Hello Moto,

Was this the website you could not load?
http://www.emsng.com/

Above link have item track and trace feature.  (I haven't tried myself though)


quote from above site;

EMS/Speedpost Contact Information

8 Mobolaji Bank Anthony Way,
PMB 022,Ikeja
Lagos
Tel:234-1-4979148,234-1-4972996
Fax:234-1-4979148
Telex
27171 EMS NIG

They also have enquiry form and territorial headquarters contacts.


I am not sure about Customs but is it possible that goods shipped by EMS was prohibited?  In my country's case, "Both EMS and DHL cannot send the following goods: goods prohibited by the postal service, valuables (money, jewels, etc.), and goods prohibited by the respective countries."  Confectionary, used cloth, shoes, carpet() to name a few, are prohibited goods to send from here to Nigeria.  It seems each country has different restrictions. 

j

internet pop star is popular here too. They are active only on internet, such as performing or selling their music, publish their blog, their photos, their live video etc. Traditionally you get famous by showing yourself in TV, radio, go public, does promotion outside etc, etc. Since internet has developed and became the 4th media, there are people who show themselves on internet only.

may not be helpfu at all, just my thoughts rather than tips;

1) Chat without expectation.  Know that you are ONLY chatting, you didn't exchange any contract before you start to chat.  The conversation might become very useful, forming of a new friendship(which is a bonus), or it become very offensive and ruin your day.
2) Chat is one easy communication tool, we don't have to see or hear each other(except in case of video/voice chat), or get to know each other.  That blindness, as usual and always, is the easiness of chat and difficulty of keeping the relationship afterwards.
3) Meeting someone new is easy but keeping up the relatioinship is hard, universal rule for both internet AND real life.
4) If the chemistry works fine, good relationship shall certainly be continued. Must accompanied with courtesy, respect to each other, and honesty to yourself.

Living in Far East, I didn't know about this song until now.  

1 billion download is something that doesn't happen everyday, but explainable considering the number of entire Chinese speaking population, combined with Asian characters of "what's neighbours listening/wearing/having must be cool so i want to have it".  

By the way, 2face Idibia's "African Queen" is quite popular among some people in the country where i reside, who's spouse is Nigerian.  What's good is good, and can go beyond borders.

Grant me the sweetness of recognition from other people, sense of self-satisfaction, or money that allows us to sustain living in this materialistic and capitalism-main-streamed world.(depends on which part of the world you live in)

personally i cannot work for my country without money or fame.

I think you have to be highly motivated(sometimes "love" can be the substitute for that), to be able to work without money or fame for your country unconditionally. I am sure some people are capable of doing so, i think that such people inclined(or adopt themselves to be) extremists, with self-conscious issues in certain way. It would be a hard work. Just my opinion.

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Greatpeter,
Thank you for the opinion.   

He doesn't play around, and he is not a womaniser.  (used to go to club when he was single but doesn't anymore, he likes ladies as an ordinary man, like, having hots for actress and singers etc)
I hope that i could talk and do communicate with him in positive way.   
About possible bragging with luxuries on his home coming, you guessed it quite right.  (he said it)  I was very upset with his action, and this actually was my first time i ever put my story on the internet like this.  People giving me different opinions helped me to focus better.  I appreciate your advice, thank you.


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Seun,
Thank you for your suggestion. 
No, divorce is unlikely, we just need to work on things, one by one.  I wanted to hear what others have to say about my case by putting this thread.  Thanks again for your time.


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Kazey,
i guess my case will go into endless loop of my moaning should i stay and occupy nairaland forum server with this thread.  Anyway; i have to deal with the problem whether or not i take any help(professional or non professional).  I needed to hear opinions from other people, people who can see it objectively. 
i think we can work things out.  After exchanging serious talk and deep conversation last few days, i guess we are making progress.  Thanks for your time to input.

This is not a solution to your case, but just remembered similar situation i used to encounter with my old pc(win98).

Unplug/plug the keyboard didn't help at the time of boot when it didn't recognize the mouse/keyboard(ps/2), so i did the following.

reboot, press F8 few times, choose "command prompt only(5)",
enter "CD(space1)windows" *
enter "CD(space1)command" *
enter "scanreg(space1)/restore" *
* (all lower case letters)
(space1) = strike space key once


list of your login(boot up) information will be shown, choose the last date(time) your pc recognized the mouse/keyboard.

Hello ruggedboy,
I appreciate your message.
If it is concluded with cultural conflict, so be it. (No, i am not from Africa) I know that it sounds as if I am making a big deal out of nothing, but as for finance matter, I believe it is not about "tolerance and endurance", because finance/money effects daily life, and marriage is about two parties spending a life together, that is the biggest difference from just simply going out together. I also think that the way he handles money determines the way he thinks towards money. Well, I would like to think that communication would solve the problem. but trying to make　him understand what he's done is wrong, is hard.
I thank you for your time for your opinion, as well as suggestion of a book, I appreciate it very much. j

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Thank you Latoya for your opinion.
he works full time and trying to set up side business. The money(to pay for bills and fancy stuff) comes from his salary. As i wrote, i shall not give him money anymore, but making him understand that what he's done is wrong is such a hard task. Sometimes i wonder if he understand English at all. Yep, like some people, he rans into stupid excuses when he has done silly things, which pours fuel onto my rage.

Trust me, we have come such a long way. We have had so many arguements, just to make him understand. Little by little.

I am starting to think that all this is caused by his extreme childishness. I mean if you are an adult, you would have a heart to admit that you have done wrong, and would try to change yourself, wouldn't you? Man, I'm ashamed as I write, because this all too is such a damn common sense. (

By the way, I do know that one can never stop knowing people you care about, therefore you continue to try to know about the person. that's exactly is called caring and loving, right.
Glad to hear from you since you share my frustration.

Thank you also for the welcome message.


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Seun,
Thank you for the message.

I have thought about marriage counselor(which i haven't been yet) and bought books about a relatioinship. I also have no intention of getting pregnant at this stage.

i regret that i took your time, for the contents of my post calls for knowledge outside of your range. However, the reason of my posting here Nairaland is that my partner is from Nigeria. (Thus the thread title "enlight(en) me with your opinion about my marriage" I also find it interesting to know what is happening up in Nigeria.

i was glad to hear opinions from others.

I admire your work, please keep up your wonderful job. Do take care and God bless.


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Thank you WesleyanA.
I liked your idea of taking watch away , wonder if it teaches him a lesson though. He is likely to just accept the fact that he caused it, and then not learning from it. Oh i tell him in many ways, like using metaphors or examples or quotes from the bible or putting himself in my position... Such a hard work for him to really "get" it. feel like i have a son, instead of a husband.(that shows how immature he is duh)

yeah, it is so true that every marriage is different.
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I am not a Nigerian but I have seen Hotel Rwanda, and I liked it alot.  I heard that this is the first major Hollywood movie about genocide in Rwanda.  Did not like the ending song by Wyclife(i think?) too much though, the lyrics...
And I hope the world would pay more attention to what is happening to Sudan now.

(i know this thread is about hollywood movie Hotel Rwanda but please allow me to mention) I also recommend another movie called "Sometimes in April", made by HBO, story about genocide in Rwanda.

http://www.hbo.com/films/sometimesinapril/?ntrack_para1=leftnav_category3_show3

Unfortunately Hotel Rwanda has not hit theatres here yet.  (i saw the video tape orderd from Amazon.com) People are collecting signatures to the ditributor, hope they will open here so that more people can see it.

Thank you for your opinion.

CimonJorr,
No i don't mind answering these questions; in fact i realized that i left out quite a bit of facts.

>In which country do you live?
japan.  I know, i know it is not a western world.  With lots of rules and "don't"s.

>For how long were you in relationship with your partner before you got married to him?
we are married in less than 12 months after we first saw each other's face

>How well do you really know him?
i can usually tell how he react or what he will say at any conversation, (and so does he)and i can tell where he is coming from.  but he does surprises sometimes, this time, it was the damn watch.  these are the times i realize that i only know him very little, and that we are different people.

>Have you met any of his folks or family?
No i have not met his family yet, i only have talked with them over the phone.


hot-angel,
>I must say, You husband did a wrong thing by buying that watch. And if i were you, i won't lend him my money anymore, unless he knows how to manage moeny.
Exactly, exactly.  that's the way to go, eh.  I shall not lend anymore money to him, and now, making him understand why I am angry and what he has done is wrong is the hardest work.

I cannot think of anybody who would love me as passionate as he does, but i also know that his passionate love comes from his solitude.  He is a kind of a man who has lived being a loner, did not mix with many people, hence his self-centered nature(lack of plan, not managing well, does not know how to care or pay attention towards others).
Though we hooked on together fine, our marriage was on a edge from the beginning.  like, not an A++ or even B, but just P or pass or C.  Just enough to pass otherwise fail. 

He would throw confused eyes and tries to comfort me or he would escape into a stupid excuses whenever i hit the roof and get angry with him. 
Alas our difference is the biggest problem here.

hmm, this became more like a journal.  Anyway thank you for reading, and appreciate the opinions.
j

Hi everyone,

This is my first post since i joined here; this may rather lengthy but i hope to hear your opinion.

My partner and I are married for almost 1 year and we both work full time.
We split rent, power, water etc.
We each pay fixed amt for buying house commodities, consumptions.

Last few months, my partner is trying to set up his own business. He seemed to start it fine at first, but later he discovered he had more to pay than he originally thought(i think it was caused by lack of solid business plan and enough capital). He ended up in borrowing money from his friends. He returned most of it, and will do the remaining in few months.

He is planning to go back to Lagos next month and stay there for 2.5months for the business and home visiting(hasn't gone back for 4 years and his family member is sick).

He was in short of money few months ago when he made a reservation to air-ticket, so i lent him the deposit money, which he said he will pay back in September, before he leaves.
Last month he was unable to pay tax and insurance of his own, which i paid for him and he said he will pay back the money while his stay in Lagos or after he comes back home.

My partner does not speak much official language of a country we reside in. I do, and whenever there is a written form or complicated conversation takes a place, i do most of the work.

Last week, we visited my family home and had dinner together. I then realised he was wearing a flashy new watch. I asked him where he bought it and how much it costed. He told me where and that it was just less than the price of our wedding ring. (which is more than air-ticket deposit i lend him before) Then he said, this(the watch) will last for long time.
I felt quite angry and disappointed again towards him about the way he handles money.

If you cannot even pay your own tax and insurance, how can you try to get unncessary luxury like a watch? (And he already had a watch, mind you!) What is the rush of buying a new one now?
I do not think this is a matter of nagging wife. We (like anybody) have overcome many differences and come a long way. But there seemed to be such a difference in our way of thinking towards money, planning, putting priority, making a life, etc etc.

I would love to hear your opinions on this matter.
j
Admin, always admire your work. Wonderful.