When I first got saved and read about nagging wife in the Bible I thought it would be NEVER relevant to me. Well, after 5 years of marriage and ministering and studying in church together we had a baby. We got separated, he was ministering and I was home. I was off his list of people with whom he could spend time with, baby was priority. When I tried to say how hard the adjustment was for me he would say I always talk in complaining matter. When our child was 8 I found out he had virtual affair, meaning nothing physical just very romantic letter to his secretary. We went to pastor for counseling. There when I first heard that I became a nagging wife.
What happened to me? I was out of his focus. When I tried to talk he would shut his hearing. I could see it from his face. I would talk more to try to have any reaction. I am living person! Here most of men's responses is-ignore. Shut off. Why would you ignore the one who gave life to your kids? Right, you do not nag- because you are stronger, men! You can hit, you can make angry face, you can speak and as women we responce. Can I hit or scare him to obey me? No. My only means is words. Air. But the more we talk the less you listen.

I grew in women's environment. We talked. If I was nagged at, which I called "lectured" I would try to do my best to correct or I would understand that my mom or my grandma was tired or upset. We would hug each other.

When my husband first heard my mom's lecture he said he would never obey after that. What does Bible say about rebellious spirit? And now I understand he does the same to me-the more I talk about matters the less chances are left for me.

Dear ladies, they do not want to listen! All of them! How on earth can we agree and have family? Where is our family now? Why we cannot talk and agree about matters?

I feel now that I am a big looser. I thought it would never happen to me. Now nagging wife is my name. I didn't know any other way to be heard and now I know that I actually made my husband to go completely deaf.

All I needed was him giving me a hug and telling me how wonderful I still was. Instead, I saw grins and comments. He hates the sound of my voice now. I hate it, too. Just cannot stop.

And I hate his silence. I hate when he grins hearing my voice. He just stopped loving me, that's all. Nagging wife is forsaken wife. And in the same time, being a good Christian, he comes to me to have sex. Then he makes patient face if I want to tell him something. No, I do not ruin his desire-most of the time. But sometimes I felt too neglected before to respond to him then. I cannot even tell him a story. Anything longer than one sentence makes him unhappy.

So, what is your advise, guys, shut up and cook and make love? Why would you marry then, if you don't want to share your life with your wife?