How many of you guys responding are actually married?

Marriage is not what you read in Mills and Boons, its a lot mopre complicated than that.

The first 2 years of marriage is very very turbulent, lots of quarells over little, irrelevant issue. The babe you thought was very docile and understanding grows wings overnight and becomes very opinionated. Things you used to do which she never complained about become big issues. It becomes a contest of will as each party tries to define some basic ground rules. Sex between the couples is very hot and intense at this stage, infact most times the parties use it to settle quarells.

If you survive to the 3rd year then the marriage starts growing you two understand each other at this stage, know what causes quarell and would have developed diplomatic approach to sensitive issues, learn to keep quiet and ignore certain issues, have mutual respect for each other. The friendship starts growing at this stage. If you are blessed with a kid you two would start planning or the future of the kid as she starts going to school. Sex becomes regulated, not as often as before. The kid helps to regulate this. Men may start having flings outside at this stage to fill in the missing gaps.

By the 5th year the marriage has settled down. Sex is now once a week. The 2nd and/or third kid is around. Madam is very busy with the kids all day and has very little energy for sex. She is probably not looking as hot as she used to, when you two met. afterall she has dropped 2/3 engine. You two communicate very well at this stage, you can second guess each others thoughts on certain issues, you both understand the corporate plan for the family and are probably working towards owning your own home. This is the stage during which the man may have a smallee outside just to spice up his sex life. The couples need to work very hard to jump start their sex life, spice things up with Victorian secrets, lunch time/weekend getaways, crazy stuff just to reinvent sex.

@Mukina2 good for you. I was about suggesting you get your bobo to suck them for u but alas u've already found a cure. By the way ain't you taking part in the hajj this year.

I hear the hormones in warm male saliva can stop the itching. Don't quote me o!

@Dr Balogun there are many babes out there who wouldn't mind the fact that you are married in fact the wedding band seems to attract them. Go to the university campuses dem full there ("Runs Babes"), some are single working class babes, some are even married women looking for action (Avoid this group by all means) , so far as you don't deceive anyone that you are not married, never hide your marriage band. It has its consequences though so think through your action carefully. Its not for me to tell you to do or not to do, the choice is yours but whatever you do, don't forget your family and play safe.

~~~Your Inability to communicate properly without being rude and insultive must be a reflection of the quality of your upbringing. Hmm I wonder why I even bothered to respond the first time, maybe the harmattan is getting to me. Well feel free to run your mouth as much as you want afterall it is a free world~~~

~~~Judgemental, Hypocritical, Deceitful, Immature, Pretentious Bitch seeking attention and followership. ~~~

Hmm how is the Escort/Massage business in London?. I hope the cards/posters you drop in phone booths are pulling in enough customers. ENJOY.

~~~ Bloody Hypocrite~~~Runs Babe~~~

Happily Married for 5 years and still catching my groove at least twice a year. You would never believe how babes chase you once you are married.

Q&A
Would I ever leave my wife for any of those smallees?. NEVER.
Do I have a permanent smallee?. NOPE. No need to dem full ground.
So why do I do it?. Just for the thrill of it. None is as sweet as my wife.
How about STD/STI? I don't do without a good quality Condom. NEVER.


I hope I have answered all your idle questions.

For those of you ladies dating a married man (especially the young men in their 30's) don't be deceived that he would abandon or sack his wife for you, especially if he has kids. You are just a side kick and when he is tired he would move onto another babe or return to his wife whom he never stopped loving. So don't expect much from the realtionship, just enjoy it while it last.

Most babes tend to confuse SEX with LOVE, there are entirely two different things. A man can have SEX with a woman he doesn't love.

Let me paint the ironies for you

a) Most campus babes have dated a married man as one of their runs. (REASON: GREED FOR MONEY)
b) Most campus boys are upset that their campus babes are dating married men and cann't understand what they see in them when they are single and available. (REASON: FEELING LEFT OUT)
c) These campus babes eventually get married and start hating babes who date married men conveniently forgetting they once did the same thing. (REASON: FEAR OF LOSING THEIR MAN)
d) The campus boys eventually get married and start running after single girls forgetting what they had criticised when they were younger. (REASON: SELFISH INTEREST)

It is a vicious circle based on selfish reasons, and it would go on till the end of time. My advise do what pleases you as you can't change the world