aestake:

Okay. I know when you are independent the pressure reduces a little bit. What I hate most is after getting a man and marriage, you start bugging those leftovers.

What leftovers are you referring to please?

aestake:
But we know it is a lie.

Lol.. I don't think telling lies here would be necessary..
I work and I've got my own apartment.
I just don't want to give too much details in one post because I've got so many of my people on nairaland. There's a way I would write my story and they'll know it's me, I don't want that

Arizoner:
you mean to tell me you've not had sex at 31?

Is it strange to you?

aestake:

Still been fed at home...no housing and no husband to take her away? She can't be any assertive.

Hmmm.. You people and your terrible assumptions. Na wa o.
I've got my own apartment but I go to my family house almost every time I'm free from work.

Wiliyanahalowin:
You see, the prevalent challenges in most African society/home is trying to force a young lady into marriage. And when you do because of pressure and ended up with a wrong man they will start admonishing that God hate divorce! My candid advice to you is, if you are a Christain please seek the Will of the Almighty. It is not everyone that must marry biko. And if you have been having sexual intercourse in your previous relationships please avoid it. Better late, than now or crash in the future! Do have a blessed weekend.

Honestly, I've never entertained the thought of sex outside of marriage..

Earthstorms:


Lower your standards and marry someone, there is no perfect man out there and there is no perfect marriage. Just get someone and be true to the person. If it does not work out, you can get a divorce later. Hopefully by them you would have had some kids you can call your own.

Wishing you the best.

Hmmm.. More like what I'm actually considering

Autobot05:


That means you are qualified to be called an evening newspaper

Goodlady .. is this you ??

That's your own cup of tea

ikeno:

You still very young na,they should stop pestering your life.at this age your still getting to understand your body and explore more.see mumu wey I be I think say you don clock 40 sef.

Say what?

ikeno:
Before I even start dishing out advice,how old are you🤔

I'm 31

Berrityga:
Please throw away your phone, check yourself into a physiatrist home. You belong with other people that are not mentally stable.

Oh God! Nairaland has become so porous. It's premature minds like yours I don't need advice from.
Keep your advice to yourself, it'll be more beneficial to you

NutFunny:
Are you a Guy, Girl.. L,G,B,T or Q?

So we know the particular prayer point you need

Lol. I'm a lady o, so pray accordingly

NutFunny:
Your acc is neutral, your name, msg, request are also neutral.

Lol. I just opened this account to get advice from people.

I understand that most parents want the best for their children but at the same time, they should understand certain things that are beyond one's control.

My parents, relatives even family friends won't stop troubling me about marriage. I can't have healthy conversations with my people without them bringing up the marriage topic and worse off in a controversial manner. They always accuse me of being too selective and other talks like that, making me feel awful.

I desire to get married someday even though I don't see it as a "do or die" thing. I've been in relationships that didn't work out and I'm being blamed for it or asked why I didn't just manage. My God!

I've been thinking of how to get away from all these talk, maybe leaving home or changing my line. I really don't know what to do.
I'm someone people know as happy and bubbly outside but when I'm with my people, it's the complete opposite, minimal joy because they won't stop stressing me. For now, I've stopped attending family events since they'll be gathered there and I don't want anyone messing with my mental health.

I'm fed up, I need advice from matured minds please.