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I'm sure u did not read well. He's not broke. Things are well with him now. My suspicion came in when he reluctantly picks my call. He hardly calls again and I communicate with him now mostly tru SMS.

You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

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Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

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jakandeola:
if one tin I can tell u one neva eva married an illitrate. u are educated and is a problem in marriage cos ur sence is different. neva send ur lover to school. I use myself as example. I loved a girl and train her to school but she was a demon. if u tried that u will regret it, cos when he make money he will forget ur effort. is ur guy ibo?

He's not my guy . We aren't dating yet. He's Yoruba though

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jakandeola:
if one tin I can tell u one neva eva married an illitrate. u are educated and is a problem in marriage cos ur sence is different. neva send ur lover to school. I use myself as example. I loved a girl and train her to school but she was a demon. if u tried that u will regret it, cos when he make money he will forget ur effort. is ur guy ibo?

He's not my guy yet. We aren't dating yet. He's Yoruba though

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daben1:
i thought they say ''love is blind''?

I guess u did not read the write up very well. This is somebody who has got only secondary school certificate, he has no job and not even willing to further his education.

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daben1:
You don't even know what you want... It's a pity!

I know what I want dear. But hey no crime in seeking advice. This is a guy I would have loved to date on a normal ground but that fact that he's not educated is the barrier.

Matured advise only pls.

My bf broke up with me early last year and yet to be in another as I'm yet to get over it completely. Also maybe because I'm yet to be convinced by another person.

November last year, I met a guy trough a friend. We've been friends since then and has requested we start a relationship though yet to accept him cos he's not literate. He told me he's from a polygamous family, his mother died when he was a kid and was deprived of schooling after his secondary education.

Honestly this guy is so caring but my concern is he's not ready to further his studies and also not ready for marriage since he doesn't have a job.

I'm in my early 30, a graduate and also in for my higher studies with a job as well. I'm not desperate to get married but my fear is will this guy be ever ready to be married even if I offer to sponsor through school or should I just leave him

@ op, I'm in my early 30s and seriously looking. Tired of being single and can make a gud wife. Let's be friend and see if things work out between us.

EngrWanted:
I'm in my mid 30s and is really desirous in settling down with the right lady but I am confused as hell. I've dated couple of ladies and the experiences are better imagined as most of these ladies turn into something else in a short while into the relationship.

Due to this fact, I am even afraid of approaching another since it is the usual woo a lady I don't know from Adam and begin to study her, her family and et AL all over again and in the course of such enterprise things may come crashing again unexpectedly.

Is it ideal if I rely on relations, friends for a referral? I was thinking it is better because a particular relation already knows the girl background and all about her.

Please between wooing a lady or banking on referral, which is Best OPTION in landing a good woman for marriage?

Disadvantages of God fatherism. Problems like this will only cease to occur when we say no to God fatherism.

True talk op

This is a story that's tearing a soul apart. Advise needed

It's actually a story of a friend. This lady was introduced to a guy by her friend cos she's given up on relationship due to several heartbrakes. Lucky enough they began dating last September. The guy in question is so loving, caring and was so down to earth. He loves this lady that she forgot every heartbreaks she's gone through. On there first date after they've both agreed to be in a relationship, the guy requested that they should have there introduction but the lady declined saying it's too early to start talking about that which they both agreed it should wait.

As time pass by the two love birds seems inseparable as there love seems like one they've been in for years. Remember the affairs started just last September.

In November last year, the lady brought up the introduction issue since the guy had raised it before only to be told he would want this babe to get pregnant for him as that will even hastened there marriage. He said the mother will be so happy if the lady conceived before getting her introduced to the mother. So since November, they've been trying for a babby.

Sometimes aRound January, the lovers were rubbing minds and thinking what the problem could be as shes yet to conceive then this lady opened up to her guy that she's had an abortion during her teenage age. The guy also said two ladies had aborted for him so he might not be the problem as he's potent. They both agreed to visit the hospital for check up. There love was still strong.

After a week to this there discussions, the babe called her guy requesting they quit the relationship as she's afraid of what the test outcome will be. She feared she might be told she won't be able to conceive due to the abortion she's had. They both cried and the guy pleaded he's so sure there will be nothing of such also that the parents couldn't wait to meet her and can't afford to loose her. On that the lady agreed to the test. Luckily for her, the test results comes out fine and was told the delay might be the timing to which they've been having sex. The two don't stay together and only see once in a while.

The shock came in this February when the guy told the lady he doesn't want the relationship again cos they're not sexually compatible and the fact that he may leave the country anytime. Though on the sexual part of the relationship, the lady had complained to to me that he's too strong for her but said she was adapting to his urge. So that's not a problem for her.

She begged this guy to know what the problems were but couldn't come up with tangible excuses on why he wanted to end the relationship. They both cried again and were able to resolve issue's though the relationship wasn't like it used to be.

The lady haven't know what the problem was, was willing to do the wish of this guy. They had sex the way the guy wanted it and as God will have it the lady got pregnant though the relationship wasn't that Rossy like it used to be.

Befor the lady knew she was pregnant, another issue came up and they both agreed the relationship was over. Though the lady wasn't too pleased by that. As time passes by, the lady got to know of her status and decided to tell her man but the guy refuses them seeing. She begged him all to no avail. It was during that the guy opened up he's impregnated his ex. She told this guy she was also pregnant but he did not believe her. She requested they both see so they could go to the hospital for test but he refused claiming she should go see his mum for the test.

This lady has been so down since the news of pregnancy sets in also because this guy now claims shes pregnant cos of her desperation and that he couldn't love her again even if he accepts the pregnancy. Her issue degenerate to the extent that she was admmitted for weeks ans been made to be holding sessions with a psychologist. She's also been advised to abort her pregnancy due to depressions.

Another saddening part to this issue is dt this lady has been rejected by her father who cares so much abt her on hearing that shes broke up with this guy. The father thinks she doesn't want to be married due to previous experiences. She could not even open up to her dad shes pregnant for a guy dt has also gotten another pregnant and do not want to see her.

The problem now is she is confused on what to do with the pregnancy. Shes been advised by her doctor to abort due to health conditions and depressions but she doesn't want that.

Pls know that this lady is in her 30s and has never depended on any man as she has a good job.