga, then create a movement to end the process of women being purchased like chattel.
It's for their own good.

If you want to get rid of a tree, try getting at it from the stump and not from the branches.

What you should be asking yourself is how do westerners contract marriage?
Then next you ask yourself, why was it so easy to create an equal standing among western couples?

Start from there and work it up.

Dude get your fvcked up negative energy off of my mentions and leave my interpretations of my information apssed across to myself. If you want a female slave to service your pervasive needs without any right of being, feel free to find yourself one. I'm not the reason behind your issues, neither can it be blamed on single ladies

GboyegaD:


With time they will. Many atimes, people choose not to change because it is beneficial to them. In some cases, people feel entitled because they feel they had done same to others in the past.

In little linee you've put up so much. Entitlements, one of the greatest destroyers of the human soul. Entitlement is what produces insecurities selfishness that leads to all this containment laws where we want persons placed where we want them, and yet draw out benefits out of them forgetting that a jailer and his captor both do not move freely although, the jailer doesn't truly know


I learnt it at a very young age, thanfully and I've had peace as a result, than no form of human domineering, manipulation leads to a peaceful life. All forms of manipulation rips the manipulator of some form pf peace

If paying bride price means buying a woman and that her family is putting her up for sale, then a female child is useless from birth and should not be trained atall. Smh. Enough ofnthis destroying females to prove a point. Men who can't see a womna as deserving of fiar human treatament can get a sex doll. Afterall, a sex doll also has a vagina

Me wey no dey use femoae child play. Anyone trying this shiii with future daughter plays with his life. Him with his kinsmen

GboyegaD:


Culture was defined by some folks. Make your own culture. I tell everyone around me, I am a Nigerian and that is it. I claim Lagos where my dad is from, Benin where my mom is from, and Bayelsa where I chose to fall in love with and be from. I pick what I like and act the way in my best interest and that of my family. I tell everyone who cares to listen, there are things I wouldn't do and that my children wouldn't do because it is forbidden to me.

The concept is hard for them to absorb. That a man is simply he's choosing and not what sonething exernal compels him to do

ericsmith:






I really tried to understand your view esp. where you're coming from buh if it is what i am thinking "equality badderdash" bro i stand to disagree with you a lot.
When man visit his inlaw do xpect him to enter kitchen with his mother inlaw to pound yam or sweep the compound with his sister inlaws.
you really need to broaden your knowledge and understand things b4 you decide what is fair or not, culture is a way of life n there is hardly anywhere you wil go around d world you won't find culture as the basis ... when it comes to gender roles no one has the temerity to say these is fair and that is not fair .... because you couldnt av shared it any better than God. gender roles are shared based on capacity God as given to us, let a man clean d house and let a woman clean d house you wil find women doing it beta, why the so called gentlemen or caring men subject "domestic duties to slavery" still beat my imagination, should we go that line compare wives with slaves ... where in history dd yu read slaves slept on bed, drive cars or where taken on a vacation. please go n watch 12yrs slave or any slave movie to even understand what slavery really looks like.
Is there really any differences between culture & structure, lets check other fields of life among animals do you notice a structure & hierarchy ,imagine firms/corporate world without structure & hierarchy.
There is this saying i luv so much " people kill people not guns" now take it as "people maltreat people not culture" becos there is no culture that instigates a man not to love & care for his wife, the custodians of culture are kings/traditional rulers visit any palace of ur choice n tell me the queen look malnourish or no glow.
Perhaps you are even nursing it in ur heart, men shuld carry pregnancy as well my friend my God is not stupid nor foolish, as our manufacturer he knows our capacity even more than we do, have yu ever wonder how a weak lady would be able to back a baby for hours n still move around, as a man try back a baby fr hours n spot the mystery of creation.
when you compare white marriage to black marriage who has more broken homes ... divorce rate is rising in nigeria now go check why

So our humanism has reduced to issues of politicsl correctness


Dude as for your speaking to me as from an exalted tower telling me to go educate myself.. You made me laugh. I choose to let that slide maturely.. ( I blame it on cheap data )


One quick question i have for tou is to show me where i reduced the subject matter to issues of equality, gender roles and all what nots, if you can, then i know you understood what you read.

After money comes, comes the thoughts of marriage. Should a man complain about the need to marry, its because he hasn't hit a critical life milestone. Once a man begins to have closer view of the shore, his soul begins to thirst for it. As elders we know.

Challenging a man's masculinity triggers a mna to be a better version of himself. Something nature buikds innate in a woman's system and which often times, with filamily expectations drives the greatness hidden beried in a man out. It can be overly negative or positive and depending on its management, a man cna b a better person. I'll save what the desire to get married to a lady i adored drew out what lied beneath that i never knew existed. I thank the Lord she pulled thst out of me. (This is dor the mature )..Today, justbthis relationship broke out the greatest acgievementof my life. Sadly, I'm not with her. Funnily, I've read many life stories similar to mine on Quora. How ladies helped a man reached into his resource reservoir to oull out his own Greatness. Should a woman's family challenge a man intuitively, its for the man's benefit. And men should be mature to absord even unneeded energies processing it into better outputs than continue to remain contained in the normalcy of everyday trivialities that doesnt lead to anything tangible.


Unless a woman is the physcial representation of the devil, burdening all travails in a marriage shouldn't be a woman's fault. Let us fear God and appropriate faults without favoritism of anykind.


Back to the crux of the matter, if a man's " foundational family " has crisis all sorts of "politics" within it, it wiuld evolve and the energy woukd trvael into rhe marriage affecting even the children of brothers. Now, it will be hypocritical if he put the blame again on the woman leaving the man out of his burden of responsibilities.


The summsry is many people come from dysfunctional familes and discernijg what makes a healthy union is not completely unstrange to such parties, male and female alike.


While all of this is individualistic, the summary is to treat our wives as we want our daughters treated and to think treat our wives as ourselves and families should respect both parties without dishing out the whole political drama that defines many marital relationships.. home and abroad. White or black


To me, many times, the man comes with the seed of greatness, the woman comes with rhe push energy and the little threadings and resources that can be utilized to produce greatness that already exists in the man's innercore,if we focus on mutual development of the unit team or rather spend more time on it, then a couple identity is formed and positive energy that drives the unit to produce Greatness is attained. For me, i choose to set sight on the positives than looking for ways to subjugate and bring under control ( not that I can't ) thab to put my life's precious energy on trying to " control,control,manipulate a woman and put her in check", no time.


Can we push this thread to front page please

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Babawale01:
It baffles genuine people that seek help usually gets little or NO response on here. People would just read and pass with no single word.

It's obvious this is a scam. U go use ur new acct seek help and dey follow up with other 2 or 3 main acct to drive sympathy. Make una continue oo.

I been dey ask for anyone to offer me job or even refer me to anyone for job since!!! but who cares?? dem go quick reply scammers.

God dey Ooo.

Why are we quick to call people scam? WHY

Checj my moniker. When i started my projects people shouted scam despite it being a decade old. Thank God today, God did it Himself to His own Glory alone



All this name calling and mud slinging must help. No one forces anyone. If anything you see doesn't agree with your logic, let's learn to silently walk away. We're men and we must not be Petty

UjuJoan Na how you dey!

This is one out of the many ways they churn out billions in profits annually. Sorry. I've been in your shoes. Left the funds for them