nwaezeemmanuel:
Get this. Being ALPHA starts from the mind.

I don't fancy using the word these days because every guy wants to be ALPHA, even at the cost of putting up a front. Height doesn't make a man ALPHA.

Can it be an advantage? Of course, but that is just on the attractive scale. A lot of people are drawn to tall individuals, some not so much. Even at that, you can score all points on the attractive scale and lack confidence and value - traits that define an ALPHA male. Work on that, and forget about your height.

PS- If you're under 5ft 8, you may want to consider moving out with taller guys less or keeping them in reasonable distance depending on the occasion. Many tall guys love being around shorter guys. It can sometimes exaggerate their worth before they speak.

I understand. I actually don't see it as a problem or anything, I know it's a thing of the mind. I just wanted to know. Girls even tell me sometimes that if I was a few inches taller, I would be a Yoruba demon.

Thanks mahn.
lol, o don't like using the word too

I actually have a serious question. you know how women are attracted to god-like genes, what if you have everything but height, is it a problem? is height a determining factor towards being an alpha?

Remmedy:
Omo this one too long

Remmedy:
Omo this one too long

no vex boss. I wasn't able to post screenshots instead

when I didn't reply, she sent this. Note, this is a girl that forms all churchy o




[2/14, 13:11] She: Are you attending the youth programme by 4:30?
[2/14, 13:42] Helios☀: No,
Quite busy
You?
[2/14, 13:58] She: Perhaps
[2/14, 14:05] Helios☀: �

Give me a recap of the movie
[2/14, 14:06] She: I said perhaps.
Who said I'm going
[2/14, 14:07] She: I would have said yes if you were coming too
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Now I'm not sure
[2/14, 14:07] She: Why are u not coming?
[2/14, 14:09] Helios☀: Why are you looking for me?
[2/14, 14:14] She: Why are u suspicious
[2/14, 14:15] Helios☀: You might push me into the communion room
Duhhhh
[2/14, 14:17] She: I never intended to do that.

And even if I wanted to, it won't be in public.

Besides, where is the communion room
[2/14, 14:18] She: Also, I just want to attend the programme with someone I know.

That's y I'm asking u to come.
[2/14, 14:23] Helios☀: The fear of getting caught brings a mighty orgasm

So I hear�
[2/14, 14:23] Helios☀: I wanted to come
But I'm tired
Was busy all week
[2/14, 14:26] She: Come jor
How many minute will it take
[2/14, 14:27] She: WO, leave me.
I don't have strength to argue with u.
[2/14, 14:27] She: Where is the communion room?
[2/14, 14:34] Helios☀: How many minutes would what take?
The movie or ���?


The movie would take at least an hour, a mount Zion movie could take up to 3 hrs
[2/14, 14:34] Helios☀: Like I'd tell you�
[2/14, 14:37] She: I can see ur Hot this Sunday.

Oh! Today is Valentine's day. Little wonder.
[2/14, 14:39] She: I just want to know na.

It cannot pass that room money is taken to
[2/14, 14:40] Helios☀: �

Nahh


What's so special about today?
It's jobless people and those who don't get it all year that have that time
[2/14, 14:40] Helios☀: No, that one is locked
[2/14, 14:41] She: Well for couples, it's quite special
[2/14, 14:41] She: I mean married couples
[2/14, 14:42] She: Or serious couples sha.
Not all those yeye ones
[2/14, 14:42] She: The communion room is close to where the pastor's sit.
There's a door there.

��
[2/14, 14:42] Helios☀: Why is it special?
It's a regular day to me
[2/14, 14:43] Helios☀: So you've made plans
✝️
[2/14, 14:45] She: Well, I thought you were asking why people consider it special
[2/14, 14:45] She: Yeah.
But with someone else. Not u
[2/14, 14:46] Helios☀: I am
Why do you see it as special?
[2/14, 14:47] Helios☀: Thank goodness
Now I can usher without fear
[2/14, 14:47] She: For me, it isn't.
It's just my brother's bday.
Lobatan.

But it will when I finally find 'the one'
[2/14, 14:48] She: ��
But, I can change my mind at any time
[2/14, 14:49] She: So are you coming?
[2/14, 14:51] Helios☀: Goan watch the movie
So you'll find the one
[2/14, 14:51] Helios☀: Ahhh�
Don't change it o
[2/14, 14:51] Helios☀: No, you'll just have to manage without me
[2/14, 14:54] She: What type of boy are u?

Other guys will be like: let me just come since she's insisting but you?
[2/14, 14:55] She: Why else do u think I want to go
[2/14, 14:55] She: �
[2/14, 14:57] Helios☀: �

Simple answer

I'm not a boy

I told you to impress me, if you did, I might have
[2/14, 14:57] Helios☀: �
[2/14, 14:57] Helios☀: I wanna stay safe
[2/14, 14:58] She: Mtchwwwwwwww.

I think I give u too much credit.

I don't need you there anymore.

I'll do just fine on my own.
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[2/14, 14:59] She: No need.

I'll be changing my mind in the next hundred years and I'm sure none of us will be alive
[2/14, 15:00] She: Besides you told me you are a ghost that has sold his soul.

I don't impress people without a soul
[2/14, 15:00] Helios☀: ��

Okay na
[2/14, 15:01] Helios☀: Didn't say I was a ghost
[2/14, 15:03] She: Na u know.

Na wetin I like I go talk
�
[2/14, 15:04] She: PS: I'm not talking to u ever again.
�‍♀️�‍♀️

You just broke my heart.
[2/14, 15:05] Helios☀: You like to talk nonsense nigbayen
[2/14, 15:05] Helios☀: �


Awwwww


But you'll still stare
[2/14, 15:07] She: �
[2/14, 15:11] Helios☀:
Aiit
When the thought of me keeps racing through your head

You and your lil booty would come....
Pip pip cheerio��





it's not really much, but look what sendless and being cocky does. still practicing though.

added another to the list.

Keep pushing mates�

Hmmmmm don't really know how to use NL. the screenshots aren't uploading
well......



[2/13, 22:16] Helios☀: With that your small bumbum
[2/13, 22:25] She: �
Small bumbum?
That must be an irony.
[2/13, 22:26] Helios☀: No


Bumbum we'll be looking for inside your gown
[2/13, 22:34] She: You're funny, shey u know?
[2/13, 22:35] She: Besides, so you've been looking at my bumbum instead of listening to Pastor?

No wonder.
I sha know ur eyes just use to come my seat position every time.

Now I know
[2/13, 22:36] She: I'll watch out for u
�
[2/13, 22:37] Helios☀: �
Me ke

I'm not even a bum bum person
[2/13, 22:37] Helios☀: You're kukuma always looking at my direction
[2/13, 22:55] She: �
Indeed.
Me that is looking at the fan beside u.
[2/13, 22:56] She: So how did u know the size of my butt?
[2/13, 22:57] She: Look at you saying my butt is small. . .
First time to hear this.
�
[2/13, 22:57] Helios☀: �
Does it look like the one in your house?


You cannot lie
[2/13, 22:58] Helios☀: You come very early for second service
I have to check where you're going to sit so I can direct others

I wasn't looking at your small hass. It's just in the way
[2/13, 22:59] Helios☀: �
It's what I see na


I'm not like the other guys
[2/13, 22:59] She: Guy!
I don't look at you, dear.

If at all I look at you, it's probably because I'm wondering how someone can look that ugly
�
[2/13, 23:00] She: I won't even answer u if u try to direct me again.

How can u take me to the front seat
[2/13, 23:01] She: And my phone was na ringing like mad that day, I had no choice but to get up from that front seat
[2/13, 23:02] She: I wonder what you call big tho.

Cus both guys and girls say I have a big butt.

But it's refreshing to hear this.

�

At least, I know some guy think I have a small butt compared to what I hear.
[2/13, 23:03] Helios☀: �

Really?
Ugly but your eyes sparkle, sometimes you stutter sef
[2/13, 23:04] Helios☀: �
Try me
I'll beat the bum bum and send you to the front
[2/13, 23:05] Helios☀: Biggie ni
[2/13, 23:06] She: You need to see the way I'm laughing right now.
�

Eyes sparkle?

Stutter?
[2/13, 23:07] She: ��
You go see.
[2/13, 23:08] She: How would you know when you're kuku a breast pesin


�
[2/13, 23:15] Helios☀: Yes dear

I have that effect on girls

Even small bootied igbo girls
[2/13, 23:16] Helios☀: �
So
I can still analyse
[2/13, 23:23] She: Small bootied Igbo girls��

Well,

You seem to mistake awe for sparkle.

I'm always in daze when I see you.

I'm awestruck by your ugliness.

Perhaps you should look at the kind of girls you have such effect on.
�

The ugly ones too perhaps.

You can only attract ur type.
[2/13, 23:23] She: So you're a Breast guy?

Shey d milk u suck for childhood never do u
[2/13, 23:26] Helios☀: �

Ugly doesn't make you steal occasionally glances
The most important, ugly doesn't even make girls stutter, it makes them bold


You can say the truth, I won't tell your boyfriend��
[2/13, 23:27] She: When have I ever stuttered while talking to you?
[2/13, 23:27] Helios☀: Breast brings a smile to my soul, the roundness, firmness, the innocent look it gives girls

What is there to gain from ass

Nought
[2/13, 23:28] Helios☀: Every time
You don't even look me in the eye

Always blushing too
[2/13, 23:28] She: Kai!
I really need to start looking straight.
Because I like looking around, .....thinks I'm stealing glances at him.
��‍♀️
[2/13, 23:29] She: When last did we speak to each other?
[2/13, 23:30] She: I need to remember when I didn't look u in the eyes. . . and blushed too
�
[2/13, 23:30] Helios☀: You eyes would always wonder to my direction


I don't think you are
*You* know you are
[2/13, 23:30] She: Good thing I have both.
��
[2/13, 23:30] Helios☀: Last year
[2/13, 23:31] Helios☀: We've talked about 3 or 4 times

Each time, you did
[2/13, 23:31] Helios☀: ���
Neither
[2/13, 23:32] She: This thing is already getting serious.
�

I thought you were even joking.

So you seriously think I look at you because I'm dazzled by your looks?
[2/13, 23:33] She: This is ....... o.
I hope you are not thinking it's Amaka or Chigozie you're chatting with.

Who talked to u 3 or 4 times?

U that keep running away once service ends.

I'll be looking for you to say hi but won't see u.
[2/13, 23:34] She: I'll come and show u.
Don't worry.
�
[2/13, 23:34] Helios☀: I don't know what you're looking for o

Undressing someone with your eyes�
[2/13, 23:35] Helios☀:
Yes I know

We talked for the first time during Shiloh, then 2 separate Sundays

So you do seek me out

I don't run actually, we have meetings immediately after
[2/13, 23:36] Helios☀: �
Don't come and show me
Before you rape me in the communion room�
[2/13, 23:37] She: Now I am sure you don't know who you're talking to.

I didn't come to church for Shiloh.

I went to a nearby living faith church for Shiloh
[2/13, 23:38] She: ��
Guy

My eyes just roam about.

Sometimes, i dont even know I'm staring.


It's just an unconscious act.

Shey I've not been communicating the wrong idea with my eyes to many people bayii
[2/13, 23:38] She: Cus I Stare at that other usher boy too
[2/13, 23:39] She: Shey e no go de think say my eyes de sparkle and I go stutter if e follow me talk
[2/13, 23:40] She: How long does the meeting last
[2/13, 23:40] Helios☀: You came on the last day�
[2/13, 23:40] She: ��
So you're scared of what you were ridiculing
[2/13, 23:40] Helios☀: Most times lust is unconscious
[2/13, 23:41] Helios☀: Liesssss
There are only two ushering boys
[2/13, 23:41] She: So you were talking to someone else and was imagining my face.

Is that how much you love me
[2/13, 23:41] Helios☀: 30mins most times

[2/13, 23:42] She: Sheybi, you people are two
[2/13, 23:42] She: Wetin UNa de talk about
[2/13, 23:42] Helios☀: I stated the truth
You could try to satisfy your list by forcing me in the room

You're kukuma bigger than me
[2/13, 23:43] Helios☀: He comes late
He's mostly behind the congregation or upstairs


Liessss
[2/13, 23:43] She: Whatever makes you sleep at night.
I'm sure it's not everyday a beautiful girl stare at u.
Little wonder you are emphasizing on me staring at u.

Okay o.
I Stare at u.

Let me allow you bask in the moment.

[2/13, 23:45] Helios☀: Beautiful?

Let me not enter that one this night

I like my girls dark�

[2/13, 23:47] She: If at all I want to satisfy my lust, u think say I go pick u

Dream on
[2/13, 23:48] She: No wonder.

You're craving charcoal.

But it's fine.
[2/13, 23:49] Helios☀: I'm an usher, it's my duty to sweep through the crowd continuously, so of course I see you

You're trying to deny this your craving so badly

Don't worry, I'll let you sleep now

DM me with your points tomorrow

Pip pip cheerio
[2/13, 23:50] Helios☀: �

Your aggressiveness points at one thing
[2/13, 23:51] Helios☀: It probably wasn't Shiloh, but it's at that your corner
[2/13, 23:52] Helios☀: Don't worry


Variety is the spice of life

Impress me and you might sway my mind
I doubt it though
[2/13, 23:54] She: Well. Whatever makes you sleep at night.

I'll let u think whatever u want to think.

It's clear you don't get this kind of attention on a normal day.

So it's fine
[2/13, 23:55] She: Oh
Didn't notice he comes late.

Fine sha.
[2/13, 23:56] She: I remember.
That was when I just became a member.
[2/13, 23:57] She: Don't worry,

I'm not wasting my energy trying to impress you.

I have better things to think about.
[2/14, 00:15] Helios☀: �
If only you knew

Like I said, you're not my type, so the motivation for casual chatter eludes me
[2/14, 00:15] Helios☀: Maybe
[2/14, 00:17] Helios☀: Lol, that's exactly what they all say.
[2/14, 07:25] She: You actually pride in yourself which is fine because you really need the self esteem and confidence to survive.

So keep priding in yourself, dear.

it's the most you can do.






I didn't reply the last message.

it may not really make sense o because I've removed a lot of unnecessary parts, but just note the teasing and not letting her insults get to me part.


seems like I didn't achieve anything right?
I'll post the one she sent me today

Finally done. phew!!


who ever says these drills don't work, is deceiving themselves. 3 of my stories are already here, so no need to go into details.

This one happened yesterday and today. There's this girl I've known since high school, not really interested in her (she's not my type). if I was to rate her, she's a 6facially with this mad ikebe. She attends my church and I'm an usher, we don't chat on a norms, I just decided to tease her a little yesterday. our chat went somewhat like this:

on her status: sing I can't sing, dance I can't dance. what can I now do?
me: with that your small bum bum
her: small? that's an irony right?
me: no, your bumbum that we're always looking for inside your gowns
her: Besides, so you've been looking at my bumbum instead of listening to Pastor?
No wonder.
I sha know ur eyes just use to come my seat position every time.
Now I know. I'll watch out for u
me: Me ke, I'm not even a bum bum person. You're kukuma always looking at my direction.
her: Indeed.
Me that is looking at the fan beside u. So how did u know the size of my butt? Look at you saying my butt is small. . .
First time to hear this.

it goes on like that, I told her I'm not like the other guys drooling over her small booty, told her I have to look. at where she seats as my duty as an usher.

I think screenshots would be better

rafikii:

this is inspiring bro,more fire to you.

Thank you good sir.
like the Phoenix, we everburn

Remmedy:


The last part wasn't even harsh and itwas the right thing do .... Ignore her totally... She is obviously using you to catch cruise ...

alright, thanks mahn

Happy Sunday guys. I'm back again o, lol. I went to know, is my wahala too much.
There's this girl I've been chatting with for a while now. she's had a crush on me for almost 4yrs now. (she told me four years ago, and still two years ago and once in a while). So, I dig her a little and I've been using the drills on her and we basically talk like we're dating, but the ish is that she's boring. she calls the most, but I end up doing most of the talking, even while chatting. so recently I'm getting really tired of her boring chats. she replies well, but you know when most of the contributions are from you and all. so I told her about it, she apologized and said she would work on it. there's no difference, so I started ignoring her a little, when she asked why I told her. she begged and said she'll try. it has happened 3 times now, and I feel it's no longer a useful punishment. Fast forward to yesterday, I messaged her on WhatsApp, she read it a few minutes later and didn't reply, even till midnight, she was even viewing my status, so no excuse of saying she forgot. she did it last week, it was after ignoring her for about 2days. I called her, she let it ring for a while before cutting it. and didn't call back that day. the next day she messaged me, I asked if she cut the call, she said yes that she was having online classes and forgot to call back. I know she has online classes sometimes, but the seconds her phone rang for before cutting makes me feel like she was trying to make up her mind, and she viewed my status again that night, so I know she didn't forget, but I let it slide.

so today she called me after church(we go to the same church), we had a youth meeting and I left immediately after, she probably wanted us to go together. but I'm actually pissed because I feel she's taking me for granted and that's like the biggest sin you can commit against me. so when she called, the caller ID didn't show, so I picked, if I knew it was her, I wouldn't have.
I asked who's this please, she was like when did I leave church, when I recognized the voice, I just told her 'WO, don't disturb me' and cut the call.



so, I wanna know if my wahala is too much or not

thanks

banjicom:


You have to learn from experience bro, the truth is no amount of drill you read can help you if you don't practice them in real life. Put on your confidence coat and go ahead and make mistakes it is part of life.

You have already done the most important part which is breaking down her defense with fun and words. It is easier than you think, you don't need any special tips

lol...thanks. Wish me luck

banjicom:


Post it here please, so that we can all learn and give our advice too.

okay, this is the mail I sent, I've edited a bit though


Sir Harddon, hope you're good. I recently started following your dating drills thread on NL and I need your help on something. I've been chatting with this girl for sometime now, I've been balancing the cocky, funny and seriousness well and I've been able to make her chat dirty. We've never met before, but it's certain we'll see this year. 


So we chat dirty sometimes and she says I make her wet an all that and she can't wait for us to meet. So the issue now is, when we meet, would sex on the first meeting be wise?

Also, I'm 21 but still a virgin(that's the embarrassing part), she's not. I've never told her that, but from our chat's I've assured her I can give her an orgasm, and she says she'll have to find out. 


I've read your drills on sex, about using the lips to explore her body and all that to build anticipation. But I would like to know if you have more tips I can use so that our first encounter would be truly memorable. 

it's not like I'm chasing sex or anything. but I'll be done with school soon, and I would prefer I lost it before then. most people think I'm a pro st it cos of the way I talk

P.s: I'm just interested in a friends with benefits relationship



Awaiting your response Sire

Helios14:
Sir Harddon. you've got mail :PSir Harddon. you've got mail

Or should I post it here. it's not really personal, but it's kinda embarrassing.

Sir Harddon. you've got mail :PSir Harddon. you've got mail

nobodii:
congrats
Helios14 just incase you never see this thread sha https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know

Thanks mahn. I haven't seen it.

Omooooo. I'm not done with the thread, just in page 93, I just decided to hail una and our boss @Harddon. my story is long o.
from childhood, treating a woman like a god has been drilled into my head, I even grew up with 4 sisters. so I was the dreaded nice guy from little. I was also shy, extremely shy. not to only girls but guys as well, but it was due to some psychological factors in my upbringing sha. All my life I've been in useless relationships, most were because they liked me, not because I liked them, but because they liked me. So last year I dated this girl in my dept at school. spoiler!! it has been the worst relationship of my life. she was among the general top5 hottest girl in the department (not to me though, she was way outside my 'type' of girls zone). I never really gave her much attention, majorly because she was light skinned, (they always seem to have this enormous ego that irritates me. ) So I noticed in yr 2 that she started making moves towards me. started talking to me all of a sudden, even collected my phone number and gave me hers without asking. I took it for greenlight and after a while of talking and meeting, she coerced me into asking her out( the hanty can play mind games ehn). That's where Hell's gate finally welcomed me. every week I was apologizing for one thing or the other. she would get angry for no reason and say that a girl doesn't need a reason to get angry and her boyfriend doesn't need to have a reason before apologizing. like an idiat, I continued apologizing, behaved like a needy fellow, I used to have a lot of girls I chat with before her, I ignored them all to focus on her, she made me stop hanging out with friends(I know, I'm a fool). she wasn't my spec so I wasn't even sexually attracted to her, and that made her pissed, wanted me to beg for a kiss, I didn't really care for one. we hugged only when I asked. she had no respect at all for me. we could be walking together and one of those boys like Harddon would call her and she would leave me waiting for minutes to talk to the guy( and I the fool would wait for 20mins while she flirted), she would tell me that so so so guy is chatting with her and their hitting it off. pick other guys calls in my presence and zone me out. once we had a dept party coming up. she said she wasn't going to attend. I begged her for weeks she refused. them one night while strolling, she picked a guy's call and he told her he was attending the party, after she hung up. she told me that she'll go to the party now cos of that guy. the guy is my friend now sef, he wants to avenge me muahahahaha. she continued all those beechy attitudes throughout the semester. then, I lost my dad during the holidays, I grew distant and she didn't even care.A month later i celebrated my 19th birthday, because I didn't message her first( yeah, she waits for me to message her before chatting, has only called me like 5 times) she didn't say pim. even though our dept group chat was spammed with birthday wishes. then by 10pm she sends me HBD (beeah). 2weeks later we resumed. lectures didn't start on time so we didn't meet. our hostels were beside each other, she didn't ask we meet and neither did i( her matter don tire me). so during fresher's introduction abi watin dem dey call am. I saw her with her friend. I waited till after and went to see her. she was talking to her friend and behaved like she didn't see me. her friend turned to me and greeted me (I and her friend had close matric no. so we were usually in the same lab groups, so we talked regularly) she just turned and eyed me up and down in disgust. I had been coming to school for two weeks and have been wearing new clothes, that day I decided to wear one of last years own. while she on the other hand was clad in tear rubber from up to down. she continued talking to her friend. I decided to wait for her, she must be in one of her moods(ode). after talking she told me to excuse her that she's not felling fine and wanted to go home. I told her to call me when she got home. 4hrs later no call, and her house is about 2hrs for school. I called her three times, mo answer. sent her an SMS and. WhatsApp message. came online at night and saw that she left the WhatsApp message on red. fuming, I wrote a long epistle complaining about her beechy attitude (immature, I know, but how she irked me). I ended the epistle with 'I may have low self esteem and all but I deserve way better than this'. my plan was to end the relationship depending on her response. her message was short and sweet. you do deserve more, I think we should end this, sorry for wasting your time(cheesus is lord). I replied alright, she replied fyn. no tears, I'm still mourning my dad and this yellow hued demon isn't worth my emotions. I had been saving for this cool gift for her birthday next month, I cancelled the order, took part of the money and bought bread with four eggs and viju milk. I am this person who posts a lot of memes on their status, I posted obe a few minutes after, a funny one. I made sure I didn't post anything about heartbreaks for months. about 2weeks after the break up I ran into her on a staircase. I adept at making people seem invisible behaved like I saw nothing. the look in her eyes was one of shock. like she's surprised I haven't spoken to her. I gained a little confidence and started chilling with girls wella. I noticed that she always looked up when a girl shouted my name. so fast forward to this year. all about improvement, for my shyness, I joined ushering dept in church to help cope with stage fright. it has helped a lot. 100% I don't even feel shy. my only problem is maintaining eye contact, still working on that. I focused on money, started a blog, making some success, started working out, making noticeable progress(I'm a fine boy on a normal day, even guys stare, older women give me the danm eyes (you know what I mean). average height and have this little ish with my teeth but, don't let it pull me down. my greatest improvement is stumbling into nairaland. I first found a Redpill thread, a good one. finished it, that's were I saw the link for this thread. the things I've learnt so far, Chai. it has upped my game. haven't started meeting women physically yet though, but my DMS are on faya. every week I get more girls for practicing. I've cut some off gan.one is in my church, away boning face when she see's me, I just flash my winning smile and pass by her( she got too comfortable with our chats. making me do all the work). I'm not successful with all though, but I don't let it bother me. there's one I ignored for weeks, she didn't message me too. I posted a Christmas greeting with me singing in a bass voice in the background (not too good though) and she messaged me in seconds. I will open it tomorrow( me sef dey craze small small). I just want to thank you boss man. by the time I'm done with this thread. them go hear am. I'm not really in support of hurting girls though, but I want that crazy ex to see what she missed out on treating me like filth(she still checks my status sef)

sorry it was so long o
when I think about that girl, vex dey posses me

merry Christmas gentlemen

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Yes! Yes! That's how it should be I mean @bold. Your story is very much similar to mine except mine wasn't a psychopath and we dated for 3yrs.
Long story short... It's been a year and 7 months now since I've been working on myself and you wouldn't believe how much I've accomplished. Martinez39s will testify to this. Look at me that used to shy away from anything technical is now deeply into it. Taking courses up and down on programming. All I want to say is, we in this community will support your decision, and because we do more of action than talking, any time you feel like going back to the simp world or quitting on your resolve, just remember, Regex is also on that path, and has been on that path for a really long while now.




he say psychopath. Thanks

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I will advice you focus more on the bolded. You are still young, don’t ever make girl your priority now. I wouldn’t want you to look back when you’re 30 and say: “how I wish I was more serious with my life”

yeah, they are not on my list of priorities for now

I really appreciate your work @Dpsychologist and everyone who contributed.

I was a major simp before my friend introduced me to this thread and girls knew it. I could be with my friends and a girl could come and ask only me for cash, cos they know I'll give them. my friends would laugh at me. I didn't mind, I thought that was how to get girls.

That stuff you said about greenlight being a trap is so true. The girl I dated last (last year) was a perfect example. She was my course mate and quite pretty, but not someone I would relate to normally. I don't really like light skinned girls, they tend to be egomaniacal. So she started talking to me, even collected my number and all that. Me, mumu, felt it was greenlight, so we started dating. it was hell sha. we only dated for about three months. but all I did in those three months was apologize for no reason. She would get angry for no reason and justify it by saying a girl doesn't need a reason to be angry and her boyfriend should always apologize no matter what. We never had a tender moment, we never kissed, only hugged when I asked for it, was constantly telling me how this and that guy wants to date her and how they're hitting it off. Once, I held her hand in public and she shook it off and asked how many people did I see holding hands. long story short, I lost my dad and grew distant, she broke up with me a month after my dad passed and two weeks after my birthday.
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I turned 20 this year and I've been really big on self improvement. I started working out and I've developed pecs, my abs are popping out and I'll start work on my arms next month. An introvert by nature, I've been trying to socialize, I've also been picking up skills, I currently started a blog, I'm building a WhatsApp TV, learnt Mini importation, but I don't have cash to start that up yet though. And after reading this thread, it might be a while before I start dating again, I have a lot to improve upon.

so once again THANK YOU