Safiaa:
Im actually draining myself from arguing with you. Colourism in nigeria did not start in the late 1990s, i dont need to argue Why would you ask me about my skin tone when it has nothing to do with this conversation? What is right is right, and what is wrong is wrong. I'm draining myself. I cant argue with you any longer.

Safiaa:
Okay. There's a truth to what you're saying. But you're not being realistically here. Women want attraction from the opposite sex, please do not argue with that. We are not lesbians who thrive off attention from other women. Yes it's nice when other females compliment us, but my attraction is not directed at women, dont you get? Do you think women risk their lives for butt/breast enhancements just to be attractive for themselves and other ladies? No. Stop acting like this conversation has nothing to do with men its just silly.

Safiaa:
This has nothing to do with my skintone darling. Colourism is something I'm totally against. Its also something i study in uni. So please, don't try to use my skin tone agaisnt me. Use my words.

Safiaa:
You are a man. Yes. You take responsibility for your actions. Yes. However, that is not the point im trying to make. What I'm saying is that you indirectly look for the approval of others, in your everyday life. Whether you want to accept it or not. As long as its not a desperate attempt, theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. We are human beings. The same way you indirectly look for approval is the same way women imdirectly look for approval. And thats why men play a role when it comes to millions of women in Nigeria bleaching their skin. And thats the problem.

Safiaa:
This isnt just a social media issue. This has been an issue waaaayy before social media came into the picture. If this was only an issue online, i would not even be talking about this. If you really want us to go deep, we can go back to slavery, because thats where colourism began. Trust me this is not just an issue online, it happens everywhere in the world and especially in nigeria . If this is just an online thing, bleaching wouldn't be so popular in nigeria. I know what im saying.

Safiaa:
This is not about Not giving a fuuuck here. Do you get your hair cut to look only appealing for yourself? Do you buy nice clothes to only stare at yourself in the mirror? Do you purposely work hard at work to go unnoticed by your boss? Do you wear perfume so you only can sniff your body? You can not give a fucckk, but we indirectly as human beings want the approval of others, whether you accept it or not. It has nothing to do with following the crowd. We are social human beings who love being accommodated by people. Unless you are a loner who stays by yourself 24/7 then thats an exception. But for the rest of us, thats not the case. Sorry.

Safiaa:
Im not completely saying that 100% of the insecurities come from men. Im saying, our own men do play a role in it, and thats because they're brainwashed by the media Men do care about the features of a woman. How can you say otherwise? Really? You're really in denial because the evidence is everywhere. So many women even in this country are simply idolised just because of their looks. Even on NL, it happens. So thats not true. Women do care about the opinions of men. Yes, some more than others, but we care. End of story.

Safiaa:
Okay. You THINk you don't live for the opinion of others, but indirectly one way or the other you do. You may not live your life soley based on it, but we all need the approval of others one way or the other. And most definitely by the opposite sex. If you argue with this you're simply in denial. Its that simple.

Safiaa:
Yes we all know that Nigerian women have insecurities but it stems from public opinion. Lets not act like our own men do not have any role to play when it comes to this issue, because they do. Women naturally especially want to be appealling to the opposite sex. A lot of nigerian men are really brainwashed and mentally westernised. Yes, african men date women of all skin tones, but they specifically put women with fairer skintones on a pedestal and indirectly make darker women feel inferior. Comments like 'she's too black' ' Her skin looks black and dirty' etc will make any woman feel the need to lighten her skin to be more 'appealing'. Same with the hair, you put women who wear weaves and brazillian hair on a pedestal. Girls who wear their natural hair are not deemed as pretty. You can take a look at instagram, beauty pageants..any media platform that represents beauty. You can even see some of the comments on this NL. We all live for public opinion at the end of the day especially from the opposite sex, so lets not act silly here.

Safiaa:
Yes we all know that Nigerian women have insecurities but it stems from public opinion. Lets not act like our own men do not have any role to play when it comes to this issue, because they do. Women naturally especially want to be appealling to the opposite sex. A lot of nigerian men are really brainwashed and mentally westernised. Yes, african men date women of all skin tones, but they specifically put women with fairer skintones on a pedestal and indirectly make darker women feel inferior. Comments like 'she's too black' ' Her skin looks black and dirty' etc will make any woman feel the need to lighten her skin to be more 'appealing'. Same with the hair, you put women who wear weaves and brazillian hair on a pedestal. Girls who wear their natural hair are not deemed as pretty. You can take a look at instagram, beauty pageants..any media platform that represents beauty. You can even see some of the comments on this NL. We all live for public opinion at the end of the day, especially from the opposite sex, so lets not act silly here.

moupe:


Is so tue. It's a global disgrace that African men will kill themselves over a fair lady, and even pressure their wives and girlfriends to go into this act of bleaching

What I cannot understand is the bobrisky crowd like omotola husband captain Ekehinde and alaafin and some of these new musical acts. Men who bleach have terrible body odor., and even many of the ladies.

Afhounja:


Come on, bro. You said wrote more than that initially.

The message NEEDS to be "out there". Pls, don't hold back.

Afhounja:
I wonder how Nigerian men will see things like this and still want to have anything to do with females.

This just another proof going to show that as a man, girls/women don't like you. They are only after what they can get from you

refreshrate:
OP you sef read what you wrote.

See the details you're using in describing the girl, her activities & everything about her, did you observe all this with just one (normal) look?

I'm sorry to tell you but you are no different from the same people you're trying to form for

Comot for here

odehaj:
and who told you you're pretty?..being fair doesn't equal pretty,colour yourself black,you worhworh!

kinginvagina:
I have never see an endowed lady promoting feminism, why should she, she has what can control a man but the orange boobs and fry pan nyash are the ones shouting feminism because they have inferiority complex and can't control a man.

Can cossy boldly support feminism? when her boobs brought her millions and hundreds of men are ready to watch her bra for life

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alexialin:



What say you?

Toks2008:


This comment of hours is totally boas,unnecessary and utterly myopic.

That a writer gives his opinion does not translate to you cursing. Your post just confirmed your persona and I will continue to pray for you.

TsaTrinity:
I 50% disagree.....have u forgetten life is all about choice. Forget age, there are fools at 30 and there are brainies at 20.....so let's not bring age to this matter. Omotola married at 18 and marriage is working well....some celebs married way older than that but still have marital issues. I cant count how many ladies I know married below 24 but are still doing very fine.
Guys, just know who you're dealing with and help her understand life better. My girlfriend of below 23 was on the slaying and fantasy side but when I brought her to the hustle, reality dawned on her and she understood that its important to toil now and slay later. You can be that guy too

maxiuc:
Girls of 26 to 30 years of age are marriage oriented so I don't date them


Don't need anyone to put pressure on me

koice:


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koice:


Never heard of it.

Edit: Okay, just googled it and it's a new crime thriller from Sky Atlantic.

Edit2: Read some reviews and I gotta say, it ain't encouraging at all. One critic even likened it to "a bad telenovella with super yachts".

Now, I don't know if I would wanna waste my mb streaming something like that... but who knows, I might just give it a try anyway.

wins18:
There is this particular girl I have been asking her to visit me, atleast to know my house, but she has been giving excuses upon excuses, she has not honoured my invitation till today, this same girl I believe has a huge crush on me but she pretends alot.
I invited the other one and she fixed a date of her visit by herself, though I had to disappoint her on the D day due to some circumstances beyond my control, after much explanation to her, she then fix another date for the visit which is tomorrow.
mind you, I just want them to know my house as a friend thats all,
Now the question is what really goes on in their mind when a guy invites them over to his house?