In spite of the numerous sentimental traits that could be said of men in Nigeria, ladies still hold an opposite record about them. Prevalent among the opposite perspectives ladies hold against men here is that regardless of how sentimental they are, getting them to the holy place for marriage could be extremely difficult. Things being what they are, what are those variables that drive Nigerian men off from marriage? We have attempted to gather a few reasons that make most men feel anxious to speak on Marriage as subject, dont hesitate to include yours if not in our rundown.

NO WIFE MATERIALS: Basic among a few men is the reservation that there is shortage of wife-materials in Nigeria. For this situation, they are not alluding to women not being in quantifiable dispersion among men, what they are griping about is that most women of this era do not have the essential properties that will qualify them for the lifetime responsibility called marriage. In the event that this is the situation, time of value hunt can help mend the injury of such man.



THEY GET SEX UNRESERVEDLY WITHOUT MARRIAGE THAN IN TIME PAST: Acknowledging now that they can get sex more effectively than in times past, when virginity for ladies was a pass worth to marriage, a few men now feel parcel of ladies today have lost it in terms of keeping themselves entirety. In any case, this may not be the issue of ladies as indiscrimination is not a select demonstration than can be completed without the assent of either sexual orientation.

NIGERIA WEDDINGS ARE EXTRAVAGANT: In a nation where a man is required to wed a lady in three various types of wedding-Religious, Conventional and Court, the expense of marriage doubtlessly is something men discover exceptionally threatening. Starting a year ago, the normal Nigeria wedding expense something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more inconceivable expense. For a great many people, particularly in this economy, that is a considerable measure of cash. In any case, all we prompt is that men ought to attempt and slice their jacket as indicated by their material.

LOOKING FOR AN AVERAGE WORKERS: Today, most Nigerian men are looking for a wife equipped for imparting money related obligations to them. Gone are the days when men wed full-house-wives, the expanding typical cost for basic items has tilted most men for women who have a method for work and willing to impart to their man, the weight of building a home.

TREPIDATION OF OPPORTUNITY: There is a typical conviction among a few men that marriage puts an end to ones opportunity. Single men today are substantially more glad about not being reliant and being naturally. They fear marriage in light of the fact that they will get to be liable for each move they make to their companion. That is one major obligation a few men are not prepared to take up.



VOCATION: One of the dominating question most men will subtly ask themselves before settling on the choice to wed are, Will my accomplice make upset about me being in office for extend periods of time? Will he or she comprehend my affection for my profession? These are relevant inquiries and noting these inquiries could ease back the unequivocal moves to be made on marriage arranges.

IMPROBABLE DESIRES FROM IN-LAWS: A few folks have set certain principles for any individual who will wed their kid, whichever way be it that such desires are from the lucky man guardians or lady, the regulations infrequently influence connections. In the event that the desires are behavioral, the test may be little however e are some demoralizing circumstances where folks choose the calling capabilities, properties, and so on that must be obtained by the suitor before they can give out their kid to him in marriage.

TRUST ISSUES: Most times, individual apprehension to get conferred into a relationship on account of trust issues. A few men have been wounded in their past connections and in this manner they would prefer not to put themselves out there.

AWFUL TESTIMONY FROM WEDDED COUPLE: By and large, most men get scared by marriage as an aftereffect of the confirmations they get notification from those in marriage. Before getting into marriage talks, it is a typical thing among men to ask their siblings, companions who are as of now wedded on how the social establishment is and the confirmations they get are most times debilitating, as being what is indicated they fear their marriage will be a copy of the affirmations they have accumulated.

SOCIAL IMPEDIMENTS: Nigeria is a nation with various society and The differing qualities now and again make challenges for men who are looking for ladies with comparable society. The good thing however is that the individuals who attempt to investigate between social connections get the chance to pick up an inside and out valuation for different traditions.

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One of the big question single men ask is, “How do I know she is the right woman God has for me, since he who finds the right woman obtains favour from God?” This means there are some women who are definitely not right for you.

One of such women is the one who forces you to have premarital sex with them. No matter how beautiful they are, how hard working they are, or the role they play in church, if they have to force you to bed or put pressure on you for sex, then she is not the kind of woman who will be a blessing to your life. Blessings come from God not men. God hates sin, premarital sex is a sin before God, so this is a clear sign she is not the right woman for you and you need to let her go.

Many men have had encounters with such ladies who claimed they needed to see if the man was good in bed before they say “I do”. This should also tell you the lady is exposed to sex, she has had it from different men and trying to satisfy this lady can cost you. If you agree to marry her, it could mean that anytime she doesn’t get the satisfaction she needs from you as a husband, she will quickly go through her list of ex-sex partners and see who is available to give her that happiness. Again, if she is marrying you because you are good in bed, be reminded she is married to your penis and not your heart.

Such a woman is not in love with your heart. She just likes you for the sex and will use you. You get disrespected anytime her sexual needs are not fulfilled. I believe every man wants a good woman for a wife, then he must first be a good man. Live by example. Stand for what is right from the start. Say NO to her demands, by so doing you get favour from God. Always remember being a husband means you are the head of your home, you are supposed to lead her and not to make her fail.

You are supposed to correct her and not to corrupt her. Leading her to God does not require you to sin, but to help her say no to sin.
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Dr. Abraham, a well-known cancer specialist, was once on his way to an important conference in another city where he was going to receive an award in the field of medical research.

He was excited about the award and so boarded a plane to the venue. However, two hours after the plane took off, it made an emergency landing at the nearest airport due to a technical problem. Afraid that he would not make it in time to the conference, he immediately went to the reception to make inquiries.

He found out that he would have to wait ten hours for the next flight to his destination! He rented a car and drove himself to the conference city which was four hours away. Soon after he left, the weather changed and a heavy storm began. The downpour made it difficult for him to see so he missed a turn he was supposed to take.

Driving in the heavy rain on a deserted road, feeling hungry and tired, he frantically began to look for any sign of civilization. He came across a small tattered house and knocked on the door. A beautiful lady opened the door. He explained his situation and wanted to use the lady’s telephone but she had no telephone. She however asked him to come inside and wait till the weather improved.

The doctor who was hungry and exhausted accepted the offer. The lady offered him something to eat and drink. She asked him to join her in prayers but he declined. According to him, he believed in hard work, not in prayers! Sitting at the table and sipping his tea, the doctor watched the woman pray many times beside a baby’s crib.
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Feeling that the woman might be in need of help, the doctor asked her what exactly she needed from God and asked if God ever listened to her prayers.When he inquired of the child in the crib, the woman explained that her son was down with cancer. And they had been advised to see a doctor named Abraham who could cure him but she did not have enough money to afford his fees. She said that God had not yet answered her prayers but said that God would create some way out one day.

She added that she would not allow her fears to overcome her faith! Stunned and speechless, Dr. Abraham began to weep! He was forced to say out loud, “GOD IS GREAT” and recollected to the woman, all the sequence of bad events: malfunction on the plane, a thunderstorm and how he lost his way.

All of which had happened because God answers prayers, wanted to give him a chance to come out of his bondage of materialistic career pursuit and give some time to a poor, helpless woman who had nothing but rich prayers! Oh! What a God! God may not answer your prayers YOUR WAY but he will always answer HIS WAY.

Behind the scenes, he will move men, the weather, events, circumstances, etc. in order to work out the best for you! Do not stop trusting! Do not stop hoping! God is busy planning your dancing this year! Hold on! Hold out! Look up daily!
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There comes a time in your life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy. ~ Karl Marx.
I have been in a toxic relationship for a year and I know how challenging it may be to find the courage and strength to tell yourself: Ive had enough. There has to be a better way. I deserve better than this. We both do and to finally let go of someone you once loved, and maybe still do. Holding on to toxic relationships keeps you from growing. Dont get me wrong, I love challenges and I have this incredible ability to turn every experience, whether good or bad, into a valuable life lesson, but this doesnt mean that I should make my life harder by clinging on to toxic relationships and drama.
I believe that things should flow and they should be easy, and when they arent, that means something is wrong. After being in an unhealthy relationship, I have learned that if a relationship is hard, if its stressful, and if it takes a lot of energy and effort to try to make it work, you have to let it go, for the sake of both parties. I came to the conclusion that if a relationships doesnt make you a better person, if it doesnt challenge you to grow and evolve into a happier and more loving human being, it is not worth holding on to. If a relationship makes you bitter, but not better, then you are in the wrong one.
Robert Tew said, Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. You let go of a toxic and unhealthy relationship not because you are weak, not because you no longer love the other person, but because you are strong enough to understand that there are times when two people will be a lot happier if they go separate ways than if they stay together. There comes a time in our lives when we have to do whats right and to honor not only ourselves, but also the people around us. Dont make the same mistake I have made.
Don’t cling on to unnecessary pain. If it hurts and is a constant struggle If its hard and makes you unhappy, then you need to just let go. Life is too short to be anything but happy. One of the simplest ways to stay happy is to just let go of the things that makes you sad. There is something so beautiful, so powerful and so unique in each and every one of us and the more we cling on to toxic relationships, the harder it will be for us to tap into our own greatness. Detach, let go and learn to love yourself for who you are and not for who others want you to be. Remember, its the relationship that you are letting go of but not the love you have for the other person.
I still care about my ex-girlfriend and I know that I will love her for as long as I live, but that doesnt mean that we should be together. We tried, it didnt work and we had to let it go, and I hope you will find the strength and courage to do the same.
Way too many people cling on to toxic and unhealthy relationships just because they think that without the other person they will be nothing and their life will be worthless. Total nonsense! I used to think that way as well. I used to believe that if me and my girlfriend broke up, my life would be worthless and that nothing would make sense anymore, but guess what? Ever since I managed to let go, my life became more meaningful than ever and you know why? Because I have learned to love and appreciate myself and to stop looking for my salvation somewhere out there, in other people.
Believe me when I say that who you are is more than enough and that you dont need another person to complete you, but to help you see how beautiful you already are and how much you have to offer. Written by Danjuma Iliya.
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