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XhosaNostra:


Listen, we're not animals here, we're humans with the ability to control our urges. The dysfunctional ones of our species cannot control those urges is my belief & I'm sticking to it. A normal, thinking person would look at & have thoughts about a scantily dressed stranger, but they won't act on them, because in the same train of thoughts they'd be thinking about all the diseases the person might be carrying. That is being rational. A sicko on the other hand doesn't follow the same rational, thinking process. Like an animal, he is controlled by instincts. He looks & he reacts. No critical thinking involved. Sorry but that's not normal.

Maybe you live in some imaginary utopia where evil and it's proclivities have been eradicated. But I live in a world were there are people who can't control their urges, whether it's the urge to steal, kill, or rape. And these people are always going to remain. There is nothing anyone can do about it. Evil and good are natural qualities that are endemic to human existence. So your goal - everyone's goal - should be to prevent themselves from being open to high risk situations and reduce the possibility of being perceived as a prey by predatory humans.

Why do you take precautions to lock your doors at night? Why don't you leave your doors and windows open at night and sleep comfortably without any fears since "we are all humans and we can control our urges" and since according to you "the dysfunctional ones of our society can't control the things you do?"

XhosaNostra:
No, I don't believe rape has anything to do with a manner of dressing because some men have raped animals, babies & elderly women. What's sexually provocative about that? Blaming the victim is nothing but a cover up, plus a retàrded excuse for their lack of control & possible mental issues. It makes no sense to be aroused to that extent, by a stranger no less!

In summary, the issue is within the person who does the raping. No two ways about it. Something's wrong with him!

This way of thinking and responding to issues isn't going to solve any problems. Saying that all the blame and responsibility has to go to the rapist and then rendering the tirade about how rapists are retarded and lack self control, isn't going to stop people from raping. And I don't even know if you read my post at all, because if you did, I think I made some effort in trying to illustrate how indecent dressing leads to rape and sexual assault.

There are parts of my post where I stated that of course there are cases where men tend to rape people who aren't indecently dressed, but in majority of instances, men tend to be more motivated to rape people who they are aroused by, and what engenders arousal most of the time is the revelation of sexually enticing parts of the female anatomy.

If a man walks alone in any empty, unprotected street in the middle of the night, when he has the choice not to, hence motivating bad people lurking around to accost and deprive him of his belongings, doesn't he bear some responsibility for making such an inane decision that puts him at risk? Would you say the bad men that stole from him have to bear all the burden of responsibility?

Does manner of dressing have a bearing on sexual assault and rape? I don't believe it does, but I'll just play devil's advocate and support the other side of the argument.

LivingFree:


What can we say to that... thank you for being the hope behind humanity because that comment I quoted fed the soul

Nature ain't smiling and it ain't sentimental.

On a lighter note, if I was to personify nature, I'd refer to nature as a sadistic, suicidal, self harming, artistic, unsympathetic beauty, with a serious case of bipolar disorder and an extremely unhealthy interest in morbidity.

LivingFree:


This thread was dead on arrival because using the word 'natural' is as stupid as using the word 'normal' in a sentence. Nature is all things inclusive, mothers eat their young in nature and they're here debate 'sex'

I don't wanna vex... you comment was refreshing

It's equally refreshing to know that someone else shares my point of view and approves of the validity of my arguments.

I actually created this thread to have a one on one discussion with the said user because her post on the home page was strewn with very weak arguments and she seemed to have the support of lots of people, which was something I found baffling. Surprisingly enough, the post you quoted wasn't responded to by her or anyone else and my thread was highjacked by people who seemed to be having a humdrum Sunday afternoon.

This thread has been derailed. What a shame.

mhisbliss:
You're welcome.

Firstly I'd love to point it out that unnatural in this case means "Not in accordance with Nature, artificial, typical, abnormal, aberrant, vicarious and freakish.

We were born with sex organs that are designed to complement each other, we're normally wired to be attracted to members of the opposite sex for companionship and reproduction, in a case where an individual start getting attracted to a member of same sex it becomes unnatural.

Sorry for the delay.

Based on your response, if by homosexuality being unnatural you mean it not being in accordance with nature, it then begs the question of your notion of what it means for something to be in accordance with nature. You seem to forget that nature is incredibly diverse and it manifests in a plethora of ways. Not only do complex organisms like ourselves and other life forms that comprise nature manifest an array of traits, there is also variation within the manifestation of a particular trait. How then can you separate natural traits from unnatural traits, especially bearing in mind all the factors that influence the flourishing of particular traits in a given environment, most of which are externally mediated?

I think the problem is that you seem to be construing the predominance of a behavior as an indication of it being natural, while you construe other variations of that behavior that aren't as prevalent, as unnatural. This couldn't be further from the truth in my estimation. Is heterosexuality the only natural expression of human sexuality? How about asexuality? Are people who aren't naturally attracted to either sex abnormal? What you fail to realize is that variations within behaviors ALWAYS exist, and of course some variations aid the proliferation of a species, but this doesn't make them the only natural form of expression. This notion erroneously assumes that nature tilts towards the sustenance of life, which also isn't true, as nature is inherently self contradictory and most of the time moves to destroy itself, as is evidenced by natural disasters and deadly viruses. I mean, would you say cancer is unnatural since it doesn't aid the perpetuation of the human race? Or are sexually transmitted diseases unnatural since they are by their very nature against sexual reproduction?

If heterosexuality is natural, then are all various forms of it also natural? By your definition, all variations of heterosexual behavior are in fact natural. So an attraction to the opposite sex that's fueled by a desire to rape and abuse during copulation is also natural right? The desire of a man to have sex with a 12 year old girl is also natural right, since it falls within heterosexuality?

mhisbliss:
Go on

I appreciate the fact that you accepted my invitation.

What do you mean when you say homosexuality is unnatural and what's your criteria for defining a behavior as unnatural?

I came across a post on the homepage regarding the "unnaturalness" of homosexuality. The post was predicated on the assertion that nobody is born gay, and this claim seemed to be well subscribed by lots of the people who viewed the post, despite the fact that majority of the arguments made in favor of this claim emerged from a place of rational muddiness, insufficient knowledge, and weren't put forward in a particularly convincing fashion.

I created this post in order to have a civil and open minded conversation with Mhisbliss, so that I can really understand her position, air my disagreements and see if we can both enlighten ourselves on this slippery subject.