I did! I told his wife, of course I asked one of my friends to make a phone call telling her that someone with some name has done something with your husband somewhere, yada yada yada. i just don't have the courage to tell her with my ture identity. maybe i'm afraid,

the magic thing is, she just laughed, and tell my friend that his husband will never do that because he is an honest person in every aspect of life. and then she ha ha again. kinda weird, ah?

Thanks. It's hard not to talk to the girl. She is really nice and beautiful! But, I can try just to stick to the topics in the professional areas and else rather than sex.

By the way, I wanna work on the marriage with my wife. and I hope be honest to let my wife know this kind of experience I have with my coworker. If I don't let her know, she won't even consider there's some "unmet needs" existing between us. How should I tell her and let her face the truth and make things better?

I've married for 8 years.  My wife and I have a general marriage life.  Everything is so fine till recently,
I met a lady in my working place.  My boss teamed us up for a project.  At first, I just thought she is a diligent, independent, and smart girl.  She is quite attractive, honestly, and is still single.  Well, I only take her as a good and close working buddy.  We often share lunch time talking about the project because there is really many details to work on.  The official meeting hours are not enough, and we both think discussing it outside the office hour is a good idea.  Somehow, we start to chat something beside the project because we agree both of us are quite team players and would like to know each other more.  We become close friends.  So far, it is good and my wife knows my special colleague as well.  Recently, I don't remember when and how we start the topic, that we start to talk about sex.  I suddenly find that we both have good preference on sex, and this topic really make us hot.  Real hot.  We really want to have sex with each other at those moments; however, we both stopped, which is good because I'm in a marriage.  Well, my wife never would like to talk about sex with me for those years even I've tried very hard to do that, then I give up.  Now there is a close working partner would like to share this erotic thoughts with me and at that time, even we did not really physically in touch with each other, the emotional and psychological connection is just perfect for both of us,  that feels really really good.  We both want to talk about it again and again to satisfy our imagination, say, fantasy.  It's really magical, indeed.

I don't know how to define this kind of relationship with this girl.  Am I having an affair with her?  Am I cheating on my wife?  Is there any implicit problem in my marriage that I keep indulging myself in this mental closeness with this girl?  What should I do?

I don't think the boy does love you. He might have just found out something unexpected in the marriage, and then he remembered how you or both of you to deal with it, which is the better or sweeter way he prefer.

Anyway, if you still miss him very much and would like to be with him, then ask him to divorce and return to you. (but he might run away again!) Or, you can reject him just saying "too late" for he has hurt your heart already.

It's all your decision, or you can try to keep friendship with him for a while to see how it goes.

Well, life is short, don't waste your time and energy on something you don't want to.

I'm an accounting student heading CPA licence. Wish me luck!

Maybe you think that I'm crazy, I'm wondering if I should tell his wife that he is having an affair with me for 2 months!

He said that he used to be a well-recognized honest husband.  He has rejected lots of opportunities during his 6-year marriage.  However, he is studying at school now in order to achieve a higher standard of life, he has no idea why he falls for me that much.

I have no idea, either.  I haven't casted any charm on him before.  It was just a very common occaoccasiont he offered me a ride to somewhere, and then, when we arrived at that place, he confessed that he felt a strong connection between us: all he wanna do was to kiss me and have sex with me right away.

Since we are classmates, we do want to keep professional relationship when we first talked about this issue.  But, whenever we have any chance to study together, he can't help to cool down his impulsiveness to get in "touch" with me, then it becomes the real touching, and then we have MouthAction, but we never kissed! ,  I really love the way he touches me.

Now I found that I am in a dilemma that I am in love with him.  On one hand, I know it's not good to keep him around because he is married, and he wants to get out of the whimsical situation as well, it's just he doesn't have a strong determination to achieve it.  We've been discussed it for a month.  On the other hand, I do want to be his lover or partner forever because we've experienced lots of real exposivelexplosivelyfessional teamwork results.  I AM the right person to help everything for him, and he is relied on my help for school works now as well.

He once said he LOVES independent woman like me, and he complaint a bit about his wife's dependency.  But right after that, he yelled, "I still love her!"

In my heart, I know no matter how much I love him, I may not be his wife in the future because he is a faithful husband, at least he thinks so.  But he still dares not to tell his wife about this affair to keep his honesty records.  He just wanted to end it quietly - but the fact has proved that as long as he wants to keep friendship with me, he can't get out of the situation clean.  He said it's the only time he cheated on his wife.  He now cannot lecture other people cheating is not a good thing in the marriage. In other words, the only way to have him get out of this trouble relationship is to let the wife know. (I can't believe I say it, I still love him in a romantic way.)

I do think either he or I should tell the wife the truth.  I know he really doesn't have the guts to tell the truth.  Should I tell her, should I?