pepperminty12: ure cheating on ur bf nd he dsnt deserve dat! D only offence he committed was leaving u 4 a year(not like he was going 2 catch som fun tho)! Dnt loose ur bf except u have better reasons 2!

That is not his only offence. About 3 months ago, i was lying beside him when i saw a BB chat from a babe- she was like i am so happy you said u loved me , this is the happiest day of my life blablabla. I was so upset that i confronted him- he got angry and accused me of insecurity. prior to that, he had no problems with me going through his phone although i had never gone through his chats before that night, He assured me that the babe was his girlfriend while in school and she is not even in PH and he could not stop a babe from liking him. I could not tell him i actually read everything. What even drew me to the chat was that she used his picture as her DP and it wasn’t his birthday. Apart from birthdays, we both have never used our pictures as DP. Before then, I have cut all contacts with every boy in my life then I wondered if it was worth it at all

A few weeks later i noticed he was still chatting with her, I kept quiet about it and wnen he noticed i was upset about something, he kept pressing until i told him. Again, he told me i was worrying over nothing. that i was his only girlfriend, maybe deep down, i feel there is more to it and it upsets me.

2kurupt: Don't get it twisted lady, that old classmate of yours is just warming himself into your heart. The rate at which his progressing he would hit 'target' before long.
Trust me! I know this coz as a guy we all got an 'unfinished' project somewhere, if you understand what am saying.

Btw if you love your bf as you insist, one year ain't so big a deal. In his heart, his committed to you (by your knowing his people) even if it ain't publicly declared in a wedding.

Thank you so much. I know he is commited to me, he does some things sometimes but i get my doubts too. Besides, am not getting any younger

am very interested. time and venue pls?

andromida: If you don't have faith in your boyfriend free your mind. I am of the opinion that whenever anyone says "lets see where it goes", "only God knows the future" they don't have any real plan for you. Its simple really he does not want to be responsible for the relationship and his actions in it. Anything that happens is now God's will. Babe you cannot force anyone to commit to you. Live in the present and stop asking him questions about the future you too leave the relationship for God.

@andromida. Thanks. I have stopped asking him about the future- I just want to see how things turn out. I am not going to be a nagging girlfriend. I was in his office the other day and all his colleagues kept asking me when we are getting married. I just laughed and when he came in, he laughed too.

@ Law-confessor. Thanks. Sometime earlier this year, he made a statement that “if you think i am going to commit to you then travel, i wont. I would have to come back and see you are not married". I paraphrased but it just did not make me comfortable with the whole thing and i stopped questioning about the future. I love him and i show it to him, it's left to him to make up his mind on what he wants. All his friends and family I have met loves me,

It’s not like i have plans to sleep with the other guy. It’s just nice having someone giving me all the other parts i have missing in my relationship. My boyfriend on the other hand is so pessimistic about our relationship, several times I have tried talking about the future, and He keeps saying "let’s see what it brings"; "it is only God that knows the future". Lately, he is saying if i can wait for him to come back, we would get married. It’s like we about living in the present and it’s kind of tiring.

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. It has been good although we have had the usual fights and makeups all couples seem to have. The only problem with this relationship is that he is to travel for a one year professional course next year and according to him, we can’t get married until he is back. This kind of puts a cloud on the whole happy relationship. Before i met him, i have never been in a committed relationship but with him, i have learnt to grow and be a better person.

Recently, i have been having phone chats with an ex-schoolmate. While in school, we never talked then he added me on Facebook and we kind of hit off. It has been fun and the last time i went to Delta to see my folks i saw him. We kissed and it was sooo lovely. i don’t know if my feelings for him now is based on those steamy kisses but since i got back, we always talk on the phone for hours every day. I share my day with him and he is so romantic. Anyway, he is a master student at DELSU now so it’s not even likely this will go anywhere too. He knows about my boyfriend but he says he just wants to treasure whatever time we have together (so cute).

My predicament is that i am now torn in two directions- i love my boyfriend but i don’t see a future with him- i don’t believe the long distance thingy can work with us because from what he says too, i don’t think he believes it too. It’s just like we are living a dream. I don’t even know what i want right now. I am in a dilemma.
Is it possible to be in love with two people?